Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 How do we get our memories back? For me, my memories have begun to come back after I stopped allowing nada to abuse me. I had to go no contact. I have experienced more growth and healing during the last 3.5 years of no contact than any other time in my life. And one surprising thing that happened was that I am starting to remember other parts of my life - and some of them are good memories. When I first started therapy with my last therapist, I often talked about my lack of memories. She explained to me that what I did remember was indicative of what my life was life, even though there were not alot of memories. (And most of what I remembered was bad stuff, too.) Hope this helps, Sylvia > > > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a > wonderful > > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. > I > > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle > child > > of > > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been > the > > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for > many > > of > > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 If it makes bunny feel any better I was trying to figure out why she was having or not haveing a Boarderline Disorder Party also. I was having a (I have a Staph infection and I am on Vicadon moment) Angel: I hope that you do not feel that we were making light of your situation. I have noticed that many of us KO's have an odd sense of humore. It is how we cope! I know that it must hurt for her to dangle all the money in your face, when all you want is her love. Lilly flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 If it makes bunny feel any better I was trying to figure out why she was having or not haveing a Boarderline Disorder Party also. I was having a (I have a Staph infection and I am on Vicadon moment) Angel: I hope that you do not feel that we were making light of your situation. I have noticed that many of us KO's have an odd sense of humore. It is how we cope! I know that it must hurt for her to dangle all the money in your face, when all you want is her love. Lilly flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 If it makes bunny feel any better I was trying to figure out why she was having or not haveing a Boarderline Disorder Party also. I was having a (I have a Staph infection and I am on Vicadon moment) Angel: I hope that you do not feel that we were making light of your situation. I have noticed that many of us KO's have an odd sense of humore. It is how we cope! I know that it must hurt for her to dangle all the money in your face, when all you want is her love. Lilly flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 I am the one that questioned Bunny's blonde moment because I didn't understand what she meant????? Yes I think we do have strange senses of humor, I can be very sarcastic. Of course that could be the English in me too. My mother and I were going through old papers again on Wed. and we came across an envelope with medical bills in it supposedly for my dad, and I was looking at a hospital bill and couldn't figure out what procedure it was for my dad, when all of a sudden I saw " vaginal hysterectomy and tubal removal " we laughed so hard we almost feel off our chairs. I even chocked. This of course was for my mother not my father. How it got in an envelope with my dad's stuff?????? Janie Lilly LaFlure wrote: If it makes bunny feel any better I was trying to figure out why she was having or not haveing a Boarderline Disorder Party also. I was having a (I have a Staph infection and I am on Vicadon moment) Angel: I hope that you do not feel that we were making light of your situation. I have noticed that many of us KO's have an odd sense of humore. It is how we cope! I know that it must hurt for her to dangle all the money in your face, when all you want is her love. Lilly flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 I am the one that questioned Bunny's blonde moment because I didn't understand what she meant????? Yes I think we do have strange senses of humor, I can be very sarcastic. Of course that could be the English in me too. My mother and I were going through old papers again on Wed. and we came across an envelope with medical bills in it supposedly for my dad, and I was looking at a hospital bill and couldn't figure out what procedure it was for my dad, when all of a sudden I saw " vaginal hysterectomy and tubal removal " we laughed so hard we almost feel off our chairs. I even chocked. This of course was for my mother not my father. How it got in an envelope with my dad's stuff?????? Janie Lilly LaFlure wrote: If it makes bunny feel any better I was trying to figure out why she was having or not haveing a Boarderline Disorder Party also. I was having a (I have a Staph infection and I am on Vicadon moment) Angel: I hope that you do not feel that we were making light of your situation. I have noticed that many of us KO's have an odd sense of humore. It is how we cope! I know that it must hurt for her to dangle all the money in your face, when all you want is her love. Lilly flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 I am the one that questioned Bunny's blonde moment because I didn't understand what she meant????? Yes I think we do have strange senses of humor, I can be very sarcastic. Of course that could be the English in me too. My mother and I were going through old papers again on Wed. and we came across an envelope with medical bills in it supposedly for my dad, and I was looking at a hospital bill and couldn't figure out what procedure it was for my dad, when all of a sudden I saw " vaginal hysterectomy and tubal removal " we laughed so hard we almost feel off our chairs. I even chocked. This of course was for my mother not my father. How it got in an envelope with my dad's stuff?????? Janie Lilly LaFlure wrote: If it makes bunny feel any better I was trying to figure out why she was having or not haveing a Boarderline Disorder Party also. I was having a (I have a Staph infection and I am on Vicadon moment) Angel: I hope that you do not feel that we were making light of your situation. I have noticed that many of us KO's have an odd sense of humore. It is how we cope! I know that it must hurt for her to dangle all the money in your face, when all you want is her love. Lilly flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 Thanks for the clarification. That is a good one. I laughed. I have brain cramps too, so I completly understand that one. I wasn't upset, just didn't understand!!!!! Thanks for giving me a laugh Bunny!!!! Janie flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 Thanks for the clarification. That is a good one. I laughed. I have brain cramps too, so I completly understand that one. I wasn't upset, just didn't understand!!!!! Thanks for giving me a laugh Bunny!!!! Janie flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 Thanks for the clarification. That is a good one. I laughed. I have brain cramps too, so I completly understand that one. I wasn't upset, just didn't understand!!!!! Thanks for giving me a laugh Bunny!!!! Janie flutter_by_73 wrote: Janie, I think Bunny's point was that she had a brain cramp and when she saw " BD party, " her brain said " Borderline Disorder party " instead of " Birth Day Party, " and she couldn't figure out why anyone would throw a " Borderline Disorder party. " She was just sharing her funny little brain cramp with us. ;-D (Speaking of which, all of us KOs should have a big virtual Borderline Disorder party to celebrate knowing that we can thrive!!) Tara > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 Janie, After my daughter was born I received a bill for " baby 's circumcision " . I don't think so!! > > > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a > wonderful > > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. > I > > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle > child > > of > > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been > the > > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for > many > > of > > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > > time. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 Janie, After my daughter was born I received a bill for " baby 's circumcision " . I don't think so!! > > > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a > wonderful > > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. > I > > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle > child > > of > > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been > the > > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for > many > > of > > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > > time. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 Janie, After my daughter was born I received a bill for " baby 's circumcision " . I don't think so!! > > > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a > wonderful > > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. > I > > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle > child > > of > > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been > the > > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for > many > > of > > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > > time. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 6, 2007 Report Share Posted April 6, 2007 , hahahahahahahahahaha, I thought that was against the law in this country????????? Female circumcision Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: Janie, After my daughter was born I received a bill for " baby 's circumcision " . I don't think so!! > > > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a > wonderful > > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. > I > > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle > child > > of > > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been > the > > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for > many > > of > > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > > time. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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