Re: Gifts

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I agree that this is no gift to me or anyone else. I often wish that my hearing would start to go. No one really believes how it effects me. They just think I should get over it.

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I searched for wireless earbud alternatives to the audiologist type. The least obtrusive I saw were the Sony sson HBH-IS800, Plantronics BackBeat 903, and Plantronics Backbeat Go. All have a single wire that runs from ear-to-ear, and some route this behind your neck. None of these are noise canceling but might be OK if they seal tightly. Perhaps other people here have found better options.

From: Pam Cavaleri

Sent: Sunday, June 10, 2012 11:04 AM

To: Soundsensitivity

Subject: Gifts

I do not consider the absolute hell that I have lived in for 50 years to be a gift, it is pure torture for me. I am not sure that you have misophonia if you are able to deal with the trigger sounds. If it is true that you have misophonia and can live with your gifts I am happy for you, honestly. The only thing that I have found helpful for my trigger sounds at work and at home is pink noise. I wish I could find wireless ear buds because my boss does not like me using the ear buds with the cord. I have not told him about misophonia yet, I am waiting to tell him until I have a solution such as sound generators / white noise from my audioligist. Pam

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I don,t know who you're directing your message to but if it's me, you clearly did not understand what the 'GIFT' refers to. IF you are referring to me, I will clarify: By gift , I mean 'being able to tune into the information (usually nonverbal) expressed by others. IN OTHER WORDS' I CAN SIZE PEOPLE UP VERY QUICKLY. This has absolutely nothing to do with misophonia. Quite frankly, I don't think that you are in any position to judge whether or not I have misophonia based on a comment that you have clearly misinerpreted. My sensitivities and keen sense of intuition (feelings) and not misophonia have helped me avoid getting involved in many potentially bad situations (in relationships or in

business).Margaret To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Sunday, June 10, 2012 6:04:49 PM Subject: Gifts

I do not consider the absolute hell that I have lived in for 50 years to be a gift, it is pure torture for me. I am not sure that you have misophonia if you are able to deal with the trigger sounds. If it is true that you have misophonia and can live with your gifts I am happy for you, honestly. The only thing that I have found helpful for my trigger sounds at work and at home is pink noise. I wish I could find wireless ear buds because my boss does not like me using the ear buds with the cord. I have not told him about misophonia yet, I am waiting to tell him until I have a solution such as sound generators / white noise from my audioligist.

Pam

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I'm glad you clarified, Margaret, because I missed what "gift" was referring to also, and couldn't figure out how misophonia could be a gift. I was wishing I could figure out how to convince myself that it was! ;-)

Missy in Nashvillewww.miniaturehome.comwww.bothsidesofthelamppost.blogspot.comwww.facebook.com/MiniatureHomeDollhousePetitpoint

I don,t know who you're directing your message to but if it's me, you clearly did not understand what the 'GIFT' refers to. IF you are referring to me, I will clarify: By gift , I mean 'being able to tune into the information (usually nonverbal) expressed by others. IN OTHER WORDS' I CAN SIZE PEOPLE UP VERY QUICKLY. This has absolutely nothing to do with misophonia.

Quite frankly, I don't think that you are in any position to judge whether or not I have misophonia based on a comment that you have clearly misinerpreted. My sensitivities and keen sense of intuition (feelings) and not misophonia have helped me avoid getting involved in many potentially bad situations (in relationships or in business).

Margaret

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Margaret, I knew you were referring to all around heightened sensitivity, as I also consider mine to be a gift. I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others. I remember describing myself to a psychologist once (thirty years ago) as "feeling things a lot more deeply than other people do". I see more, hear more, remember more, and think about things longer. These are gifts. The one sensitivity that bothers me occasionally & selectively is my sound processing. Often, though, I am thankful to be aware of the many, many, pleasant sounds around me.

I'm glad you clarified, Margaret, because I missed what "gift" was referring to also, and couldn't figure out how misophonia could be a gift. I was wishing I could figure out how to convince myself that it was! ;-)

Missy in Nashvillewww.miniaturehome.comwww.bothsidesofthelamppost.blogspot.comwww.facebook.com/MiniatureHomeDollhousePetitpoint

I don,t know who you're directing your message to but if it's me, you clearly did not understand what the 'GIFT' refers to. IF you are referring to me, I will clarify: By gift , I mean 'being able to tune into the information (usually nonverbal) expressed by others. IN OTHER WORDS' I CAN SIZE PEOPLE UP VERY QUICKLY. This has absolutely nothing to do with misophonia.

Quite frankly, I don't think that you are in any position to judge whether or not I have misophonia based on a comment that you have clearly misinerpreted. My sensitivities and keen sense of intuition (feelings) and not misophonia have helped me avoid getting involved in many potentially bad situations (in relationships or in business).

Margaret

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There's a great website where you can take a test to see if you are a highly sensitive person of which I am and I absolutely consider it a positive attribute, just wish I didn't have Miso on top of it.http://www.hsperson.com/pages/test.htmHeidiSent from my iPhoneReal Results. Real science. Age-Defying Skin. www.heidisalerno.nerium.comHappy Dancing!www.jitterbal.comOn Jun 10, 2012, at 10:07 PM, Beth wrote:

Margaret, I knew you were referring to all around heightened sensitivity, as I also consider mine to be a gift. I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others. I remember describing myself to a psychologist once (thirty years ago) as "feeling things a lot more deeply than other people do". I see more, hear more, remember more, and think about things longer. These are gifts. The one sensitivity that bothers me occasionally & selectively is my sound processing. Often, though, I am thankful to be aware of the many, many, pleasant sounds around me.

I'm glad you clarified, Margaret, because I missed what "gift" was referring to also, and couldn't figure out how misophonia could be a gift. I was wishing I could figure out how to convince myself that it was! ;-)

Missy in Nashvillewww.miniaturehome.comwww.bothsidesofthelamppost.blogspot.comwww.facebook.com/MiniatureHomeDollhousePetitpoint

I don,t know who you're directing your message to but if it's me, you clearly did not understand what the 'GIFT' refers to. IF you are referring to me, I will clarify: By gift , I mean 'being able to tune into the information (usually nonverbal) expressed by others. IN OTHER WORDS' I CAN SIZE PEOPLE UP VERY QUICKLY. This has absolutely nothing to do with misophonia.

Quite frankly, I don't think that you are in any position to judge whether or not I have misophonia based on a comment that you have clearly misinerpreted. My sensitivities and keen sense of intuition (feelings) and not misophonia have helped me avoid getting involved in many potentially bad situations (in relationships or in business).

Margaret

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Hi Beth, I believe your comment 'I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others' states it perfectly. I also always wondered why it was that I would see into a situation or sense something way before anyone else would. I always thought it was a CURSE because I felt so isolated up until I was told by a professional that I am simply an ultra sensitive person. Now, I try to dwell on the positive that this 'gift' has to offer. I AM NOT GOING TO CANGE anytime soon, (that's how I'm wired) so I have decided to dwell on the positive that my personality can offer. Of course, as with anything, there are pluses and minuses. The misophonia is a DEFINATE minus; however, as you state very eloquently , ' I see more, hear more,

remember more, and think about things longer'. I think that as an ultrasensitive person, I can detect and process stimuli to the max. I feel the highs and lows very profoundly. Ironically, that's the beauty of being ultrasensitive - live and feel everything to the max.Margaret To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, June 11, 2012 1:07:04 AM Subject:

Re: Gifts

Margaret, I knew you were referring to all around heightened sensitivity, as I also consider mine to be a gift. I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others. I remember describing myself to a psychologist once (thirty years ago) as "feeling things a lot more deeply than other people do". I see more, hear more, remember more, and think about things longer. These are gifts. The one sensitivity that bothers me occasionally & selectively is my sound processing. Often, though, I am thankful to be aware of the many, many, pleasant sounds around me.

I'm glad you clarified, Margaret, because I missed what "gift" was referring to also, and couldn't figure out how misophonia could be a gift. I was wishing I could figure out how to convince myself that it was! ;-)

Missy in Nashvillewww.miniaturehome.comwww.bothsidesofthelamppost.blogspot.comwww.facebook.com/MiniatureHomeDollhousePetitpoint

I don,t know who you're directing your message to but if it's me, you clearly did not understand what the 'GIFT' refers to. IF you are referring to me, I will clarify: By gift , I mean 'being able to tune into the information (usually nonverbal) expressed by others. IN OTHER WORDS' I CAN SIZE PEOPLE UP VERY QUICKLY. This has absolutely nothing to do with misophonia.

Quite frankly, I don't think that you are in any position to judge whether or not I have misophonia based on a comment that you have clearly misinerpreted. My sensitivities and keen sense of intuition (feelings) and not misophonia have helped me avoid getting involved in many potentially bad situations (in relationships or in business).

Margaret

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Amen. I believe there is both good and bad in everything. If I'm able (and it's a big IF), I'll look for and enjoy the good.

Hi Beth, I believe your comment 'I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others' states it perfectly. I also always wondered why it was that I would see into a situation or sense something way before anyone else would. I always thought it was a CURSE because I felt so isolated up until I was told by a professional that I am simply an ultra sensitive person. Now, I try to dwell on the positive that this 'gift' has to offer. I AM NOT GOING TO CANGE anytime soon, (that's how I'm wired) so I have decided to dwell on the positive that my personality can offer. Of course, as with anything, there are pluses and minuses. The misophonia is a DEFINATE minus; however, as you state very eloquently , ' I see more, hear more,

remember more, and think about things longer'. I think that as an ultrasensitive person, I can detect and process stimuli to the max. I feel the highs and lows very profoundly. Ironically, that's the beauty of being ultrasensitive - live and feel everything to the max.Margaret To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, June 11, 2012 1:07:04 AM Subject:

Re: Gifts

Margaret, I knew you were referring to all around heightened sensitivity, as I also consider mine to be a gift. I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others. I remember describing myself to a psychologist once (thirty years ago) as "feeling things a lot more deeply than other people do". I see more, hear more, remember more, and think about things longer. These are gifts. The one sensitivity that bothers me occasionally & selectively is my sound processing. Often, though, I am thankful to be aware of the many, many, pleasant sounds around me.

I'm glad you clarified, Margaret, because I missed what "gift" was referring to also, and couldn't figure out how misophonia could be a gift. I was wishing I could figure out how to convince myself that it was! ;-)

Missy in Nashvillewww.miniaturehome.comwww.bothsidesofthelamppost.blogspot.comwww.facebook.com/MiniatureHomeDollhousePetitpoint

I don,t know who you're directing your message to but if it's me, you clearly did not understand what the 'GIFT' refers to. IF you are referring to me, I will clarify: By gift , I mean 'being able to tune into the information (usually nonverbal) expressed by others. IN OTHER WORDS' I CAN SIZE PEOPLE UP VERY QUICKLY. This has absolutely nothing to do with misophonia.

Quite frankly, I don't think that you are in any position to judge whether or not I have misophonia based on a comment that you have clearly misinerpreted. My sensitivities and keen sense of intuition (feelings) and not misophonia have helped me avoid getting involved in many potentially bad situations (in relationships or in business).

Margaret

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I don't care if I'm the " odd man out " and nobody agrees--I am going to state my opinion anyway.I understand that the gift was not meant in the way the first poster thought.

That being said, even if someone comes out and says " misophonia has been a gift to me " , who are ANY of us to judge and say that that person does or does not have misophonia?I'm 26 years old. I have a lot of chronic health problems. Peripheral neuropathy (axonal sensory-predominant PN) and POTS (postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome) are the main two problems. I also struggle with degenerative disc disease, spondylolisthesis, arthritis, polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) with insulin resistance, allergies, hyperacusis, misophonia, only one good kidney, and others. I've had 8 surgeries in the past 3 years--two of them being surgeries with 3-6 month recovery times.

I am bedridden 90%+ of the time (day and night). I get up to go to the bathroom, go to the doctor, and if I am lucky--to get out of the house to run an errand or have fun for an hour once a week.I have a LOT of health problems and very severe chronic, intractable pain.

Do I like it? No. Do I wish my life was different? Heck yes. But have I found positives? Blessings? GIFTS, dare I say--from all of these horrid conditions? Absolutely.Maybe part of it has to do with my faith and my ability to reach out to people who are hurting and scared and confused... people who are getting diagnosed with things and learning that life will NEVER be the same again... while I hate to have to deal with this pain and illness and so on, I CHOOSE to focus as much as I can on the positives. Having this mess of medical problems has taken a lot away from me--but it has given me things, too.

And if anyone dare came to my face and told me that just because I see the positives (the gifts) in these awful conditions, they don't exist... heaven help you!Seriously.. that is not for anyone else to judge.

This is NOT directed at any person in particular.. or even a group of people.. it's just my thoughts on what I've read in this thread.---------------------------------------------------------

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" Hope is more than a word; it's a state of being. It's a firm belief God will come through. Life brings rain... hope turns every drop into the power to bloom like never before. " -Holley Gerth ♥

 

Amen. I believe there is both good and bad in everything. If I'm able (and it's a big IF), I'll look for and enjoy the good.

 

Hi Beth, I believe your comment   'I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others' states it perfectly.  I also always wondered why it was that  I would see into a situation or sense something way before anyone else would.  I always thought it was a CURSE because I felt so isolated up until I was told by a professional that I am  simply an ultra sensitive person.  Now, I try to dwell on the positive that this 'gift' has to offer. 

I AM NOT GOING TO CANGE anytime soon, (that's how I'm wired) so I have decided to dwell on the positive that my personality can offer.  Of course, as with anything, there are pluses and minuses. The misophonia  is a DEFINATE minus; however, as you state very eloquently ,  '  I see more, hear more,

remember more, and think about things longer'.  I think that as an ultrasensitive person, I can detect and process stimuli to the max.   I feel the highs and lows very profoundly.   Ironically, that's the beauty of being ultrasensitive - live and feel everything to the max.

Margaret

To: " Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >

Sent: Monday, June 11, 2012 1:07:04 AM Subject:

Re: Gifts

 

Margaret, I knew you were referring to all around heightened sensitivity, as I also consider mine to be a gift. I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others. I remember describing myself to a psychologist once (thirty years ago) as " feeling things a lot more deeply than other people do " . I see more, hear more, remember more, and think about things longer. These are gifts. The one sensitivity that bothers me occasionally & selectively is my sound processing. Often, though, I am thankful to be aware of the many, many, pleasant sounds around me.

 

I'm glad you clarified, Margaret, because I missed what " gift " was referring to also, and couldn't figure out how misophonia could be a gift.  I was wishing I could figure out how to convince myself that it was!  ;-)

 

Missy in Nashvillewww.miniaturehome.comwww.bothsidesofthelamppost.blogspot.com

www.facebook.com/MiniatureHomeDollhousePetitpoint

 

I don,t know who you're directing your message to but if it's me, you clearly did not understand what the 'GIFT' refers to.  IF you are referring to me, I will clarify:  By gift , I mean 'being able to tune into the information (usually nonverbal) expressed by others. IN OTHER WORDS' I CAN SIZE PEOPLE UP VERY QUICKLY.  This has absolutely nothing to do with misophonia. 

Quite frankly, I don't think that you are in any position to judge whether or not I have misophonia based on a comment that you have clearly misinerpreted. My sensitivities and keen sense of intuition (feelings) and not misophonia have helped me avoid getting involved in many potentially bad situations (in relationships or in business).

Margaret  

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I agree 100% with this. I think the disagreement or misunderstanding may come in the difference between saying that an illness or pain itself is the gift, as opposed to saying that there are gifts that can be found amidst the pain or suffering - that is, the pain or suffering itself is not the gift, but the ability to empathize with others who are suffering as a result of one's own experience is certainly a gift.

There are almost always blessings to be found amidst suffering, but that doesn't necessarily mean the suffering itself is a gift. People who are suffering tent do be very sensitive to that difference.

Missy in Nashville

Do I like it? No. Do I wish my life was different? Heck yes. But have I found positives? Blessings? GIFTS, dare I say--from all of these horrid conditions? Absolutely.

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Yes.. but for me, I guess, they mix and mingle and one becomes the other. Maybe it's just me and maybe it's because several of my conditions are so severe.. but the majority of the gifts that these conditions have brought me are things that I wouldn't have experienced through any other combination of trials (that I am aware of). If I had cancer, things would be different. If I lost my parents, things would be different... these specific conditions have brought on blessings very very specific to the conditions, so while I don't like the conditions, it is very hard for me to separate the two because the blessings wouldn't come without the conditions. If that makes sense...

Trust me when I say that I'd still give nearly anything (I wouldn't give up my faith or my family or my cats.. but just about anything else!) to go back in time and change my health! I've had moderate chronic pain since I was 8ish and severe chronic pain since college and I absolutely hate being stuck in bed all the time. I want to live a 'normal' 26 year old life--have a job or go to graduate school or have a family or do something with my life.

But again--things are so tangled that as much as I hate the bad--I wouldn't have a lot of the good without the bad.The biggest example I can think of right now (and I have an infection post-surgery so my brain isn't doing so well right now) is that because I am unable to care for myself, I live at home with my mom. She was a single mom from before I was born and while we have always been close, our relationship has changed SO much in the last 3 years when I have had to depend on her for basic things like helping me shower! There aren't many health problems out there that would be so severe that I would have to move home and have my mom be my caregiver.. but when you add all 10+ of my conditions together, that is what I need--and I am VERY grateful for how my relationship with my mom has evolved in the last 3 years. We have always been close, but not like we are now...

(By the way, when I said if someone dared to tell me to my face that my conditions aren't real because I see the gifts from them--I was not at all leaning towards violence. I'd never (purposely) hurt someone. I reread that and realized it could have been taken that way. They would just get a big old ear full!

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♥

" Hope is more than a word; it's a state of being. It's a firm belief God will come through. Life brings rain... hope turns every drop into the power to bloom like never before. " -Holley Gerth ♥

 

I agree 100% with this.  I think the disagreement or misunderstanding may come in the difference between saying that an illness or pain itself is the gift, as opposed to saying that there are gifts that can be found amidst the pain or suffering - that is, the pain or suffering itself is not the gift, but the ability to empathize with others who are suffering as a result of one's own experience is certainly a gift.

 

There are almost always blessings to be found amidst suffering, but that doesn't necessarily mean the suffering itself is a gift.  People who are suffering tent do be very sensitive to that difference.

 

Missy in Nashville

 

Do I like it? No. Do I wish my life was different? Heck yes. But have I found positives? Blessings? GIFTS, dare I say--from all of these horrid conditions? Absolutely.

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,I commend you for speaking your mind. I also applaud the fact that, in spite of your malaises, you can see the positive side to things. I think that it is so much easier to go through life angry, miserable and to blame everyone and everything. I don't think anyone on this board has actually alluded to the fact that having misophonia is a gift. However, as you state, there are positives in many situations. I think that we have to make the choice of how we cope as best we could in a situation.You are a perfect example of what I mean. You've decided to look

at the positive, in spite of your situation. I know that it's easier to shed the blame elsewhere when things aren't going right, ie; physically, emotionally, etc. I've been there many, many times. I just became fed up of being angry and miserable. I wish I'd have had your wisdom at 26 years old, my dear; I could have saved myself a heck of misery for several years., you truly are an inspiration. I like your courage and determination. You say it as it is.Good luck dear,Margaret To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Tuesday, June 12, 2012 6:56:52 PM Subject: Re: Gifts

I don't care if I'm the "odd man out" and nobody agrees--I am going to state my opinion anyway.I understand that the gift was not meant in the way the first poster thought.

That being said, even if someone comes out and says "misophonia has been a gift to me", who are ANY of us to judge and say that that person does or does not have misophonia?I'm 26 years old. I have a lot of chronic health problems. Peripheral neuropathy (axonal sensory-predominant PN) and POTS (postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome) are the main two problems. I also struggle with degenerative disc disease, spondylolisthesis, arthritis, polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) with insulin resistance, allergies, hyperacusis, misophonia, only one good kidney, and others. I've had 8 surgeries in the past 3 years--two of

them being surgeries with 3-6 month recovery times.

I am bedridden 90%+ of the time (day and night). I get up to go to the bathroom, go to the doctor, and if I am lucky--to get out of the house to run an errand or have fun for an hour once a week.I have a LOT of health problems and very severe chronic, intractable pain.

Do I like it? No. Do I wish my life was different? Heck yes. But have I found positives? Blessings? GIFTS, dare I say--from all of these horrid conditions? Absolutely.Maybe part of it has to do with my faith and my ability to reach out to people who are hurting and scared and confused... people who are getting diagnosed with things and learning that life will NEVER be the same again... while I hate to have to deal with this pain and illness and so on, I CHOOSE to focus as much as I can on the positives. Having this mess of medical problems has taken a lot away from me--but it has given me things, too.

And if anyone dare came to my face and told me that just because I see the positives (the gifts) in these awful conditions, they don't exist... heaven help you!Seriously.. that is not for anyone else to judge.

This is NOT directed at any person in particular.. or even a group of people.. it's just my thoughts on what I've read in this thread.---------------------------------------------------------

♥

"Hope is more than a word; it's a state of being. It's a firm belief God will come through. Life brings rain... hope turns every drop into the power to bloom like never before." -Holley Gerth ♥

Amen. I believe there is both good and bad in everything. If I'm able (and it's a big IF), I'll look for and enjoy the good.

Hi Beth, I believe your comment 'I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others' states it perfectly. I also always wondered why it was that I would see into a situation or sense something way before anyone else would. I always thought it was a CURSE because I felt so isolated up until I was told by a professional that I am simply an ultra sensitive person. Now, I try to dwell on the positive that this 'gift' has to offer.

I AM NOT GOING TO CANGE anytime soon, (that's how I'm wired) so I have decided to dwell on the positive that my personality can offer. Of course, as with anything, there are pluses and minuses. The misophonia is a DEFINATE minus; however, as you state very eloquently , ' I see more, hear more,

remember more, and think about things longer'. I think that as an ultrasensitive person, I can detect and process stimuli to the max. I feel the highs and lows very profoundly. Ironically, that's the beauty of being ultrasensitive - live and feel everything to the max.

Margaret

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >

Sent: Monday, June 11, 2012 1:07:04 AM Subject:

Re: Gifts

Margaret, I knew you were referring to all around heightened sensitivity, as I also consider mine to be a gift. I am aware of so many things that go unnoticed by others. I remember describing myself to a psychologist once (thirty years ago) as "feeling things a lot more deeply than other people do". I see more, hear more, remember more, and think about things longer. These are gifts. The one sensitivity that bothers me occasionally & selectively is my sound processing. Often, though, I am thankful to be aware of the many, many, pleasant sounds around me.

I'm glad you clarified, Margaret, because I missed what "gift" was referring to also, and couldn't figure out how misophonia could be a gift. I was wishing I could figure out how to convince myself that it was! ;-)

Missy in Nashvillewww.miniaturehome.comwww.bothsidesofthelamppost.blogspot.com

www.facebook.com/MiniatureHomeDollhousePetitpoint

I don,t know who you're directing your message to but if it's me, you clearly did not understand what the 'GIFT' refers to. IF you are referring to me, I will clarify: By gift , I mean 'being able to tune into the information (usually nonverbal) expressed by others. IN OTHER WORDS' I CAN SIZE PEOPLE UP VERY QUICKLY. This has absolutely nothing to do with misophonia.

Quite frankly, I don't think that you are in any position to judge whether or not I have misophonia based on a comment that you have clearly misinerpreted. My sensitivities and keen sense of intuition (feelings) and not misophonia have helped me avoid getting involved in many potentially bad situations (in relationships or in business).

Margaret

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