Guest guest Posted January 31, 2011 Report Share Posted January 31, 2011 Dear M,I am not opposed to having this mystery person join our group. I reserve the right to say anything to him if he is out of line!Wink,JRSent from my iPad Someone has contacted to me join this group. This is a very intelligent person, a medical professional. He has been a part of the T & H scene for many years. He is interested in all of you as a population. On the other side, he has been, well, at the least and kindest way to put it, dismissive of the 4S condition. Yes dismissive would be a light description, like calling WWII a little 'skirmish'. Nonetheless, he can be very effective and powerful in spreading the work about this condition, whatever it is called, and could possibly even be helpful in advocating for this group. He has asked me if he can join our group for a while and listen/read to what you all have to say, perhaps join in, and so on. I have found him to be both extremely supportive at times and other times, well, he can be quite surgical in his cutting remarks....and even so, to be fair, he is often quite right! So, I am going to ask you, some of you no doubt will already know of whom I speak, if you were ever on the H Board, as this individual and myself spent over a decade intermittently sparring. I am not saying this little informal poll would be the deciding factor but I want to include you all in my decision making. So far I have been quite careful to screen people, moderate wild posts, kick out offenders or warn them, and have hopefully kept this a little bit safe for everyone.... So, tell me, wise ones, what would you like to do? Everywhere he goes, often flamese follow, however he really is extremely brilliant and kind much of the time....he is a complex fellow. Like all of us, I suppose. Dr. J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 I don't have any issues with the person joining - for years we have been saying that we need to get people to understand what we are going through and this would be an opportunity to make some moves in the right direction. Of course if he became spiteful, intimidating or disrespectful to other members of the group then action would have to be taken, but Marsha is fully capable of moderating the group Someone has contacted to me join this group.This is a very intelligent person, a medical professional.He has been a part of the T & H scene for many years.He is interested in all of you as a population.On the other side, he has been, well, at the least and kindest way to put it, dismissive of the 4S condition.Yes dismissive would be a light description, like calling WWII a little 'skirmish'.Nonetheless, he can be very effective and powerful in spreading the work about this condition, whatever it is called, and could possibly even be helpful in advocating for this group.He has asked me if he can join our group for a while and listen/read to what you all have to say, perhaps join in, and so on.I have found him to be both extremely supportive at times and other times, well, he can be quite surgical in his cutting remarks....and even so, to be fair, he is often quite right!So, I am going to ask you, some of you no doubt will already know of whom I speak, if you were ever on the H Board, as this individual and myself spent over a decade intermittently sparring. I am not saying this little informal poll would be the deciding factor but I want to include you all in my decision making. So far I have been quite careful to screen people, moderate wild posts, kick out offenders or warn them, and have hopefully kept this a little bit safe for everyone....So, tell me, wise ones, what would you like to do?Everywhere he goes, often flamese follow, however he really is extremely brilliant and kind much of the time....he is a complex fellow.Like all of us, I suppose.Dr. J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 I agree. It's one thing to remove someone from the group for not following rules and being hateful (if it comes to that, which I hope it wouldn't). It's another to assume the worst and deny someone the chance before they can even prove themselves. Even criminals are innocent until proven guilty--no reason we shouldn't give this person a chance. > > > > > > > Someone has contacted to me join this group. > > This is a very intelligent person, a medical professional. > > He has been a part of the T & H scene for many years. > > He is interested in all of you as a population. > > On the other side, he has been, well, at the least and kindest way to put it, dismissive of the 4S condition. > > Yes dismissive would be a light description, like calling WWII a little 'skirmish'. > > Nonetheless, he can be very effective and powerful in spreading the work about this condition, whatever it is called, and could possibly even be helpful in advocating for this group. > > He has asked me if he can join our group for a while and listen/read to what you all have to say, perhaps join in, and so on. > > I have found him to be both extremely supportive at times and other times, well, he can be quite surgical in his cutting remarks....and even so, to be fair, he is often quite right! > > So, I am going to ask you, some of you no doubt will already know of whom I speak, if you were ever on the H Board, as this individual and myself spent over a decade intermittently sparring. > > I am not saying this little informal poll would be the deciding factor but I want to include you all in my decision making. So far I have been quite careful to screen people, moderate wild posts, kick out offenders or warn them, and have hopefully kept this a little bit safe for everyone.... > > So, tell me, wise ones, what would you like to do? > > Everywhere he goes, often flamese follow, however he really is extremely brilliant and kind much of the time....he is a complex fellow. > > Like all of us, I suppose. > > Dr. J > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 ....yah and and no Big Brother here. : )To: soundsensitivity Sent: Tue, February 1, 2011 2:13:39 AMSubject: RE: Sensitive decision I don't have any issues with the person joining - for years we have been saying that we need to get people to understand what we are going through and this would be an opportunity to make some moves in the right direction. Of course if he became spiteful, intimidating or disrespectful to other members of the group then action would have to be taken, but Marsha is fully capable of moderating the group Someone has contacted to me join this group.This is a very intelligent person, a medical professional.He has been a part of the T & H scene for many years.He is interested in all of you as a population.On the other side, he has been, well, at the least and kindest way to put it, dismissive of the 4S condition.Yes dismissive would be a light description, like calling WWII a little 'skirmish'.Nonetheless, he can be very effective and powerful in spreading the work about this condition, whatever it is called, and could possibly even be helpful in advocating for this group.He has asked me if he can join our group for a while and listen/read to what you all have to say, perhaps join in, and so on.I have found him to be both extremely supportive at times and other times, well, he can be quite surgical in his cutting remarks....and even so, to be fair, he is often quite right!So, I am going to ask you, some of you no doubt will already know of whom I speak, if you were ever on the H Board, as this individual and myself spent over a decade intermittently sparring. I am not saying this little informal poll would be the deciding factor but I want to include you all in my decision making. So far I have been quite careful to screen people, moderate wild posts, kick out offenders or warn them, and have hopefully kept this a little bit safe for everyone....So, tell me, wise ones, what would you like to do?Everywhere he goes, often flamese follow, however he really is extremely brilliant and kind much of the time....he is a complex fellow.Like all of us, I suppose.Dr. J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 ....yah and and no Big Brother here. : )To: soundsensitivity Sent: Tue, February 1, 2011 2:13:39 AMSubject: RE: Sensitive decision I don't have any issues with the person joining - for years we have been saying that we need to get people to understand what we are going through and this would be an opportunity to make some moves in the right direction. Of course if he became spiteful, intimidating or disrespectful to other members of the group then action would have to be taken, but Marsha is fully capable of moderating the group Someone has contacted to me join this group.This is a very intelligent person, a medical professional.He has been a part of the T & H scene for many years.He is interested in all of you as a population.On the other side, he has been, well, at the least and kindest way to put it, dismissive of the 4S condition.Yes dismissive would be a light description, like calling WWII a little 'skirmish'.Nonetheless, he can be very effective and powerful in spreading the work about this condition, whatever it is called, and could possibly even be helpful in advocating for this group.He has asked me if he can join our group for a while and listen/read to what you all have to say, perhaps join in, and so on.I have found him to be both extremely supportive at times and other times, well, he can be quite surgical in his cutting remarks....and even so, to be fair, he is often quite right!So, I am going to ask you, some of you no doubt will already know of whom I speak, if you were ever on the H Board, as this individual and myself spent over a decade intermittently sparring. I am not saying this little informal poll would be the deciding factor but I want to include you all in my decision making. So far I have been quite careful to screen people, moderate wild posts, kick out offenders or warn them, and have hopefully kept this a little bit safe for everyone....So, tell me, wise ones, what would you like to do?Everywhere he goes, often flamese follow, however he really is extremely brilliant and kind much of the time....he is a complex fellow.Like all of us, I suppose.Dr. J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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