RE: Re: I have people!

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Hi Heidi,

Just so you know (and I don't even have a Virginia "accent"), my son with 4S is always telling my not to draw out my vowels! So you're definately not alone on that one. (I try, but I've actually had to practice on how to say certain words without drawing out the vowels because it's hard for me to tell that I'm doing it sometimes - I've got it done pretty well now though).

- Mom

From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of Heidi SalernoSent: Tuesday, June 15, 2010 11:04 PMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: Re: I have people!

A real gem for me is the sonic care because you're suppose to brush with your mouth closed and just move it across your teeth. When I was married it saved my life as my ex-husband would use it, the sound is sooooo much more palatable than that old bristle brush back and forth, ugh I hate that noise! It's a white noise kind of sound and since their mouth is closed and they are not suppose to "brush" with it, there's no tooth brush or mouth noise. I'm certain I could never live with anyone who brushes their teeth, I even have my parents and all my friends using it. You can buy them at Costco. Seriously, they are wonderful and as a bonus (and how I've gotten everyone to get one) better for your teeth and gums.

I have to share a new discovery. I never knew that I had a real hate of certain voice sounds. I don't know if this is new or I just met the first person with whom I noticed it. Unfortunately, it's the guy I've been dating. I recently broke up with him and yes this was a part of the reason. It's really sad because he is so wonderful but I can hardly hear him talk. It was fine for 3 months and then it hit me like a ton of bricks. I've always felt a little nuts over my 4S crap, but this really takes the cake. I just can hardly stand myself for being annoyed at this and can't believe I am getting rid of such a wonderful human being over something so STUPID. He's from Virginia and when he gets excited about a story the nasalness of his tone coupled with drawing out his vowels real long really comes out, don't know how else to describe it, but I cannot stand it. I find myself wanted to repeat it back to him I'm so annoyed by it. What the hell is wrong with me? I'm not sure I can take many more triggers before I trigger myself right out of existence.

Sigh

Heidi

Hi Dina, I'm new here, too, and am so delighted to find other people who finally get what I've been experiencing for years! Tooth brushing is a big one for me. My poor husband isn't allowed to do it anywhere near me. I'll have to tell him about the sensitivus particularus...he is also a patient, patient man and would understand completely. Welcome!Steph>> That's what my husband says now, anyway.> > Hi - I'm Dina. I am a poster child 4-S-er. I'm an accomplished professional photographer, a compassionate soul and a lover of life, but I'm sometimes completely derailed and unhinged by sounds and sights that no one else notices. The usual: gum chewing, (even the sight of someone chewing in my peripheral vision), anyone talking with anything in their mouth (like candy), people with nasal voices, speech in which the "s" or "t" or "p" is evident, swallowing, gulping (anyone drinking their water during yoga class!), crinkling wrappers, tooth brushing, mouth breathing, dogs panting, my cat eating, animals grooming themselves, small water fountains, other people kissing, I could go on and on.> > Other than my extreme and sudden aversion to certain sounds (and some sights), I consider myself well adjusted and normal. Though I do seem to have extremely perceptive sensory capacities (touch, sight, smell, etc), which has helped in my career. My husband (the most PATIENT man in the world) jokingly calls my "species" "Sensitivus Particularus." My mother thinks it's eerie that I can always tell during a phone conversation that she is even thinking about having something in her mouth.> > But joking aside, this has been a source of agony for me in my life. The physical discomfort alone has been a pain, but the mental anguish of feeling guilty, ashamed, like something was wrong with me that I was intolerant, petty, impatient, selfish.... Because that's not me, I swear. But sometimes, no matter my feelings or thoughts of a person or situation, I just have to flee the sounds or the violence is directed internally and I just freak out inside. Certain people in my life are such triggers that I can't be around them - like my mother-in-law. She has a medical condition that gives her chronic dry mouth and the inability to control her constant fidgeting, which includes constant (and I do mean constant) mouth smacking. This is not a normal mother-in-law issue. And I feel like a total asshole when I get filled with helpless rage when I'm around this poor old woman.> > Anyway, nothing special to add here - just a big thank you for speaking out in this forum. I feel less crazy, or at least like there are people out there who are crazy in the same way.> > I would also happily participate in any research about 4-S.> > Thank you,> > Dina>