When your spouse doesn't understand.

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I just found this group and cannot express how thrilled I am to not be the only

one out there with this problem.

Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with your spouse regarding these

issues? I have quite a few trigger sounds that enrage me and I have a very

difficult time calming myself down. My spouse does several of these triggers on

a daily basis. I've tried speaking with her and explaining how I feel inside

when this happens and how it's not something I can easily control, and I don't

want to " freak out " in front of her.

Explaining this to her calmly just annoys her and she responds with " is this

another thing I can't do? Why don't you just get over it. " Also " just get over

it " is one of my triggers. So that doesn't help at all.

I find it so hurtful that she doesn't have any compassion for me with this

illness. I don't expect her to know about the condition and I certainly don't

expect her to understand it, but I would like her to acknowledge it and give me

a little wiggle room now and again.

I've tried therapy, medication, hypnosis but nothing has worked. Actually no

therapist or psychiatrist has ever diagnosed me, they just have never heard of

this condition before and have treated me for OCD.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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