Re: But to maintain a thread of sanity

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Thank you for your response! I just reached out to a clinic via email. If

they truly treat this thing, I'm willing to make the 3 hour trek!

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> The only ones I know of are audiologists in someTinitus clinics

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> Living under a family of seven was OK for maybe the first couple of weeks.

Annoying, but OK. Since then, I've hated the upstairs tenants and their five

children with a tremendous rage that I only recently realized was induced by my

condition of misophonia/4S. I'd like to be cuddled next to my husband on the

couch right now, but the continuous roar above our living room has set my

insides into a furious frenzy. Still now, ten minutes or so since I set up camp

in our office with earplugs in and headphones on, I am filled with a strange

anxiety that has barely lessened.

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> It helps to breathe. Yes, the fight or flight response is incredibly torrent

in me. Because I cannot challenge the upstairs tenants to a duel, I must remove

myself from being directly beneath their romping. It helps to drink " Kava Stress

Relief " tea. I anticipate the moment my shoulders descend from their tensed

elevation. It helps to share my current trials here, where no one will think I'm

overreacting, but understand.

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> The anger, rage, anxiety and hatred harbor themselves in my body. Shoulders,

neck, lower back... It actually hurts to feel this way. Ah, but to maintain a

thread of sanity... Beyond the aches of anxiety, I just want to not feel crazy.

I can handle a stiff neck. I don't like feeling like I may need to be

institutionalized because of the sounds around me (at home, work or

otherwise--triggers are everywhere).

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> I'm learning how to utilize tools to cope. Plugs, earphones, tea,

meditation... remembering to breathe... They are helping to maintain a thread of

sanity. They work only to treat the symptoms, though. I want the condition to

alleviate one day.

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> Has anyone found a clinician who recognizes misophonia/4S?

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Yeah! Just so you know- insurance doesn't usually cover it and it's out of pocket. I inquired at a clinic in Hamden CT and it was a total of $4000 out of pocket. That includes 3 parts- an initial visit, therapy sessions, and ear devices that make white noise- they mingle environmental noises. It may be worth it I don't know. From: shmoriane

To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 9:13 PM Subject: Re: But to maintain a thread of sanity

Thank you for your response! I just reached out to a clinic via email. If they truly treat this thing, I'm willing to make the 3 hour trek!

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> The only ones I know of are audiologists in someTinitus clinics

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> To: Soundsensitivity

> Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 8:11 PM

> Subject: But to maintain a thread of sanity

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> Living under a family of seven was OK for maybe the first couple of weeks. Annoying, but OK. Since then, I've hated the upstairs tenants and their five children with a tremendous rage that I only recently realized was induced by my condition of misophonia/4S. I'd like to be cuddled next to my husband on the couch right now, but the continuous roar above our living room has set my insides into a furious frenzy. Still now, ten minutes or so since I set up camp in our office with earplugs in and headphones on, I am filled with a strange anxiety that has barely lessened.

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> It helps to breathe. Yes, the fight or flight response is incredibly torrent in me. Because I cannot challenge the upstairs tenants to a duel, I must remove myself from being directly beneath their romping. It helps to drink "Kava Stress Relief" tea. I anticipate the moment my shoulders descend from their tensed elevation. It helps to share my current trials here, where no one will think I'm overreacting, but understand.

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> The anger, rage, anxiety and hatred harbor themselves in my body. Shoulders, neck, lower back... It actually hurts to feel this way. Ah, but to maintain a thread of sanity... Beyond the aches of anxiety, I just want to not feel crazy. I can handle a stiff neck. I don't like feeling like I may need to be institutionalized because of the sounds around me (at home, work or otherwise--triggers are everywhere).

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> I'm learning how to utilize tools to cope. Plugs, earphones, tea, meditation... remembering to breathe... They are helping to maintain a thread of sanity. They work only to treat the symptoms, though. I want the condition to alleviate one day.

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> Has anyone found a clinician who recognizes misophonia/4S?

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I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, "I hear you?" Thanks. I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to "forget." The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know

that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? Is

anybody out there?

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I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, "I hear you?" Thanks. I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to "forget." The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know

that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? Is

anybody out there?

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Hi Desdamona,I am pretty new to the group and don't believe I have seen your posts before. I am going through a similar issue. It does not sound as if you need to have misophonia to be bothered by the neighbors you describe!! I don't know where you live but there may be a local noise ordinance you can find through a Google search and you may be able to call the police on these neighbors. I used to feel bad about doing that but some neighbors pushed me to this and it was great when the police took my side. I could not tell from your post if you are a renter or homeowner. I am a renter and am looking at ways to compel my landlord to put in soundproofing in my unit and/or the unit above me, which is being renovated right now. It seems that soundproofing has become a lot better and less expensive over the

past few years, though it could be quite an investment -- but also may be worthwhile. If you own, no problem. If you are a renter, you may need to cite the Fair Housing Act and "Reasonable Modification" to do anything to your unit and it would still be at your own expense. A lot of leases do not allow tenants to make material changes without permission. To claim a need for reasonable modification you have to claim some kind of disability, but this is fairly broadly defined. You basically need a doctor or therapist to write a letter claiming you need the modification -- just look up Fair Housing Act. I'm still in the process myself, so I don't know much more than this. You do not have to let a landlord know what the disability is, only that it is preventing you from enjoying your home as much as someone without a disability. I hope this helps you or someone out there. Maybe

someone knows something more?Subject: Re: But to maintain a thread of sanityTo: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity >Date: Monday, February 13, 2012, 7:49 PM

I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, "I hear you?" Thanks. I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to "forget." The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know

that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? Is

anybody out there?

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HI Dee, Sorry no one has responded to you. I am sure it happens to everyone here. I feel your pain. Someone recently complained that we murmur too much here. Rarely has anyone said anything that I could not identify with. Especially what you are saying about noisy neighbors. I wish I had an answer for you. I don't. Maybe move. I have left many a nice garden and home for peace of mind. I am sure that there are quieter places to live. All I can say is that you are not alone with this, that people understand and care, if that is any consolation. Mike To: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Cc: "Soundsensitivity " <Soundsensitivity > Sent: Monday, February 13, 2012 9:07 PM Subject: Re: Re: But to maintain a thread of sanity

I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, "I hear you?" Thanks. I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to "forget." The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my

stomach are hurting me. I know

that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? Is

anybody out there?

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That’s the horrible thing about Misophonia—the fact that other people have such power over you. You feel so helpless. So many times we would have to leave a situation because of someone sitting next to us who was chewing gum, or munching on something. It’s horrible that you can’t prepare because you never know what you’re going to encounter. And how horrible that you’re having this issue in your own home! We are blessed to live in a pretty quiet house. Plus, we specifically had it built so that we could put acoustic insulation in my daughter’s walls of her bedroom. I’ll say prayers that your neighbor gets a job and/or his stereo/speakers break. Take care From: Soundsensitivity [mailto:Soundsensitivity ] On Behalf Of desdamona hallSent: Monday, February 13, 2012 10:50 PMTo: Soundsensitivity Subject: Re: But to maintain a thread of sanity I usually just read the posts that everyone else writes since, for some reason, the last couple of times I've written, there have been no replies. I wonder if I'm doing something wrong. Could someone please just say, " I hear you? " Thanks. I am a teacher who also works at home doing after school tutoring. The problem lies next door. At random times, various low life losers (friends of the guy who has no job and doesn't go to school) appear over there and hang out for hours on end. They have nothing better to do than to play loud music and yell to each other above the din. I have politely explained the situation to them, but they seem to " forget. " The hatred and the dry mouth and burning feeling in my stomach are hurting me. I know that. I try doing yoga, deep breathing, etc, but the only thing that works is to put on the headphones and go as far away from it as I can. Unfortunately, I have to take off my protection when working with a student. I fear and loathe those people because of the power they have over me. I am also angry at myself for giving them the power to upset me so much. I have lots of other triggers too, but I can usually run away or cover them up. When the distorted music beats in my chest and rumbles my walls, I can't think of much else. I'm so humiliated when my students and their parents make comments. Eventually, we'll have to move, but we've been here over 20 years, and have our house fixed up pretty much the way we want it with a nice garden, etc.. And how can I ever be sure that I won't have neighbors who are as bad or worse? Is anybody out there?