N. Re: abuse?

[Guest guest]

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I know well of whom you speak! I got a letter from the former moderator and

since it was addressed to both me and my husband, I showed it to him, and he

said, " WOW! Unbelievable! " Having spent most of his childhood in the US, my

husband said that Orgegon state laws are one of those last hold-outs from a

different time, and he could see how it was plausible for you-know-who to get

away with what he did.

But still, the lack of conscience and the decades-long planning boggles the

mind. A normal person could not even see this coming! Even writers of fiction

could hardly imagine it because it stoops beneath the lowest of the low. Even in

fiction, the villains are revealed to have some misguided well-meaning purpose

that became twisted by cruelty. But you-know-who has none of those excuses. He

was a born psychopath. Thank the stars that there are few people in this life

who are as purely diabolical as he.

It is a shame to think that his comeuppance or " karma " will probably come as a

result of a criminal act of another person. What an evil virus. I'd rather see

him suffocate slowly in quicksand rather than at the price of freedom for

another person whose psyche was already horribly wounded.

Most " oppressors " are wounded people themselves. As my husband says about those

people, " they didn't *mean* to be evil. " And with people like that, as you say,

, you have to know when to hold 'em and know when to fold.

As you have often said, what does this relationship do for *YOU?* What are *YOU*

going to do? I think that's what finally got you kicked out of that " other "

list, LOL .. and we are everlastingly grateful for that or we would not be here

Ultimately, you have to take care of *yourself* and that isn't selfish. That is

a lesson I am learning later in life.

- Helen