Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

November 5, 2011

Trust me you are not alone. At 53 yrs. old I still don't understand it

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, November 5, 2011 5:09 PMSubject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

I'm so sorry about your childhood.I my case I had a very happy childhood and I suspect my dislike of certain sounds is not as severe as some people because of that. Of course, I have no proof whatsoever. To my knowledge no one has done a study of this yet.I recall being really annoyed with snoring as a child. As the only people I heard snoring were my family - whom I liked - it was only the noise I hated.As an adult I mostly get annoyed if I hear a noise while I have to be "doing" something. Like, if my mother whispers (while she prays) and I am trying to concentrate on driving. Wow, do I ever HATE that!But I love my mommy. :)I think part of the issue is that I can't remove myself from the noise and I can't remove the noise from me. So the frustration increases.But, it's not the person making the noise. Of course, if I knew a person who made noises knowing it was rude or annoying it would just make it

worse.>> I am 44 and have had misophonia since I was small and mine was due to a stressful and abuse-filled childhood. I have done things like counseling, hypnotherapy, EMDR, meditation, etc. to get rid of my annoyance at mouth noises. Something that has worked well in the past is Lovingkindness Meditation. I should get back to it, in case it can help me more if I keep at it longer. > Are any of you like me where your annoyance depends on the person, but it is still genuine annoyance?>

November 7, 2011

yes,it does. It also depends on how i am feeling about that person at the time, combined with how i am feeling personally at the time. being tired makes it much worse , as does being hungry.

I have also been around people who i find calming and that influence extends to my triggers, and it works the opposit too. people whom i find difficult will exasperate my triggers.

its all very interesting and i think some doctor of brain chemistry or psycology is going to have a field day some day when they finally get around to studying our condition.

it is very complex and variable , but we also have much much in common. fascinating.

Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Date: Saturday, November 5, 2011, 3:01 PM

Trust me you are not alone. At 53 yrs. old I still don't understand it

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, November 5, 2011 5:09 PMSubject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

I'm so sorry about your childhood.I my case I had a very happy childhood and I suspect my dislike of certain sounds is not as severe as some people because of that. Of course, I have no proof whatsoever. To my knowledge no one has done a study of this yet.I recall being really annoyed with snoring as a child. As the only people I heard snoring were my family - whom I liked - it was only the noise I hated.As an adult I mostly get annoyed if I hear a noise while I have to be "doing" something. Like, if my mother whispers (while she prays) and I am trying to concentrate on driving. Wow, do I ever HATE that!But I love my mommy. :)I think part of the issue is that I can't remove myself from the noise and I can't remove the noise from me. So the frustration increases.But, it's not the person making the noise. Of course, if I knew a person who made noises knowing it was rude or annoying it would just make it

worse.>> I am 44 and have had misophonia since I was small and mine was due to a stressful and abuse-filled childhood. I have done things like counseling, hypnotherapy, EMDR, meditation, etc. to get rid of my annoyance at mouth noises. Something that has worked well in the past is Lovingkindness Meditation. I should get back to it, in case it can help me more if I keep at it longer. > Are any of you like me where your annoyance depends on the person, but it is still genuine annoyance?>

November 13, 2011

My triggers are noisy eaters in movies and screaming children. I have really cut back on my movie going, so that's my coping mechanism, but when we do go, we attempt to sit where no one is behind us. It's successful sometimes, but not always. I would say that quantity does mean more triggering for me.

In the case of screaming children, it happens at work (a library), so it is a daily occurrence. If I am shopping and I'm feeling irritated about noise, I usually cut my shopping short and leave. I recently learned of an app called SimplyNoise, so I downloaded that and listen to white or brown noise for 5 minutes or so before I am out on the public floor. I've done that for just a few days, so the jury isn't quite in on that yet, but I AM trying.

EXCELLENT QUESTION.

I would be very interested in how much exposure we have to those who trigger us the most. Does more and repeated exposure mean more triggering?

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> > > > I am 44 and have had misophonia since I was small and mine was due to a stressful and abuse-filled childhood. I have done things like counseling, hypnotherapy, EMDR, meditation, etc. to get rid of my annoyance at mouth noises. Something that has worked well in the past is Lovingkindness Meditation. I should get back to it, in case it can help me more if I keep at it longer.

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November 17, 2011

We've talked about the "honeymoon" stage of people we date and they don't trigger us for awhile. What is utter fascinating to me is when I first start dating someone I tell myself to pay attention to how they eat so I don't later get annoyed. Then the meal starts and at the end I try to recollect and it's as though they hadn't eaten a bite. I cannot conjure up not one memory of their eating. Fascinating! The only caveats are: 1) super gross eating, and 2) I don't really like them that much anyway, under those conditions I notice their eating. It's like the oxytocin that comes with infatuation renders me entirely deaf to their chewing. It's absolutely amazing!!!HeidiSent from my iPhone

EXCELLENT QUESTION.

I would be very interested in how much exposure we have to those who trigger us the most. Does more and repeated exposure mean more triggering?

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> > > > I am 44 and have had misophonia since I was small and mine was due to a stressful and abuse-filled childhood. I have done things like counseling, hypnotherapy, EMDR, meditation, etc. to get rid of my annoyance at mouth noises. Something that has worked well in the past is Lovingkindness Meditation. I should get back to it, in case it can help me more if I keep at it longer.

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> > > > Are any of you like me where your annoyance depends on the person, but it is still genuine annoyance?

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November 17, 2011

We've talked about the "honeymoon" stage of people we date and they don't trigger us for awhile. What is utter fascinating to me is when I first start dating someone I tell myself to pay attention to how they eat so I don't later get annoyed. Then the meal starts and at the end I try to recollect and it's as though they hadn't eaten a bite. I cannot conjure up not one memory of their eating. Fascinating! The only caveats are: 1) super gross eating, and 2) I don't really like them that much anyway, under those conditions I notice their eating. It's like the oxytocin that comes with infatuation renders me entirely deaf to their chewing. It's absolutely amazing!!!HeidiSent from my iPhone

EXCELLENT QUESTION.

I would be very interested in how much exposure we have to those who trigger us the most. Does more and repeated exposure mean more triggering?

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> > > > I am 44 and have had misophonia since I was small and mine was due to a stressful and abuse-filled childhood. I have done things like counseling, hypnotherapy, EMDR, meditation, etc. to get rid of my annoyance at mouth noises. Something that has worked well in the past is Lovingkindness Meditation. I should get back to it, in case it can help me more if I keep at it longer.

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> > > > Are any of you like me where your annoyance depends on the person, but it is still genuine annoyance?

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November 18, 2011

I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more. But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds??? I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PMSubject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind. This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

November 18, 2011

I definitely agree that the people closest to me bother me more, especially when I live with them because there is no escape. It is that feeling of being trapped with the sound that is the worst - I set up my life so I can escape as quickly as possible (earphones on me all the time). When I have a house guest then they annoy me immediately, and it's terrible. I feel so guilty and then angry and then guilty again. My sister came to stay with me because she was in trouble and she knows about my misophonia (we shared a room as kids when it all began and she is still traumatized by my angry reaction to her snoring) - and even though I wanted to look after her as she needed help, I could barely look at her when she

scraped her fork on her teeth or hummed unconsciously. I prefer it, even if we live together, if we spend time together outside of the house, and no matter how tired I am after work, I will suggest we go out to a cafe so that I can contain my rage (a quiet cafe) and then when we go home, I can go to my room guilt free.My boyfriend's noises don't bother me, thank god - he sometimes breathes heavily so I imitate his breathing and he stops. Or when he sucks his teeth after eating (a very Indonesian habit - he is Indonesian - and the reason I hate going out to local restaurants) I look at him and he says sorry and because he reacts in a nice way to my craziness, I can calm down. Luckily for me he is an extremely patient and kind

man and very tolerant. When he puts his hand over my ear as soon as the dog next door starts barking, I just love him so much. I think that when you have misophonia,, or the fact that someone is quiet, chews quietly, doesn't snore etc, and then the fact that they take it seriously and really try to understand, is enough for them not to enter the "everything you do makes me feel crazy" stage, like I have with my dad. It's a shame because I love my dad so much, but I just can't be around him to eat with him, or drink - cause he is a slurper.From: Paris

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:51 PM Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more. But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds??? I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PMSubject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind. This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

November 18, 2011

I definitely agree that the people closest to me bother me more, especially when I live with them because there is no escape. It is that feeling of being trapped with the sound that is the worst - I set up my life so I can escape as quickly as possible (earphones on me all the time). When I have a house guest then they annoy me immediately, and it's terrible. I feel so guilty and then angry and then guilty again. My sister came to stay with me because she was in trouble and she knows about my misophonia (we shared a room as kids when it all began and she is still traumatized by my angry reaction to her snoring) - and even though I wanted to look after her as she needed help, I could barely look at her when she

scraped her fork on her teeth or hummed unconsciously. I prefer it, even if we live together, if we spend time together outside of the house, and no matter how tired I am after work, I will suggest we go out to a cafe so that I can contain my rage (a quiet cafe) and then when we go home, I can go to my room guilt free.My boyfriend's noises don't bother me, thank god - he sometimes breathes heavily so I imitate his breathing and he stops. Or when he sucks his teeth after eating (a very Indonesian habit - he is Indonesian - and the reason I hate going out to local restaurants) I look at him and he says sorry and because he reacts in a nice way to my craziness, I can calm down. Luckily for me he is an extremely patient and kind

man and very tolerant. When he puts his hand over my ear as soon as the dog next door starts barking, I just love him so much. I think that when you have misophonia,, or the fact that someone is quiet, chews quietly, doesn't snore etc, and then the fact that they take it seriously and really try to understand, is enough for them not to enter the "everything you do makes me feel crazy" stage, like I have with my dad. It's a shame because I love my dad so much, but I just can't be around him to eat with him, or drink - cause he is a slurper.From: Paris

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:51 PM Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more. But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds??? I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PMSubject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind. This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

November 18, 2011

The whole control idea makes a lot of sense. I'm gonna do some research and see what i can come up with. To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 9:34 AMSubject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the

noise?

I definitely agree that the people closest to me bother me more, especially when I live with them because there is no escape. It is that feeling of being trapped with the sound that is the worst - I set up my life so I can escape as quickly as possible (earphones on me all the time). When I have a house guest then they annoy me immediately, and it's terrible. I feel so guilty and then angry and then guilty again. My sister came to stay with me because she was in trouble and she knows about my misophonia (we shared a room as kids when it all began and she is still traumatized by my angry reaction to her snoring) - and even though I wanted to look after her as she needed help, I could barely look at her when she

scraped her fork on her teeth or hummed unconsciously. I prefer it, even if we live together, if we spend time together outside of the house, and no matter how tired I am after work, I will suggest we go out to a cafe so that I can contain my rage (a quiet cafe) and then when we go home, I can go to my room guilt free.My boyfriend's noises don't bother me, thank god - he sometimes breathes heavily so I imitate his breathing and he stops. Or when he sucks his teeth after eating (a very Indonesian habit - he is Indonesian - and the reason I hate going out to local restaurants) I look at him and he says sorry and because he reacts in a nice way to my craziness, I can calm down. Luckily for me he is an extremely patient and kind

man and very tolerant. When he puts his hand over my ear as soon as the dog next door starts barking, I just love him so much. I think that when you have misophonia,, or the fact that someone is quiet, chews quietly, doesn't snore etc, and then the fact that they take it seriously and really try to understand, is enough for them not to enter the "everything you do makes me feel crazy" stage, like I have with my dad. It's a shame because I love my dad so much, but I just can't be around him to eat with him, or drink - cause he is a slurper.From: Paris

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:51 PM Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more. But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds??? I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PMSubject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind. This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

November 18, 2011

The whole control idea makes a lot of sense. I'm gonna do some research and see what i can come up with. To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 9:34 AMSubject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the

noise?

I definitely agree that the people closest to me bother me more, especially when I live with them because there is no escape. It is that feeling of being trapped with the sound that is the worst - I set up my life so I can escape as quickly as possible (earphones on me all the time). When I have a house guest then they annoy me immediately, and it's terrible. I feel so guilty and then angry and then guilty again. My sister came to stay with me because she was in trouble and she knows about my misophonia (we shared a room as kids when it all began and she is still traumatized by my angry reaction to her snoring) - and even though I wanted to look after her as she needed help, I could barely look at her when she

scraped her fork on her teeth or hummed unconsciously. I prefer it, even if we live together, if we spend time together outside of the house, and no matter how tired I am after work, I will suggest we go out to a cafe so that I can contain my rage (a quiet cafe) and then when we go home, I can go to my room guilt free.My boyfriend's noises don't bother me, thank god - he sometimes breathes heavily so I imitate his breathing and he stops. Or when he sucks his teeth after eating (a very Indonesian habit - he is Indonesian - and the reason I hate going out to local restaurants) I look at him and he says sorry and because he reacts in a nice way to my craziness, I can calm down. Luckily for me he is an extremely patient and kind

man and very tolerant. When he puts his hand over my ear as soon as the dog next door starts barking, I just love him so much. I think that when you have misophonia,, or the fact that someone is quiet, chews quietly, doesn't snore etc, and then the fact that they take it seriously and really try to understand, is enough for them not to enter the "everything you do makes me feel crazy" stage, like I have with my dad. It's a shame because I love my dad so much, but I just can't be around him to eat with him, or drink - cause he is a slurper.From: Paris

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:51 PM Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more. But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds??? I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PMSubject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind. This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

November 18, 2011

Yep I noticed this when my kids were babies and little, it was like OMG a human is eating and I'm OKAY?!!!! YES! Sadly as they get older, that magic bubble shrinks and pops. My poor 9 year old, if I had a dollar for everytime I said 'Devin, your mouth!'...it scares me that I am training him to pay attention to chewing noises ()But I def am not immune to being annoyed at strangers, depending on the severity of their 'crime' it can have me near tears or violence....but maybe it is stronger with our loved ones because we have to hear their same habits day after day after day and there is no escape really. With a stranger we in the back of our mind somewhere understand that when they go away, they will be gone and we will survive this moment, and hopefully they will too

() Kaci Anne McCall Professional FACE PAINTING, personalized crafts, and more! Please visit:http://www.MysticalRainbowCreations.com "What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special." ~ Dees To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 5:55 AM Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

If only we could always float around in that cloud of infatuation, soaked to the gills with oxytocin! Sigh!

That would be a great cure.

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> We've talked about the "honeymoon" stage of people we date and they don't trigger us for awhile. What is utter fascinating to me is when I first start dating someone I tell myself to pay attention to how they eat so I don't later get annoyed. Then the meal starts and at the end I try to recollect and it's as though they hadn't eaten a bite. I cannot conjure up not one memory of their eating. Fascinating! The only caveats are: 1) super gross eating, and 2) I don't really like them that much anyway, under those conditions I notice their eating. It's like the oxytocin that comes with infatuation renders me entirely deaf to their chewing. It's absolutely amazing!!!

> Heidi

>

> Sent from my iPhone

November 18, 2011

Yep I noticed this when my kids were babies and little, it was like OMG a human is eating and I'm OKAY?!!!! YES! Sadly as they get older, that magic bubble shrinks and pops. My poor 9 year old, if I had a dollar for everytime I said 'Devin, your mouth!'...it scares me that I am training him to pay attention to chewing noises ()But I def am not immune to being annoyed at strangers, depending on the severity of their 'crime' it can have me near tears or violence....but maybe it is stronger with our loved ones because we have to hear their same habits day after day after day and there is no escape really. With a stranger we in the back of our mind somewhere understand that when they go away, they will be gone and we will survive this moment, and hopefully they will too

() Kaci Anne McCall Professional FACE PAINTING, personalized crafts, and more! Please visit:http://www.MysticalRainbowCreations.com "What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special." ~ Dees To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 5:55 AM Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

If only we could always float around in that cloud of infatuation, soaked to the gills with oxytocin! Sigh!

That would be a great cure.

>

> We've talked about the "honeymoon" stage of people we date and they don't trigger us for awhile. What is utter fascinating to me is when I first start dating someone I tell myself to pay attention to how they eat so I don't later get annoyed. Then the meal starts and at the end I try to recollect and it's as though they hadn't eaten a bite. I cannot conjure up not one memory of their eating. Fascinating! The only caveats are: 1) super gross eating, and 2) I don't really like them that much anyway, under those conditions I notice their eating. It's like the oxytocin that comes with infatuation renders me entirely deaf to their chewing. It's absolutely amazing!!!

> Heidi

>

> Sent from my iPhone

November 18, 2011

Kaci - what you just wrote here is exactly how I feel. At first my babies chewing didn't bother me and now my daughter is 4 and I have to leave the room when she chews or I will yell at her and feel guilty about it. My one year old is only just starting to bother me with his chewing but, I can tolerate it. It's sad, really sad. I seem to be more annoyed with loved ones but, if I am out and someone nearby is being so obnoxious with chewing- then I feel like I am about to lose it on them. I am lucky if I don't notice but I seem to notice everything and scan movie theaters, classrooms, seminars, shows, public transportation for chewing offenders. It's no way to live.... To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 11:40 AM Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

Yep I noticed this when my kids were babies and little, it was like OMG a human is eating and I'm OKAY?!!!! YES! Sadly as they get older, that magic bubble shrinks and pops. My poor 9 year old, if I had a dollar for everytime I said 'Devin, your mouth!'...it scares me that I am training him to pay attention to chewing noises ()But I def am not immune to being annoyed at strangers, depending on the severity of their 'crime' it can have me near tears or violence....but maybe it is stronger with our loved ones because we have to hear their same habits day after day after day and there is no escape really. With a stranger we in the back of our mind somewhere understand that when they go away, they will be gone and we will survive this moment, and hopefully they will too

() Kaci Anne McCall Professional FACE PAINTING, personalized crafts, and more! Please visit:http://www.MysticalRainbowCreations.com "What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special." ~ Dees To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 5:55 AM Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

If only we could always float around in that cloud of infatuation, soaked to the gills with oxytocin! Sigh!

That would be a great cure.

>

> We've talked about the "honeymoon" stage of people we date and they don't trigger us for awhile. What is utter fascinating to me is when I first start dating someone I tell myself to pay attention to how they eat so I don't later get annoyed. Then the meal starts and at the end I try to recollect and it's as though they hadn't eaten a bite. I cannot conjure up not one memory of their eating. Fascinating! The only caveats are: 1) super gross eating, and 2) I don't really like them that much anyway, under those conditions I notice their eating. It's like the oxytocin that comes with infatuation renders me entirely deaf to their chewing. It's absolutely amazing!!!

> Heidi

>

> Sent from my iPhone

November 18, 2011

Kaci - what you just wrote here is exactly how I feel. At first my babies chewing didn't bother me and now my daughter is 4 and I have to leave the room when she chews or I will yell at her and feel guilty about it. My one year old is only just starting to bother me with his chewing but, I can tolerate it. It's sad, really sad. I seem to be more annoyed with loved ones but, if I am out and someone nearby is being so obnoxious with chewing- then I feel like I am about to lose it on them. I am lucky if I don't notice but I seem to notice everything and scan movie theaters, classrooms, seminars, shows, public transportation for chewing offenders. It's no way to live.... To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 11:40 AM Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

Yep I noticed this when my kids were babies and little, it was like OMG a human is eating and I'm OKAY?!!!! YES! Sadly as they get older, that magic bubble shrinks and pops. My poor 9 year old, if I had a dollar for everytime I said 'Devin, your mouth!'...it scares me that I am training him to pay attention to chewing noises ()But I def am not immune to being annoyed at strangers, depending on the severity of their 'crime' it can have me near tears or violence....but maybe it is stronger with our loved ones because we have to hear their same habits day after day after day and there is no escape really. With a stranger we in the back of our mind somewhere understand that when they go away, they will be gone and we will survive this moment, and hopefully they will too

() Kaci Anne McCall Professional FACE PAINTING, personalized crafts, and more! Please visit:http://www.MysticalRainbowCreations.com "What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special." ~ Dees To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 5:55 AM Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

If only we could always float around in that cloud of infatuation, soaked to the gills with oxytocin! Sigh!

That would be a great cure.

>

> We've talked about the "honeymoon" stage of people we date and they don't trigger us for awhile. What is utter fascinating to me is when I first start dating someone I tell myself to pay attention to how they eat so I don't later get annoyed. Then the meal starts and at the end I try to recollect and it's as though they hadn't eaten a bite. I cannot conjure up not one memory of their eating. Fascinating! The only caveats are: 1) super gross eating, and 2) I don't really like them that much anyway, under those conditions I notice their eating. It's like the oxytocin that comes with infatuation renders me entirely deaf to their chewing. It's absolutely amazing!!!

> Heidi

>

> Sent from my iPhone

November 18, 2011

Have any of you ever tried politely asking someone (strangers I mean) to stop making the noise? (I haven't). I wonder how it would go over?I have fantasized about it, but never have the guts because well mostly I have always thought I ws crazy. I guess it depends on the person. I swear I think we need to have little business cards made with a blurb about our disorder so we can jsut hand them to the offender and say can you please help me? () Kaci Anne McCall Professional FACE PAINTING, personalized crafts, and more! Please visit:http://www.MysticalRainbowCreations.com "What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special." ~ Dees

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 2:09 PM Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

Okay, a lot of people have been saying that certain people are worse triggers for them than others. It doesn't seem to be true for me. I've found that total strangers are just as bad, if not worse, for me. Maybe because I can ask a family member to stop what they're doing but not a stranger. The difference ends up being that I can get upset with someone close to me, but I get enraged when it's a stranger. One example that always comes to mind is the time I was on a college tour with my daughter and son. This one woman was loudly cracking her gum during the whole thing. I moved as far away from her as possible, which was difficult because she was near the tour guide and I needed to be able to hear the guide as well. It felt like the woman was following me around because she kept ending up next to me as we walked. Her stupid gum-cracking was drowning out the tour guide and I was so enraged it took all my self-control not to punch her. I tried glaring at her, but all the woman did was look at me blankly and continue to crack her gum! Argh!!

>

> The whole control idea makes a lot of sense. I'm gonna do some research and see what i can come up with.

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >

> Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 9:34 AM

> Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> I definitely agree that the people closest to me bother me more, especially when I live with them because there is no escape. Ã‚ It is that feeling of being trapped with the sound that is the worst - I set up my life so I can escape as quickly as possible (earphones on me all the time). Ã‚ When I have a house guest then they annoy me immediately, and it's terrible. Ã‚ I feel so guilty and then angry and then guilty again. Ã‚ My sister came to stay with me because she was in trouble and she knows about my misophonia (we shared a room as kids when it all began and she is still traumatized by my angry reaction to her snoring) - and even though I wanted to look after her as she needed help, I could barely look at her when she scraped her fork on her teeth or hummed unconsciously. Ã‚ I prefer it, even if we live together, if we spend time together outside of the house, and no matter how tired I am after work, I will suggest we go

out to a cafe so that I can

> contain my rage (a quiet cafe) and then when we go home, I can go to my room guilt free.

>

> My boyfriend's noises don't bother me, thank god - he sometimes breathes heavily so I imitate his breathing and he stops. Ã‚ Or when he sucks his teeth after eating (a very Indonesian habit - he is Indonesian - and the reason I hate going out to local restaurants) I look at him and he says sorry and because he reacts in a nice way to my craziness, I can calm down. Luckily for me he is an extremely patient and kind man and very tolerant. Ã‚ When he puts his hand over my ear as soon as the dog next door starts barking, I just love him so much. Ã‚ I think that when you have misophonia,, or the fact that someone is quiet, chews quietly, doesn't snore etc, and then the fact that they take it seriously and really try to understand, is enough for them not to enter the "everything you do makes me feel crazy" stage, like I have with my dad. Ã‚ It's a shame because I love my dad so much, but I just can't be around him to eat with him, or

drink - cause he is a slurper.

>

> From: Paris

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:51 PM

> Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more.Ã‚ But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds???Ã‚ I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PM

> Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind.

>

> This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

>

November 18, 2011

I love that idea!! I just had this situation yesterday in my lecture class and i really like the girl behind me, she's super sweet and were actually supposed to study together, but she kept eating these crunchy foods all throughout lecture and all i could do was sit there and ferociously give her a look, then i would feel bad, but i just needed the noise to stop. she probably thinks im nuts now. I would really like to explain my problem, but i don't think it's an easy disorder for people to understand. I feel like it's almost impossible to explain without coming across rude or selfish. To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 4:00 PMSubject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

Have any of you ever tried politely asking someone (strangers I mean) to stop making the noise? (I haven't). I wonder how it would go over?I have fantasized about it, but never have the guts because well mostly I have always thought I ws crazy. I guess it depends on the person. I swear I think we need to have little business cards made with a blurb about our disorder so we can jsut hand them to the offender and say can you please help me? () Kaci Anne McCall Professional FACE PAINTING, personalized crafts, and more! Please

visit:http://www.MysticalRainbowCreations.com "What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special." ~ Dees

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 2:09 PM Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

Okay, a lot of people have been saying that certain people are worse triggers for them than others. It doesn't seem to be true for me. I've found that total strangers are just as bad, if not worse, for me. Maybe because I can ask a family member to stop what they're doing but not a stranger. The difference ends up being that I can get upset with someone close to me, but I get enraged when it's a stranger. One example that always comes to mind is the time I was on a college tour with my daughter and son. This one woman was loudly cracking her gum during the whole thing. I moved as far away from her as possible, which was difficult because she was near the tour guide and I needed to be able to hear the guide as well. It felt like the woman was following me around because she kept ending up next to me as we walked. Her stupid gum-cracking was drowning out the tour guide and I was so enraged it took all my self-control not to punch her. I tried glaring at her, but all the woman did was look at me blankly and continue to crack her gum! Argh!!

>

> The whole control idea makes a lot of sense. I'm gonna do some research and see what i can come up with.

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >

> Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 9:34 AM

> Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> I definitely agree that the people closest to me bother me more, especially when I live with them because there is no escape. Ã‚ It is that feeling of being trapped with the sound that is the worst - I set up my life so I can escape as quickly as possible (earphones on me all the time). Ã‚ When I have a house guest then they annoy me immediately, and it's terrible. Ã‚ I feel so guilty and then angry and then guilty again. Ã‚ My sister came to stay with me because she was in trouble and she knows about my misophonia (we shared a room as kids when it all began and she is still traumatized by my angry reaction to her snoring) - and even though I wanted to look after her as she needed help, I could barely look at her when she scraped her fork on her teeth or hummed unconsciously. Ã‚ I prefer it, even if we live together, if we spend time together outside of the house, and no matter how tired I am after work, I will suggest we go

out to a cafe so that I can

> contain my rage (a quiet cafe) and then when we go home, I can go to my room guilt free.

>

> My boyfriend's noises don't bother me, thank god - he sometimes breathes heavily so I imitate his breathing and he stops. Ã‚ Or when he sucks his teeth after eating (a very Indonesian habit - he is Indonesian - and the reason I hate going out to local restaurants) I look at him and he says sorry and because he reacts in a nice way to my craziness, I can calm down. Luckily for me he is an extremely patient and kind man and very tolerant. Ã‚ When he puts his hand over my ear as soon as the dog next door starts barking, I just love him so much. Ã‚ I think that when you have misophonia,, or the fact that someone is quiet, chews quietly, doesn't snore etc, and then the fact that they take it seriously and really try to understand, is enough for them not to enter the "everything you do makes me feel crazy" stage, like I have with my dad. Ã‚ It's a shame because I love my dad so much, but I just can't be around him to eat with him, or

drink - cause he is a slurper.

>

> From: Paris

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:51 PM

> Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more.Ã‚ But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds???Ã‚ I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PM

> Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind.

>

> This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

>

November 18, 2011

I love that idea!! I just had this situation yesterday in my lecture class and i really like the girl behind me, she's super sweet and were actually supposed to study together, but she kept eating these crunchy foods all throughout lecture and all i could do was sit there and ferociously give her a look, then i would feel bad, but i just needed the noise to stop. she probably thinks im nuts now. I would really like to explain my problem, but i don't think it's an easy disorder for people to understand. I feel like it's almost impossible to explain without coming across rude or selfish. To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 4:00 PMSubject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

Have any of you ever tried politely asking someone (strangers I mean) to stop making the noise? (I haven't). I wonder how it would go over?I have fantasized about it, but never have the guts because well mostly I have always thought I ws crazy. I guess it depends on the person. I swear I think we need to have little business cards made with a blurb about our disorder so we can jsut hand them to the offender and say can you please help me? () Kaci Anne McCall Professional FACE PAINTING, personalized crafts, and more! Please

visit:http://www.MysticalRainbowCreations.com "What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special." ~ Dees

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 2:09 PM Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

Okay, a lot of people have been saying that certain people are worse triggers for them than others. It doesn't seem to be true for me. I've found that total strangers are just as bad, if not worse, for me. Maybe because I can ask a family member to stop what they're doing but not a stranger. The difference ends up being that I can get upset with someone close to me, but I get enraged when it's a stranger. One example that always comes to mind is the time I was on a college tour with my daughter and son. This one woman was loudly cracking her gum during the whole thing. I moved as far away from her as possible, which was difficult because she was near the tour guide and I needed to be able to hear the guide as well. It felt like the woman was following me around because she kept ending up next to me as we walked. Her stupid gum-cracking was drowning out the tour guide and I was so enraged it took all my self-control not to punch her. I tried glaring at her, but all the woman did was look at me blankly and continue to crack her gum! Argh!!

>

> The whole control idea makes a lot of sense. I'm gonna do some research and see what i can come up with.

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >

> Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 9:34 AM

> Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> I definitely agree that the people closest to me bother me more, especially when I live with them because there is no escape. Ã‚ It is that feeling of being trapped with the sound that is the worst - I set up my life so I can escape as quickly as possible (earphones on me all the time). Ã‚ When I have a house guest then they annoy me immediately, and it's terrible. Ã‚ I feel so guilty and then angry and then guilty again. Ã‚ My sister came to stay with me because she was in trouble and she knows about my misophonia (we shared a room as kids when it all began and she is still traumatized by my angry reaction to her snoring) - and even though I wanted to look after her as she needed help, I could barely look at her when she scraped her fork on her teeth or hummed unconsciously. Ã‚ I prefer it, even if we live together, if we spend time together outside of the house, and no matter how tired I am after work, I will suggest we go

out to a cafe so that I can

> contain my rage (a quiet cafe) and then when we go home, I can go to my room guilt free.

>

> My boyfriend's noises don't bother me, thank god - he sometimes breathes heavily so I imitate his breathing and he stops. Ã‚ Or when he sucks his teeth after eating (a very Indonesian habit - he is Indonesian - and the reason I hate going out to local restaurants) I look at him and he says sorry and because he reacts in a nice way to my craziness, I can calm down. Luckily for me he is an extremely patient and kind man and very tolerant. Ã‚ When he puts his hand over my ear as soon as the dog next door starts barking, I just love him so much. Ã‚ I think that when you have misophonia,, or the fact that someone is quiet, chews quietly, doesn't snore etc, and then the fact that they take it seriously and really try to understand, is enough for them not to enter the "everything you do makes me feel crazy" stage, like I have with my dad. Ã‚ It's a shame because I love my dad so much, but I just can't be around him to eat with him, or

drink - cause he is a slurper.

>

> From: Paris

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:51 PM

> Subject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more.Ã‚ But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds???Ã‚ I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PM

> Subject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

>

> Ã‚

> My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind.

>

> This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

>

November 18, 2011

Katrina, you sound like a very good sister because you find a way to be with with her where you both benefit from the visit, and not go crazy. I agree that the feeling of being trapped with the sounds is one of the worst feeling that sets off those triggers.

To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Sent: Fri, November 18, 2011 8:34:57 AMSubject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

I definitely agree that the people closest to me bother me more, especially when I live with them because there is no escape. It is that feeling of being trapped with the sound that is the worst - I set up my life so I can escape as quickly as possible (earphones on me all the time). When I have a house guest then they annoy me immediately, and it's terrible. I feel so guilty and then angry and then guilty again. My sister came to stay with me because she was in trouble and she knows about my misophonia (we shared a room as kids when it all began and she is still traumatized by my angry reaction to her snoring) - and even though I wanted to look after her as she needed help, I could barely look at her when she scraped her fork on her teeth or hummed unconsciously. I prefer it, even if we live together, if we spend time together outside of the house, and no matter

how tired I am after work, I will suggest we go out to a cafe so that I can contain my rage (a quiet cafe) and then when we go home, I can go to my room guilt free.

My boyfriend's noises don't bother me, thank god - he sometimes breathes heavily so I imitate his breathing and he stops. Or when he sucks his teeth after eating (a very Indonesian habit - he is Indonesian - and the reason I hate going out to local restaurants) I look at him and he says sorry and because he reacts in a nice way to my craziness, I can calm down. Luckily for me he is an extremely patient and kind man and very tolerant. When he puts his hand over my ear as soon as the dog next door starts barking, I just love him so much. I think that when you have misophonia,, or the fact that someone is quiet, chews quietly, doesn't snore etc, and then the fact that they take it seriously and really try to understand, is enough for them not to enter the "everything you do makes me feel crazy" stage, like I have with my dad. It's a shame because I love my dad so much, but

I just can't be around him to eat with him, or drink - cause he is a slurper.

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Friday, November 18, 2011 8:51 PMSubject: Re: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

I definitely have outside triggers, but I have to say that the people closest to me bother me more. But, I wonder if it's because we can't always "get away" from the people living in our homes, so that would trigger more offending sounds??? I wonder if these same people that seem to not bother us would be bothersome if we lived with them? I wonder....

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thu, November 17, 2011 9:47:06 PMSubject: Re: Does your annoyance depend on who the person is making the noise?

My annoyance very much depends on the source. Gum chewing by my mother would drive me out of the room, or to rudely ask her to spit it out....but if a pretty girl sitting behind me in school was chewing gum, it was a soothing chant of some kind. This is common for me. Sometimes I'm more agitated when I feel like I can "get away with" getting angry with them. You can't really yell at strangers, and you don't have to deal with them for extended periods of time.

November 18, 2011