Re: SCARED to start a family

[Guest guest]

Hi all,I am 39 and obviously getting to the point where I need to decide about the whole children issue.  I want children, but the same issues scare me to death.  I would also appreciate hearing from anyone on this matter........

 

I am 28 years old and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for two years now (that's a completely different stress/story When I discovered that my " noise issues " actually had a name a week ago, I have been questioning whether to even have children or not. I can't imagine possibly passing misophonia on to my future child, and at the same time I worry about what life will be like for my child because of me. Will I be able to watch him or her play baseball because I can't stand when people eat sunflower seeds? Will I be able to have him or her type out their homework on the computer because the sound of the clicking keyboard can drive me insane? I can't go shopping without my ipod cranked up because of the clicking of shoes so how will I be able to enjoy an outing like this with my son or daughter? Or worse yet, what if the noises he or she makes causes me to lash out?

Parents with 4S do you have any advice or comments about your experiences raising a child(ren) while dealing with your sound sensitivity?

-- Field Data ManagerUSAID Contractor - SUPPORT Checchi and Company Consulting, Inc.Kabul, AfghanistanSkype: stacy.c.andersonSkype: +1.

Af Mobile: +93.0.797.28.4036US Mobile: +1. " To understand the world, you must first understand a place like Mississippi. " ~ Faulkner

[Guest guest]

Hi all,I am 39 and obviously getting to the point where I need to decide about the whole children issue.  I want children, but the same issues scare me to death.  I would also appreciate hearing from anyone on this matter........

 

I am 28 years old and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for two years now (that's a completely different stress/story When I discovered that my " noise issues " actually had a name a week ago, I have been questioning whether to even have children or not. I can't imagine possibly passing misophonia on to my future child, and at the same time I worry about what life will be like for my child because of me. Will I be able to watch him or her play baseball because I can't stand when people eat sunflower seeds? Will I be able to have him or her type out their homework on the computer because the sound of the clicking keyboard can drive me insane? I can't go shopping without my ipod cranked up because of the clicking of shoes so how will I be able to enjoy an outing like this with my son or daughter? Or worse yet, what if the noises he or she makes causes me to lash out?

Parents with 4S do you have any advice or comments about your experiences raising a child(ren) while dealing with your sound sensitivity?

-- Field Data ManagerUSAID Contractor - SUPPORT Checchi and Company Consulting, Inc.Kabul, AfghanistanSkype: stacy.c.andersonSkype: +1.

Af Mobile: +93.0.797.28.4036US Mobile: +1. " To understand the world, you must first understand a place like Mississippi. " ~ Faulkner

[Guest guest]

Hi all,I am 39 and obviously getting to the point where I need to decide about the whole children issue.  I want children, but the same issues scare me to death.  I would also appreciate hearing from anyone on this matter........

 

I am 28 years old and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for two years now (that's a completely different stress/story When I discovered that my " noise issues " actually had a name a week ago, I have been questioning whether to even have children or not. I can't imagine possibly passing misophonia on to my future child, and at the same time I worry about what life will be like for my child because of me. Will I be able to watch him or her play baseball because I can't stand when people eat sunflower seeds? Will I be able to have him or her type out their homework on the computer because the sound of the clicking keyboard can drive me insane? I can't go shopping without my ipod cranked up because of the clicking of shoes so how will I be able to enjoy an outing like this with my son or daughter? Or worse yet, what if the noises he or she makes causes me to lash out?

Parents with 4S do you have any advice or comments about your experiences raising a child(ren) while dealing with your sound sensitivity?

-- Field Data ManagerUSAID Contractor - SUPPORT Checchi and Company Consulting, Inc.Kabul, AfghanistanSkype: stacy.c.andersonSkype: +1.

Af Mobile: +93.0.797.28.4036US Mobile: +1. " To understand the world, you must first understand a place like Mississippi. " ~ Faulkner

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I have hypercusis.I have 2 children one is 23 and one is 10yrs.My ear situation affects my 10yr old. It is hard for him b/c there are alot of things i can't do or take him too. He misses out on alot b/c of me. It affects me as well to see that. I have to becareful what sports i put him in b/c i can't be in certian places, b/c of my ears. When he plays base ball i sit far away from the crowds.I can't wait till he gets older so he can do the sports he wants to do , without me. He is not allowed to have any toys that make noise. If he gets any as a gift he has to play with them outside.My whole family has to adjust to my ear problem.My daughter helps out by doing the shopping in the stores i can't go into.My husband has to work long hours to make ends meet b/c i can't work.I have a 7month old grandbaby.It is very hard to be around her b/c she likes to scream, like babies do when they first discover they can. When she cries i have

to leave the room. You should not make a decison upon what others go thur,but it is good that you ask u should make a decsion to have kids with your spouse.Sometimes the joy of having kids out weighs everything else. I sometimes wonder if i were to have a surpise pregancy, what would i do, how would i take care of the child with my condtion.I have had hypercusis for 4yrs now.For me and my family it has been hard.Like my mom says, when someone in the family has an illness no matter what it is, the family has to adjust to the one that has the illness. I wish all the best in whatever decision you make. Email me if you have any more questions

Ann G /central fl

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I have hypercusis.I have 2 children one is 23 and one is 10yrs.My ear situation affects my 10yr old. It is hard for him b/c there are alot of things i can't do or take him too. He misses out on alot b/c of me. It affects me as well to see that. I have to becareful what sports i put him in b/c i can't be in certian places, b/c of my ears. When he plays base ball i sit far away from the crowds.I can't wait till he gets older so he can do the sports he wants to do , without me. He is not allowed to have any toys that make noise. If he gets any as a gift he has to play with them outside.My whole family has to adjust to my ear problem.My daughter helps out by doing the shopping in the stores i can't go into.My husband has to work long hours to make ends meet b/c i can't work.I have a 7month old grandbaby.It is very hard to be around her b/c she likes to scream, like babies do when they first discover they can. When she cries i have

to leave the room. You should not make a decison upon what others go thur,but it is good that you ask u should make a decsion to have kids with your spouse.Sometimes the joy of having kids out weighs everything else. I sometimes wonder if i were to have a surpise pregancy, what would i do, how would i take care of the child with my condtion.I have had hypercusis for 4yrs now.For me and my family it has been hard.Like my mom says, when someone in the family has an illness no matter what it is, the family has to adjust to the one that has the illness. I wish all the best in whatever decision you make. Email me if you have any more questions

Ann G /central fl

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I have hypercusis.I have 2 children one is 23 and one is 10yrs.My ear situation affects my 10yr old. It is hard for him b/c there are alot of things i can't do or take him too. He misses out on alot b/c of me. It affects me as well to see that. I have to becareful what sports i put him in b/c i can't be in certian places, b/c of my ears. When he plays base ball i sit far away from the crowds.I can't wait till he gets older so he can do the sports he wants to do , without me. He is not allowed to have any toys that make noise. If he gets any as a gift he has to play with them outside.My whole family has to adjust to my ear problem.My daughter helps out by doing the shopping in the stores i can't go into.My husband has to work long hours to make ends meet b/c i can't work.I have a 7month old grandbaby.It is very hard to be around her b/c she likes to scream, like babies do when they first discover they can. When she cries i have

to leave the room. You should not make a decison upon what others go thur,but it is good that you ask u should make a decsion to have kids with your spouse.Sometimes the joy of having kids out weighs everything else. I sometimes wonder if i were to have a surpise pregancy, what would i do, how would i take care of the child with my condtion.I have had hypercusis for 4yrs now.For me and my family it has been hard.Like my mom says, when someone in the family has an illness no matter what it is, the family has to adjust to the one that has the illness. I wish all the best in whatever decision you make. Email me if you have any more questions

Ann G /central fl

[Guest guest]

My 17-year-old daughter and I both have 4S. When I mentioned to her that some

people were reluctant to have children because of the risk of passing it on to

their children, she replied that she wouldn't thank me for the 4S, but she

wouldn't go as far as not having children at all! I guess she thinks her life is

worthwhile, despite the 4S.

I know friends with a family history of breast cancer who still have children.

They warned their daughter about the risk of getting breast cancer and the need

to breed while young, but they didn't refuse to have children. And I am glad -

their daughter is one of the loveliest 19-year-olds I know and is considered an

honorary daughter in our family.

Some people also find that they are not sensitive to small children making

sounds - just like we can magically put up with changing babies' diapers (or

nappies as they are called here) when they are our own children.

But I would definitely get a range of people's experiences before making such an

important decision. Now that my daughters are teenagers, they are quite capable

of triggering my 4S, much as I love them. But I wouldn't get rid of them (or my

wife) on account of 4S.

This is not advice, this is just one person's experience.

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> > I am 28 years old and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for

> > two years now (that's a completely different stress/story When I

> > discovered that my " noise issues " actually had a name a week ago, I have

> > been questioning whether to even have children or not. I can't imagine

> > possibly passing misophonia on to my future child, and at the same time I

> > worry about what life will be like for my child because of me. Will I be

> > able to watch him or her play baseball because I can't stand when people eat

> > sunflower seeds? Will I be able to have him or her type out their homework

> > on the computer because the sound of the clicking keyboard can drive me

> > insane? I can't go shopping without my ipod cranked up because of the

> > clicking of shoes so how will I be able to enjoy an outing like this with my

> > son or daughter? Or worse yet, what if the noises he or she makes causes me

> > to lash out?

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> > Parents with 4S do you have any advice or comments about your experiences

> > raising a child(ren) while dealing with your sound sensitivity?

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> Field Data Manager

> USAID Contractor - SUPPORT

> Checchi and Company Consulting, Inc.

> Kabul, Afghanistan

> Skype: stacy.c.anderson

> Skype: +1.

> Af Mobile: +93.0.797.28.4036

> US Mobile: +1.

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> " To understand the world, you must first understand a place like

> Mississippi. " ~ Faulkner

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