Re: Things my spouse does to drive me INSANE

[Guest guest]

This was funny in a cringe worthy way... Omg I seriously don't know how u deal with that on a daily basis Sent from my iPhone

I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me "deal" with my problem in a more positive way...

1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always "allow" him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, "I know, I am going to spit it out." Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people?

3) His eating habits are not that great even to a "normal" person. When he is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home.

HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven, right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has allergies...

Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing. I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!

[Guest guest]

This was funny in a cringe worthy way... Omg I seriously don't know how u deal with that on a daily basis Sent from my iPhone

I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me "deal" with my problem in a more positive way...

1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always "allow" him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, "I know, I am going to spit it out." Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people?

3) His eating habits are not that great even to a "normal" person. When he is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home.

HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven, right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has allergies...

Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing. I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!

[Guest guest]

This was funny in a cringe worthy way... Omg I seriously don't know how u deal with that on a daily basis Sent from my iPhone

I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me "deal" with my problem in a more positive way...

1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always "allow" him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, "I know, I am going to spit it out." Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people?

3) His eating habits are not that great even to a "normal" person. When he is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home.

HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven, right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has allergies...

Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing. I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!

[Guest guest]

please show your husband the n.y.times article on misophonia or let him watch

the video on misophonia from the today show with ann curry hosting. he will then

understand its a " real " condition.

>

> I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with my

problem in a more positive way...

>

> 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me

absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that

I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's

husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

>

> 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about

once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it

in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that

chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

>

> 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When he is

eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon

and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps

the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without

problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are

not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most

people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth

before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not

seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people

have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY

irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a

mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right

now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it

open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so

habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could

start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if

I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning

and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their

Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then think about how

grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home.

>

> HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

>

> Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

>

> So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this

site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

>

[Guest guest]

At least this last part is a medical condition he has. He really needs to go to a dr to see what can be done. Im surprised he doesnt have constant sinus infections or lung infections doing that. The stuff he hacks up is lung, and if it happens constantly is not normal. And that is not just disgusting becaues of misophonia, everyone would find that disgusting. All I can suggest is to find what works for you even in part to try to maintain a good marriage. It takes one heck of a good and caring spouse to accept our condition, I get the feeling many more marriages break up because of it. Because lets face it - no one else that is not going through this can REALLY understand it. They can try and they can say they do, but there is no way they ever could. Because

even WE don't truly understand why this is happening. Maybe get some input from your spouse in ways to solve the problems.

[Guest guest]

At least this last part is a medical condition he has. He really needs to go to a dr to see what can be done. Im surprised he doesnt have constant sinus infections or lung infections doing that. The stuff he hacks up is lung, and if it happens constantly is not normal. And that is not just disgusting becaues of misophonia, everyone would find that disgusting. All I can suggest is to find what works for you even in part to try to maintain a good marriage. It takes one heck of a good and caring spouse to accept our condition, I get the feeling many more marriages break up because of it. Because lets face it - no one else that is not going through this can REALLY understand it. They can try and they can say they do, but there is no way they ever could. Because

even WE don't truly understand why this is happening. Maybe get some input from your spouse in ways to solve the problems.

[Guest guest]

Hi Christy,

If I had read this before Sunday my list would be a long one like yours.

But, my husband fell and broke his hip and won't be home for many weeks.

My latex allergy gets in the way of visiting him so that is a real bummer.

I would give anything to hear any of his noises that bug the cr & & out of me as I sit in this empty house. This will be the longest we have even been apart from each other and we won't be together for Christmas for the first time in 32 years.

I am coping with the hospital noises by using mediation and escape via my Kindle.

prn

Things my spouse does to drive me INSANE

I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me "deal" with my problem in a more positive way...1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always "allow" him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, "I know, I am going to spit it out." Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people? 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a "normal" person. When he is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home. HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven, right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has allergies...Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing. I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!

[Guest guest]

He probably has some type of allergies that make him sniff. Make him go to an

ear nose & throat dr.

The others things, I think are habits he has and he obviously has no clue what

is going on and how much this interferes with your feelings about him. You

should start chewing gum noisily, chewing on straws right in front of him, and

mimic everything he does so he will see how obnoxious this is...

>

> I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with my

problem in a more positive way...

>

> 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me

absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that

I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's

husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

>

> 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about

once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it

in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that

chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

>

> 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When he is

eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon

and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps

the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without

problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are

not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most

people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth

before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not

seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people

have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY

irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a

mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right

now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it

open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so

habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could

start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if

I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning

and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their

Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then think about how

grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home.

>

> HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

>

> Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

>

> So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this

site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

>

[Guest guest]

He probably has some type of allergies that make him sniff. Make him go to an

ear nose & throat dr.

The others things, I think are habits he has and he obviously has no clue what

is going on and how much this interferes with your feelings about him. You

should start chewing gum noisily, chewing on straws right in front of him, and

mimic everything he does so he will see how obnoxious this is...

>

> I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with my

problem in a more positive way...

>

> 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me

absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that

I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's

husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

>

> 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about

once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it

in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that

chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

>

> 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When he is

eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon

and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps

the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without

problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are

not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most

people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth

before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not

seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people

have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY

irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a

mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right

now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it

open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so

habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could

start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if

I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning

and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their

Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then think about how

grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home.

>

> HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

>

> Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

>

> So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this

site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

>

[Guest guest]

He probably has some type of allergies that make him sniff. Make him go to an

ear nose & throat dr.

The others things, I think are habits he has and he obviously has no clue what

is going on and how much this interferes with your feelings about him. You

should start chewing gum noisily, chewing on straws right in front of him, and

mimic everything he does so he will see how obnoxious this is...

>

> I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with my

problem in a more positive way...

>

> 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me

absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that

I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's

husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

>

> 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about

once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it

in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that

chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

>

> 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When he is

eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon

and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps

the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without

problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are

not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most

people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth

before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not

seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people

have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY

irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a

mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right

now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it

open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so

habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could

start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if

I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning

and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their

Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then think about how

grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home.

>

> HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

>

> Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

>

> So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this

site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Christy,

I've only discovered what my " problem " is this week, so right now I'm feeling

very relieved and grateful that it's " something " other that me being a raving

lunatic. Why else would I tell my DH to, " Stop breathing! " and why would I tell

him that if he smashes his cutlery into his plate one more time he'll be eating

with his fingers? I feel your rage, and it's no fun. But honestly, you've put a

spin on it that I can actually deal with - I can finally laugh at myself. Up

until this week I was seriously worried about my mind! Thank you

Let me share my good times with you:

My DH has asthma, so as soon as he wakes up it's, " Aghck ahhhk huhhk "

Of course this gets spit out...more lovely noises....then back to the hacking.

All. Day. Long. Endlessly - until bedtime. Then the fun really starts because he

has sleep apnea, so he uses a CPAP machine. He turns it on, but rarely wears it,

so it just sits there hissing away. I mean HISSING, it's something you want to

take apart - violently. He won't share the same bed with me anymore because he

says I beat him up in my sleep. Probably because I'm so furious from all the

racket of the CPAP? I don't doubt it!

He also likes rap, so I get the yippeeyiay idiot sounds through the walls too.

It's just one big noisy headache, all the time. I love him, but all the noise

pollution makes me so crabby that I end up being totally miserable most of the

time. Because he also loves wrestling! Now there's some excellent

migraine-inducing sound. Especially the women: shriek, shriek, shriek. Yeah,

I'll show you shriek...

I lived alone before we met, and I think back longingly to the sweet peace and

quiet I used to enjoy. Not just enjoy, more like require? I hope not! Maybe all

of us sharing our misery will somehow break it down so it's not such a big

ordeal. Knowing that other people want to harm someone for making supposedly

innocent sounds has made me a tiny bit more tolerant. I take a deep breath and

focus on NOT glaring or speaking out or whatever I'd normally do - it helps a

little. If I can laugh at/with myself more often I'll do better.

I know that the recent bronchitis I had made me a tiny (very tiny!) bit more

sympathetic to the horrible asthma noises. I honestly couldn't breathe with my

throat blocked and it was even scary at times. Every time I hear the hack I make

myself remember how hard it was to breathe. It still grates on my nerves but not

as badly as it did.

> >

> > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with my

problem in a more positive way...

> >

> > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me

absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that

I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's

husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

> >

> > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about

once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it

in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that

chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

> >

> > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When he

is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the

spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it

without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his

direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then

speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in

their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat.

I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but

when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking

normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to

come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him

in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of

soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the

can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be

worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that

right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down

stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would

probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then

think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a

straw at home.

> >

> > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

> >

> > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

> >

> > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this

site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Christy,

I've only discovered what my " problem " is this week, so right now I'm feeling

very relieved and grateful that it's " something " other that me being a raving

lunatic. Why else would I tell my DH to, " Stop breathing! " and why would I tell

him that if he smashes his cutlery into his plate one more time he'll be eating

with his fingers? I feel your rage, and it's no fun. But honestly, you've put a

spin on it that I can actually deal with - I can finally laugh at myself. Up

until this week I was seriously worried about my mind! Thank you

Let me share my good times with you:

My DH has asthma, so as soon as he wakes up it's, " Aghck ahhhk huhhk "

Of course this gets spit out...more lovely noises....then back to the hacking.

All. Day. Long. Endlessly - until bedtime. Then the fun really starts because he

has sleep apnea, so he uses a CPAP machine. He turns it on, but rarely wears it,

so it just sits there hissing away. I mean HISSING, it's something you want to

take apart - violently. He won't share the same bed with me anymore because he

says I beat him up in my sleep. Probably because I'm so furious from all the

racket of the CPAP? I don't doubt it!

He also likes rap, so I get the yippeeyiay idiot sounds through the walls too.

It's just one big noisy headache, all the time. I love him, but all the noise

pollution makes me so crabby that I end up being totally miserable most of the

time. Because he also loves wrestling! Now there's some excellent

migraine-inducing sound. Especially the women: shriek, shriek, shriek. Yeah,

I'll show you shriek...

I lived alone before we met, and I think back longingly to the sweet peace and

quiet I used to enjoy. Not just enjoy, more like require? I hope not! Maybe all

of us sharing our misery will somehow break it down so it's not such a big

ordeal. Knowing that other people want to harm someone for making supposedly

innocent sounds has made me a tiny bit more tolerant. I take a deep breath and

focus on NOT glaring or speaking out or whatever I'd normally do - it helps a

little. If I can laugh at/with myself more often I'll do better.

I know that the recent bronchitis I had made me a tiny (very tiny!) bit more

sympathetic to the horrible asthma noises. I honestly couldn't breathe with my

throat blocked and it was even scary at times. Every time I hear the hack I make

myself remember how hard it was to breathe. It still grates on my nerves but not

as badly as it did.

> >

> > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with my

problem in a more positive way...

> >

> > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me

absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that

I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's

husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

> >

> > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about

once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it

in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that

chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

> >

> > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When he

is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the

spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it

without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his

direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then

speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in

their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat.

I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but

when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking

normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to

come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him

in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of

soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the

can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be

worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that

right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down

stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would

probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then

think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a

straw at home.

> >

> > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

> >

> > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

> >

> > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this

site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Christy,

I've only discovered what my " problem " is this week, so right now I'm feeling

very relieved and grateful that it's " something " other that me being a raving

lunatic. Why else would I tell my DH to, " Stop breathing! " and why would I tell

him that if he smashes his cutlery into his plate one more time he'll be eating

with his fingers? I feel your rage, and it's no fun. But honestly, you've put a

spin on it that I can actually deal with - I can finally laugh at myself. Up

until this week I was seriously worried about my mind! Thank you

Let me share my good times with you:

My DH has asthma, so as soon as he wakes up it's, " Aghck ahhhk huhhk "

Of course this gets spit out...more lovely noises....then back to the hacking.

All. Day. Long. Endlessly - until bedtime. Then the fun really starts because he

has sleep apnea, so he uses a CPAP machine. He turns it on, but rarely wears it,

so it just sits there hissing away. I mean HISSING, it's something you want to

take apart - violently. He won't share the same bed with me anymore because he

says I beat him up in my sleep. Probably because I'm so furious from all the

racket of the CPAP? I don't doubt it!

He also likes rap, so I get the yippeeyiay idiot sounds through the walls too.

It's just one big noisy headache, all the time. I love him, but all the noise

pollution makes me so crabby that I end up being totally miserable most of the

time. Because he also loves wrestling! Now there's some excellent

migraine-inducing sound. Especially the women: shriek, shriek, shriek. Yeah,

I'll show you shriek...

I lived alone before we met, and I think back longingly to the sweet peace and

quiet I used to enjoy. Not just enjoy, more like require? I hope not! Maybe all

of us sharing our misery will somehow break it down so it's not such a big

ordeal. Knowing that other people want to harm someone for making supposedly

innocent sounds has made me a tiny bit more tolerant. I take a deep breath and

focus on NOT glaring or speaking out or whatever I'd normally do - it helps a

little. If I can laugh at/with myself more often I'll do better.

I know that the recent bronchitis I had made me a tiny (very tiny!) bit more

sympathetic to the horrible asthma noises. I honestly couldn't breathe with my

throat blocked and it was even scary at times. Every time I hear the hack I make

myself remember how hard it was to breathe. It still grates on my nerves but not

as badly as it did.

> >

> > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with my

problem in a more positive way...

> >

> > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me

absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that

I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone else's

husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

> >

> > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about

once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it

in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that

chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

> >

> > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When he

is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the

spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it

without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his

direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then

speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in

their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat.

I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but

when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking

normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to

come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him

in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of

soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the

can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be

worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that

right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down

stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would

probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then

think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a

straw at home.

> >

> > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

> >

> > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

> >

> > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this

site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi -- I'm brand new to this group (like only a couple of days ago) and I'm so

thankful for it already! I have loved reading this thread because I'm in a

similar predicament.

I'm in a relationship right now with a man who is simply the love of my life. We

aren't currently married, but are as committed as if we were. Anyway...

He does nearly all the things everyone has mentioned and they drive me CRAZY. I

HATE when my kids aren't home and it's just the two of us eating dinner

together. Occasionally, I make a salad (carrots? lettuce? blankety-blank

croutons????) and I can't even lift my face up to look at him because I'm so

focused on the sounds and not screaming. Soup, slurp. Coffee, slurp.

Wine...slurp. I asked him about the win once, since it's not hot. He said he

slurps to aerate it and bring out the flavor. I wanted to die.

The only relief I get is when the house is full and there's so much conversation

that I can't hear any one individual...except when I can, and then I yell

" LIPS! " to the offender. That has become my kids' and my code word for when the

noise is just one nano-second from sending me through the roof. Unfortunately,

now that 2/3rds of the are teenagers, that also sometimes triggers and increase

in noises to see if I'll crack. For the last six months, my childhood friend and

her son have been living with us, too. While her eating has never once bothered

me, I've had to leave the room when her son eats. He's got dental issues...We

had two Thanksgivings this year -- one was me, my significant other, her, and

her son. I hated every second of it and couldn't wait to be done eating. The

second one, with a houseful of my raucous kids, was heavenly.

Back when I was married, I used to dig my fingernail into my skin so I could

focus on the pain and not the noise. Sometimes, I would envision myself smashing

the offender's head in with a sledge hammer. My husband knew this about me and,

if I can say one nice thing about him, he was very very sensitive to it. It

wasn't until the marriage got rocky that all of a sudden he couldn't eat ice

cream without me wanting to kill him. Ice cream. There's virtually no noise

associated with it except the tongue releasing from the roof of the mouth and

making me crazy.

Anyway, back to now. I am deepy committed to this man in my life, but see that

this " issue " has no known cure. How will I get through the next 40 years? The

other night I joked that I couldn't wait until his teeth fell out. He corrected

me and said that we would be better off hoping for my hearing to go. He's right.

> > >

> > > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with

my problem in a more positive way...

> > >

> > > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives

me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's

that I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone

else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

> > >

> > > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out

(about once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and

sticks it in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming

because he knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping

that chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

> > >

> > > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When

he is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the

spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it

without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his

direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then

speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in

their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat.

I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but

when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking

normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to

come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him

in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of

soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the

can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be

worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that

right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down

stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would

probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then

think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a

straw at home.

> > >

> > > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

> > >

> > > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

> > >

> > > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found

this site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi -- I'm brand new to this group (like only a couple of days ago) and I'm so

thankful for it already! I have loved reading this thread because I'm in a

similar predicament.

I'm in a relationship right now with a man who is simply the love of my life. We

aren't currently married, but are as committed as if we were. Anyway...

He does nearly all the things everyone has mentioned and they drive me CRAZY. I

HATE when my kids aren't home and it's just the two of us eating dinner

together. Occasionally, I make a salad (carrots? lettuce? blankety-blank

croutons????) and I can't even lift my face up to look at him because I'm so

focused on the sounds and not screaming. Soup, slurp. Coffee, slurp.

Wine...slurp. I asked him about the win once, since it's not hot. He said he

slurps to aerate it and bring out the flavor. I wanted to die.

The only relief I get is when the house is full and there's so much conversation

that I can't hear any one individual...except when I can, and then I yell

" LIPS! " to the offender. That has become my kids' and my code word for when the

noise is just one nano-second from sending me through the roof. Unfortunately,

now that 2/3rds of the are teenagers, that also sometimes triggers and increase

in noises to see if I'll crack. For the last six months, my childhood friend and

her son have been living with us, too. While her eating has never once bothered

me, I've had to leave the room when her son eats. He's got dental issues...We

had two Thanksgivings this year -- one was me, my significant other, her, and

her son. I hated every second of it and couldn't wait to be done eating. The

second one, with a houseful of my raucous kids, was heavenly.

Back when I was married, I used to dig my fingernail into my skin so I could

focus on the pain and not the noise. Sometimes, I would envision myself smashing

the offender's head in with a sledge hammer. My husband knew this about me and,

if I can say one nice thing about him, he was very very sensitive to it. It

wasn't until the marriage got rocky that all of a sudden he couldn't eat ice

cream without me wanting to kill him. Ice cream. There's virtually no noise

associated with it except the tongue releasing from the roof of the mouth and

making me crazy.

Anyway, back to now. I am deepy committed to this man in my life, but see that

this " issue " has no known cure. How will I get through the next 40 years? The

other night I joked that I couldn't wait until his teeth fell out. He corrected

me and said that we would be better off hoping for my hearing to go. He's right.

> > >

> > > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with

my problem in a more positive way...

> > >

> > > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives

me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's

that I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone

else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

> > >

> > > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out

(about once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and

sticks it in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming

because he knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping

that chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I

always " allow " him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and

then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going

to spit it out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and

starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once

actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably

only in the car together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out

but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in

which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the

person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he

has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have

put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me

people?

> > >

> > > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When

he is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the

spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it

without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his

direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then

speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in

their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat.

I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but

when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking

normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to

come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him

in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of

soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the

can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be

worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that

right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down

stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would

probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then

think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a

straw at home.

> > >

> > > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven,

right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about

once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

allergies...

> > >

> > > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs

non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is

so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow

his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

> > >

> > > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found

this site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband

who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any

suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward

your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to

read this!

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

Ipod's, ear plugs (with reasonable use, not too much), humor, pink/brown noise, medicine to calm you down, yoga, walks out doors, exercise, things like these. After reading a lot of what we go through we naturally find the same ways to get us through. There's not too much we can do but get support and use what's available to us. If we are fortunate, and many of us are, we have a mate and/or family that understands and is supportive. For the people that don't understand, there's not too much we can do except try to educate them. Show them this site, have them read articles, etc.

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Fri, December 23, 2011 12:42:28 PMSubject: Re: Things my spouse does to drive me INSANE

Hi -- I'm brand new to this group (like only a couple of days ago) and I'm so thankful for it already! I have loved reading this thread because I'm in a similar predicament.I'm in a relationship right now with a man who is simply the love of my life. We aren't currently married, but are as committed as if we were. Anyway...He does nearly all the things everyone has mentioned and they drive me CRAZY. I HATE when my kids aren't home and it's just the two of us eating dinner together. Occasionally, I make a salad (carrots? lettuce? blankety-blank croutons????) and I can't even lift my face up to look at him because I'm so focused on the sounds and not screaming. Soup, slurp. Coffee, slurp. Wine...slurp. I asked him about the win once, since it's not hot. He said he slurps to aerate it and bring out the flavor. I wanted to die.The only relief I get is when the house is full and there's so much conversation that I can't hear any one

individual...except when I can, and then I yell "LIPS!" to the offender. That has become my kids' and my code word for when the noise is just one nano-second from sending me through the roof. Unfortunately, now that 2/3rds of the are teenagers, that also sometimes triggers and increase in noises to see if I'll crack. For the last six months, my childhood friend and her son have been living with us, too. While her eating has never once bothered me, I've had to leave the room when her son eats. He's got dental issues...We had two Thanksgivings this year -- one was me, my significant other, her, and her son. I hated every second of it and couldn't wait to be done eating. The second one, with a houseful of my raucous kids, was heavenly.Back when I was married, I used to dig my fingernail into my skin so I could focus on the pain and not the noise. Sometimes, I would envision myself smashing the offender's head in with a sledge hammer. My husband

knew this about me and, if I can say one nice thing about him, he was very very sensitive to it. It wasn't until the marriage got rocky that all of a sudden he couldn't eat ice cream without me wanting to kill him. Ice cream. There's virtually no noise associated with it except the tongue releasing from the roof of the mouth and making me crazy.Anyway, back to now. I am deepy committed to this man in my life, but see that this "issue" has no known cure. How will I get through the next 40 years? The other night I joked that I couldn't wait until his teeth fell out. He corrected me and said that we would be better off hoping for my hearing to go. He's right.> > >> > > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me "deal" with my problem in a more positive way...> > > > > > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that I know who chews gum. It is

true. I look around and I never see anyone else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...> > > > > > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always "allow" him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, "I know, I am going to spit it out." Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car together for about 2 minutes

total before he spits the straw out but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people? > > > > > > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a "normal" person. When he is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most people would wait until they

have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after

Christmas and then think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home. > > > > > > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven, right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has allergies...> > > > > > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he

sucks it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.> > > > > > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing. I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold

say that we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!> > >> >>

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

Ipod's, ear plugs (with reasonable use, not too much), humor, pink/brown noise, medicine to calm you down, yoga, walks out doors, exercise, things like these. After reading a lot of what we go through we naturally find the same ways to get us through. There's not too much we can do but get support and use what's available to us. If we are fortunate, and many of us are, we have a mate and/or family that understands and is supportive. For the people that don't understand, there's not too much we can do except try to educate them. Show them this site, have them read articles, etc.

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Fri, December 23, 2011 12:42:28 PMSubject: Re: Things my spouse does to drive me INSANE

Hi -- I'm brand new to this group (like only a couple of days ago) and I'm so thankful for it already! I have loved reading this thread because I'm in a similar predicament.I'm in a relationship right now with a man who is simply the love of my life. We aren't currently married, but are as committed as if we were. Anyway...He does nearly all the things everyone has mentioned and they drive me CRAZY. I HATE when my kids aren't home and it's just the two of us eating dinner together. Occasionally, I make a salad (carrots? lettuce? blankety-blank croutons????) and I can't even lift my face up to look at him because I'm so focused on the sounds and not screaming. Soup, slurp. Coffee, slurp. Wine...slurp. I asked him about the win once, since it's not hot. He said he slurps to aerate it and bring out the flavor. I wanted to die.The only relief I get is when the house is full and there's so much conversation that I can't hear any one

individual...except when I can, and then I yell "LIPS!" to the offender. That has become my kids' and my code word for when the noise is just one nano-second from sending me through the roof. Unfortunately, now that 2/3rds of the are teenagers, that also sometimes triggers and increase in noises to see if I'll crack. For the last six months, my childhood friend and her son have been living with us, too. While her eating has never once bothered me, I've had to leave the room when her son eats. He's got dental issues...We had two Thanksgivings this year -- one was me, my significant other, her, and her son. I hated every second of it and couldn't wait to be done eating. The second one, with a houseful of my raucous kids, was heavenly.Back when I was married, I used to dig my fingernail into my skin so I could focus on the pain and not the noise. Sometimes, I would envision myself smashing the offender's head in with a sledge hammer. My husband

knew this about me and, if I can say one nice thing about him, he was very very sensitive to it. It wasn't until the marriage got rocky that all of a sudden he couldn't eat ice cream without me wanting to kill him. Ice cream. There's virtually no noise associated with it except the tongue releasing from the roof of the mouth and making me crazy.Anyway, back to now. I am deepy committed to this man in my life, but see that this "issue" has no known cure. How will I get through the next 40 years? The other night I joked that I couldn't wait until his teeth fell out. He corrected me and said that we would be better off hoping for my hearing to go. He's right.> > >> > > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me "deal" with my problem in a more positive way...> > > > > > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's that I know who chews gum. It is

true. I look around and I never see anyone else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...> > > > > > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he knows I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing on the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always "allow" him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have to ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, "I know, I am going to spit it out." Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts driving before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once actually spit the thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car together for about 2 minutes

total before he spits the straw out but as any one with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every ounce of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw in his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people? > > > > > > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a "normal" person. When he is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then speak. Most people would wait until they

have chewed and swallowed the food in their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of the can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after

Christmas and then think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a straw at home. > > > > > > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven, right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh no, he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud as he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as loud as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has allergies...> > > > > > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he

sucks it back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up his mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this guy, am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he just swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.> > > > > > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing. I hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and I HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold

say that we are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by these things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband who is a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse? I would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!> > >> >>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I find that turning on the fan over my stove helps to drown out the eating

noises. If I can't do that, I turn on a radio or television. They don't work

as well, but make it a little more bearable.

Bette

>

> Hi -- I'm brand new to this group (like only a couple of days ago) and I'm so

thankful for it already! I have loved reading this thread because I'm in a

similar predicament.

>

> I'm in a relationship right now with a man who is simply the love of my life.

We aren't currently married, but are as committed as if we were. Anyway...

>

> He does nearly all the things everyone has mentioned and they drive me CRAZY.

I HATE when my kids aren't home and it's just the two of us eating dinner

together. Occasionally, I make a salad (carrots? lettuce? blankety-blank

croutons????) and I can't even lift my face up to look at him because I'm so

focused on the sounds and not screaming. Soup, slurp. Coffee, slurp.

Wine...slurp. I asked him about the win once, since it's not hot. He said he

slurps to aerate it and bring out the flavor. I wanted to die.

>

> The only relief I get is when the house is full and there's so much

conversation that I can't hear any one individual...except when I can, and then

I yell " LIPS! " to the offender. That has become my kids' and my code word for

when the noise is just one nano-second from sending me through the roof.

Unfortunately, now that 2/3rds of the are teenagers, that also sometimes

triggers and increase in noises to see if I'll crack. For the last six months,

my childhood friend and her son have been living with us, too. While her eating

has never once bothered me, I've had to leave the room when her son eats. He's

got dental issues...We had two Thanksgivings this year -- one was me, my

significant other, her, and her son. I hated every second of it and couldn't

wait to be done eating. The second one, with a houseful of my raucous kids, was

heavenly.

>

> Back when I was married, I used to dig my fingernail into my skin so I could

focus on the pain and not the noise. Sometimes, I would envision myself smashing

the offender's head in with a sledge hammer. My husband knew this about me and,

if I can say one nice thing about him, he was very very sensitive to it. It

wasn't until the marriage got rocky that all of a sudden he couldn't eat ice

cream without me wanting to kill him. Ice cream. There's virtually no noise

associated with it except the tongue releasing from the roof of the mouth and

making me crazy.

>

> Anyway, back to now. I am deepy committed to this man in my life, but see that

this " issue " has no known cure. How will I get through the next 40 years? The

other night I joked that I couldn't wait until his teeth fell out. He corrected

me and said that we would be better off hoping for my hearing to go. He's right.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I find that turning on the fan over my stove helps to drown out the eating

noises. If I can't do that, I turn on a radio or television. They don't work

as well, but make it a little more bearable.

Bette

>

> Hi -- I'm brand new to this group (like only a couple of days ago) and I'm so

thankful for it already! I have loved reading this thread because I'm in a

similar predicament.

>

> I'm in a relationship right now with a man who is simply the love of my life.

We aren't currently married, but are as committed as if we were. Anyway...

>

> He does nearly all the things everyone has mentioned and they drive me CRAZY.

I HATE when my kids aren't home and it's just the two of us eating dinner

together. Occasionally, I make a salad (carrots? lettuce? blankety-blank

croutons????) and I can't even lift my face up to look at him because I'm so

focused on the sounds and not screaming. Soup, slurp. Coffee, slurp.

Wine...slurp. I asked him about the win once, since it's not hot. He said he

slurps to aerate it and bring out the flavor. I wanted to die.

>

> The only relief I get is when the house is full and there's so much

conversation that I can't hear any one individual...except when I can, and then

I yell " LIPS! " to the offender. That has become my kids' and my code word for

when the noise is just one nano-second from sending me through the roof.

Unfortunately, now that 2/3rds of the are teenagers, that also sometimes

triggers and increase in noises to see if I'll crack. For the last six months,

my childhood friend and her son have been living with us, too. While her eating

has never once bothered me, I've had to leave the room when her son eats. He's

got dental issues...We had two Thanksgivings this year -- one was me, my

significant other, her, and her son. I hated every second of it and couldn't

wait to be done eating. The second one, with a houseful of my raucous kids, was

heavenly.

>

> Back when I was married, I used to dig my fingernail into my skin so I could

focus on the pain and not the noise. Sometimes, I would envision myself smashing

the offender's head in with a sledge hammer. My husband knew this about me and,

if I can say one nice thing about him, he was very very sensitive to it. It

wasn't until the marriage got rocky that all of a sudden he couldn't eat ice

cream without me wanting to kill him. Ice cream. There's virtually no noise

associated with it except the tongue releasing from the roof of the mouth and

making me crazy.

>

> Anyway, back to now. I am deepy committed to this man in my life, but see that

this " issue " has no known cure. How will I get through the next 40 years? The

other night I joked that I couldn't wait until his teeth fell out. He corrected

me and said that we would be better off hoping for my hearing to go. He's right.

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Bette -- Tonight is a repeat of First Thanksgiving: just four of us.

I've decided that it would be a good time to play Christmas music during dinner!

Hopefully that will help!

> >

> > Hi -- I'm brand new to this group (like only a couple of days ago) and I'm

so thankful for it already! I have loved reading this thread because I'm in a

similar predicament.

> >

> > I'm in a relationship right now with a man who is simply the love of my

life. We aren't currently married, but are as committed as if we were. Anyway...

> >

> > He does nearly all the things everyone has mentioned and they drive me

CRAZY. I HATE when my kids aren't home and it's just the two of us eating dinner

together. Occasionally, I make a salad (carrots? lettuce? blankety-blank

croutons????) and I can't even lift my face up to look at him because I'm so

focused on the sounds and not screaming. Soup, slurp. Coffee, slurp.

Wine...slurp. I asked him about the win once, since it's not hot. He said he

slurps to aerate it and bring out the flavor. I wanted to die.

> >

> > The only relief I get is when the house is full and there's so much

conversation that I can't hear any one individual...except when I can, and then

I yell " LIPS! " to the offender. That has become my kids' and my code word for

when the noise is just one nano-second from sending me through the roof.

Unfortunately, now that 2/3rds of the are teenagers, that also sometimes

triggers and increase in noises to see if I'll crack. For the last six months,

my childhood friend and her son have been living with us, too. While her eating

has never once bothered me, I've had to leave the room when her son eats. He's

got dental issues...We had two Thanksgivings this year -- one was me, my

significant other, her, and her son. I hated every second of it and couldn't

wait to be done eating. The second one, with a houseful of my raucous kids, was

heavenly.

> >

> > Back when I was married, I used to dig my fingernail into my skin so I could

focus on the pain and not the noise. Sometimes, I would envision myself smashing

the offender's head in with a sledge hammer. My husband knew this about me and,

if I can say one nice thing about him, he was very very sensitive to it. It

wasn't until the marriage got rocky that all of a sudden he couldn't eat ice

cream without me wanting to kill him. Ice cream. There's virtually no noise

associated with it except the tongue releasing from the roof of the mouth and

making me crazy.

> >

> > Anyway, back to now. I am deepy committed to this man in my life, but see

that this " issue " has no known cure. How will I get through the next 40 years?

The other night I joked that I couldn't wait until his teeth fell out. He

corrected me and said that we would be better off hoping for my hearing to go.

He's right.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Bette -- Tonight is a repeat of First Thanksgiving: just four of us.

I've decided that it would be a good time to play Christmas music during dinner!

Hopefully that will help!

> >

> > Hi -- I'm brand new to this group (like only a couple of days ago) and I'm

so thankful for it already! I have loved reading this thread because I'm in a

similar predicament.

> >

> > I'm in a relationship right now with a man who is simply the love of my

life. We aren't currently married, but are as committed as if we were. Anyway...

> >

> > He does nearly all the things everyone has mentioned and they drive me

CRAZY. I HATE when my kids aren't home and it's just the two of us eating dinner

together. Occasionally, I make a salad (carrots? lettuce? blankety-blank

croutons????) and I can't even lift my face up to look at him because I'm so

focused on the sounds and not screaming. Soup, slurp. Coffee, slurp.

Wine...slurp. I asked him about the win once, since it's not hot. He said he

slurps to aerate it and bring out the flavor. I wanted to die.

> >

> > The only relief I get is when the house is full and there's so much

conversation that I can't hear any one individual...except when I can, and then

I yell " LIPS! " to the offender. That has become my kids' and my code word for

when the noise is just one nano-second from sending me through the roof.

Unfortunately, now that 2/3rds of the are teenagers, that also sometimes

triggers and increase in noises to see if I'll crack. For the last six months,

my childhood friend and her son have been living with us, too. While her eating

has never once bothered me, I've had to leave the room when her son eats. He's

got dental issues...We had two Thanksgivings this year -- one was me, my

significant other, her, and her son. I hated every second of it and couldn't

wait to be done eating. The second one, with a houseful of my raucous kids, was

heavenly.

> >

> > Back when I was married, I used to dig my fingernail into my skin so I could

focus on the pain and not the noise. Sometimes, I would envision myself smashing

the offender's head in with a sledge hammer. My husband knew this about me and,

if I can say one nice thing about him, he was very very sensitive to it. It

wasn't until the marriage got rocky that all of a sudden he couldn't eat ice

cream without me wanting to kill him. Ice cream. There's virtually no noise

associated with it except the tongue releasing from the roof of the mouth and

making me crazy.

> >

> > Anyway, back to now. I am deepy committed to this man in my life, but see

that this " issue " has no known cure. How will I get through the next 40 years?

The other night I joked that I couldn't wait until his teeth fell out. He

corrected me and said that we would be better off hoping for my hearing to go.

He's right.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the suggestions, ! In the last two days I've been explaining to

my SO all the triggers, all the reactions I've been hiding, and brainstorming

with him how to reduce the stress on everyone. Even opening up has been so

helpful -- it's a relief to not feel like I have to hide what has come to feel

like a tremendous personality flaw. We even joked that all the foods I was

making for Christmas Eve dinner seem to be crunch-proof. :-)

Thanks for your suggestions!

> > > >

> > > > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with

my

> >problem in a more positive way...

> > > >

> > > > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it

drives

> >me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's

> >that I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone

> >else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

> > > >

> > > > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out

(about

> >once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks

it

> >in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows

> >I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing

on

> >the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always

" allow "

> >him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have

to

> >ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going to spit it

> >out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts

driving

> >before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once actually spit

the

> >thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car

> >together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out but as any

one

> >with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every

ounce

> >of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you

> >the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the

> >straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw

in

> >his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people?

> >

> > > >

> > > > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When

he

> >is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the

> >spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

> >sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it

> >without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his

> >direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and

then

> >speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food

in

> >their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking,

repeat.

> >I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group,

but

> >when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking

> >normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used

to

> >come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch

him

> >in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can

of

> >soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of

the

> >can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be

worse

> >and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right

> >now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down

stairs

> >tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would

> >probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and

then

> >think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use

a

> >straw at home.

> >

> > > >

> > > > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

> >Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in

heaven,

> >right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no,

> >he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as

> >he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud

> >as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once

> >every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

> >allergies...

> > > >

> > > > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He

sniffs

> >non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

> >rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it

> >back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his

> >mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy,

> >am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so

> >disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just

> >swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his

> >nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

> > > >

> > > > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found

this

> >site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

> >problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I

> >hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I

> >HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

> >costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we

> >are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these

> >things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband who

is

> >a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on

> >how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse?

I

> >would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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Thanks for the suggestions, ! In the last two days I've been explaining to

my SO all the triggers, all the reactions I've been hiding, and brainstorming

with him how to reduce the stress on everyone. Even opening up has been so

helpful -- it's a relief to not feel like I have to hide what has come to feel

like a tremendous personality flaw. We even joked that all the foods I was

making for Christmas Eve dinner seem to be crunch-proof. :-)

Thanks for your suggestions!

> > > >

> > > > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me " deal " with

my

> >problem in a more positive way...

> > > >

> > > > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it

drives

> >me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's

> >that I know who chews gum. It is true. I look around and I never see anyone

> >else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...

> > > >

> > > > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out

(about

> >once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks

it

> >in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he

knows

> >I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing

on

> >the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always

" allow "

> >him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have

to

> >ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, " I know, I am going to spit it

> >out. " Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts

driving

> >before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for once actually spit

the

> >thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car

> >together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out but as any

one

> >with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every

ounce

> >of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you

> >the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the

> >straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw

in

> >his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people?

> >

> > > >

> > > > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a " normal " person. When

he

> >is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the

> >spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

> >sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it

> >without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his

> >direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and

then

> >speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food

in

> >their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking,

repeat.

> >I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group,

but

> >when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking

> >normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used

to

> >come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch

him

> >in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can

of

> >soda he pops it open and then slurps the coke (or whatever) off the top of

the

> >can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be

worse

> >and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right

> >now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down

stairs

> >tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would

> >probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and

then

> >think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use

a

> >straw at home.

> >

> > > >

> > > > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has

> >Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in

heaven,

> >right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh

no,

> >he clears it 3 times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud

as

> >he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as

loud

> >as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once

> >every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has

> >allergies...

> > > >

> > > > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He

sniffs

> >non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot

> >rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks

it

> >back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up

his

> >mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this

guy,

> >am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so

> >disgusting I can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he

just

> >swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his

> >nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.

> > > >

> > > > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found

this

> >site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this

> >problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing.

I

> >hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and

I

> >HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all

> >costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that

we

> >are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by

these

> >things because it really does make me have evil thoughts about my husband who

is

> >a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on

> >how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse?

I

> >would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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LOL! Crunch proof is an excellent idea, !

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sat, December 24, 2011 12:55:42 PMSubject: Re: Things my spouse does to drive me INSANE

Thanks for the suggestions, ! In the last two days I've been explaining to my SO all the triggers, all the reactions I've been hiding, and brainstorming with him how to reduce the stress on everyone. Even opening up has been so helpful -- it's a relief to not feel like I have to hide what has come to feel like a tremendous personality flaw. We even joked that all the foods I was making for Christmas Eve dinner seem to be crunch-proof. :-)Thanks for your suggestions!> > > >> > > > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me "deal" with my > >problem in a more positive way...> > > > > > > > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives > >me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's > >that I know who chews gum. It is

true. I look around and I never see anyone > >else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...> > > > > > > > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about > >once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it > >in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he knows > >I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing on > >the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always "allow" > >him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have to > >ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, "I know, I am going to spit it > >out." Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts driving > >before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for

once actually spit the > >thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car > >together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out but as any one > >with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every ounce > >of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you > >the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the > >straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw in > >his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people? > >> > > > > > > > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a "normal" person. When he > >is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the > >spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

> >sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it > >without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his > >direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then > >speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in > >their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. > >I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but > >when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking > >normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to > >come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him > >in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of > >soda he pops it open and then slurps the

coke (or whatever) off the top of the > >can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse > >and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right > >now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs > >tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would > >probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then > >think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a > >straw at home. > >> > > > > > > > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has > >Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven, > >right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh no, > >he clears it 3

times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud as > >he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as loud > >as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once > >every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has > >allergies...> > > > > > > > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs > >non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot > >rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks it > >back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up his > >mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this guy, > >am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so > >disgusting I

can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he just > >swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his > >nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.> > > > > > > > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this > >site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this > >problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing. I > >hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and I > >HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all > >costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that we > >are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by these > >things because it really does make me

have evil thoughts about my husband who is > >a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on > >how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse? I > >would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!> > > >> > >> >>

[Guest guest]

LOL! Crunch proof is an excellent idea, !

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sat, December 24, 2011 12:55:42 PMSubject: Re: Things my spouse does to drive me INSANE

Thanks for the suggestions, ! In the last two days I've been explaining to my SO all the triggers, all the reactions I've been hiding, and brainstorming with him how to reduce the stress on everyone. Even opening up has been so helpful -- it's a relief to not feel like I have to hide what has come to feel like a tremendous personality flaw. We even joked that all the foods I was making for Christmas Eve dinner seem to be crunch-proof. :-)Thanks for your suggestions!> > > >> > > > I wrote out a list tonight and I am hoping that will help me "deal" with my > >problem in a more positive way...> > > > > > > > 1) Chewing Gum - He does this all the time even though he knows it drives > >me absolutely nuts! Yesterday I told him that he was the only man in his 40's > >that I know who chews gum. It is

true. I look around and I never see anyone > >else's husband chewing gum but there is my husband just smacking away...> > > > > > > > 2) Chewing on a straw...He likes to do this too. Anytime we eat out (about > >once a week) after he is done with his drink he folds up the straw and sticks it > >in his mouth and chews on it. Why, I don't know. I am assuming because he knows > >I am hanging on to the edge by my fingernails and he is hoping that chewing on > >the straw will be enough to send me plunging to my death. So, I always "allow" > >him to chew on the God forsaken straw until we get in the car and then I have to > >ask him to spit it out. Then he ALWAYS says, "I know, I am going to spit it > >out." Then he starts the car, backs out of the parking space and starts driving > >before he spits it out. Why, oh why couldn't he just for

once actually spit the > >thing out BEFORE we get in the car? I know we are probably only in the car > >together for about 2 minutes total before he spits the straw out but as any one > >with this condition can tell you this is a long 2 minutes in which every ounce > >of your being is all consumed with rage and hatred for the person causing you > >the discomfort. This makes for a long car ride even after he has spit out the > >straw because if he cared about me AT ALL he would never have put the straw in > >his mouth in the first place. Am I right? Do you hear me people? > >> > > > > > > > 3) His eating habits are not that great even to a "normal" person. When he > >is eating soup instead of putting soup on a spoon and quietly blowing on the > >spoon and then eating it he sticks the tip of the spoon in his mouth and

> >sluuuuurps the soup in. Even after the soup has cooled down enough to eat it > >without problem he still prefers the slurping way. Any looks cast in his > >direction are not noticed by him. He also likes to take a bite of food and then > >speak. Most people would wait until they have chewed and swallowed the food in > >their mouth before they talk...not this guy. Bite food, begin speaking, repeat. > >I have not seen anyone else post about this, I am fairly new to this group, but > >when people have something in their mouths that keeps them from speaking > >normally it REALLY irritates the living stuffing out of me. My husband used to > >come to bed with a mouth guard in and try to talk to me. I want to go punch him > >in his face right now just thinking about it. Also EVERY TIME he opes a can of > >soda he pops it open and then slurps the

coke (or whatever) off the top of the > >can. He is so habitiual about this. POP, SLUUUURP!!! I suppose it could be worse > >and he could start using a straw at home. I can't even think about that right > >now because if I did my head would explode and if my children came down stairs > >tomorrow morning and found me sitting here with my head exploded it would > >probably ruin their Christmas. I will think about that after Christmas and then > >think about how grateful I am that it has never occured to my husband to use a > >straw at home. > >> > > > > > > > HE LOVES, LOVES, LOVES to clear his throat. I am pretty sure that he has > >Tourette's syndrome, and I am not even kidding. I know, a match made in heaven, > >right? He doesn't just clear his throat quietly and then be done with it, oh no, > >he clears it 3

times starting with a normal one then a loud one then as loud as > >he can. I mean LITERALLY as loud as he can. Clear your throat right now as loud > >as you can and you will see what I am going through. He does this about once > >every 45 seconds when he really gets going. He says it is because he has > >allergies...> > > > > > > > Which leads me to my last but not least complaint THE SNIFFING! He sniffs > >non-stop. Not your little sniffle here and there, no, no this is major snot > >rearranging sniffing. The snot starts out in his lower nostrils then he sucks it > >back up into his sinuses then sucks it down his throat then hacks it back up his > >mouth. I know you are probably wondering how I can keep my hands off this guy, > >am I right ladies? If we are outside he will then spit it out which is so > >disgusting I

can't even tell you. But if we are inside then, of course, he just > >swallows it and the whole process starts all over. When I ask him to blow his > >nose he does and NOTHING ever comes out. He also blames this on allergies.> > > > > > > > So, that is it. Thank you for listening. I am so happy to have found this > >site because I thought I was the only one, besides my mother, who had this > >problem. My husband thinks I am just picking on him about every little thing. I > >hardly ever say anything to him anymore unless we are in the car together and I > >HAVE to put up with it. I do try to aviod being in the car with him at all > >costs. We have 2 children and other than this problem of mine I wold say that we > >are a pretty normal couple. I would really love to not be so bothered by these > >things because it really does make me

have evil thoughts about my husband who is > >a really nice guy and a wonderful father. Does anyone have any suggestions on > >how you can get past the damaging thoughts that you have toward your spouse? I > >would appreciate any help. Thank you for taking the time to read this!> > > >> > >> >>