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I'm so sad too, I can't even watch the news anymore. I think the

media sometimes makes things worse.

I live in VA and several people I work with had kids at Tech,

thankfully they are ok. It is so weird to have this happen so close

to home.

My heart goes out to all the families of victims as well.

>

> I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

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This post shows just how far we have come from the places that we grew up in.

The fact that we can feel such empathy for others. You knw I think despite our

parents best efforts we turned out pretty darn good.

Lilly

junkinthere wrote:

I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible shooting.

KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying for

these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

problems.

I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just reaching

out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived, or

the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad for them.

Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the second

world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really describe

what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11 somehow

even though it's been 6 years.

These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry for

them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

Melany

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I'm glad to see this mentioned here. I too have been feeling so deeply saddened

by this tragedy. My heart goes out to the victims' families, the survivors... I

can't even imagine the gamut of emotions.

And I don't know if this will make sense, but ... it also feels good to hurt

for something true and valid vs. the constant guilt and whatnot associated with

my familial issues... having a mom and her spouse with BPD.

Lilly LaFlure wrote:

This post shows just how far we have come from the places that we grew

up in. The fact that we can feel such empathy for others. You knw I think

despite our parents best efforts we turned out pretty darn good.

Lilly

junkinthere wrote:

I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible shooting.

KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying for

these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

problems.

I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just reaching

out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived, or

the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad for them.

Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the second

world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really describe

what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11 somehow

even though it's been 6 years.

These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry for

them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

Melany

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I cried for them too. I went to school at UT, where the similar shootings took

place years ago. It didn't see any pictures of the Virginia Tech shootings, but

I have seen them from UT and those kept running through my mind. There's

something really terribly surreal about violence like that in such a peaceful

setting. I guess I still think of college as an ivory tower and the horrible

things in the world outside seem especially horrible there.

junkinthere wrote: I

know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible shooting.

KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying for

these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

problems.

I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just reaching

out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived, or

the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad for them.

Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the second

world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really describe

what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11 somehow

even though it's been 6 years.

These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry for

them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

Melany

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Now that everyone knows the identity of the killer and that he

suffered from mental illness- several doctors on the news last night

said he was paranoid schizphrenic- it seems to me the mental health

system in this country fails everyone- not just BP's. It is pitiful

that this young man fell through the cracks of the system after being

labeled a danger to himself and others- after he was released from

the hospital in 05, his condition was not followed up at all.

This kind of neglect of the mentally ill makes me so angry!

I know this tragedy is not

directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

>

>

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Now that everyone knows the identity of the killer and that he

suffered from mental illness- several doctors on the news last night

said he was paranoid schizphrenic- it seems to me the mental health

system in this country fails everyone- not just BP's. It is pitiful

that this young man fell through the cracks of the system after being

labeled a danger to himself and others- after he was released from

the hospital in 05, his condition was not followed up at all.

This kind of neglect of the mentally ill makes me so angry!

I know this tragedy is not

directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

>

>

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Now that everyone knows the identity of the killer and that he

suffered from mental illness- several doctors on the news last night

said he was paranoid schizphrenic- it seems to me the mental health

system in this country fails everyone- not just BP's. It is pitiful

that this young man fell through the cracks of the system after being

labeled a danger to himself and others- after he was released from

the hospital in 05, his condition was not followed up at all.

This kind of neglect of the mentally ill makes me so angry!

I know this tragedy is not

directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

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> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

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Well, it also has to do with paitent rights. As we have seen with BP's you can

tell them to get help, but if they don't believe they have a problem they won't

get help. You can take a horse to water, but you can't force them to drink.

The problem is that if you put them in for care and then they act totaly sane

while there they have to release them. My mother had a terrible problem in

private therapy. She had a patient with multiple personality disorder. He had

two personalites the " good " him and the " bad " him. She was attacked by the

" bad " him, so he was put in the hospital. However, while he was there only the

" good " him was around so he had to be released.

Lilly

mitchell_kristin wrote:

Now that everyone knows the identity of the killer and that he

suffered from mental illness- several doctors on the news last night

said he was paranoid schizphrenic- it seems to me the mental health

system in this country fails everyone- not just BP's. It is pitiful

that this young man fell through the cracks of the system after being

labeled a danger to himself and others- after he was released from

the hospital in 05, his condition was not followed up at all.

This kind of neglect of the mentally ill makes me so angry!

I know this tragedy is not

directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

>

>

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Well, it also has to do with paitent rights. As we have seen with BP's you can

tell them to get help, but if they don't believe they have a problem they won't

get help. You can take a horse to water, but you can't force them to drink.

The problem is that if you put them in for care and then they act totaly sane

while there they have to release them. My mother had a terrible problem in

private therapy. She had a patient with multiple personality disorder. He had

two personalites the " good " him and the " bad " him. She was attacked by the

" bad " him, so he was put in the hospital. However, while he was there only the

" good " him was around so he had to be released.

Lilly

mitchell_kristin wrote:

Now that everyone knows the identity of the killer and that he

suffered from mental illness- several doctors on the news last night

said he was paranoid schizphrenic- it seems to me the mental health

system in this country fails everyone- not just BP's. It is pitiful

that this young man fell through the cracks of the system after being

labeled a danger to himself and others- after he was released from

the hospital in 05, his condition was not followed up at all.

This kind of neglect of the mentally ill makes me so angry!

I know this tragedy is not

directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

>

>

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Well, it also has to do with paitent rights. As we have seen with BP's you can

tell them to get help, but if they don't believe they have a problem they won't

get help. You can take a horse to water, but you can't force them to drink.

The problem is that if you put them in for care and then they act totaly sane

while there they have to release them. My mother had a terrible problem in

private therapy. She had a patient with multiple personality disorder. He had

two personalites the " good " him and the " bad " him. She was attacked by the

" bad " him, so he was put in the hospital. However, while he was there only the

" good " him was around so he had to be released.

Lilly

mitchell_kristin wrote:

Now that everyone knows the identity of the killer and that he

suffered from mental illness- several doctors on the news last night

said he was paranoid schizphrenic- it seems to me the mental health

system in this country fails everyone- not just BP's. It is pitiful

that this young man fell through the cracks of the system after being

labeled a danger to himself and others- after he was released from

the hospital in 05, his condition was not followed up at all.

This kind of neglect of the mentally ill makes me so angry!

I know this tragedy is not

directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

>

>

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I was also thinking this topic needed to be brought up, and you say

it's not directly related to BPD, having now seen the video of the

killer, the obvious mental problems he was suffering from, does bring

it closer to home for me.

It's just sad all around. I feel for the students & the families of

the students who were killed.

But after seeing the video of the killer, I agree; it's another case

of the " system " failing the mentally ill in this country. On one

hand, how can society help someone who doesn't want the help, who

wants to " feel the pain " instead of taking their meds? On the other

hand, if someone refuses to help themselves, should they be locked

away to prevent such incidents?

There are people in the media quick to blame video games & movie

violence, or to make a political issue of it all, like student's

should be allowed to carrying concealed guns. But this is so

obviously about mental illness more than anything.

I'd also be interested in hearing if anyone else's BP's have any

interesting reactions to the VT shootings. I haven't talked to Fada

about it yet, but I'll be interested to see what his reaction is.

>

> I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived, or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad for

them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11 somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

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I was also thinking this topic needed to be brought up, and you say

it's not directly related to BPD, having now seen the video of the

killer, the obvious mental problems he was suffering from, does bring

it closer to home for me.

It's just sad all around. I feel for the students & the families of

the students who were killed.

But after seeing the video of the killer, I agree; it's another case

of the " system " failing the mentally ill in this country. On one

hand, how can society help someone who doesn't want the help, who

wants to " feel the pain " instead of taking their meds? On the other

hand, if someone refuses to help themselves, should they be locked

away to prevent such incidents?

There are people in the media quick to blame video games & movie

violence, or to make a political issue of it all, like student's

should be allowed to carrying concealed guns. But this is so

obviously about mental illness more than anything.

I'd also be interested in hearing if anyone else's BP's have any

interesting reactions to the VT shootings. I haven't talked to Fada

about it yet, but I'll be interested to see what his reaction is.

>

> I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived, or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad for

them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11 somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

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I was also thinking this topic needed to be brought up, and you say

it's not directly related to BPD, having now seen the video of the

killer, the obvious mental problems he was suffering from, does bring

it closer to home for me.

It's just sad all around. I feel for the students & the families of

the students who were killed.

But after seeing the video of the killer, I agree; it's another case

of the " system " failing the mentally ill in this country. On one

hand, how can society help someone who doesn't want the help, who

wants to " feel the pain " instead of taking their meds? On the other

hand, if someone refuses to help themselves, should they be locked

away to prevent such incidents?

There are people in the media quick to blame video games & movie

violence, or to make a political issue of it all, like student's

should be allowed to carrying concealed guns. But this is so

obviously about mental illness more than anything.

I'd also be interested in hearing if anyone else's BP's have any

interesting reactions to the VT shootings. I haven't talked to Fada

about it yet, but I'll be interested to see what his reaction is.

>

> I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived, or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad for

them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11 somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

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Yes -- I agree. And I've never been a fan of blaming the government

or the " system " , when all it is is this giant, beaurocratic monolith

that is suppposed to personally serve thousands.

In cases like these, we all have to watch out for each other when

one of us is apprised of a possible danger to others. So this leads

to my question: Why did his family simply let him loose out there

into the population of that campus, and the world at large?

If I had actual knowledge from a professional that my son, grandson,

cousin, friend, etc. had been diagnosed as a danger to himself and

others, I would sound the alarm -- take steps to make sure he's not

out in the world on his own.

I just wonder what the family did to protect the rest of us, since,

as the ones who were closest to his mental disorder, they were our

line of first defense.

Government and " system " bureaucracies close at 5:00. The people

around the killer knew him best, and still unleashed him. Like

watching a child take a knife into a schoolyard.

-Kyla

I know this tragedy is not

> directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> > sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

> shooting.

> >

> > KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been

crying

> for

> > these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The

shear

> > terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss

of

> > young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a

holocaust

> > survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> > psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting

physical

> > problems.

> >

> > I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

> reaching

> > out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> > events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who

survived,

> or

> > the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

> for them.

> >

> > Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

> second

> > world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> > dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> > somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How

she

> > didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

> describe

> > what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and

developed

> > high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

> somehow

> > even though it's been 6 years.

> >

> > These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so

sorry

> for

> > them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

> >

> > Melany

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> >

> >

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Yes -- I agree. And I've never been a fan of blaming the government

or the " system " , when all it is is this giant, beaurocratic monolith

that is suppposed to personally serve thousands.

In cases like these, we all have to watch out for each other when

one of us is apprised of a possible danger to others. So this leads

to my question: Why did his family simply let him loose out there

into the population of that campus, and the world at large?

If I had actual knowledge from a professional that my son, grandson,

cousin, friend, etc. had been diagnosed as a danger to himself and

others, I would sound the alarm -- take steps to make sure he's not

out in the world on his own.

I just wonder what the family did to protect the rest of us, since,

as the ones who were closest to his mental disorder, they were our

line of first defense.

Government and " system " bureaucracies close at 5:00. The people

around the killer knew him best, and still unleashed him. Like

watching a child take a knife into a schoolyard.

-Kyla

I know this tragedy is not

> directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> > sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

> shooting.

> >

> > KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been

crying

> for

> > these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The

shear

> > terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss

of

> > young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a

holocaust

> > survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> > psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting

physical

> > problems.

> >

> > I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

> reaching

> > out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> > events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who

survived,

> or

> > the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

> for them.

> >

> > Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

> second

> > world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> > dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> > somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How

she

> > didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

> describe

> > what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and

developed

> > high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

> somehow

> > even though it's been 6 years.

> >

> > These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so

sorry

> for

> > them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

> >

> > Melany

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> >

> >

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Yes -- I agree. And I've never been a fan of blaming the government

or the " system " , when all it is is this giant, beaurocratic monolith

that is suppposed to personally serve thousands.

In cases like these, we all have to watch out for each other when

one of us is apprised of a possible danger to others. So this leads

to my question: Why did his family simply let him loose out there

into the population of that campus, and the world at large?

If I had actual knowledge from a professional that my son, grandson,

cousin, friend, etc. had been diagnosed as a danger to himself and

others, I would sound the alarm -- take steps to make sure he's not

out in the world on his own.

I just wonder what the family did to protect the rest of us, since,

as the ones who were closest to his mental disorder, they were our

line of first defense.

Government and " system " bureaucracies close at 5:00. The people

around the killer knew him best, and still unleashed him. Like

watching a child take a knife into a schoolyard.

-Kyla

I know this tragedy is not

> directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> > sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

> shooting.

> >

> > KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been

crying

> for

> > these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The

shear

> > terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss

of

> > young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a

holocaust

> > survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> > psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting

physical

> > problems.

> >

> > I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

> reaching

> > out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> > events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who

survived,

> or

> > the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

> for them.

> >

> > Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

> second

> > world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> > dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> > somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How

she

> > didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

> describe

> > what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and

developed

> > high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

> somehow

> > even though it's been 6 years.

> >

> > These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so

sorry

> for

> > them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

> >

> > Melany

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> >

> >

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hi all, I actually live in the Blacksburg, VA area and attend church in

Blacksburg. Our church has always been very heavily involved with Virginia Tech

so this has been very hard.

The day of the shootings, I had actually flown into York, NE for my brother's

funeral who was killed in Iraq. I don't know how much more sorrow my heart can

hold.

What I have thought about through all this is how one person can die causing

so much grief, pain, death and anguish, and another person can die having been

full of and giving out joy, love and sacrificing his life to save others' lives.

My BPD Nada has been at the funeral services for my brother and I will see her

again this weekend at the memorial. Dealing with so much death and mental

illness, I my prayer is that I can look at my life and try to be one who gives

joy and love and not havoc and pain that a single person is able to cause in so

many others' lives.

junkinthere wrote:

I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible shooting.

KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying for

these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

problems.

I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just reaching

out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived, or

the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad for them.

Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the second

world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really describe

what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11 somehow

even though it's been 6 years.

These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry for

them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

Melany

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hi all, I actually live in the Blacksburg, VA area and attend church in

Blacksburg. Our church has always been very heavily involved with Virginia Tech

so this has been very hard.

The day of the shootings, I had actually flown into York, NE for my brother's

funeral who was killed in Iraq. I don't know how much more sorrow my heart can

hold.

What I have thought about through all this is how one person can die causing

so much grief, pain, death and anguish, and another person can die having been

full of and giving out joy, love and sacrificing his life to save others' lives.

My BPD Nada has been at the funeral services for my brother and I will see her

again this weekend at the memorial. Dealing with so much death and mental

illness, I my prayer is that I can look at my life and try to be one who gives

joy and love and not havoc and pain that a single person is able to cause in so

many others' lives.

junkinthere wrote:

I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but I am just so

sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible shooting.

KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying for

these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

problems.

I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just reaching

out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived, or

the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad for them.

Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the second

world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really describe

what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11 somehow

even though it's been 6 years.

These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry for

them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

Melany

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Kyla and All,

I generally agree. However, apparently because of

confidentialy laws and that the murderer was a legal

adult, the family was never notified of his

hospitalization, etc. He seems to have been in that

middle ground, like many High-Functioning BPs, who

show one side (in his case, quiet, menacing and

disturbed) while another side (enraged, murderous) was

taking over, undetected. Apparently, he showed no

previous signs of being an imminent physical danger to

anyone other than himself, including his stalking

behavior. Even if he was being watched, I'm not sure

this could've been prevented. It's not like my FOO's

physical and long-term abuse of me when I was a legal

minor, when someone (such as an authority figure or

other family member) should've contacted some

authority to find out what I was enduring, forced some

positive in that situation, and gotten me some help.

What do you all think?

One Non-BP Recovering Man

--- kylaboo728 wrote:

> Yes -- I agree. And I've never been a fan of

> blaming the government

> or the " system " , when all it is is this giant,

> beaurocratic monolith

> that is suppposed to personally serve thousands.

>

> In cases like these, we all have to watch out for

> each other when

> one of us is apprised of a possible danger to

> others. So this leads

> to my question: Why did his family simply let him

> loose out there

> into the population of that campus, and the world at

> large?

>

> If I had actual knowledge from a professional that

> my son, grandson,

> cousin, friend, etc. had been diagnosed as a danger

> to himself and

> others, I would sound the alarm -- take steps to

> make sure he's not

> out in the world on his own.

>

> I just wonder what the family did to protect the

> rest of us, since,

> as the ones who were closest to his mental disorder,

> they were our

> line of first defense.

>

> Government and " system " bureaucracies close at 5:00.

> The people

> around the killer knew him best, and still unleashed

> him. Like

> watching a child take a knife into a schoolyard.

>

> -Kyla

>

> I know this tragedy is not

> > directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> > > sad for the people directly affected by this

> horrible horrible

> > shooting.

> > >

> > > KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I

> have been

> crying

> > for

> > > these people, as I imagine many of you have been

> as well. The

> shear

> > > terror those who survived must have experienced.

> The awful loss

> of

> > > young promising lives. One of the professors

> killed was a

> holocaust

> > > survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD

> or other

> > > psychological problems as a result, along with

> any lasting

> physical

> > > problems.

> > >

> > > I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant

> here, I'm just

> > reaching

> > > out to the other KOs here who may be heavily

> saddened by recent

> > > events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the

> students who

> survived,

> > or

> > > the numb detatchment in recounting of events

> really makes me sad

> > for them.

> > >

> > > Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the

> 23rd floor of the

> > second

> > > world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first

> plane hit and

> > > dissociated, and even though I have never been

> in such a tragedy,

> > > somehow I could understand exactly what she was

> telling me. How

> she

> > > didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she

> couldn't really

> > describe

> > > what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a

> vegetarian and

> developed

> > > high BP, and how most of her conversation

> refered back to 9/11

> > somehow

> > > even though it's been 6 years.

> > >

> > > These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to

> do. I am so

> sorry

> > for

> > > them because in some ways I can really feel

> their pain.

> > >

> > > Melany

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

> > > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car "

> smell?

> > > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> > >

> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car "

> smell?

> > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> >

>

>

>

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Kyla and All,

I generally agree. However, apparently because of

confidentialy laws and that the murderer was a legal

adult, the family was never notified of his

hospitalization, etc. He seems to have been in that

middle ground, like many High-Functioning BPs, who

show one side (in his case, quiet, menacing and

disturbed) while another side (enraged, murderous) was

taking over, undetected. Apparently, he showed no

previous signs of being an imminent physical danger to

anyone other than himself, including his stalking

behavior. Even if he was being watched, I'm not sure

this could've been prevented. It's not like my FOO's

physical and long-term abuse of me when I was a legal

minor, when someone (such as an authority figure or

other family member) should've contacted some

authority to find out what I was enduring, forced some

positive in that situation, and gotten me some help.

What do you all think?

One Non-BP Recovering Man

--- kylaboo728 wrote:

> Yes -- I agree. And I've never been a fan of

> blaming the government

> or the " system " , when all it is is this giant,

> beaurocratic monolith

> that is suppposed to personally serve thousands.

>

> In cases like these, we all have to watch out for

> each other when

> one of us is apprised of a possible danger to

> others. So this leads

> to my question: Why did his family simply let him

> loose out there

> into the population of that campus, and the world at

> large?

>

> If I had actual knowledge from a professional that

> my son, grandson,

> cousin, friend, etc. had been diagnosed as a danger

> to himself and

> others, I would sound the alarm -- take steps to

> make sure he's not

> out in the world on his own.

>

> I just wonder what the family did to protect the

> rest of us, since,

> as the ones who were closest to his mental disorder,

> they were our

> line of first defense.

>

> Government and " system " bureaucracies close at 5:00.

> The people

> around the killer knew him best, and still unleashed

> him. Like

> watching a child take a knife into a schoolyard.

>

> -Kyla

>

> I know this tragedy is not

> > directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> > > sad for the people directly affected by this

> horrible horrible

> > shooting.

> > >

> > > KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I

> have been

> crying

> > for

> > > these people, as I imagine many of you have been

> as well. The

> shear

> > > terror those who survived must have experienced.

> The awful loss

> of

> > > young promising lives. One of the professors

> killed was a

> holocaust

> > > survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD

> or other

> > > psychological problems as a result, along with

> any lasting

> physical

> > > problems.

> > >

> > > I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant

> here, I'm just

> > reaching

> > > out to the other KOs here who may be heavily

> saddened by recent

> > > events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the

> students who

> survived,

> > or

> > > the numb detatchment in recounting of events

> really makes me sad

> > for them.

> > >

> > > Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the

> 23rd floor of the

> > second

> > > world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first

> plane hit and

> > > dissociated, and even though I have never been

> in such a tragedy,

> > > somehow I could understand exactly what she was

> telling me. How

> she

> > > didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she

> couldn't really

> > describe

> > > what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a

> vegetarian and

> developed

> > > high BP, and how most of her conversation

> refered back to 9/11

> > somehow

> > > even though it's been 6 years.

> > >

> > > These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to

> do. I am so

> sorry

> > for

> > > them because in some ways I can really feel

> their pain.

> > >

> > > Melany

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

> > > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car "

> smell?

> > > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> > >

> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car "

> smell?

> > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> >

>

>

>

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Kyla and All,

I generally agree. However, apparently because of

confidentialy laws and that the murderer was a legal

adult, the family was never notified of his

hospitalization, etc. He seems to have been in that

middle ground, like many High-Functioning BPs, who

show one side (in his case, quiet, menacing and

disturbed) while another side (enraged, murderous) was

taking over, undetected. Apparently, he showed no

previous signs of being an imminent physical danger to

anyone other than himself, including his stalking

behavior. Even if he was being watched, I'm not sure

this could've been prevented. It's not like my FOO's

physical and long-term abuse of me when I was a legal

minor, when someone (such as an authority figure or

other family member) should've contacted some

authority to find out what I was enduring, forced some

positive in that situation, and gotten me some help.

What do you all think?

One Non-BP Recovering Man

--- kylaboo728 wrote:

> Yes -- I agree. And I've never been a fan of

> blaming the government

> or the " system " , when all it is is this giant,

> beaurocratic monolith

> that is suppposed to personally serve thousands.

>

> In cases like these, we all have to watch out for

> each other when

> one of us is apprised of a possible danger to

> others. So this leads

> to my question: Why did his family simply let him

> loose out there

> into the population of that campus, and the world at

> large?

>

> If I had actual knowledge from a professional that

> my son, grandson,

> cousin, friend, etc. had been diagnosed as a danger

> to himself and

> others, I would sound the alarm -- take steps to

> make sure he's not

> out in the world on his own.

>

> I just wonder what the family did to protect the

> rest of us, since,

> as the ones who were closest to his mental disorder,

> they were our

> line of first defense.

>

> Government and " system " bureaucracies close at 5:00.

> The people

> around the killer knew him best, and still unleashed

> him. Like

> watching a child take a knife into a schoolyard.

>

> -Kyla

>

> I know this tragedy is not

> > directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> > > sad for the people directly affected by this

> horrible horrible

> > shooting.

> > >

> > > KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I

> have been

> crying

> > for

> > > these people, as I imagine many of you have been

> as well. The

> shear

> > > terror those who survived must have experienced.

> The awful loss

> of

> > > young promising lives. One of the professors

> killed was a

> holocaust

> > > survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD

> or other

> > > psychological problems as a result, along with

> any lasting

> physical

> > > problems.

> > >

> > > I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant

> here, I'm just

> > reaching

> > > out to the other KOs here who may be heavily

> saddened by recent

> > > events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the

> students who

> survived,

> > or

> > > the numb detatchment in recounting of events

> really makes me sad

> > for them.

> > >

> > > Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the

> 23rd floor of the

> > second

> > > world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first

> plane hit and

> > > dissociated, and even though I have never been

> in such a tragedy,

> > > somehow I could understand exactly what she was

> telling me. How

> she

> > > didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she

> couldn't really

> > describe

> > > what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a

> vegetarian and

> developed

> > > high BP, and how most of her conversation

> refered back to 9/11

> > somehow

> > > even though it's been 6 years.

> > >

> > > These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to

> do. I am so

> sorry

> > for

> > > them because in some ways I can really feel

> their pain.

> > >

> > > Melany

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

> > > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car "

> smell?

> > > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> > >

> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car "

> smell?

> > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

> >

>

>

>

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True -- in which case, there's simply nothing anyone could have

done. Bad things happen in this world, and that's just a fact of

life. We never know when our time is up, and because of malcontents

or disturbed individuals, our time could be up sooner than we

planned.

My comments were more directed at people who DO know that a member

of their family is disturbed -- Yates comes to mind. I still

think she should not have been alone with those children.

But, I did not know that in this particular case, the man showed no

signs of disturbance to his family -- at least that hasn't been

reported. But, if classmates report for the past couple of years

that he behaved oddly and gave them the creeps, it stands to reason

(in my mind) that he exhibited these behaviors in his own family,

too. The violence, I think in this case, came as a surprise to

everyone.

-Kyla

I know this tragedy is not

> > > directly related to BPD, but I am just so

> > > > sad for the people directly affected by this

> > horrible horrible

> > > shooting.

> > > >

> > > > KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I

> > have been

> > crying

> > > for

> > > > these people, as I imagine many of you have been

> > as well. The

> > shear

> > > > terror those who survived must have experienced.

> > The awful loss

> > of

> > > > young promising lives. One of the professors

> > killed was a

> > holocaust

> > > > survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD

> > or other

> > > > psychological problems as a result, along with

> > any lasting

> > physical

> > > > problems.

> > > >

> > > > I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant

> > here, I'm just

> > > reaching

> > > > out to the other KOs here who may be heavily

> > saddened by recent

> > > > events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the

> > students who

> > survived,

> > > or

> > > > the numb detatchment in recounting of events

> > really makes me sad

> > > for them.

> > > >

> > > > Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the

> > 23rd floor of the

> > > second

> > > > world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first

> > plane hit and

> > > > dissociated, and even though I have never been

> > in such a tragedy,

> > > > somehow I could understand exactly what she was

> > telling me. How

> > she

> > > > didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she

> > couldn't really

> > > describe

> > > > what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a

> > vegetarian and

> > developed

> > > > high BP, and how most of her conversation

> > refered back to 9/11

> > > somehow

> > > > even though it's been 6 years.

> > > >

> > > > These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to

> > do. I am so

> > sorry

> > > for

> > > > them because in some ways I can really feel

> > their pain.

> > > >

> > > > Melany

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > ---------------------------------

> > > > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car "

> > smell?

> > > > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> > > >

> > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

> > > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car "

> > smell?

> > > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

> > >

> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

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I hope you're coping as well as can be expected, and I'm so sorry

you're going through this loss of your brother.

How did your mother conduct herself at the service?

-Kyla

> I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but

I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

>

>

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I hope you're coping as well as can be expected, and I'm so sorry

you're going through this loss of your brother.

How did your mother conduct herself at the service?

-Kyla

> I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but

I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

>

>

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I hope you're coping as well as can be expected, and I'm so sorry

you're going through this loss of your brother.

How did your mother conduct herself at the service?

-Kyla

> I know this tragedy is not directly related to BPD, but

I am just so

> sad for the people directly affected by this horrible horrible

shooting.

>

> KOs have a tendency to be very empathetic, and I have been crying

for

> these people, as I imagine many of you have been as well. The shear

> terror those who survived must have experienced. The awful loss of

> young promising lives. One of the professors killed was a holocaust

> survivor. Many of those who lived will have PTSD or other

> psychological problems as a result, along with any lasting physical

> problems.

>

> I'm not going to try to be elegant or poignant here, I'm just

reaching

> out to the other KOs here who may be heavily saddened by recent

> events. Seeing the pain in the faces of the students who survived,

or

> the numb detatchment in recounting of events really makes me sad

for them.

>

> Yesterday, I spoke to a woman who was on the 23rd floor of the

second

> world trade center on 9/11. She saw the first plane hit and

> dissociated, and even though I have never been in such a tragedy,

> somehow I could understand exactly what she was telling me. How she

> didn't know how her ankle was broken, how she couldn't really

describe

> what happend, how she lost 50lbs, became a vegetarian and developed

> high BP, and how most of her conversation refered back to 9/11

somehow

> even though it's been 6 years.

>

> These people in Virgina have a lot of healing to do. I am so sorry

for

> them because in some ways I can really feel their pain.

>

> Melany

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell?

> Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos.

>

>

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