Re: I wonder sometimes if I have 4S

[Guest guest]

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I would have to say that if my experience of 4s is an indicator, I think you

have had a 4s type irritation. I say this because women's nasal high pitched

voices bother me too. Usually, it's teens or 20 somethings. I think a majority

of my 4s trigger sounds fall within a high pitch frequency, so hence women's

high pitched voices and screaming children will make me cringe.

I don't think you are being rude. It just feels rude. The woman can't help it

and how her voice sounds. Sadly, it is our sensitive hearing (anatomically) and

reaction (brain wave/psychologically) makes us react to these sounds like most

" normal " people react to nails on a chalkboard.

In cases like this I usually just explain that I have really good hearing and

that sometimes the volume gets a bit too much (even though it really isn't a

loudness issue). That usually lets people know in a nice way that they may need

to be a bit more controlled around you.

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> I typically write regarding my 4S daughter, but tonight I'm just curious

if what

> I've been dealing with sounds like 4S or just plain old rudeness on my

behalf. 

> Keep in mind I have a dad with ringing in the ears and I personally have major

> OCD with cleaning.  I have a new sister-in-law whom is sincerely a nice

person. 

> We both met our husbands (very close brothers) around the same time and have

> always reasonably liked one another, however, her voice/ laughter has always

> really, really bothered me.  She has a very nasally high pitched voice and

an

> excessive nervous giggle.  She's always talking with this high pitched voice

and

> giggling constantly, and now to make matters worse, she and my brother-in-law

> (newly weds of 3 months) baby talk all of the time in front of us.  I feel

like

> I can't take it sometimes...I want to punch her & him in the nose, especially

> with the baby talk.  I feel like such a butt & I'm certain my facial

expressions

> are showing my disgust for them.  So many times I've thought of ways to avoid

> family dinners because I can't stand being around her  &  now my husband's

beloved

> brother and his baby talk.  I feel awful about it, there is absolutely

> no logical reason why I should dislike the presence of this person so much. 

>

> I may be doing what we as women are good at, being plain old moody, but I

> figured if anyone could tell me if this sounds a little bit like 4S it would

be

> you guys.  Is this what 4S makes you feel like...punching people in the nose?

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[Guest guest]

Sure does but I wonder myself sometimes if we blur the line between 4s and just plain irritation. *shrugs* hope that baby talk stuff wears off, I know I dislike that too I always think "why do you have to do that" Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone on 3Sender: Soundsensitivity Date: Sat, 27 Nov 2010 19:25:33 -0800 (PST)To: <Soundsensitivity >ReplyTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: I wonder sometimes if I have 4S I typically write regarding my 4S daughter, but tonight I'm just curious if what I've been dealing with sounds like 4S or just plain old rudeness on my behalf. Keep in mind I have a dad with ringing in the ears and I personally have major OCD with cleaning. I have a new sister-in-law whom is sincerely a nice person. We both met our husbands (very close brothers) around the same time and have always reasonably liked one another, however, her voice/ laughter has always really, really bothered me. She has a very nasally high pitched voice and an excessive nervous giggle. She's always talking with this high pitched voice and giggling constantly, and now to make matters worse, she and my brother-in-law (newly weds of 3 months) baby talk all of thetime in front of us. I feel like I can't take it sometimes...I want to punch her & him in the nose, especially with the baby talk. I feel like such a butt & I'm certain my facial expressions are showing my disgust for them. So many times I've thought of ways to avoid family dinners because I can't stand being around her & now my husband's beloved brother and his baby talk. I feel awful about it, there is absolutely no logical reason why I should dislike the presence of this person so much. I may be doing what we as women are good at, being plain old moody, but I figured if anyone could tell me if this sounds a little bit like 4S it would be you guys. Is this what 4S makes you feel like...punching people in the nose? To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sat, November 27, 2010 1:17:22 AMSubject: Re: help, i'm so moody! Perhaps we all should have hormone testing done. My 4S seems to go in waves... sometimes I can handle it and other times I want to rip someones head off. Plus, most of us had this begin around the time of puberty. It would be interesting to see if the majority of us are "normal" hormonally or not. Anybody had testing done? > >> > Hi Everyone! I have a concern that's not totally related to 4S but certainly does affect it. > > > > I seem to be just a generally moody person. It seems like any little thing can set me off. I usually blame it on 4S triggers, and although that is often accurate, many times it is not. By nature I am bubbly and optimistic, but I seem to get pulled down from that a lot. In fact I'm usually in one extreme or another--too happy or too moody. And my mood can change just like that. I admire those "even keel" type of people and wonder how they can be like that. I feel like I never outgrew my teenage moodiness (I'm 28 years old).> > > > I also tend toblame this on PMS. It's worse when I'm PMS, but not limited to that time of the month.> > > > This does affect my ability to deal with 4S. One probably affects the other. I'm not really sure where to turn. I wonder if I need to professional help or I just need to deal with my emotions better. I want to ask here because I feel like I trust you guys and you would understand, and I know that some of you are dealing with psychological issues on top of 4S.> > > > I'm getting frustrated with myself for being so frustrated! Help!> > > > Thanks,> > Cate> >>

[Guest guest]

Hi . That sounds really annoying. 4S certainly makes you feel like

punching someone in the face but its much more than that. For me there is a

difference between the normal things that irritate me (the baby talk you mention

would be a good example) and the 4S triggers. If its a normal sound, I just get

annoyed but I can stay there without anxiety and panic. If it's a 4S trigger

noise, then I feel like I get punched in the stomach, start to panic, become

very anxious and feel the need to flee. I think a lot of the rage/anger that

comes with 4S comes from how horrible sounds make us feel. If we can't flee,we

fight instead. It's instant and intense. There are a couple tv commercials

that drive me up the wall with irritation and my reaction is to want to throw

something at the tv. Then there are commercials that trigger my 4S (Kit Kat

commercials for example) and I feel like I need to run for my life. That's the

difference. If you feel like her voice is so horrible that you panic and need

to flee for your life then that's what my 4S feels like. In my opinion, I don't

think you are being rude, you are just irritated by something that would royally

annoy the majority of people

>

> I typically write regarding my 4S daughter, but tonight I'm just curious

if what

> I've been dealing with sounds like 4S or just plain old rudeness on my

behalf. 

> Keep in mind I have a dad with ringing in the ears and I personally have major

> OCD with cleaning.  I have a new sister-in-law whom is sincerely a nice

person. 

> We both met our husbands (very close brothers) around the same time and have

> always reasonably liked one another, however, her voice/ laughter has always

> really, really bothered me.  She has a very nasally high pitched voice and

an

> excessive nervous giggle.  She's always talking with this high pitched voice

and

> giggling constantly, and now to make matters worse, she and my brother-in-law

> (newly weds of 3 months) baby talk all of the time in front of us.  I feel

like

> I can't take it sometimes...I want to punch her & him in the nose, especially

> with the baby talk.  I feel like such a butt & I'm certain my facial

expressions

> are showing my disgust for them.  So many times I've thought of ways to avoid

> family dinners because I can't stand being around her  &  now my husband's

beloved

> brother and his baby talk.  I feel awful about it, there is absolutely

> no logical reason why I should dislike the presence of this person so much. 

>

> I may be doing what we as women are good at, being plain old moody, but I

> figured if anyone could tell me if this sounds a little bit like 4S it would

be

> you guys.  Is this what 4S makes you feel like...punching people in the nose?

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