Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

[Guest guest]

Adah,

I gave up drinking 10 years ago. Both parents were alcoholic and I was following in their footsteps. I have found other, less destructive ways of coping with stress.

I think very sensitive people tend to drink to dull their senses and feelings.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 10:33 AMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

WOW. That's powerful.My goal is to isolate, identify and find a cure for that "underlying dysfunction" because you are so right: the rest of it is all in response to it and an attempt to cope with it. I know my sensitivity went through the roof when I stopped drinking (23 years ago) and has pretty much stayed there. Alcohol is a depressant and it worked for me for many years but I had to stop because I could no longer control my consumption. My genetics are not just misophonic but alcoholic too . . . hmmmmm.> >> > When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> > When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> > An alcoholic.> > Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> > Almost a dirty word.> > And i tell you, my curse jar is

loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> > Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> > I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> > To this I can relate.> > We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> > too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> > We are Masters of Control.> > I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are

mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> > When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> > You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> > To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> > This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> > like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> > these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> > They say.." Deal with

the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> > Bah! > > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> > What then?> > We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> > Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> > My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> > So, and after my affirmations and deep

breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.> >>

[Guest guest]

Adah,

I gave up drinking 10 years ago. Both parents were alcoholic and I was following in their footsteps. I have found other, less destructive ways of coping with stress.

I think very sensitive people tend to drink to dull their senses and feelings.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 10:33 AMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

WOW. That's powerful.My goal is to isolate, identify and find a cure for that "underlying dysfunction" because you are so right: the rest of it is all in response to it and an attempt to cope with it. I know my sensitivity went through the roof when I stopped drinking (23 years ago) and has pretty much stayed there. Alcohol is a depressant and it worked for me for many years but I had to stop because I could no longer control my consumption. My genetics are not just misophonic but alcoholic too . . . hmmmmm.> >> > When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> > When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> > An alcoholic.> > Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> > Almost a dirty word.> > And i tell you, my curse jar is

loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> > Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> > I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> > To this I can relate.> > We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> > too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> > We are Masters of Control.> > I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are

mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> > When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> > You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> > To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> > This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> > like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> > these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> > They say.." Deal with

the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> > Bah! > > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> > What then?> > We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> > Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> > My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> > So, and after my affirmations and deep

breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.> >>

[Guest guest]

Adah,

I gave up drinking 10 years ago. Both parents were alcoholic and I was following in their footsteps. I have found other, less destructive ways of coping with stress.

I think very sensitive people tend to drink to dull their senses and feelings.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 10:33 AMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

WOW. That's powerful.My goal is to isolate, identify and find a cure for that "underlying dysfunction" because you are so right: the rest of it is all in response to it and an attempt to cope with it. I know my sensitivity went through the roof when I stopped drinking (23 years ago) and has pretty much stayed there. Alcohol is a depressant and it worked for me for many years but I had to stop because I could no longer control my consumption. My genetics are not just misophonic but alcoholic too . . . hmmmmm.> >> > When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> > When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> > An alcoholic.> > Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> > Almost a dirty word.> > And i tell you, my curse jar is

loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> > Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> > I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> > To this I can relate.> > We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> > too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> > We are Masters of Control.> > I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are

mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> > When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> > You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> > To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> > This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> > like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> > these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> > They say.." Deal with

the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> > Bah! > > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> > What then?> > We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> > Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> > My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> > So, and after my affirmations and deep

breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.> >>

[Guest guest]

my grandma is an alcoholic. And i find myself very fond to the alcoholic beverages myself. are we seeing a trend here? To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 5:26 PM Subject: Re: Re: Im not as think as

you drunk I am

Adah,

I gave up drinking 10 years ago. Both parents were alcoholic and I was following in their footsteps. I have found other, less destructive ways of coping with stress.

I think very sensitive people tend to drink to dull their senses and feelings.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 10:33 AMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

WOW. That's powerful.My goal is to isolate, identify and find a cure for that "underlying dysfunction" because you are so right: the rest of it is all in response to it and an attempt to cope with it. I know my sensitivity went through the roof when I stopped drinking (23 years ago) and has pretty much stayed there. Alcohol is a depressant and it worked for me for many years but I had to stop because I could no longer control my consumption. My genetics are not just misophonic but alcoholic too . . . hmmmmm.> >> > When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> > When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> > An alcoholic.> > Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> > Almost a dirty word.> > And i tell you, my curse

jar is

loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> > Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> > I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> > To this I can relate.> > We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> > too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> > We are Masters of Control.> > I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are

mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> > When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> > You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> > To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> > This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> > like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> > these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> > They say.." Deal with

the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> > Bah! > > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> > What then?> > We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> > Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> > My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> > So, and after my affirmations and deep

breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.> >>

[Guest guest]

I think they go hand in hand. Alcohol, for some, is a very effective ( though not a sound) way of dealing with this sensitivity and the outrageous emotions that accompany it.

Mike

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Friday, December 30, 2011 10:07 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

my grandma is an alcoholic. And i find myself very fond to the alcoholic beverages myself. are we seeing a trend here?

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 5:26 PMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

Adah,

I gave up drinking 10 years ago. Both parents were alcoholic and I was following in their footsteps. I have found other, less destructive ways of coping with stress.

I think very sensitive people tend to drink to dull their senses and feelings.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 10:33 AMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

WOW. That's powerful.My goal is to isolate, identify and find a cure for that "underlying dysfunction" because you are so right: the rest of it is all in response to it and an attempt to cope with it. I know my sensitivity went through the roof when I stopped drinking (23 years ago) and has pretty much stayed there. Alcohol is a depressant and it worked for me for many years but I had to stop because I could no longer control my consumption. My genetics are not just misophonic but alcoholic too . . . hmmmmm.> >> > When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> > When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> > An alcoholic.> > Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> > Almost a dirty word.> > And i tell you, my curse jar is

loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> > Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> > I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> > To this I can relate.> > We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> > too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> > We are Masters of Control.> > I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are

mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> > When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> > You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> > To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> > This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> > like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> > these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> > They say.." Deal with

the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> > Bah! > > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> > What then?> > We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> > Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> > My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> > So, and after my affirmations and deep

breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.> >>

[Guest guest]

I feel like I'm always the one bucking a trend. Haha. But no alcoholics in my family an I'm definitely not one. I will say alcohol is the one cure all forMisophonia though for me anyway. But I only socially drink and very minimally HeidiSent from my iPhone

my grandma is an alcoholic. And i find myself very fond to the alcoholic beverages myself. are we seeing a trend here? To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 5:26 PM Subject: Re: Re: Im not as think as

you drunk I am

Adah,

I gave up drinking 10 years ago. Both parents were alcoholic and I was following in their footsteps. I have found other, less destructive ways of coping with stress.

I think very sensitive people tend to drink to dull their senses and feelings.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 10:33 AMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

WOW. That's powerful.My goal is to isolate, identify and find a cure for that "underlying dysfunction" because you are so right: the rest of it is all in response to it and an attempt to cope with it. I know my sensitivity went through the roof when I stopped drinking (23 years ago) and has pretty much stayed there. Alcohol is a depressant and it worked for me for many years but I had to stop because I could no longer control my consumption. My genetics are not just misophonic but alcoholic too . . . hmmmmm.> >> > When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> > When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> > An alcoholic.> > Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> > Almost a dirty word.> > And i tell you, my curse

jar is

loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> > Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> > I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> > To this I can relate.> > We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> > too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> > We are Masters of Control.> > I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are

mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> > When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> > You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> > To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> > This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> > like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> > these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> > They say.." Deal with

the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> > Bah! > > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> > What then?> > We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> > Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> > My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> > So, and after my affirmations and deep

breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.> >>

[Guest guest]

I feel like I'm always the one bucking a trend. Haha. But no alcoholics in my family an I'm definitely not one. I will say alcohol is the one cure all forMisophonia though for me anyway. But I only socially drink and very minimally HeidiSent from my iPhone

my grandma is an alcoholic. And i find myself very fond to the alcoholic beverages myself. are we seeing a trend here? To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 5:26 PM Subject: Re: Re: Im not as think as

you drunk I am

Adah,

I gave up drinking 10 years ago. Both parents were alcoholic and I was following in their footsteps. I have found other, less destructive ways of coping with stress.

I think very sensitive people tend to drink to dull their senses and feelings.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Wednesday, December 28, 2011 10:33 AMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

WOW. That's powerful.My goal is to isolate, identify and find a cure for that "underlying dysfunction" because you are so right: the rest of it is all in response to it and an attempt to cope with it. I know my sensitivity went through the roof when I stopped drinking (23 years ago) and has pretty much stayed there. Alcohol is a depressant and it worked for me for many years but I had to stop because I could no longer control my consumption. My genetics are not just misophonic but alcoholic too . . . hmmmmm.> >> > When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> > When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> > An alcoholic.> > Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> > Almost a dirty word.> > And i tell you, my curse

jar is

loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> > Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> > I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> > To this I can relate.> > We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> > too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> > We are Masters of Control.> > I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are

mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> > When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> > You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> > To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> > This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> > like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> > these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> > They say.." Deal with

the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> > Bah! > > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> > What then?> > We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> > Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> > My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> > So, and after my affirmations and deep

breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.> >>

[Guest guest]

a- I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your father..how tragic. To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, December 30, 2011 6:11 PM Subject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured.

I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.

I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much!

a

>

> When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.

> When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.

> An alcoholic.

> Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.

> Almost a dirty word.

> And i tell you, my curse jar is loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.

> Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.

> I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?

> To this I can relate.

> We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands

> too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.

> We are Masters of Control.

> I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.

> When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.

> You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.

> To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.

> This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.

> like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.

> these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.

> They say.." Deal with the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.

> Bah!

> Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??

> What then?

> We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?

> Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?

> My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.

> So, and after my affirmations and deep breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.

>

[Guest guest]

Alternatemailaddy,

Totally understood, and appreciated. I am one of the people that printed your interpretation of what you go though out because it pretty much sums it up. Of course not all of it applies to me, but the heart felt sentiment of what we go through on an every day basis did.

Thank you,

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Fri, December 30, 2011 4:43:58 PMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My thanks to each of you who expressed appreciation of my sentiments.For those of you who have asked, to whom this resonates, I dont mind if you print or share what was written. Allow me to clarify one thing though... I am not advocating alcohol as a means to manage this condition we all share. I realize it may seem, to some, that I am saying this is an answer to our affliction.It is not. Alcohol is a crutch, a bandaid, as are many other things that people use to cope, dull or deal:like food, drugs, sex,even drama.What I wrote wasn't an advice article or an advertisment for a magic solution. It was simply a glimpse into another facette of the condition that we suffer. Can alcohol,or any outside thing, compound the troubles we already suffer?Well sure it can. Our healing is not going to be found in a drink.My aim is to share with others what it is to live with Misophonia, from my unique perspective at this point in

my life. This is just an honest admission of where I am standing ,personally, on this path through the tangeled, frightening and very overwhelming land of Misophonia.Keep in mind that we also often share other interesting qualities with one another and this only comes to light when one of us opens the door and discusses it.At the same time as my story is cathartic, it is also a question to others about how they personally cope and an introduction to the revelence of familial addicion in our community.>> When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become

like my mother.> An alcoholic.> Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> Almost a dirty word.> And i tell you, my curse jar is loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> To this I can relate.> We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> We are Masters of

Control.> I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> like

alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> They say.." Deal with the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> Bah! > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> What then?> We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping

with the struggls that are before us.> So, and after my affirmations and deep breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.>

[Guest guest]

Alternatemailaddy,

Totally understood, and appreciated. I am one of the people that printed your interpretation of what you go though out because it pretty much sums it up. Of course not all of it applies to me, but the heart felt sentiment of what we go through on an every day basis did.

Thank you,

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Fri, December 30, 2011 4:43:58 PMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My thanks to each of you who expressed appreciation of my sentiments.For those of you who have asked, to whom this resonates, I dont mind if you print or share what was written. Allow me to clarify one thing though... I am not advocating alcohol as a means to manage this condition we all share. I realize it may seem, to some, that I am saying this is an answer to our affliction.It is not. Alcohol is a crutch, a bandaid, as are many other things that people use to cope, dull or deal:like food, drugs, sex,even drama.What I wrote wasn't an advice article or an advertisment for a magic solution. It was simply a glimpse into another facette of the condition that we suffer. Can alcohol,or any outside thing, compound the troubles we already suffer?Well sure it can. Our healing is not going to be found in a drink.My aim is to share with others what it is to live with Misophonia, from my unique perspective at this point in

my life. This is just an honest admission of where I am standing ,personally, on this path through the tangeled, frightening and very overwhelming land of Misophonia.Keep in mind that we also often share other interesting qualities with one another and this only comes to light when one of us opens the door and discusses it.At the same time as my story is cathartic, it is also a question to others about how they personally cope and an introduction to the revelence of familial addicion in our community.>> When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become

like my mother.> An alcoholic.> Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> Almost a dirty word.> And i tell you, my curse jar is loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> To this I can relate.> We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> We are Masters of

Control.> I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.> This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> like

alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> They say.." Deal with the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> Bah! > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> What then?> We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping

with the struggls that are before us.> So, and after my affirmations and deep breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.>

[Guest guest]

My daughter was once on a seizure medication called Vigabitrin that raises GABA levels and on this medication she became seizure-free....might be worth a doc doing a drug study to see if it benefits people with this condition.Subject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I amTo: Soundsensitivity Date: Friday, December 30, 2011, 5:11 PM

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured.

I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.

I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much!

a

>

> When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.

> When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.

> An alcoholic.

> Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.

> Almost a dirty word.

> And i tell you, my curse jar is loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.

> Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.

> I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?

> To this I can relate.

> We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands

> too well the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.

> We are Masters of Control.

> I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.

> When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.

> You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.

> To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously, mentally and sometimes physically.

> This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.

> like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.

> these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.

> They say.." Deal with the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.

> Bah!

> Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??

> What then?

> We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?

> Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?

> My greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.

> So, and after my affirmations and deep breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.

>

[Guest guest]

My fathers alcoholism finally killed him, just slowly and painfully. He was a 1 to 2 quart a day Vodka drinker. He was on dialysis for the last 6 years of his life.

I hated to see him suffer.

I am a non-drinking healthnut. I saw what it could do to a person. It hurt his career, family and ultimately himself. Very tragic. I wish he could have found a better way.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, December 30, 2011 10:02 PMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

a,

Please accept my condolences for the loss of your father.

What difficult circumstances, to say the least.

May you find some peace, some how, in the New Year.

prn

Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured. I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much! a

[Guest guest]

ie,

I'm sorry about the loss of your father. Had he known this was a real thing, but most of us had no idea until very recently, since it went on air. There are probably many people out there who are still suffering alone.

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Fri, December 30, 2011 5:11:53 PMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured. I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much! a >> When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> An alcoholic.> Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> Almost a dirty word.> And i tell you, my curse jar is loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> To this I can relate.> We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> too well

the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> We are Masters of Control.> I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously,

mentally and sometimes physically.> This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> They say.." Deal with the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> Bah! > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> What then?> We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> My

greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> So, and after my affirmations and deep breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.>

[Guest guest]

ie,

I'm sorry about the loss of your father. Had he known this was a real thing, but most of us had no idea until very recently, since it went on air. There are probably many people out there who are still suffering alone.

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Fri, December 30, 2011 5:11:53 PMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured. I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much! a >> When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> An alcoholic.> Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> Almost a dirty word.> And i tell you, my curse jar is loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> To this I can relate.> We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> too well

the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> We are Masters of Control.> I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously,

mentally and sometimes physically.> This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> They say.." Deal with the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> Bah! > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> What then?> We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> My

greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> So, and after my affirmations and deep breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.>

[Guest guest]

ie,

I'm sorry about the loss of your father. Had he known this was a real thing, but most of us had no idea until very recently, since it went on air. There are probably many people out there who are still suffering alone.

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Fri, December 30, 2011 5:11:53 PMSubject: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured. I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much! a >> When I was a wee child my greatest fear was that my mother would go away... and not come back.> When I grew to understand more of the World my fear became that I would one day become like my mother.> An alcoholic.> Oh my....what a loaded word that is for me. To this day even.> Almost a dirty word.> And i tell you, my curse jar is loaded to overflow with recompense.. so Id certainly know a dirty word when I stumble on one.> Well, my mother,bless her soul, was in general opinion to be "an alcoholic"..and this being general opinion, not my own.> I cant say to this day if my poor mother was sick in that way or not. I know she had a many demons trouble her soul, and drink may have quieted them down a bit, but was it the drink or the deamons who brought her to her end?> To this I can relate.> We all know the deamon of our condition, each of us understands> too well

the bite of annoyance, the burn of rage, the endless black pit of fear that looms before us when we contemplate what it would be like if we lost control in the midst of an attack.> We are Masters of Control.> I am impressed at times when I contemplate the measure with which I have mastered control over my impulses.We are a people who are mega aware and act with delicate awareness because to do anything else would result in calamity.> When you enter a room, any room, you scan for the safest place to sit or stand. When you are surrounded by unknown people you find the least threatening to interact with.When you have been out all day , or in, surrouned by triggers, that you have suppressed,you feel raw,unnerved,mentaly exhausted.> You want an off switch, a pause button, a "safe" to call out like when we were kids playing tag or hide and seek.> To have this condition is to feel drained and overwhelmed simotainiously,

mentally and sometimes physically.> This condition is a torture because it laps its ugly tongue into other cups of unbalance, like OCD,depression,anorexia and who knows what else.> like alcoholism.or eating. or medications.> these are symptoms of an underlying dysfunction.> They say.." Deal with the underlying dysfunction, heal that, and the symptomatic depression, drinking, drug use, binge eating, etc. will eventually abolish itself.> Bah! > Thats super great sparkly awesome neato advice...except.... what if the "UNDERLYING DYSFUNCTION" is something that most freakin physcotherapists..LET ALONE parents, spouses, peers, children, coworkers, friends and society in general CAN NOT grasp!??> What then?> We just go throuh life wife our skin in side out ,, feeling every trigger like we are raw to the touch?> Cringing inwardly in public,social situations..our family dinner table?> My

greatest fear is no longer being like my mother. I have come to understand that she, like each of us, had her own battles to fight and I can only imagine what they were. We each have our methods for coping with the struggls that are before us.> So, and after my affirmations and deep breathing and vigilent grip on my reactive nature if I want a glass of wine at the end of the day, so be it.>

[Guest guest]

,

You are right about that. Alcohol has been the "cure all" for so many years. But it does have it's drawbacks. My father knew of no other way of dealing with his, anxiety, depression and feelings. Just sit and drink with my mother. He was very abusive and neglectful to be because of the alcohol abuse. I was hurt and angry for years, but have come to understand and forgive as I have gotten older.

Now I just feel sad that he suffered so and had no place to go for help, so he self-medicated.I think he felt very alone with his problems. As well as ashamed and remorseful.

It wasn't until I was able to understand his suffering , that I was able to forgive him and love him again like I did when I was a young boy.

Alcohol is not a good way to deal with feelings, especially those associated with Misophonia!

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, December 31, 2011 5:52 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

Mike,

Not knowing how old your dad was when he passed, or so many other things that come into play, all I know is from my "neck of the woods" back in the "olden days" things were different for many people. If you had a problem, especially something that is a "mental" ( I know mesophonia is not a mental health issue, but no one knew this a few years back) you needed to stop it, and get over it. It's not like today. And even today with all the changes/internet/doctor's/etc, we can still feel isolated. I think he did what he needed to do to get through the day. Had there been some kind of knowledge/information about this he probably would have tried some other way to cope. It's really unfortunate that sometimes people feel so alone, no matter what the condition is.

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sat, December 31, 2011 7:00:36 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My fathers alcoholism finally killed him, just slowly and painfully. He was a 1 to 2 quart a day Vodka drinker. He was on dialysis for the last 6 years of his life.

I hated to see him suffer.

I am a non-drinking healthnut. I saw what it could do to a person. It hurt his career, family and ultimately himself. Very tragic. I wish he could have found a better way.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, December 30, 2011 10:02 PMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

a,

Please accept my condolences for the loss of your father.

What difficult circumstances, to say the least.

May you find some peace, some how, in the New Year.

prn

Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured. I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much! a

[Guest guest]

Mike,

You are so right. I didn't think my whole thought through. I'm sorry for that. I forgot how much pain the people who live with alcoholics have to endure. My best friends father is an alcohol and it really took it's toll on the family. He's recovered, but you lose so much. All you can do is move forward.

It seems, without a doubt, you have faith in a "God" and are very healthy in your soul. It's not easy to forgive, but it's the best thing we can do. Much easier said than done, at least for me. But, I'm working on it! ); and, also hope people can forgive me.

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sat, December 31, 2011 8:19:54 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

,

You are right about that. Alcohol has been the "cure all" for so many years. But it does have it's drawbacks. My father knew of no other way of dealing with his, anxiety, depression and feelings. Just sit and drink with my mother. He was very abusive and neglectful to be because of the alcohol abuse. I was hurt and angry for years, but have come to understand and forgive as I have gotten older.

Now I just feel sad that he suffered so and had no place to go for help, so he self-medicated.I think he felt very alone with his problems. As well as ashamed and remorseful.

It wasn't until I was able to understand his suffering , that I was able to forgive him and love him again like I did when I was a young boy.

Alcohol is not a good way to deal with feelings, especially those associated with Misophonia!

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, December 31, 2011 5:52 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

Mike,

Not knowing how old your dad was when he passed, or so many other things that come into play, all I know is from my "neck of the woods" back in the "olden days" things were different for many people. If you had a problem, especially something that is a "mental" ( I know mesophonia is not a mental health issue, but no one knew this a few years back) you needed to stop it, and get over it. It's not like today. And even today with all the changes/internet/doctor's/etc, we can still feel isolated. I think he did what he needed to do to get through the day. Had there been some kind of knowledge/information about this he probably would have tried some other way to cope. It's really unfortunate that sometimes people feel so alone, no matter what the condition is.

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sat, December 31, 2011 7:00:36 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My fathers alcoholism finally killed him, just slowly and painfully. He was a 1 to 2 quart a day Vodka drinker. He was on dialysis for the last 6 years of his life.

I hated to see him suffer.

I am a non-drinking healthnut. I saw what it could do to a person. It hurt his career, family and ultimately himself. Very tragic. I wish he could have found a better way.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, December 30, 2011 10:02 PMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

a,

Please accept my condolences for the loss of your father.

What difficult circumstances, to say the least.

May you find some peace, some how, in the New Year.

prn

Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured. I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much! a

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,

I didn't take any offence in what you said. I do believe in God, and am asked to forgive, so I have. But I probably would have anyway. It took many years, facing the past hurts in therapy, along with prayer and support, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I have enough problems without bitterness over past wrongs. We all have them, and we all must face them if we are going to be happy. That's how I see it.

I like being happy, and it feels so much better to forgive and love again, then it does to be bitter and angry and miserable.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, December 31, 2011 8:01 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

Mike,

You are so right. I didn't think my whole thought through. I'm sorry for that. I forgot how much pain the people who live with alcoholics have to endure. My best friends father is an alcohol and it really took it's toll on the family. He's recovered, but you lose so much. All you can do is move forward.

It seems, without a doubt, you have faith in a "God" and are very healthy in your soul. It's not easy to forgive, but it's the best thing we can do. Much easier said than done, at least for me. But, I'm working on it! ); and, also hope people can forgive me.

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sat, December 31, 2011 8:19:54 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

,

You are right about that. Alcohol has been the "cure all" for so many years. But it does have it's drawbacks. My father knew of no other way of dealing with his, anxiety, depression and feelings. Just sit and drink with my mother. He was very abusive and neglectful to be because of the alcohol abuse. I was hurt and angry for years, but have come to understand and forgive as I have gotten older.

Now I just feel sad that he suffered so and had no place to go for help, so he self-medicated.I think he felt very alone with his problems. As well as ashamed and remorseful.

It wasn't until I was able to understand his suffering , that I was able to forgive him and love him again like I did when I was a young boy.

Alcohol is not a good way to deal with feelings, especially those associated with Misophonia!

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, December 31, 2011 5:52 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

Mike,

Not knowing how old your dad was when he passed, or so many other things that come into play, all I know is from my "neck of the woods" back in the "olden days" things were different for many people. If you had a problem, especially something that is a "mental" ( I know mesophonia is not a mental health issue, but no one knew this a few years back) you needed to stop it, and get over it. It's not like today. And even today with all the changes/internet/doctor's/etc, we can still feel isolated. I think he did what he needed to do to get through the day. Had there been some kind of knowledge/information about this he probably would have tried some other way to cope. It's really unfortunate that sometimes people feel so alone, no matter what the condition is.

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sat, December 31, 2011 7:00:36 AMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My fathers alcoholism finally killed him, just slowly and painfully. He was a 1 to 2 quart a day Vodka drinker. He was on dialysis for the last 6 years of his life.

I hated to see him suffer.

I am a non-drinking healthnut. I saw what it could do to a person. It hurt his career, family and ultimately himself. Very tragic. I wish he could have found a better way.

Mike

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, December 30, 2011 10:02 PMSubject: Re: Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

a,

Please accept my condolences for the loss of your father.

What difficult circumstances, to say the least.

May you find some peace, some how, in the New Year.

prn

Re: Im not as think as you drunk I am

My father suffered from severe sound sensitivity and was an alcoholic. He died in an automobile accident on Thanksgiving. He was drunk. Thank goodness no one else was injured. I absolutely understand why he was an alcoholic because I know how much alcohol can help with my 4S. I have researched it a little and it seems that it increases GABA in the brain.I wish he would have known that other people suffered just like he did. I am sure he felt alone and isolated. I know that everyone in this group understands, and that is why I can post this message freely. The holidays can be so difficult for people with 4S. I am grateful for the support of this group. Thank you all so much! a