Guest guest Posted April 3, 2007 Report Share Posted April 3, 2007 Welcome. It is an amazing revelation, isn't it? I hope you enjoy this group. I've only been here a couple of weeks, but I've learned so much. Tara > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2007 Report Share Posted April 3, 2007 Welcome. It is an amazing revelation, isn't it? I hope you enjoy this group. I've only been here a couple of weeks, but I've learned so much. Tara > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2007 Report Share Posted April 4, 2007 One lucky boy, Glad you're here. I've had problems with memories too; this sight is helping bring some things back. Sometimes when people post about what happens to them it will trigger a memory for me, maybe this will happen for you. Check out all the posts on book suggestions, the more you know about BPD the better off you are. There's a lot to learn, BPs are some sick people... Good luck on your new journey! > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 , I have a lot of problems with memories. There are so many blank spaces in my childhood. I seem to remember all the bad stuff........... maybe that is all there was. I don't remember ever having a BD party, there was no high school graduation party, I never had a wedding even though I was married 3 times, my mother absolutely refused to come, I never had a wedding gown. I don't have any memories of any sympathy/empathy. I was always in trouble, never did anything right. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: One lucky boy, Glad you're here. I've had problems with memories too; this sight is helping bring some things back. Sometimes when people post about what happens to them it will trigger a memory for me, maybe this will happen for you. Check out all the posts on book suggestions, the more you know about BPD the better off you are. There's a lot to learn, BPs are some sick people... Good luck on your new journey! > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 , I have a lot of problems with memories. There are so many blank spaces in my childhood. I seem to remember all the bad stuff........... maybe that is all there was. I don't remember ever having a BD party, there was no high school graduation party, I never had a wedding even though I was married 3 times, my mother absolutely refused to come, I never had a wedding gown. I don't have any memories of any sympathy/empathy. I was always in trouble, never did anything right. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: One lucky boy, Glad you're here. I've had problems with memories too; this sight is helping bring some things back. Sometimes when people post about what happens to them it will trigger a memory for me, maybe this will happen for you. Check out all the posts on book suggestions, the more you know about BPD the better off you are. There's a lot to learn, BPs are some sick people... Good luck on your new journey! > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 , I have a lot of problems with memories. There are so many blank spaces in my childhood. I seem to remember all the bad stuff........... maybe that is all there was. I don't remember ever having a BD party, there was no high school graduation party, I never had a wedding even though I was married 3 times, my mother absolutely refused to come, I never had a wedding gown. I don't have any memories of any sympathy/empathy. I was always in trouble, never did anything right. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: One lucky boy, Glad you're here. I've had problems with memories too; this sight is helping bring some things back. Sometimes when people post about what happens to them it will trigger a memory for me, maybe this will happen for you. Check out all the posts on book suggestions, the more you know about BPD the better off you are. There's a lot to learn, BPs are some sick people... Good luck on your new journey! > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Ok...ok...i've officially had my blonde moment of the day...Janie wrote: I don't remember ever having a BD party, ..... The first thing I thought was... " now why would you have a borderline disorder party? " ....oh man....I'm losing it!! LMAO.....i'm thinking about this stuff waaaayyyyyy too much! (No intention of poking fun at anyone but me here....just thought I would share.) White wrote: , I have a lot of problems with memories. There are so many blank spaces in my childhood. I seem to remember all the bad stuff........... maybe that is all there was. I don't remember ever having a BD party, there was no high school graduation party, I never had a wedding even though I was married 3 times, my mother absolutely refused to come, I never had a wedding gown. I don't have any memories of any sympathy/empathy. I was always in trouble, never did anything right. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: One lucky boy, Glad you're here. I've had problems with memories too; this sight is helping bring some things back. Sometimes when people post about what happens to them it will trigger a memory for me, maybe this will happen for you. Check out all the posts on book suggestions, the more you know about BPD the better off you are. There's a lot to learn, BPs are some sick people... Good luck on your new journey! > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Angel, The point I was trying to make is that these things were never done for us, we weren't like other families. But............ my mother puts on a real good front to outsiders and makes it look like my sister and I are the bad guys, " we don't do anything to help her " she holds her property/money/etc. over our heads in her will thinking it will get us to do more. I guess I am having a blonde moment because I am not sure I understand what you are saying?????? Janie " Beach Bunny (Angel) " wrote: Ok...ok...i've officially had my blonde moment of the day...Janie wrote: I don't remember ever having a BD party, ..... The first thing I thought was... " now why would you have a borderline disorder party? " ....oh man....I'm losing it!! LMAO.....i'm thinking about this stuff waaaayyyyyy too much! (No intention of poking fun at anyone but me here....just thought I would share.) White wrote: , I have a lot of problems with memories. There are so many blank spaces in my childhood. I seem to remember all the bad stuff........... maybe that is all there was. I don't remember ever having a BD party, there was no high school graduation party, I never had a wedding even though I was married 3 times, my mother absolutely refused to come, I never had a wedding gown. I don't have any memories of any sympathy/empathy. I was always in trouble, never did anything right. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: One lucky boy, Glad you're here. I've had problems with memories too; this sight is helping bring some things back. Sometimes when people post about what happens to them it will trigger a memory for me, maybe this will happen for you. Check out all the posts on book suggestions, the more you know about BPD the better off you are. There's a lot to learn, BPs are some sick people... Good luck on your new journey! > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Angel, The point I was trying to make is that these things were never done for us, we weren't like other families. But............ my mother puts on a real good front to outsiders and makes it look like my sister and I are the bad guys, " we don't do anything to help her " she holds her property/money/etc. over our heads in her will thinking it will get us to do more. I guess I am having a blonde moment because I am not sure I understand what you are saying?????? Janie " Beach Bunny (Angel) " wrote: Ok...ok...i've officially had my blonde moment of the day...Janie wrote: I don't remember ever having a BD party, ..... The first thing I thought was... " now why would you have a borderline disorder party? " ....oh man....I'm losing it!! LMAO.....i'm thinking about this stuff waaaayyyyyy too much! (No intention of poking fun at anyone but me here....just thought I would share.) White wrote: , I have a lot of problems with memories. There are so many blank spaces in my childhood. I seem to remember all the bad stuff........... maybe that is all there was. I don't remember ever having a BD party, there was no high school graduation party, I never had a wedding even though I was married 3 times, my mother absolutely refused to come, I never had a wedding gown. I don't have any memories of any sympathy/empathy. I was always in trouble, never did anything right. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: One lucky boy, Glad you're here. I've had problems with memories too; this sight is helping bring some things back. Sometimes when people post about what happens to them it will trigger a memory for me, maybe this will happen for you. Check out all the posts on book suggestions, the more you know about BPD the better off you are. There's a lot to learn, BPs are some sick people... Good luck on your new journey! > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Angel, The point I was trying to make is that these things were never done for us, we weren't like other families. But............ my mother puts on a real good front to outsiders and makes it look like my sister and I are the bad guys, " we don't do anything to help her " she holds her property/money/etc. over our heads in her will thinking it will get us to do more. I guess I am having a blonde moment because I am not sure I understand what you are saying?????? Janie " Beach Bunny (Angel) " wrote: Ok...ok...i've officially had my blonde moment of the day...Janie wrote: I don't remember ever having a BD party, ..... The first thing I thought was... " now why would you have a borderline disorder party? " ....oh man....I'm losing it!! LMAO.....i'm thinking about this stuff waaaayyyyyy too much! (No intention of poking fun at anyone but me here....just thought I would share.) White wrote: , I have a lot of problems with memories. There are so many blank spaces in my childhood. I seem to remember all the bad stuff........... maybe that is all there was. I don't remember ever having a BD party, there was no high school graduation party, I never had a wedding even though I was married 3 times, my mother absolutely refused to come, I never had a wedding gown. I don't have any memories of any sympathy/empathy. I was always in trouble, never did anything right. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: One lucky boy, Glad you're here. I've had problems with memories too; this sight is helping bring some things back. Sometimes when people post about what happens to them it will trigger a memory for me, maybe this will happen for you. Check out all the posts on book suggestions, the more you know about BPD the better off you are. There's a lot to learn, BPs are some sick people... Good luck on your new journey! > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child of > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many of > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 , I empathsize, I don't know if we ever will get those lost memories back, good or bad. Sometimes I think it is better that I don't remember things. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 , I empathsize, I don't know if we ever will get those lost memories back, good or bad. Sometimes I think it is better that I don't remember things. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 For me the postings here have trigered most of the memories. I did recover some from when I was really young and kind of wish I didn't. You can try therapy or meditation. But, sometimes things are better left unremembered. Lilly mitchell_kristin wrote: Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Janie, You're probably right, but for me, I think I need to remember to move on. Like all those suppressed memories must be doing some form of damage in my head... > > > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a > wonderful > > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. > I > > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle > child > > of > > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been > the > > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for > many > > of > > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 , Oh I agree, to move on. I don't sit and ponder on them, another post made me respond. Janie mitchell_kristin wrote: Janie, You're probably right, but for me, I think I need to remember to move on. Like all those suppressed memories must be doing some form of damage in my head... > > > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a > wonderful > > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. > I > > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle > child > > of > > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been > the > > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for > many > > of > > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Lilly, I agree, Janie Lilly LaFlure wrote: For me the postings here have trigered most of the memories. I did recover some from when I was really young and kind of wish I didn't. You can try therapy or meditation. But, sometimes things are better left unremembered. Lilly mitchell_kristin wrote: Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Lilly, I agree, Janie Lilly LaFlure wrote: For me the postings here have trigered most of the memories. I did recover some from when I was really young and kind of wish I didn't. You can try therapy or meditation. But, sometimes things are better left unremembered. Lilly mitchell_kristin wrote: Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Lilly, I agree, Janie Lilly LaFlure wrote: For me the postings here have trigered most of the memories. I did recover some from when I was really young and kind of wish I didn't. You can try therapy or meditation. But, sometimes things are better left unremembered. Lilly mitchell_kristin wrote: Janie, I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Liily, Thanks for your suggestions. > > > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a > wonderful > > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. > I > > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle > child > > of > > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been > the > > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for > many > > of > > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 maybe you're better off not knowing...one of my sisters has blocked just about everything out...so she doesn't remember nada pushing her down the steps, the yelling at her, dragging her back up the steps by her hair, because the shoes my sister was wearing put black marks on the wall...I remember a lot... Jackie I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 maybe you're better off not knowing...one of my sisters has blocked just about everything out...so she doesn't remember nada pushing her down the steps, the yelling at her, dragging her back up the steps by her hair, because the shoes my sister was wearing put black marks on the wall...I remember a lot... Jackie I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 maybe you're better off not knowing...one of my sisters has blocked just about everything out...so she doesn't remember nada pushing her down the steps, the yelling at her, dragging her back up the steps by her hair, because the shoes my sister was wearing put black marks on the wall...I remember a lot... Jackie I remember a lot of the bad stuff, but there are huge chunks (years) missing of my childhood- bad or good. When my mom died I was trying to remember anything good and I drew a blank. I don't know if this means there wasn't any good, or if I've blocked that out too. I've asked this before, but didn't get a response- how do we get our memories back? Some have returned from other posts triggering things, but thats it... > > > > Greetings, I just recently (last week) with the help of a wonderful > > therapist realized that I'm an adult child of a mother with BPD. I > > have a lot to learn and a lot of work to do. I was the middle child > of > > three. Both my brother and sister have passed away and I've been the > > target of my mother's outbursts (this is putting it gently) for many > of > > my adult years. I have no memories of my childhood relative to my > > mother. I'm hoping to develop a solid support system through this > > group - the road ahead will be difficult but freeing at the same > > time. > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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