Re: Only nada would.....

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Ye Other KOs,

Here are some more:

Only a nada would:

Yell at me so long, loud and harsh that she lost her voice and became hoarse

and then said " now look what you made me do-lose my voice yelling at you " .

Yell at me so long, loud, etc. 'till I almost passed out and then say, " I

thought that's what you wanted " .

Tell the tax man off so he won't do her taxes anymore. He just did ours two

weeks ago. <smirking at nada>.

Run out into the front yard in her nightgown yelling and screaming because

someone took her Sunday paper off the driveway and even said herself she 'had

another Lucy'.

Tried to get herself admitted into a psych ward when I was in school sitting

next to one of 'our' therapissants in class. Other therapissant and I got

it: He said " you just want to sabotage Rita's schooling " and wouldn't admit

her.

Rita

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I love this thread too, my mother has been a yo yo with her weight ever since I

can remember. She has now shrunk to 4'11 " and at her tallest was only 5' 1 3/4 "

but she is defenitely not skinny. When she was being really nasty in Dec. she

made comments about my big belly, well I have had 3 surgeries and have

absolutely no feeling in my abdomen. I can do sit ups till the cows come home

and it does nothing. Some of it is scar tissue.

Before my dad passed away he and my mother were having a conversation about

why my mother sat taller in a church pew than he did. My dad was 5'8 " at his

tallest, and had shrunk considerably due to severe osteoporosis. He looked at

my mother and said " have you looked behind you? " It made her so mad she was

spitting nails, she yelled at him for days about it. I always thought that was

a good one.

I took my mother shopping last fall for some new clothes, and of course the

pants had to be shortened, which I did. I decided I was going to see how tight

they were on me. This is a real hoot. Now she is 4'11 " and I am 5'6 " You

would have thought they would be high waters on me, well guess what they fit me,

and they weren't tight at all and perfect length. So who is the fat one. It

was a private laugh for me. It would only set her off to say anything. I may

have a belly, but I am a lot smaller from the waist down than she is. hahahahaha

Janie

mjlpathfinder wrote:

Love this thread -- humor is so healing.

Okay, here's mine, and it's another one about weight (what IS it

about weight with these nadas who are overweight themselves?!?).

Only a nada would look at your vacation photos with the

grandchildren whom she hadn't seen in over a year, point at your

boobies and say, " Well, it's a good thing you didn't get implants

when you were younger (i.e. thinner)! "

MJL

>

> Ok...i'm going to try to start something here....how about we play

a game of " Only nada would " ....here are the rules...respond to the

thread with a simple phrase and let's see where this goes. You can

answer add many as you want, but you may only do one at a time. I

will go first:

>

> Only nada would :

>

> Borrow something from me, and expect me to apologize to her for

allowing her to borrow it.

>

> For instance...a few weeks ago she showed up at my house

to " borrow " a can of kidney beans...didn't matter what brand, didn't

matter what size can...she was making chili and didn't have any

kidney beans. I dropped what I was doing and spent about 10 minutes

tearing my pantry apart looking for it....once I finally found it I

handed it to her . She looked at me and said " hmmmft....DARK RED

kidney beans?? Since when do we we buy DARK RED kidney beans?? " I

apologized, but she took the can and left in disgust with me...as

she was leaving I yelled after he " I'm sorry! " ....then it occurred

to me...what am i doing? She came here to borrow something from me,

and I ended up apologizing to HER! What's up with that?

>

>

>

> Kisses and Nibbles,

>

> Bunny

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Proudly brag that she drove a 90 mile round trip - twice - in one week - to

return 2 cans of chocolate covered cashews that she had purchased 18 months

previous and had already passed the expiration date on the cans to redeem the

$12 she spent on them because they tasted stale.

JL Suess wrote: Only nada would:

Tell me (at 125 lbs) that I was too fat to get a job.

Seriously, it was at Denny's. It was weird.

" Dani " wrote: Only nada would:

Get angry that I was upset at a FUNERAL!

My grandma died recently and we all flew out to Nebraska. Needless to say it

wasn't the most cheering trip. And so I wasn't particularly chatty. When I got

home, Nada called me up and yelled and me and wondered why I didn't socialize

and be happy and that she was " concerned " that I wasn't happy. We were at a

funeral!

" Beach Bunny (Angel) " wrote: Ok...i'm going to try

to start something here....how about we play a game of " Only nada would " ....here

are the rules...respond to the thread with a simple phrase and let's see where

this goes. You can answer add many as you want, but you may only do one at a

time. I will go first:

Only nada would :

Borrow something from me, and expect me to apologize to her for allowing her to

borrow it.

For instance...a few weeks ago she showed up at my house to " borrow " a can of

kidney beans...didn't matter what brand, didn't matter what size can...she was

making chili and didn't have any kidney beans. I dropped what I was doing and

spent about 10 minutes tearing my pantry apart looking for it....once I finally

found it I handed it to her . She looked at me and said " hmmmft....DARK RED

kidney beans?? Since when do we we buy DARK RED kidney beans?? " I apologized,

but she took the can and left in disgust with me...as she was leaving I yelled

after he " I'm sorry! " ....then it occurred to me...what am i doing? She came here

to borrow something from me, and I ended up apologizing to HER! What's up with

that?

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny

[Guest guest]

from the DENTIST - oh that is too much. ROTFLOL!

heres is one, Only Nada would:

..... run to my own therapist explaining why she had to hold a steak

knife under my throat at age 16. Then wind up being diagnosed by the

psychiatrist in the same office as BPD.

..... spend an hour screaming nastiest things at us. The neighbor

drove up to say we left the phone off the hook (it was a party line)

She left in a huff saying " now i will go explain to them how my

family is mistreating me " .

- Buy

> a style of shoes for me that I've said hurt my feet, in a size too

> small drop them off at my house and then get offended when I told

her

> I returned them to get shoes that fit.

>

> OR

>

> Take one of the " family ledgend " stories (about the time my sister

and

> I were driving down the freeway in the rain and the driver side

> windshield wiper came off, got hung up on the side mirror and I had

to

> roll the window down while driving with no visibility and hand the

> wiper to my sister) and co-opt it into the time that happened to

her.

> In front of me. And when I gently reminded her it happened to me she

> said, " oh, it happened to me too this other time "

>

> OR

>

> Join a new religion and take a vow of abstinence until (re)marriage.

> Then have another tryst with her married boyfriend of 7 years, who

is

> still being treated for recurrent MRSA infections. Knowing that she

is

> allergic to any antibiotics with penicillin or sulphur (most of

them).

> Then get a giant MRSA cyst in her bosom the size of an EGG, refuse

> medical treatment in spite of the urging of her friends, ask me to

> spend the night with her the day before school starts, wait until

the

> thing get so bad it looks like inflamitory breast cancer (a really

> nasty kind that's sheets of tissue instead of lumps, and prectically

> impossible ot kill) call me at 5 am in the snow to drive out and buy

> her some pain ointment, resist going to the emergency room until we

> give her vicodin, make an ass of herself in the hospital and around

> including telling the girl at the taco stand " I'm sorry i can't

count,

> I'm totally stoned " and THEN after I told the story to my sister

send

> out an e-mail to my friends, fiance and people i don't even know

about

> what a terrible person i am spreading lies about her and needing to

> shape up or she'll count me " out " in the restructuring of her life.

>

> OR

>

> Threaten to shoot up my tomato garden because I said it might not

be a

> good idea for her to get a gun

>

> AND

>

> act surprised when I indicate that any of this might make me

> uncomfortable.

>

> Delta

>

> ---------------------------------

> Don't get soaked. Take a quick peek at the forecast

> with theYahoo! Search weather shortcut.

>

>

[Guest guest]

ummm ok since I just joined does nada stand for something?

Ok...i'm going

> to try to start something here....how about we play a game of " Only

> nada would " ....here are the rules...respond to the thread with a

> simple phrase and let's see where this goes. You can answer add many

> as you want, but you may only do one at a time. I will go first:

> >

> > Only nada would :

> >

> > Borrow something from me, and expect me to apologize to her for

> allowing her to borrow it.

> >

> > For instance...a few weeks ago she showed up at my house

> to " borrow " a can of kidney beans...didn't matter what brand, didn't

> matter what size can...she was making chili and didn't have any

> kidney beans. I dropped what I was doing and spent about 10 minutes

> tearing my pantry apart looking for it....once I finally found it I

> handed it to her . She looked at me and said " hmmmft....DARK RED

> kidney beans?? Since when do we we buy DARK RED kidney beans?? " I

> apologized, but she took the can and left in disgust with me...as she

> was leaving I yelled after he " I'm sorry! " ....then it occurred to

> me...what am i doing? She came here to borrow something from me, and

> I ended up apologizing to HER! What's up with that?

> >

> > Kisses and Nibbles,

> >

> > Bunny

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

" nada a real mother " because they dont act like mothers should towards their

children

Jackie

ummm ok since I just joined does nada stand for something?

[Guest guest]

" nada a real mother " because they dont act like mothers should towards their

children

Jackie

ummm ok since I just joined does nada stand for something?

[Guest guest]

" nada " refers to a BPD mother who was not-a-mother in the true sense

of the word. see more abreviations such as SWOE, KO, FOO, FOG and Fada

in the files section to the left, if you are logged onto the group

website. Cristie

WTOAdultChildren1 , " " wrote:

>

> ummm ok since I just joined does nada stand for something?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

" nada " refers to a BPD mother who was not-a-mother in the true sense

of the word. see more abreviations such as SWOE, KO, FOO, FOG and Fada

in the files section to the left, if you are logged onto the group

website. Cristie

WTOAdultChildren1 , " " wrote:

>

> ummm ok since I just joined does nada stand for something?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Janie, did the book about aging parents deal with aging BPD parents

specifically? My mom is on a downhill slide with that same agitation described

in an earlier post. -

White wrote: Lilly,

You're lucky, most nada's don't get better, in fact with age they get worse. The

first book I read was about dealing with aging parents. My mother was put on a

mild dosage of medication for Parkinson's disease and she seems to be a little

better, but the dosage isn't strong enough, she has started shaking again. She

goes back to the dr. next month.

Good luck, I hope your nada keeps improving.

Janie

Lilly LaFlure wrote:

I have pretty much gotten over it. I no longer allow her the power to controle

my emotions. Sometimes, something gets me, but it is not something that I deal

with everyday. I however, hae the added benifit that my mom has gotten better.

Lilly

White wrote:

Lily,

Mine has nothing to do with the weight issue either, I am responding to the

broken lamp.

A few years ago, to the best of my recollection, after 10/27/03 my mother

accused me of stealing a garnet necklace and a string of pearls from her house

to my sister after I had been there for a holiday visit. #1 I had my own garnet

necklace and errings, and #2 I bought her the string of pearls several years

(back in the 1971) when we were stationed in Hawaii. They were real pearls, not

even cultured. I also bought her earrings to go with them and she didn't like

them so she gave them back to me. At the same time I bought her pearls I bought

myself a string. So why would I steal hers????????????????? Several days after

accusing me, my sister found them inside a purse in a dresser drawer. She has

never apologized for the accusations. My birthstone as well as my mother's in

garnet. The point I am trying to make here is this is another way of getting

attention by BPD's......... and all it does is push us a little further away.

The hurt/pain with me is so deep I

don't know if I will ever get over it all. Hopefully you can recover.

I feel for you,

Janie

Lilly LaFlure wrote:

Only Nada would, blame me for a lamp that got broken while I was in colleage

three hours away. It took me five minuets to convince her there was no way that

I could of broken the stupid lamp. Though I have to admitt that after that phone

call I wanted to drive the three hours up to her house and break the other

flippin lamp. And know these were not Tiffinay Lamps. They were like K-Mart

lamps. Nothing wrong with K-Mart I shop there but deffinatly not family

heirlooms.

Lilly

P.S. sorry that had nothing to do with you moms weight issue. I am laid up with

a staph infection in my foot and I am on some heavy meds. If I say any crazy

stuff(crazier then I usualy do, please forgive me gals and guys)

mitchell_kristin wrote:

It seems like a lot of our nadas had weight issues they projected

onto us. My mom went back and forth with anorexia and was obsessed

with her weight and mine.

I did eat in secret as a way to comfort myself when I was younger, I

guess it's a FLEA I picked up, so Jae, I may have to steal your book

title,lol!!

Buy

> a style of shoes for me that I've said hurt my feet, in a size too

> small drop them off at my house and then get offended when I told

her

> I returned them to get shoes that fit.

>

> OR

>

> Take one of the " family ledgend " stories (about the time my sister

and

> I were driving down the freeway in the rain and the driver side

> windshield wiper came off, got hung up on the side mirror and I

had to

> roll the window down while driving with no visibility and hand the

> wiper to my sister) and co-opt it into the time that happened to

her.

> In front of me. And when I gently reminded her it happened to me

she

> said, " oh, it happened to me too this other time "

>

> OR

>

> Join a new religion and take a vow of abstinence until (re)

marriage.

> Then have another tryst with her married boyfriend of 7 years, who

is

> still being treated for recurrent MRSA infections. Knowing that

she is

> allergic to any antibiotics with penicillin or sulphur (most of

them).

> Then get a giant MRSA cyst in her bosom the size of an EGG, refuse

> medical treatment in spite of the urging of her friends, ask me to

> spend the night with her the day before school starts, wait until

the

> thing get so bad it looks like inflamitory breast cancer (a really

> nasty kind that's sheets of tissue instead of lumps, and

prectically

> impossible ot kill) call me at 5 am in the snow to drive out and

buy

> her some pain ointment, resist going to the emergency room until we

> give her vicodin, make an ass of herself in the hospital and around

> including telling the girl at the taco stand " I'm sorry i can't

count,

> I'm totally stoned " and THEN after I told the story to my sister

send

> out an e-mail to my friends, fiance and people i don't even know

about

> what a terrible person i am spreading lies about her and needing to

> shape up or she'll count me " out " in the restructuring of her life.

>

> OR

>

> Threaten to shoot up my tomato garden because I said it might not

be a

> good idea for her to get a gun

>

> AND

>

> act surprised when I indicate that any of this might make me

> uncomfortable.

>

> Delta

>

>

>

>

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Don't get soaked. Take a quick peek at the forecast

> with theYahoo! Search weather shortcut.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh my gosh...my nada did the exact same thing to me! It's all about appearance

with them.

Here's another one. Only Nada would.....make a big deal out of putting a

pre-made pie in the oven and then an hour later try to claim that she made it

from scratch.

It was totally ridiculous...I'm not sure who she thought she was

impressing....WE are the ones who brought the pies!

junkinthere wrote: I'm

late on this thread, but here goes:

Only nada would look at a picture of me, my cousin and my aunt and say " You and

your aunt

have such yellow teeth, look how white your cousin's teeth are, " then when I

start using

whitening products ask me why I'm doing that, can't I see that I'm ruining my

teeth with that

stuff? I tell her I'm trying to make them less yellow since she said they were

yellow in the

picture. She says, " oh I was just commenting on the natural hue of your teeth,

there's nothing

wrong with yellow teeth! "

Then I feel stupid and vain for trying to fix it, stupid for " misunderstanding "

her first

comment, and at the same time upset that I have yellow teeth, then feeling bad

about being

upset that I have yellow teeth, it goes on and on.

And the best part is I get complements all the time from people about how white

my teeth

are (without whitening products). She is really enough to drive anyone crazy.

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny

[Guest guest]

Oh my gosh...my nada did the exact same thing to me! It's all about appearance

with them.

Here's another one. Only Nada would.....make a big deal out of putting a

pre-made pie in the oven and then an hour later try to claim that she made it

from scratch.

It was totally ridiculous...I'm not sure who she thought she was

impressing....WE are the ones who brought the pies!

junkinthere wrote: I'm

late on this thread, but here goes:

Only nada would look at a picture of me, my cousin and my aunt and say " You and

your aunt

have such yellow teeth, look how white your cousin's teeth are, " then when I

start using

whitening products ask me why I'm doing that, can't I see that I'm ruining my

teeth with that

stuff? I tell her I'm trying to make them less yellow since she said they were

yellow in the

picture. She says, " oh I was just commenting on the natural hue of your teeth,

there's nothing

wrong with yellow teeth! "

Then I feel stupid and vain for trying to fix it, stupid for " misunderstanding "

her first

comment, and at the same time upset that I have yellow teeth, then feeling bad

about being

upset that I have yellow teeth, it goes on and on.

And the best part is I get complements all the time from people about how white

my teeth

are (without whitening products). She is really enough to drive anyone crazy.

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny