Re: Re: Sympathy and detachment discussion

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It is you choice to feel that way, and I have no disagreement with you for the

feel that way. This whole conversation just made me think of some situations

that I have been through. If they were not helpfull for you or you feel that I

just don't get it, thats ok too.

Lilly

Cristie Maure wrote:

well when someone make rash assumptions like " Clearly sent someone

over the edge " and other things which i have already been through on

this subject. That just tells me they are stuck in Borderline way of

thinking, called projection. Something they really feel themselves

but wont admit it so they Project that felling onto others. Classic

BPD behavior.

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> I posted and clearly sent someone over the edge. We all need to

> feel our pain and be validated. Something our FOOs never allowed

us.

> However at what point does someone stand up and say, HEY, you are

> only destroying yourself? At what point do we care enpugh about

each

> other to say, Don't let them win " . There are people out there that

> have been through all stages of healing and might have some good

> advice. I know I value it. This is not a personal attack on antone

> and I got to ask myself that if you see that as such, take a step

> back and look in the mirror. It is okay to feel your own pain and

> sometimes even wallow in it, but to never more past that hurt and

> anger. Is only destructive to yourself and those involved in your

> immediate life. I got a personal email from one of the poster

> accusing me of sounding borderline and looking for a battle. I got

> to wonder sometimes if borderlines are on this site. That is

> something my sister would have done. Of course doesn't

> think she has issues or is borderline. It was all nadas fault.

> Everything she has done for the past 44 years. NO!!!

> Nada help create that monster, but that monster choose to stay that

> way. There comes a point when you must save yourself and let them

> go, however I see some people out there choosing to stay stuck in

> their own hell instead of fixing themselves.

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