Re: my response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff

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I totally would have the courage to wear it and talk about it. I need to wear it at work!! The more we talk about this and get it out there the sooner and easier it will be to openly talk about it!! To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sunday, December 4, 2011 9:34 AM Subject: Re: my

response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff

It would! We should have face on the t-shirt with someone chewing with their mouth open, and food falling all over. I really feel it would be a fun way to open up a conversation about our situation. We would need a "marketing" kind of person who has an out going personality, just ready to make conversation and answer questions, would be ideal! ) Before we know it, it will be hip to have misophonia! Just kidding! I know first hand how hard this is. This conversation is the "lighter side of" )To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sun, December 4, 2011 10:36:37 AMSubject: Re: my response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff I was just kidding about the t-shirts. But itWould make for an interesting conversation Piece. Sent from my iPhoneOn Dec 4, 2011, at

5:35 AM, Paris wrote: The t-shirt idea does seem like a cute idea! I wouldn't have the courage to ware it, but I think it would call attention to the situation in a laid back way. To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sat, December 3, 2011 10:35:52 PMSubject: Re: my response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff How about a T-shirt that says...

Hi, my name is _____ and I have Misophonia. Please don't eat, chew gum, snort, breath, tap,twirl you hair,hum,cough or wear flip-flops around me:) Mike To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, December 3, 2011 12:28 PMSubject: my response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff Id have to say that the idea of handing out little cards sounds nice in theory but I don't believe it would be successful. here's why..... giving someone a card that asks them to stop doing something they are doing, and obviously dont think is "wrong", is expecting that when they read the card they will respond how WE expect they

would.WE imagine we would of course say," Oh excuse me , sure I will stop chewing like a gross cow." but that is because WE have a prejudice against that particular behavior. many people dont.Yes ,I understand the thoughts of.. " HOW could they not realize how disgusting that is?!!" ... but they dont.Peoples' truth is based on their beliefs, whether they be conscious or subconscious.and heres the tough part... they may stop some times, but not all times..and when they dont... the feelings of rage and anger will get WORSE for you!Our condition is in our mind, not in our ears. It is a combination of the way we are hardwired, chemically or neurologically AND a conditioned response.WE have control issues. Whether our condition stems from feeling out of control as children or if our feelings of fear/safety/acceptance and lack thereof are the catalyst for our condition it is impossible to say at this

point.What i can say is that the most effective way to handle other people is to begin cultivating the belief that they are not "wrong,bad" for what they do.. just that they are different, and that is OK.Instilling that belief over and over again helps with the initial rush of rage when confronted with a gum chewer or feet shuffler or any other "offender" after that , since there doesn't seem to be a total cure yet, ear plugs are very handy and so is escape.<3

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I totally would have the courage to wear it and talk about it. I need to wear it at work!! The more we talk about this and get it out there the sooner and easier it will be to openly talk about it!! To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Sunday, December 4, 2011 9:34 AM Subject: Re: my

response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff

It would! We should have face on the t-shirt with someone chewing with their mouth open, and food falling all over. I really feel it would be a fun way to open up a conversation about our situation. We would need a "marketing" kind of person who has an out going personality, just ready to make conversation and answer questions, would be ideal! ) Before we know it, it will be hip to have misophonia! Just kidding! I know first hand how hard this is. This conversation is the "lighter side of" )To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sun, December 4, 2011 10:36:37 AMSubject: Re: my response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff I was just kidding about the t-shirts. But itWould make for an interesting conversation Piece. Sent from my iPhoneOn Dec 4, 2011, at

5:35 AM, Paris wrote: The t-shirt idea does seem like a cute idea! I wouldn't have the courage to ware it, but I think it would call attention to the situation in a laid back way. To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Sat, December 3, 2011 10:35:52 PMSubject: Re: my response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff How about a T-shirt that says...

Hi, my name is _____ and I have Misophonia. Please don't eat, chew gum, snort, breath, tap,twirl you hair,hum,cough or wear flip-flops around me:) Mike To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, December 3, 2011 12:28 PMSubject: my response to the idea of handing out cards...and stuff Id have to say that the idea of handing out little cards sounds nice in theory but I don't believe it would be successful. here's why..... giving someone a card that asks them to stop doing something they are doing, and obviously dont think is "wrong", is expecting that when they read the card they will respond how WE expect they

would.WE imagine we would of course say," Oh excuse me , sure I will stop chewing like a gross cow." but that is because WE have a prejudice against that particular behavior. many people dont.Yes ,I understand the thoughts of.. " HOW could they not realize how disgusting that is?!!" ... but they dont.Peoples' truth is based on their beliefs, whether they be conscious or subconscious.and heres the tough part... they may stop some times, but not all times..and when they dont... the feelings of rage and anger will get WORSE for you!Our condition is in our mind, not in our ears. It is a combination of the way we are hardwired, chemically or neurologically AND a conditioned response.WE have control issues. Whether our condition stems from feeling out of control as children or if our feelings of fear/safety/acceptance and lack thereof are the catalyst for our condition it is impossible to say at this

point.What i can say is that the most effective way to handle other people is to begin cultivating the belief that they are not "wrong,bad" for what they do.. just that they are different, and that is OK.Instilling that belief over and over again helps with the initial rush of rage when confronted with a gum chewer or feet shuffler or any other "offender" after that , since there doesn't seem to be a total cure yet, ear plugs are very handy and so is escape.<3