Re: Re: Should I feel guilty about this?

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this is my feeling on the subject regarding guilt: we are no different than anyone else with something wrong. If you were blind or deaf, they would make adjustments so you could fully enjoy an experience. They wouldn't take you where they knew you couldn't appreciate it....at least, I don't think they would. maybe. Or if you ahd cancer, they wouldn't take you to some place dirty or if you were in a wheel chair, they wouldn't make you climb stairs...see my point? We make allowances for disabilities. There are whole Acts by congress to accomodate them. Why NOT US?! Why should we be forced into situations that do not suit our own particular disadvantages? If you went somewhere and got a bad migraine, would you have to sit there and smile through dinner or could you say you were in pain and

they'd take you home? I am hypoglycemic and when I have a low blood sugar attack, my employers know that I need to go to the back, eat some sugar, and then I can return to work. But if I was in pain because of a sniffler and needed to walk away b/c of the electric shocks sprinting up and down my nervous system...hell no. I just don't get why our pain can't be recognized as legimitate, crippling pain. So don't feel guilty at all. It's not fair to us. We have a right, every single d*** right to not be subjected to torture. there's a whole Geneva convention for that too!

Tammy

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sat, February 13, 2010 10:35:59 PMSubject: Re: Should I feel guilty about this?

I understand the guilt. I feel it alot, and there have been countless times my parents have tried to take me out or something similar and it ends up being a really bad experience. The best thing is to just not go or go another time. Don't let yourself feel too guilty. >> > No one should feel guilty over something they can't control. You also should not have to subject yourself to something unpleasant just to please people or tradition. If your folks really want to do something for you on your birthdays, they could be a bit more considerate.> > (hugs)> > > > > = M-F.> > > > To: Soundsensitivity@ yahoogroups. com> > From: jessicaiscool92@ ...> > Date: Sat, 13 Feb 2010 20:01:34 +0000> > Subject: Should I feel guilty about this?> > > > Well, tomorrow is my 18th birthday, and my parents were going to take me to a nice restaurant. I never go out to dinner with my family, because of the eating sounds and everything. Except, every year for my birthday, I always go to Kobe's steakhouse with them. I never really enjoy myself, but I do it anyway.> > > > Anyway, they made the reservation a few weeks ago, and I didn't think much about it. But then a few days ago my mom got a cold. (I can't stand the sounds of sick people... (sniffling, the congested voice, etc). And I'm pretty sure my dad is getting it too. I didn't really want to go in the first place and now I REALLY

don't want to go to.> > > > So I told them to either cancel the reservation or go without me. They just canceled it and I feel really guilty now. Should I?> > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _> Your E-mail and More On-the-Go. Get Windows Live Hotmail Free.> http://clk.atdmt. com/GBL/go/ 201469229/ direct/01/>

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Interesting.

Thanks for mentioning that book (second one). I did order it and have been reading it . . .

It's an eye-opener and somehow liberating at the same time . . to have a name and label for it (as much as I hate labels!!)

Subject: Re: Should I feel guilty about this?To: Soundsensitivity Date: Thursday, February 18, 2010, 1:11 PM

Heh after reading "Emotional Blackmail" and "If You Had Controlling Parents" I feel like a fine tuned radar for that sort of person now.> >> > Well, tomorrow is my 18th birthday, and my parents were going to take me to a nice restaurant. I never go out to dinner with my family, because of the eating sounds and everything. Except, every year for my birthday, I always go to Kobe's steakhouse with them. I never really enjoy myself, but I do it anyway.> > > > Anyway, they made the reservation a few weeks ago, and I didn't think much about it. But then a few days ago my mom got a cold. (I can't stand the sounds of sick people... (sniffling, the congested voice, etc). And I'm pretty sure my

dad is getting it too. I didn't really want to go in the first place and now I REALLY don't want to go to.> > > > So I told them to either cancel the reservation or go without me. They just canceled it and I feel really guilty now. Should I?> >>