Re: Cause is CONTROL

January 16, 2011

I disagree. Lack of control definitely aggravates my situation (if I'm stuck

somewhere and I can't get away from the trigger), but there have been many times

where I am in complete control and it still has the same effect, the

excruciating pain is there, but the anxiety is not, when I'm in control. Maybe

it's different for everyone though!

>

> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause

is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but

can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that

irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and

dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other

may feel the same??

>

January 16, 2011

I disagree. Lack of control definitely aggravates my situation (if I'm stuck

somewhere and I can't get away from the trigger), but there have been many times

where I am in complete control and it still has the same effect, the

excruciating pain is there, but the anxiety is not, when I'm in control. Maybe

it's different for everyone though!

>

> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause

is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but

can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that

irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and

dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other

may feel the same??

>

January 16, 2011

It's not control of the situation. It's control of the ACTION. that bothers us. These triggers are NOT high pitch hurtful sounds, they are just annoying to us. What I believe makes them get us so angry is, we have a trigger in that we can't control the action and make it stop.

Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROLTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Sunday, January 16, 2011, 11:24 AM

I disagree. Lack of control definitely aggravates my situation (if I'm stuck somewhere and I can't get away from the trigger), but there have been many times where I am in complete control and it still has the same effect, the excruciating pain is there, but the anxiety is not, when I'm in control. Maybe it's different for everyone though!>> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I

was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??>

January 16, 2011

Hmm its not the sound we have issue with but how we perceive the sound. Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone on 3Sender: Soundsensitivity Date: Sun, 16 Jan 2011 16:18:01 -0000To: <Soundsensitivity >ReplyTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Cause is CONTROL I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??

January 16, 2011

Hmm its not the sound we have issue with but how we perceive the sound. Sent from my BlackBerry® smartphone on 3Sender: Soundsensitivity Date: Sun, 16 Jan 2011 16:18:01 -0000To: <Soundsensitivity >ReplyTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Cause is CONTROL I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??

January 17, 2011

It's part of the whole mystery of this problem. I find that when I'm in the car,

the triggers are worse for this reason--I'm trapped inside with no where to go

to escape. Also if someone who knows about my sensitivity triggers me, it's

often worse than someone who doesn't know--the feeling of being a victim.

It is very strange how a very similar sound, coming from 2 different places, can

cause different levels of reaction. Many of us experience that children bother

us less than adults, strangers less than people we see everyday, machines less

than humans. It doesn't really make sense.

When I wear earplugs, I feel more in control, and even though I can hear some

sounds, they don't seem to bother me as much. I don't know if it because the

impact of the sound is less or because I am in control.

I do have a bit of a controlling personality, but I'm not sure if it's the cause

or the effect of 4S. I was pretty laid back as a child, before puberty and 4S

came along.

> >

> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route

cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen

but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that

irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and

dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other

may feel the same??

> >

>

> I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached

to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my

neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

>

January 17, 2011

It's part of the whole mystery of this problem. I find that when I'm in the car,

the triggers are worse for this reason--I'm trapped inside with no where to go

to escape. Also if someone who knows about my sensitivity triggers me, it's

often worse than someone who doesn't know--the feeling of being a victim.

It is very strange how a very similar sound, coming from 2 different places, can

cause different levels of reaction. Many of us experience that children bother

us less than adults, strangers less than people we see everyday, machines less

than humans. It doesn't really make sense.

When I wear earplugs, I feel more in control, and even though I can hear some

sounds, they don't seem to bother me as much. I don't know if it because the

impact of the sound is less or because I am in control.

I do have a bit of a controlling personality, but I'm not sure if it's the cause

or the effect of 4S. I was pretty laid back as a child, before puberty and 4S

came along.

> >

> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route

cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen

but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that

irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and

dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other

may feel the same??

> >

>

> I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached

to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my

neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

>

January 17, 2011

It's part of the whole mystery of this problem. I find that when I'm in the car,

the triggers are worse for this reason--I'm trapped inside with no where to go

to escape. Also if someone who knows about my sensitivity triggers me, it's

often worse than someone who doesn't know--the feeling of being a victim.

It is very strange how a very similar sound, coming from 2 different places, can

cause different levels of reaction. Many of us experience that children bother

us less than adults, strangers less than people we see everyday, machines less

than humans. It doesn't really make sense.

When I wear earplugs, I feel more in control, and even though I can hear some

sounds, they don't seem to bother me as much. I don't know if it because the

impact of the sound is less or because I am in control.

I do have a bit of a controlling personality, but I'm not sure if it's the cause

or the effect of 4S. I was pretty laid back as a child, before puberty and 4S

came along.

> >

> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route

cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen

but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that

irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and

dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other

may feel the same??

> >

>

> I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached

to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my

neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

>

January 17, 2011

Yes, because you fix the leaky faucet, or turn of the computer, and those things

don't give a care that you shut them off. The last sentence in your paragraph

hits the nail on the head, at least for me.

I notice that in most movies or tv shows, most every character that is chewing

gum is either not very smart, a criminal and/or a bully.

I am so grateful I can run and grab the remote and shut it off. The fact that I

can't push a button to quickly eliminate the offensive sound, makes me panic. At

least I can leave a room or building if people in them are making offending

sounds, or go inside with double paned windoews when the birds are offensive.

The thought of being trapped with offending sounds and no way of getting away

terrifies me so bad I can't allow myself to think of it.

Soundsensitivity , Lawrence

wrote:

>

> I have had this problem since I was 5 and am 59 now. It is true that the

sounds bother me even if they were computer simulated, but I think that the

human component and the fact that it is another person making them makes it so

much worse. Like they are deliberately trying to bother or hurt you. It think

there is a big FEAR component to all of this. Fear of people,loss of control,

being a victim, being over powered and abused etc.

> Anyone else feel that way?

> Mike L.

>

> Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROL

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>

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>

> >

> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route

cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen

but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that

irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and

dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other

may feel the same??

> >

>

> I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached

to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my

neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

>

January 17, 2011

I don't think these sounds bother us because we have no control over them. Otherwise CBT would work with us. Just because we find relief when we can make something stop and can't always find relief when we can't make it stop does not mean the symptoms we suffer as a result of the offended sounds is because we lack control. believe its biological or physiological. HeidiSent from my iPhone

Yes, because you fix the leaky faucet, or turn of the computer, and those things don't give a care that you shut them off. The last sentence in your paragraph hits the nail on the head, at least for me.

I notice that in most movies or tv shows, most every character that is chewing gum is either not very smart, a criminal and/or a bully.

I am so grateful I can run and grab the remote and shut it off. The fact that I can't push a button to quickly eliminate the offensive sound, makes me panic. At least I can leave a room or building if people in them are making offending sounds, or go inside with double paned windoews when the birds are offensive. The thought of being trapped with offending sounds and no way of getting away terrifies me so bad I can't allow myself to think of it.

Soundsensitivity , Lawrence wrote:

>

> I have had this problem since I was 5 and am 59 now. It is true that the sounds bother me even if they were computer simulated, but I think that the human component and the fact that it is another person making them makes it so much worse. Like they are deliberately trying to bother or hurt you. It think there is a big FEAR component to all of this. Fear of people,loss of control, being a victim, being over powered and abused etc.

> Anyone else feel that way?

> Mike L.

>

> Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROL

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>

> Ã‚

>

> >

> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??

> >

>

> I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

>

January 17, 2011

I don't think these sounds bother us because we have no control over them. Otherwise CBT would work with us. Just because we find relief when we can make something stop and can't always find relief when we can't make it stop does not mean the symptoms we suffer as a result of the offended sounds is because we lack control. believe its biological or physiological. HeidiSent from my iPhone

Yes, because you fix the leaky faucet, or turn of the computer, and those things don't give a care that you shut them off. The last sentence in your paragraph hits the nail on the head, at least for me.

I notice that in most movies or tv shows, most every character that is chewing gum is either not very smart, a criminal and/or a bully.

I am so grateful I can run and grab the remote and shut it off. The fact that I can't push a button to quickly eliminate the offensive sound, makes me panic. At least I can leave a room or building if people in them are making offending sounds, or go inside with double paned windoews when the birds are offensive. The thought of being trapped with offending sounds and no way of getting away terrifies me so bad I can't allow myself to think of it.

Soundsensitivity , Lawrence wrote:

>

> I have had this problem since I was 5 and am 59 now. It is true that the sounds bother me even if they were computer simulated, but I think that the human component and the fact that it is another person making them makes it so much worse. Like they are deliberately trying to bother or hurt you. It think there is a big FEAR component to all of this. Fear of people,loss of control, being a victim, being over powered and abused etc.

> Anyone else feel that way?

> Mike L.

>

> Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROL

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>

> Ã‚

>

> >

> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??

> >

>

> I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

>

January 17, 2011

I don't think these sounds bother us because we have no control over them. Otherwise CBT would work with us. Just because we find relief when we can make something stop and can't always find relief when we can't make it stop does not mean the symptoms we suffer as a result of the offended sounds is because we lack control. believe its biological or physiological. HeidiSent from my iPhone

Yes, because you fix the leaky faucet, or turn of the computer, and those things don't give a care that you shut them off. The last sentence in your paragraph hits the nail on the head, at least for me.

I notice that in most movies or tv shows, most every character that is chewing gum is either not very smart, a criminal and/or a bully.

I am so grateful I can run and grab the remote and shut it off. The fact that I can't push a button to quickly eliminate the offensive sound, makes me panic. At least I can leave a room or building if people in them are making offending sounds, or go inside with double paned windoews when the birds are offensive. The thought of being trapped with offending sounds and no way of getting away terrifies me so bad I can't allow myself to think of it.

Soundsensitivity , Lawrence wrote:

>

> I have had this problem since I was 5 and am 59 now. It is true that the sounds bother me even if they were computer simulated, but I think that the human component and the fact that it is another person making them makes it so much worse. Like they are deliberately trying to bother or hurt you. It think there is a big FEAR component to all of this. Fear of people,loss of control, being a victim, being over powered and abused etc.

> Anyone else feel that way?

> Mike L.

>

> Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROL

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>

> Ã‚

>

> >

> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??

> >

>

> I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

>

January 17, 2011

I really hope that it is Biological or Physiological in origin. It seems that it would be more easily treated or cured. I just think it is a mind/body connection to most every type of ailment and abberation. I could be wrong though.

Mike> > > > Subject:

Re: Cause is CONTROL> To: Soundsensitivity > Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM> > > Ã‚ > > > > > > > >> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??> >> > I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.>

January 17, 2011

Suffering from this for over 40 years I have desperately tried to figure out WHY these things bother me so much. When I think about the sounds that drive me nuts and movements like Hair Twirling, I canâ€™t believe they actually bother me but when I hear or see them I get extremely irritated.

I firmly believe it is form of OCD and some people have been cured of OCD. Short of a lobotomy Iâ€™m not sure what to do. It is a living hell sometimes.

I would like to spend more time on this web site finding a way to fix or cure.

Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROLTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??>I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers

me.

January 17, 2011

Suffering from this for over 40 years I have desperately tried to figure out WHY these things bother me so much. When I think about the sounds that drive me nuts and movements like Hair Twirling, I canâ€™t believe they actually bother me but when I hear or see them I get extremely irritated.

I firmly believe it is form of OCD and some people have been cured of OCD. Short of a lobotomy Iâ€™m not sure what to do. It is a living hell sometimes.

I would like to spend more time on this web site finding a way to fix or cure.

Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROLTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??>I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers

me.

January 17, 2011

Suffering from this for over 40 years I have desperately tried to figure out WHY these things bother me so much. When I think about the sounds that drive me nuts and movements like Hair Twirling, I canâ€™t believe they actually bother me but when I hear or see them I get extremely irritated.

I firmly believe it is form of OCD and some people have been cured of OCD. Short of a lobotomy Iâ€™m not sure what to do. It is a living hell sometimes.

I would like to spend more time on this web site finding a way to fix or cure.

Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROLTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??>I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers

me.

January 17, 2011

Interesting . . . since my 4S son also is diagnosed with OCD, I've often thought 4S might be a form of OCD because, similar to OCD, it's like there is a door in your brain that you can not shut, to tune out sounds, often even for a while after the sound has stopped (in OCD, the door won't shut on certain obsessions, for example to stop thinking about something). However, I also know that there are a lot of people in this forum who's 4S really does not seem to be related to OCD at all, so it may be different for different sufferers.

From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of CSent: Monday, January 17, 2011 1:22 PMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: Re: Cause is CONTROL

Suffering from this for over 40 years I have desperately tried to figure out WHY these things bother me so much. When I think about the sounds that drive me nuts and movements like Hair Twirling, I can’t believe they actually bother me but when I hear or see them I get extremely irritated.

I firmly believe it is form of OCD and some people have been cured of OCD. Short of a lobotomy I’m not sure what to do. It is a living hell sometimes.

I would like to spend more time on this web site finding a way to fix or cure.

Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROLTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??>I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

January 17, 2011

Interesting . . . since my 4S son also is diagnosed with OCD, I've often thought 4S might be a form of OCD because, similar to OCD, it's like there is a door in your brain that you can not shut, to tune out sounds, often even for a while after the sound has stopped (in OCD, the door won't shut on certain obsessions, for example to stop thinking about something). However, I also know that there are a lot of people in this forum who's 4S really does not seem to be related to OCD at all, so it may be different for different sufferers.

From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of CSent: Monday, January 17, 2011 1:22 PMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: Re: Cause is CONTROL

Suffering from this for over 40 years I have desperately tried to figure out WHY these things bother me so much. When I think about the sounds that drive me nuts and movements like Hair Twirling, I can’t believe they actually bother me but when I hear or see them I get extremely irritated.

I firmly believe it is form of OCD and some people have been cured of OCD. Short of a lobotomy I’m not sure what to do. It is a living hell sometimes.

I would like to spend more time on this web site finding a way to fix or cure.

Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROLTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??>I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

January 17, 2011

Interesting . . . since my 4S son also is diagnosed with OCD, I've often thought 4S might be a form of OCD because, similar to OCD, it's like there is a door in your brain that you can not shut, to tune out sounds, often even for a while after the sound has stopped (in OCD, the door won't shut on certain obsessions, for example to stop thinking about something). However, I also know that there are a lot of people in this forum who's 4S really does not seem to be related to OCD at all, so it may be different for different sufferers.

From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of CSent: Monday, January 17, 2011 1:22 PMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: Re: Cause is CONTROL

Suffering from this for over 40 years I have desperately tried to figure out WHY these things bother me so much. When I think about the sounds that drive me nuts and movements like Hair Twirling, I can’t believe they actually bother me but when I hear or see them I get extremely irritated.

I firmly believe it is form of OCD and some people have been cured of OCD. Short of a lobotomy I’m not sure what to do. It is a living hell sometimes.

I would like to spend more time on this web site finding a way to fix or cure.

Subject: Re: Cause is CONTROLTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Monday, January 17, 2011, 7:44 AM

>> I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other may feel the same??>I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

January 17, 2011

My personal opinion is that control is not the root cause, but rather something

that just aggravates it. I know that I can't control the sounds others make and

have never been a controlling person. But if I'm in an area where I can't get

out (like an elevator) with a person popping gum, then yes... control is a

problem. But not because I can't control that person popping the gum, but

because I can't control myself and my reaction.

The sounds are not the issue. The way we react is the issue. Why we react this

way (so automatically) is what we need to find out. I know people don't do

these sounds deliberately to me. I'm the one with something going on that is

'not normal', not them. It doesn't mean this is my fault for being this way,

but its not their fault either... they are just living their lives too. I'm not

afraid of people, or the sounds they make. My fear is how I will react to that

sound. But, I've gotten better with that... I don't anticipate the sounds like

I used to. My trigger sounds are actually a mixture of people sounds, animal

sounds, and sounds from everyday things, so for me there is no relation as to

whether its people generated or not.

Its striking to me how the trigger sounds stand out compared to sounds that just

annoy me. For example, I feed the squirrels (love those little buggers) and a

feeder is on the tree 10 feet from my bedroom window. Its one of those boxes

where you can fill it up and there is a lid that the squirrel can lift up/down.

For the last couple months the little buggers have been slamming the lid and I

get awoken by this " bonk " " bonk " " bonk " every morning at the crack of dawn. I

then can't fall back asleep because of the noise. But you know what... its just

annoying. I don't get that horrid feeling like I do with other sounds. But, if

a dog barks or a bluejay squawks then instantly there is that panic, rage,

anger. Instantly. Why are the two things so drastically different? They both

woke me up and prevent me from sleeping. If it wasn't so dang irritating I'd be

fascinated by this! LOL.

> >

> > I thought a lot about our problems with sounds etc. I believe the route

cause is CONTROL of people or the lack of. I have NO problem with a clicking pen

but can go insane with the snapping of gum (same sound). It's NOT the noise that

irritates us but the annoying action ( Hair Twirling}. At 52 years old and

dealing with this nightmare since I was 6, this is my conclusion. I'm sure other

may feel the same??

> >

>

> I can relate to this. I tend to have more problems when the sound is attached

to people...for example the sound of a furnace coming on is the same as my

neighbors' closing car doors but the latter bothers me.

>

January 17, 2011