Re: Did you know you nada was different - Mr. Nobody

[Guest guest]

Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took _____ (the

cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window open etc. When no

one admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and scream that "

Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us trying to get

one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that in most cases

none of us had caused the infraction.

On a side note, when my brother finally moved out and Nada was living on her own

she called me to disclose that she must be Mr. Nobody because she was the only

one living there and things still disappeared. I didn't touch that one! She

still has episodes where she calls me in that cold controlled voice and says

" Next time you come in my house when I am not home..... please make sure you

leave the curtains closed or please make sure you turn off the lights etc.... "

The scary thing is I don't even have a key to her house but you cannot

rationalize this with her.

When I cut contact when I was pregnant she finally told me all the things she

has " bitten her tongue over " for the last 15 years. You can imagine the list of

names and bad behaviors I have incurred in her mind. What really struck me

though was her insistence that I have gone through her drawers and stolen her

jewelry and pictures. WHAT?? It makes me so mad because I would never even

dream of doing such a thing because quite honestly I could care less about her

jewelry. Ohhh I am getting all flustered just writing about it.

Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being blamed for

things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly asked me where I

moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and defensive " I didnt touch

you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend myself to my death. He

looked over to the counter and went oh, there it is, never mind. I was

instantly anxious and so intense. My brothers are both the same way and it is

so hard no to go into self protect mode. I hate it!!

Steph

Re: Did you know you nada was different when you

were a k...

Oh my gosh -- that's eerily similar to my story! I was home on a

break from college and my mom came home, saw a mess out by the pool

(I didn't do it!) and proceeded to go berzerk on me and threw me out

of the house -- said I didn't live there anymore, college was

over....etc.

It took a bunch of trips to the car to gather all my shit and my

parting shot was " You're CRAZY! " . My dad chastised me for that

later. No sympathy for me from him -- we all had to feel sorry for

HER.

I had never seen her that bad -- but the image was unforgettable. I

remember having a headache for a couple of days afterward -- like a

hangover, blood rushing through my head.

-Kyla

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Oh my goodness you hade a Mr. Noobody? We had a sheet theif, who would sneak in

and steal and or move her sheets from the sheet closet! It was one of her rages

that allways made me laugh, I would have to run to my room so she wouldn't see

me laughing cause she was so seriouse! Ok now that we are grown up you have to

admitt that some of this stuff is funny!

Lilly

Steph wrote:

Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____ (the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window open etc.

When no one admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and scream that "

Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us trying to get

one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that in most cases none

of us had caused the infraction.

On a side note, when my brother finally moved out and Nada was living on her own

she called me to disclose that she must be Mr. Nobody because she was the only

one living there and things still disappeared. I didn't touch that one! She

still has episodes where she calls me in that cold controlled voice and says

" Next time you come in my house when I am not home..... please make sure you

leave the curtains closed or please make sure you turn off the lights etc.... "

The scary thing is I don't even have a key to her house but you cannot

rationalize this with her.

When I cut contact when I was pregnant she finally told me all the things she

has " bitten her tongue over " for the last 15 years. You can imagine the list of

names and bad behaviors I have incurred in her mind. What really struck me

though was her insistence that I have gone through her drawers and stolen her

jewelry and pictures. WHAT?? It makes me so mad because I would never even dream

of doing such a thing because quite honestly I could care less about her

jewelry. Ohhh I am getting all flustered just writing about it.

Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being blamed for

things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly asked me where I

moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and defensive " I didnt touch you

money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend myself to my death. He looked over

to the counter and went oh, there it is, never mind. I was instantly anxious and

so intense. My brothers are both the same way and it is so hard no to go into

self protect mode. I hate it!!

Steph

Re: Did you know you nada was different when you

were a k...

Oh my gosh -- that's eerily similar to my story! I was home on a

break from college and my mom came home, saw a mess out by the pool

(I didn't do it!) and proceeded to go berzerk on me and threw me out

of the house -- said I didn't live there anymore, college was

over....etc.

It took a bunch of trips to the car to gather all my shit and my

parting shot was " You're CRAZY! " . My dad chastised me for that

later. No sympathy for me from him -- we all had to feel sorry for

HER.

I had never seen her that bad -- but the image was unforgettable. I

remember having a headache for a couple of days afterward -- like a

hangover, blood rushing through my head.

-Kyla

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Oh my goodness you hade a Mr. Noobody? We had a sheet theif, who would sneak in

and steal and or move her sheets from the sheet closet! It was one of her rages

that allways made me laugh, I would have to run to my room so she wouldn't see

me laughing cause she was so seriouse! Ok now that we are grown up you have to

admitt that some of this stuff is funny!

Lilly

Steph wrote:

Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____ (the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window open etc.

When no one admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and scream that "

Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us trying to get

one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that in most cases none

of us had caused the infraction.

On a side note, when my brother finally moved out and Nada was living on her own

she called me to disclose that she must be Mr. Nobody because she was the only

one living there and things still disappeared. I didn't touch that one! She

still has episodes where she calls me in that cold controlled voice and says

" Next time you come in my house when I am not home..... please make sure you

leave the curtains closed or please make sure you turn off the lights etc.... "

The scary thing is I don't even have a key to her house but you cannot

rationalize this with her.

When I cut contact when I was pregnant she finally told me all the things she

has " bitten her tongue over " for the last 15 years. You can imagine the list of

names and bad behaviors I have incurred in her mind. What really struck me

though was her insistence that I have gone through her drawers and stolen her

jewelry and pictures. WHAT?? It makes me so mad because I would never even dream

of doing such a thing because quite honestly I could care less about her

jewelry. Ohhh I am getting all flustered just writing about it.

Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being blamed for

things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly asked me where I

moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and defensive " I didnt touch you

money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend myself to my death. He looked over

to the counter and went oh, there it is, never mind. I was instantly anxious and

so intense. My brothers are both the same way and it is so hard no to go into

self protect mode. I hate it!!

Steph

Re: Did you know you nada was different when you

were a k...

Oh my gosh -- that's eerily similar to my story! I was home on a

break from college and my mom came home, saw a mess out by the pool

(I didn't do it!) and proceeded to go berzerk on me and threw me out

of the house -- said I didn't live there anymore, college was

over....etc.

It took a bunch of trips to the car to gather all my shit and my

parting shot was " You're CRAZY! " . My dad chastised me for that

later. No sympathy for me from him -- we all had to feel sorry for

HER.

I had never seen her that bad -- but the image was unforgettable. I

remember having a headache for a couple of days afterward -- like a

hangover, blood rushing through my head.

-Kyla

..

__________________________________________________________

Get your own web address.

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[Guest guest]

>Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took _____

>(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window open etc.

>When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and scream that

> "

Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us trying to

get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that in most

cases none of us had caused the infraction.

OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she would

rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being blamed

for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly asked me

where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and defensive " I

didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend myself to my

death.

I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have to prove

myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a kid...mother

wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was never all

that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she knows

this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

Jackie

[Guest guest]

>Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took _____

>(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window open etc.

>When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and scream that

> "

Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us trying to

get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that in most

cases none of us had caused the infraction.

OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she would

rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being blamed

for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly asked me

where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and defensive " I

didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend myself to my

death.

I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have to prove

myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a kid...mother

wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was never all

that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she knows

this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

Jackie

[Guest guest]

jackie - we came from the same nada. where was she hiding you? (ha, ha!)

that is one of my fleas, too. nada never believed me and always

accused me of lying. the worst thing was, was that i had to " confess "

to the things she would accuse me of or her rages would go on for

hours (yes, hours) until she would finally ground/punish me. so i

would always agree with my nada, even though i never lied, just to

avoid the onslaught of more abuse and ridiculous punishments.

that's really been awful for me to cope with as an adult. when my

husband asks things like that of me ( " honey, where did you put my

cup? " ) i almost always feel like i'm being accused of something.

oh, the things we have to un-learn....

love,

christine

>

> >Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____

> >(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window

open etc.

> >When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and

scream that

> > "

> Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us

trying to

> get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that

in most

> cases none of us had caused the infraction.

>

> OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she

would

> rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>

> >Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being

blamed

> for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly

asked me

> where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and

defensive " I

> didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend

myself to my

> death.

>

> I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have

to prove

> myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a

kid...mother

> wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was

never all

> that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she

knows

> this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

>

> Jackie

>

[Guest guest]

jackie - we came from the same nada. where was she hiding you? (ha, ha!)

that is one of my fleas, too. nada never believed me and always

accused me of lying. the worst thing was, was that i had to " confess "

to the things she would accuse me of or her rages would go on for

hours (yes, hours) until she would finally ground/punish me. so i

would always agree with my nada, even though i never lied, just to

avoid the onslaught of more abuse and ridiculous punishments.

that's really been awful for me to cope with as an adult. when my

husband asks things like that of me ( " honey, where did you put my

cup? " ) i almost always feel like i'm being accused of something.

oh, the things we have to un-learn....

love,

christine

>

> >Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____

> >(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window

open etc.

> >When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and

scream that

> > "

> Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us

trying to

> get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that

in most

> cases none of us had caused the infraction.

>

> OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she

would

> rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>

> >Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being

blamed

> for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly

asked me

> where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and

defensive " I

> didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend

myself to my

> death.

>

> I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have

to prove

> myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a

kid...mother

> wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was

never all

> that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she

knows

> this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

>

> Jackie

>

[Guest guest]

jackie - we came from the same nada. where was she hiding you? (ha, ha!)

that is one of my fleas, too. nada never believed me and always

accused me of lying. the worst thing was, was that i had to " confess "

to the things she would accuse me of or her rages would go on for

hours (yes, hours) until she would finally ground/punish me. so i

would always agree with my nada, even though i never lied, just to

avoid the onslaught of more abuse and ridiculous punishments.

that's really been awful for me to cope with as an adult. when my

husband asks things like that of me ( " honey, where did you put my

cup? " ) i almost always feel like i'm being accused of something.

oh, the things we have to un-learn....

love,

christine

>

> >Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____

> >(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window

open etc.

> >When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and

scream that

> > "

> Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us

trying to

> get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that

in most

> cases none of us had caused the infraction.

>

> OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she

would

> rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>

> >Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being

blamed

> for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly

asked me

> where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and

defensive " I

> didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend

myself to my

> death.

>

> I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have

to prove

> myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a

kid...mother

> wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was

never all

> that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she

knows

> this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

>

> Jackie

>

[Guest guest]

I lost it, verbally, on my poor SO one day last week, because the poor man said

that he had put the camera on my computer desk and it wasn't there anymore. I

tore the house apart for three hours, because obviously he was accusing me of

moving it and lossing it. In the end it ended up that he hadn't put it on the

computer desk it was under some of his stuff. I was in a panic it was like i

was 10 years old again.

We had a good long dialouge about my fear and such about what happened. So,

next time i get scared like that I am going to try and let him just hug and hold

me.

Lilly

christine wrote:

jackie - we came from the same nada. where was she hiding you? (ha,

ha!)

that is one of my fleas, too. nada never believed me and always

accused me of lying. the worst thing was, was that i had to " confess "

to the things she would accuse me of or her rages would go on for

hours (yes, hours) until she would finally ground/punish me. so i

would always agree with my nada, even though i never lied, just to

avoid the onslaught of more abuse and ridiculous punishments.

that's really been awful for me to cope with as an adult. when my

husband asks things like that of me ( " honey, where did you put my

cup? " ) i almost always feel like i'm being accused of something.

oh, the things we have to un-learn....

love,

christine

>

> >Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____

> >(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window

open etc.

> >When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and

scream that

> > "

> Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us

trying to

> get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that

in most

> cases none of us had caused the infraction.

>

> OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she

would

> rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>

> >Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being

blamed

> for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly

asked me

> where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and

defensive " I

> didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend

myself to my

> death.

>

> I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have

to prove

> myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a

kid...mother

> wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was

never all

> that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she

knows

> this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

>

> Jackie

>

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[Guest guest]

I lost it, verbally, on my poor SO one day last week, because the poor man said

that he had put the camera on my computer desk and it wasn't there anymore. I

tore the house apart for three hours, because obviously he was accusing me of

moving it and lossing it. In the end it ended up that he hadn't put it on the

computer desk it was under some of his stuff. I was in a panic it was like i

was 10 years old again.

We had a good long dialouge about my fear and such about what happened. So,

next time i get scared like that I am going to try and let him just hug and hold

me.

Lilly

christine wrote:

jackie - we came from the same nada. where was she hiding you? (ha,

ha!)

that is one of my fleas, too. nada never believed me and always

accused me of lying. the worst thing was, was that i had to " confess "

to the things she would accuse me of or her rages would go on for

hours (yes, hours) until she would finally ground/punish me. so i

would always agree with my nada, even though i never lied, just to

avoid the onslaught of more abuse and ridiculous punishments.

that's really been awful for me to cope with as an adult. when my

husband asks things like that of me ( " honey, where did you put my

cup? " ) i almost always feel like i'm being accused of something.

oh, the things we have to un-learn....

love,

christine

>

> >Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____

> >(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window

open etc.

> >When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and

scream that

> > "

> Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us

trying to

> get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that

in most

> cases none of us had caused the infraction.

>

> OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she

would

> rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>

> >Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being

blamed

> for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly

asked me

> where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and

defensive " I

> didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend

myself to my

> death.

>

> I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have

to prove

> myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a

kid...mother

> wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was

never all

> that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she

knows

> this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

>

> Jackie

>

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[Guest guest]

I lost it, verbally, on my poor SO one day last week, because the poor man said

that he had put the camera on my computer desk and it wasn't there anymore. I

tore the house apart for three hours, because obviously he was accusing me of

moving it and lossing it. In the end it ended up that he hadn't put it on the

computer desk it was under some of his stuff. I was in a panic it was like i

was 10 years old again.

We had a good long dialouge about my fear and such about what happened. So,

next time i get scared like that I am going to try and let him just hug and hold

me.

Lilly

christine wrote:

jackie - we came from the same nada. where was she hiding you? (ha,

ha!)

that is one of my fleas, too. nada never believed me and always

accused me of lying. the worst thing was, was that i had to " confess "

to the things she would accuse me of or her rages would go on for

hours (yes, hours) until she would finally ground/punish me. so i

would always agree with my nada, even though i never lied, just to

avoid the onslaught of more abuse and ridiculous punishments.

that's really been awful for me to cope with as an adult. when my

husband asks things like that of me ( " honey, where did you put my

cup? " ) i almost always feel like i'm being accused of something.

oh, the things we have to un-learn....

love,

christine

>

> >Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____

> >(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window

open etc.

> >When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and

scream that

> > "

> Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us

trying to

> get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that

in most

> cases none of us had caused the infraction.

>

> OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she

would

> rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>

> >Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being

blamed

> for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly

asked me

> where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and

defensive " I

> didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend

myself to my

> death.

>

> I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have

to prove

> myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a

kid...mother

> wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was

never all

> that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she

knows

> this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

>

> Jackie

>

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OMG...yes! Only for me it was both nada AND fada...and the worst part was,

my fada would ask me if i moved it and I KNEW that nada had done it because

i saw her...but i knew better than to rat her out. Eventually I learned

that when one of them asked me if i moved it what they were really saying

was that they were already CONVINCED that it was me, and i needed to jump up

and jump backwards through my butt to get whatever it was they were looking

for 5 minutes ago. It was a losing battle, because as far as they were

concerned no matter what i said, i was lying....they were both judge, jury

and executioner and i would be tried and convicted no matter what the

outcome. Even on occasions when my father was looking for his glasses and

the whole time they were sitting on top of his head. The last big fight I

ever had with my father he asked me if i did something and i just yelled at

him to just save us both alot of time and ground me now...because no matter

what i said he didn't believe me...why ask someone a question if you aren't

going to believe what they say?

Like everyone else I fight the flea with this one too...the only difference

is that I will go without whatever I am looking for before I say a single

word to anyone....and i have taught my girls that if you can't find

something, you don't make accusations...you simply say " do you know where

______ is? " ...or " have you seen my ______ " ....or " can you please help me

find ______? " Because ultimately, that is what we are saying when we ask

someone if they moved something...we are really saying is " I can't find

_______ can you please help me look for it? " I just need to stop

sarcastically saying " sure...let me drop everything and come help you find

whatever it is that you have lost " ...lol. An ex-boyfriend of mine had a

mother who would always jokingly blame either " Bartles and , Jim Beam,

Jack s or Harvey Wallbanger " for stuff that went missing....she helped

me look at alot of stuff with a sense of humor....actually....she taught me

MOST of the life skills I have now....may her sweet soul rest in peace...she

was a wonderful lady.

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny

-- Re: Re: Did you know you nada was different -

Mr. Nobody

I lost it, verbally, on my poor SO one day last week, because the poor man

said that he had put the camera on my computer desk and it wasn't there

anymore. I tore the house apart for three hours, because obviously he was

accusing me of moving it and lossing it. In the end it ended up that he hadn

t put it on the computer desk it was under some of his stuff. I was in a

panic it was like i was 10 years old again.

We had a good long dialouge about my fear and such about what happened. So,

next time i get scared like that I am going to try and let him just hug and

hold me.

Lilly

christine wrote:

jackie - we came from the same nada. where was she hiding you? (ha, ha!)

that is one of my fleas, too. nada never believed me and always

accused me of lying. the worst thing was, was that i had to " confess "

to the things she would accuse me of or her rages would go on for

hours (yes, hours) until she would finally ground/punish me. so i

would always agree with my nada, even though i never lied, just to

avoid the onslaught of more abuse and ridiculous punishments.

that's really been awful for me to cope with as an adult. when my

husband asks things like that of me ( " honey, where did you put my

cup? " ) i almost always feel like i'm being accused of something.

oh, the things we have to un-learn....

love,

christine

>

> >Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who took

_____

> >(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window

open etc.

> >When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and

scream that

> > "

> Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us

trying to

> get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is that

in most

> cases none of us had caused the infraction.

>

> OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr Nobody..she

would

> rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>

> >Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around being

blamed

> for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly

asked me

> where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and

defensive " I

> didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend

myself to my

> death.

>

> I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I have

to prove

> myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a

kid...mother

> wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was

never all

> that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and she

knows

> this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still doesn't

>

> Jackie

>

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[Guest guest]

Sometimes our BP parent distorts the truth because in their mind,

things did happen differently. BUT, sometimes they just out and out

lie. I think it is because they know that they lie that they think

other people are lieing to them. I know I was always worried that I

wouldn't be believed, just because my nada didn't believe me.

Sylvia

>

> >Growing up Nada always raged at us kids demanding to know who

took _____

> >(the cup, spoon, boots, gloves whatever) or who left the window

open etc.

> >When no one >admitted doing it she would freak out and yell and

scream that

> > "

> Mr. Nobody " must have done it. She would rage, ground and slap us

trying to

> get >one of us to admit to doing the crime. What was scary is

that in most

> cases none of us had caused the infraction.

>

> OMG this is exactly like my mother..only it's wants Mr

Nobody..she would

> rage and scream SOMEONE did it and I want to know WHO !! "

>

> >Anyway this comes to my point that I have a HUGE flea around

being blamed

> for things I have not done. Even this morning my husband calmly

asked me

> where I >moved his coffee money. My answer was an abrupt and

defensive " I

> didnt touch you money!!! " and instantly I was ready to defend

myself to my

> death.

>

> I don't have this flea..mine is about being believed..I feel I

have to prove

> myself no matter what I say because I was never believed as a

kid...mother

> wouldn't believe anything I said...I didn't lie ( my memory was

never all

> that good to keep the story straight, so I just didn't lie) and

she knows

> this, but she still never believed anything I said, and still

doesn't

>

> Jackie

>