Desperation

[Guest guest]

I'm exhausted, mentally and physically. I just moved apartments yesterday,

because of the noisy neighbors in my old place, only to find out there's noise

every night at 3am - 10am in my new place.

It's above a bakery, but has no shared walls with any other neighbors, so I

though it would be fine. I was so excited, so happy I cried when I was done

moving in.

Then I woke up at 3am to the sound of what was like a pair of shoes in a dryer.

Thunk thunk thunk.....a humming mechanical sound, more thunking, bumping.

I'm just dumbfounded. What the hell is it now? I call my landlord - it's the

freaking bakery mixing dough at 3am, which is when they start every morning.

Un-freaking-believable. I TOLD my landlord why I was breaking my old lease,

because of the noisy neighbors, and he didn't think to tell me the bakery fires

up at 3 AM?1?!!!!! " I've never had a complaint before - I didn't know you could

hear it up there. "

OH MY GOD. THIS IS MY WORST NIGHTMARE IMAGINED. I'm literally in pain and

limping because I moved 11 days early in the month to get out of my old place,

and into this one. And it might be just as unliveable.

I am so upset. If I can't get used to sleeping through this, I'm really going to

hurt myself. I can't live like this. I can't keep moving. I live in the city -

nowhere is going to be quiet enough for me.

I'm so lost.

[Guest guest]

, I understand what you are going through. I recently moved from my own

quiet house into an apartment with shared walls. When I first moved in I

panicked because of all the noise and the feeling I was trapped because I now

have a lease. I instantly wanted to move but I realized that unfortunately

unwanted noise is everywhere and if you move again, you may end up somewhere

worse. Have you tried having a loud box fan on at night? Or even playing

nature sounds or something through a stereo? Fans can muffle sounds quite good

and that is what I have to use here where my neighbors get up and get ready for

work at 3am and are very noisy (along with their dogs... ugh). Also, I

sometimes sleep with my iPod on nature sounds like the ocean. If you have to

get up with an alarm for work or whatever you can get one of those alarms that

vibrate (you put it under your mattress or pillow) to wake you since your ears

are plugged and can't hear a normal alarm Just some things to try. I know it's

hard, but give it some time and try different things. You can do this!

>

> I'm exhausted, mentally and physically. I just moved apartments yesterday,

because of the noisy neighbors in my old place, only to find out there's noise

every night at 3am - 10am in my new place.

> It's above a bakery, but has no shared walls with any other neighbors, so I

though it would be fine. I was so excited, so happy I cried when I was done

moving in.

> Then I woke up at 3am to the sound of what was like a pair of shoes in a

dryer. Thunk thunk thunk.....a humming mechanical sound, more thunking, bumping.

> I'm just dumbfounded. What the hell is it now? I call my landlord - it's the

freaking bakery mixing dough at 3am, which is when they start every morning.

> Un-freaking-believable. I TOLD my landlord why I was breaking my old lease,

because of the noisy neighbors, and he didn't think to tell me the bakery fires

up at 3 AM?1?!!!!! " I've never had a complaint before - I didn't know you could

hear it up there. "

> OH MY GOD. THIS IS MY WORST NIGHTMARE IMAGINED. I'm literally in pain and

limping because I moved 11 days early in the month to get out of my old place,

and into this one. And it might be just as unliveable.

>

> I am so upset. If I can't get used to sleeping through this, I'm really going

to hurt myself. I can't live like this. I can't keep moving. I live in the city

- nowhere is going to be quiet enough for me.

> I'm so lost.

>

[Guest guest]

, I am so sorry! I know how you feel. I love sleep, and anytime something

interferes with my sleeping, it drives me up the wall. I cry, I yell, I punch

pillows (or walls) - I feel like a prisoner in my own home when the neighbors

have a party, wash their car, or have someone picking them up or dropping them

off and taking forever to do so, with the " music " blaring in the middle of the

night. I too have wondered where I should move to get away from it. I'm in a

townhouse, and I thought maybe a single-standing house would be better (if we

could afford it), but in all honesty, not sharing a wall isn't enough. Not

sharing a street would be what it took!

Is there any way you can alter your schedule to accommodate the bakery's

schedule? So you could sleep earlier or later? Do the sounds wake you up? Or

do the sounds keep you up while you're trying to fall asleep? For me, I usually

can sleep through my triggers if they start after I've been asleep for a while

(and I sleep with earplugs). I know this because one of my triggers is my

husband's sleep apnea machine, and if I go to sleep first while he stays up, and

then he comes to bed like an hour later,after I'm sleeping, it doesn't wake me

up. But we can't do that because he gets up for work at 4am, while I get up at

7, so if anything, HE should be going to bed before me, not the other way

around.

But anyway, I understand that you can't keep moving, so if there's any way you

could alter your sleep schedule, maybe that could help? I recently read about a

phenomenon I'd never heard of - divided sleep. Supposedly before electricity it

was the norm (maybe in some places?) to sleep for a few hours in the late

evening, wake up for a few hours around midnight or so and do some quiet reading

or whatnot, and then return to sleep for a few more hours. It sounded bizarre

to me, but who's to say we " have " to sleep in one stretch of time and at a

designated time?

Just a thought. That's what I'd try if I were in your shoes and couldn't move

again, or if I couldn't super-duper insulate my apartment. (Holmes on Homes had

a show once on some superior ways to do that, but it's costly.)

>

> I'm exhausted, mentally and physically. I just moved apartments yesterday,

because of the noisy neighbors in my old place, only to find out there's noise

every night at 3am - 10am in my new place.

> It's above a bakery, but has no shared walls with any other neighbors, so I

though it would be fine. I was so excited, so happy I cried when I was done

moving in.

> Then I woke up at 3am to the sound of what was like a pair of shoes in a

dryer. Thunk thunk thunk.....a humming mechanical sound, more thunking, bumping.

> I'm just dumbfounded. What the hell is it now? I call my landlord - it's the

freaking bakery mixing dough at 3am, which is when they start every morning.

> Un-freaking-believable. I TOLD my landlord why I was breaking my old lease,

because of the noisy neighbors, and he didn't think to tell me the bakery fires

up at 3 AM?1?!!!!! " I've never had a complaint before - I didn't know you could

hear it up there. "

> OH MY GOD. THIS IS MY WORST NIGHTMARE IMAGINED. I'm literally in pain and

limping because I moved 11 days early in the month to get out of my old place,

and into this one. And it might be just as unliveable.

>

> I am so upset. If I can't get used to sleeping through this, I'm really going

to hurt myself. I can't live like this. I can't keep moving. I live in the city

- nowhere is going to be quiet enough for me.

> I'm so lost.

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks - I got some perspective and calmed down a lot. I was tired, exhausted,

in pain from moving, and didn't sleep very well the first night regardless of

the noise.

I took a Xanax last night and slept like a log, but I can't rely on that because

I don't have a prescription. Usually melatonin and valerian root do alright.

I told my landlord yesterday that I had woken up to the bakery noise, and I

think next I'll ask him to install some acoustic soundproof panels on the

ceiling below, to try and reduce the noise. I looked them up, and they're not

that expensive. He spent a lot of money renovating my apartment - I don't see

why he wouldn't do this one more thing to make it right for me.

But you're right, Darlene. There's going to be intrusive noise everywhere,

especially in the city. I got out of my last lease with a written hyperacusis

diagnosis and disability laws on my side.

But the last thing I want to do is up and move again. This one issue aside, my

apartment is quiet and peaceful. There's no stompers above me, no bass music

below, no car horn beep locks out my window, no trains, planes, traffic,

pedestrians, yellers. It's a quiet corner on a quiet street, and I'm luck to be

here.

I think I'll invest in a good sound machine - I see this on online called

sound+sleep that has a microphone and listens to your environment and adjusts

the noise to cover it up without disturbing you. It's pricey, but might be just

the thing I need.

Thanks again,

LO

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> > I'm exhausted, mentally and physically. I just moved apartments yesterday,

because of the noisy neighbors in my old place, only to find out there's noise

every night at 3am - 10am in my new place.

> > It's above a bakery, but has no shared walls with any other neighbors, so I

though it would be fine. I was so excited, so happy I cried when I was done

moving in.

> > Then I woke up at 3am to the sound of what was like a pair of shoes in a

dryer. Thunk thunk thunk.....a humming mechanical sound, more thunking, bumping.

> > I'm just dumbfounded. What the hell is it now? I call my landlord - it's the

freaking bakery mixing dough at 3am, which is when they start every morning.

> > Un-freaking-believable. I TOLD my landlord why I was breaking my old lease,

because of the noisy neighbors, and he didn't think to tell me the bakery fires

up at 3 AM?1?!!!!! " I've never had a complaint before - I didn't know you could

hear it up there. "

> > OH MY GOD. THIS IS MY WORST NIGHTMARE IMAGINED. I'm literally in pain and

limping because I moved 11 days early in the month to get out of my old place,

and into this one. And it might be just as unliveable.

> >

> > I am so upset. If I can't get used to sleeping through this, I'm really

going to hurt myself. I can't live like this. I can't keep moving. I live in the

city - nowhere is going to be quiet enough for me.

> > I'm so lost.

> >

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