Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 This woman I work with does these hiccup/burp things multiple times a day and it enrages me beyond belief. I have tried to address it jokingly.. just to get a point across but she still does it. I feel that it is rude to do so loudly at the workplace and its every damn day! Why can't she keep it quiet when she has to do this! I truly feel like I am going to explode and every time I hear it, that is all I continue to focus on and anticipate the next time it is going to happen. I have the same issue with a guy near me who snaps all the time. I feel so physically enraged and I could just envision beating the crap out of them (as bad as that sounds). I always huff under my breath when they do it but it is unbearable for me. I am at a loss as to what to do. The guy who snaps used to whistle all the time and I did address that but now he snaps all the time so loud and fast, its awful. Is there any way to address at least the hiccuping? Because when I have addressed in a sort of a joking manner, she just laughs and I really want to knock her teeth out! Thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I would like an answer to the same question. I don't know how to politely address several annoying habits that a neighboring co-worker of mine has (throat-clearing, tongue-clicking, and daily 30-minute chip-eating sessions). He's a rather sensitive individual and I certainly don't want to hurt his feelings, but I also don't think it's healthy for me to have to listen to all of his noises all day long and while trying to concentrate on the work I have to do. I feel guilty because I think " who am I to expect other people to be quiet for me? " I'd like to address it with him in a respectful manner or figure out a way to calm myself down. Please... any help you can provide is greatly appreciated! Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 How about instead of joking, sit her down and tell her directly. Give her a copy of the NYTime article. Be straight forward in a kind way rather than joking, when you joke to people they have no idea you are serious because they think you are being funny. She doesn't think she's being rude, she's engaging probably in a tick she's had forever. You can tell her, and she may listen and try but chances are she's not going to be able to stop totally if in fact it's a tick she's had forever. But it''ll be worth it if it decreases and you will feel better for having addressed it as you have all this built up anger about it. Consider also wearing ear plugs, noise generators, music, etc. The truth is, none of us should ever expect that people can stop doing what they do 100%. I do believe something that can help all of us is to not focus on how RUDE THEY are being as I think that creates loop thinking when we are in the situation and only helps to further the rage. The more compassion and understanding you can have while you hear the noise, the better you will be able to employ techniques to ignore it and soothe yourself through it.Heidi This woman I work with does these hiccup/burp things multiple times a day and it enrages me beyond belief. I have tried to address it jokingly.. just to get a point across but she still does it. I feel that it is rude to do so loudly at the workplace and its every damn day! Why can't she keep it quiet when she has to do this! I truly feel like I am going to explode and every time I hear it, that is all I continue to focus on and anticipate the next time it is going to happen. I have the same issue with a guy near me who snaps all the time. I feel so physically enraged and I could just envision beating the crap out of them (as bad as that sounds). I always huff under my breath when they do it but it is unbearable for me. I am at a loss as to what to do. The guy who snaps used to whistle all the time and I did address that but now he snaps all the time so loud and fast, its awful. Is there any way to address at least the hiccuping? Because when I have addressed in a sort of a joking manner, she just laughs and I really want to knock her teeth out! Thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Wow Heidi. Nicely done!! The misophonic world says " Thank you " ! > > > >> > >> I would like an answer to the same question. I don't know how to politely address several annoying habits that a neighboring co-worker of mine has (throat-clearing, tongue-clicking, and daily 30-minute chip-eating sessions). He's a rather sensitive individual and I certainly don't want to hurt his feelings, but I also don't think it's healthy for me to have to listen to all of his noises all day long and while trying to concentrate on the work I have to do. I feel guilty because I think " who am I to expect other people to be quiet for me? " I'd like to address it with him in a respectful manner or figure out a way to calm myself down. Please... any help you can provide is greatly appreciated! > >> > >> Thanks! > >> > >> > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I once had a not dissimilar situation. The office was one huge open room and computers were more primitive back then. My eyes would sting from the glare so I always wore a hat with a big brim, which shielded my eyes and made it much more comfortable at the computer. People always thought I was being hostile to wear the hat, like it was akin to shutting them out. It REALLY helped to explain proactively that the hat was because of the glare, and to emphasize that it had nothing to do with them. I repeated this as often as necessary. The only people who understood were those who were very nearsighted, who also had glare issues. So if you explained, with the help of the news piece, that this was a medical issue of YOURS, and you do not want them to restrict their normal activities but just to warn you before they eat their chips (or whatever they can do to help without stopping breathing), that might be another approach to consider. I think it can really help to blame yourself, not them. > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I once had a not dissimilar situation. The office was one huge open room and computers were more primitive back then. My eyes would sting from the glare so I always wore a hat with a big brim, which shielded my eyes and made it much more comfortable at the computer. People always thought I was being hostile to wear the hat, like it was akin to shutting them out. It REALLY helped to explain proactively that the hat was because of the glare, and to emphasize that it had nothing to do with them. I repeated this as often as necessary. The only people who understood were those who were very nearsighted, who also had glare issues. So if you explained, with the help of the news piece, that this was a medical issue of YOURS, and you do not want them to restrict their normal activities but just to warn you before they eat their chips (or whatever they can do to help without stopping breathing), that might be another approach to consider. I think it can really help to blame yourself, not them. > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I LOVE this letter....great insights, really well written. Let us know how it goes. Dr. J > > > > > >> > > >> I would like an answer to the same question. I don't know how to politely address several annoying habits that a neighboring co-worker of mine has (throat-clearing, tongue-clicking, and daily 30-minute chip-eating sessions). He's a rather sensitive individual and I certainly don't want to hurt his feelings, but I also don't think it's healthy for me to have to listen to all of his noises all day long and while trying to concentrate on the work I have to do. I feel guilty because I think " who am I to expect other people to be quiet for me? " I'd like to address it with him in a respectful manner or figure out a way to calm myself down. Please... any help you can provide is greatly appreciated! > > >> > > >> Thanks! > > >> > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I LOVE this letter....great insights, really well written. Let us know how it goes. Dr. J > > > > > >> > > >> I would like an answer to the same question. I don't know how to politely address several annoying habits that a neighboring co-worker of mine has (throat-clearing, tongue-clicking, and daily 30-minute chip-eating sessions). He's a rather sensitive individual and I certainly don't want to hurt his feelings, but I also don't think it's healthy for me to have to listen to all of his noises all day long and while trying to concentrate on the work I have to do. I feel guilty because I think " who am I to expect other people to be quiet for me? " I'd like to address it with him in a respectful manner or figure out a way to calm myself down. Please... any help you can provide is greatly appreciated! > > >> > > >> Thanks! > > >> > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 This is officially scary. I am worried about being able to hold a job. I am not the type to have a job and be miserable as heck. I know I want to be a astronomer and I will have to work with people. > > > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 This is officially scary. I am worried about being able to hold a job. I am not the type to have a job and be miserable as heck. I know I want to be a astronomer and I will have to work with people. > > > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Hiccups are involuntary. You’re stuck with ‘em, and so is she. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Hiccups are involuntary. You’re stuck with ‘em, and so is she. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Thanks. I am acually watching X Factor and I know that I am good at singing(I have won awards in choir) and I would use money for a foundation for misophonia. I talked to my friend that is blind. She makes me feel strong. I do feel kinda like a baby, but yet it is hard when everyone gets sick and has to eat that both trigger me. I know that I can work for a small astronomy buissness that is owned by NASA. It would help with less people. I have been through a lot lately that may be causing added stress. My grandpa died, I got asthma, and more within the past two years. My sister died when I was 6. It was scary to have that happen to someone so young. The misophonia got worse. It was where I was severely triggered at home. It then went to school snd keeps getting worse. I have always been treated like I am stupid and have been told that I am stupid sense 1st grade. I am not stupid. I am just slow and have a hard time concentrating. My hearing had been getting worse, but mainly with low pitched sounds. I really try to be as possitive as possible. I am usually happy when I haven't been triggered for a while. The worst is when people make fun of the way I walk because of a really weird feet disformity like my feet point outwards, they bend over, and I am extreamly flat footed and I have to plug my ears often to keep myself from either attacking or running out screaming, which I would get into huge trouble for doing. This is one big roller coster ride called Life. > > > > > > > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > > > > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > > > > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > > > > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > > > > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > > > > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > > > > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > > > > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > > > > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > > > > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > > > > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > > > > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > > > > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Thanks. I am acually watching X Factor and I know that I am good at singing(I have won awards in choir) and I would use money for a foundation for misophonia. I talked to my friend that is blind. She makes me feel strong. I do feel kinda like a baby, but yet it is hard when everyone gets sick and has to eat that both trigger me. I know that I can work for a small astronomy buissness that is owned by NASA. It would help with less people. I have been through a lot lately that may be causing added stress. My grandpa died, I got asthma, and more within the past two years. My sister died when I was 6. It was scary to have that happen to someone so young. The misophonia got worse. It was where I was severely triggered at home. It then went to school snd keeps getting worse. I have always been treated like I am stupid and have been told that I am stupid sense 1st grade. I am not stupid. I am just slow and have a hard time concentrating. My hearing had been getting worse, but mainly with low pitched sounds. I really try to be as possitive as possible. I am usually happy when I haven't been triggered for a while. The worst is when people make fun of the way I walk because of a really weird feet disformity like my feet point outwards, they bend over, and I am extreamly flat footed and I have to plug my ears often to keep myself from either attacking or running out screaming, which I would get into huge trouble for doing. This is one big roller coster ride called Life. > > > > > > > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > > > > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > > > > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > > > > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > > > > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > > > > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > > > > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > > > > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > > > > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > > > > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > > > > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > > > > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > > > > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Thanks. I am acually watching X Factor and I know that I am good at singing(I have won awards in choir) and I would use money for a foundation for misophonia. I talked to my friend that is blind. She makes me feel strong. I do feel kinda like a baby, but yet it is hard when everyone gets sick and has to eat that both trigger me. I know that I can work for a small astronomy buissness that is owned by NASA. It would help with less people. I have been through a lot lately that may be causing added stress. My grandpa died, I got asthma, and more within the past two years. My sister died when I was 6. It was scary to have that happen to someone so young. The misophonia got worse. It was where I was severely triggered at home. It then went to school snd keeps getting worse. I have always been treated like I am stupid and have been told that I am stupid sense 1st grade. I am not stupid. I am just slow and have a hard time concentrating. My hearing had been getting worse, but mainly with low pitched sounds. I really try to be as possitive as possible. I am usually happy when I haven't been triggered for a while. The worst is when people make fun of the way I walk because of a really weird feet disformity like my feet point outwards, they bend over, and I am extreamly flat footed and I have to plug my ears often to keep myself from either attacking or running out screaming, which I would get into huge trouble for doing. This is one big roller coster ride called Life. > > > > > > > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > > > > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > > > > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > > > > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > > > > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > > > > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > > > > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > > > > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > > > > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > > > > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > > > > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > > > > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > > > > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Thanks. I am acually watching X Factor and I know that I am good at singing(I have won awards in choir) and I would use money for a foundation for misophonia. I talked to my friend that is blind. She makes me feel strong. I do feel kinda like a baby, but yet it is hard when everyone gets sick and has to eat that both trigger me. I know that I can work for a small astronomy buissness that is owned by NASA. It would help with less people. I have been through a lot lately that may be causing added stress. My grandpa died, I got asthma, and more within the past two years. My sister died when I was 6. It was scary to have that happen to someone so young. The misophonia got worse. It was where I was severely triggered at home. It then went to school snd keeps getting worse. I have always been treated like I am stupid and have been told that I am stupid sense 1st grade. I am not stupid. I am just slow and have a hard time concentrating. My hearing had been getting worse, but mainly with low pitched sounds. I really try to be as possitive as possible. I am usually happy when I haven't been triggered for a while. The worst is when people make fun of the way I walk because of a really weird feet disformity like my feet point outwards, they bend over, and I am extreamly flat footed and I have to plug my ears often to keep myself from either attacking or running out screaming, which I would get into huge trouble for doing. This is one big roller coster ride called Life. > > > > > > > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > > > > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > > > > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > > > > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > > > > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > > > > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > > > > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > > > > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > > > > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > > > > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > > > > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > > > > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > > > > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I think the only way to address it is head on. It's either that or your sanity. This is such a tough world for those of us with sound sensitivity. I am at a point where I want to explode all of the time, and it's actually happening. I want to quit working just to be away from all of the things that make me lose my mind. We had a new woman start working for us and she wanted to play her music on her iPhone. I told her, "I am a freak about noise". that's how it started, but then she kept playing the music and that was all I could focus on so I just told her, "i'm really sorry, and I don't expect you to understand but I cannot take that music". I apologized 100 times and she was totally cool about it. Now we have two new managers coming in and I already can't stand one of them. I have no idea how I am going to address it because she is a big mouth loud tacky blah blah blah!! I am already losing my mind about her working there and she is in New York right now and I am in LA. I am flipping out at the thought of her! I am doomed when she gets back! To: soundsensitivity Sent: Thursday, September 22, 2011 8:29 AMSubject: How do I address this? This woman I work with does these hiccup/burp things multiple times a day and it enrages me beyond belief. I have tried to address it jokingly.. just to get a point across but she still does it. I feel that it is rude to do so loudly at the workplace and its every damn day! Why can't she keep it quiet when she has to do this! I truly feel like I am going to explode and every time I hear it, that is all I continue to focus on and anticipate the next time it is going to happen. I have the same issue with a guy near me who snaps all the time. I feel so physically enraged and I could just envision beating the crap out of them (as bad as that sounds). I always huff under my breath when they do it but it is unbearable for me. I am at a loss as to what to do. The guy who snaps used to whistle all the time and I did address that but now he snaps all the time so loud and fast, its awful. Is there any way to address at least the hiccuping? Because when I have addressed in a sort of a joking manner, she just laughs and I really want to knock her teeth out! Thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I think the only way to address it is head on. It's either that or your sanity. This is such a tough world for those of us with sound sensitivity. I am at a point where I want to explode all of the time, and it's actually happening. I want to quit working just to be away from all of the things that make me lose my mind. We had a new woman start working for us and she wanted to play her music on her iPhone. I told her, "I am a freak about noise". that's how it started, but then she kept playing the music and that was all I could focus on so I just told her, "i'm really sorry, and I don't expect you to understand but I cannot take that music". I apologized 100 times and she was totally cool about it. Now we have two new managers coming in and I already can't stand one of them. I have no idea how I am going to address it because she is a big mouth loud tacky blah blah blah!! I am already losing my mind about her working there and she is in New York right now and I am in LA. I am flipping out at the thought of her! I am doomed when she gets back! To: soundsensitivity Sent: Thursday, September 22, 2011 8:29 AMSubject: How do I address this? This woman I work with does these hiccup/burp things multiple times a day and it enrages me beyond belief. I have tried to address it jokingly.. just to get a point across but she still does it. I feel that it is rude to do so loudly at the workplace and its every damn day! Why can't she keep it quiet when she has to do this! I truly feel like I am going to explode and every time I hear it, that is all I continue to focus on and anticipate the next time it is going to happen. I have the same issue with a guy near me who snaps all the time. I feel so physically enraged and I could just envision beating the crap out of them (as bad as that sounds). I always huff under my breath when they do it but it is unbearable for me. I am at a loss as to what to do. The guy who snaps used to whistle all the time and I did address that but now he snaps all the time so loud and fast, its awful. Is there any way to address at least the hiccuping? Because when I have addressed in a sort of a joking manner, she just laughs and I really want to knock her teeth out! Thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I like what Heidi said. I did take the article and showed my boss. Then she told the owner, it's something neurological with Alesia. She can't help it. I also showed them the "Highly Sensitive People" book. We finally have some documented back up. We need to use it.To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thursday, September 22, 2011 8:46 AMSubject: Re: How do I address this? How about instead of joking, sit her down and tell her directly. Give her a copy of the NYTime article. Be straight forward in a kind way rather than joking, when you joke to people they have no idea you are serious because they think you are being funny. She doesn't think she's being rude, she's engaging probably in a tick she's had forever. You can tell her, and she may listen and try but chances are she's not going to be able to stop totally if in fact it's a tick she's had forever. But it''ll be worth it if it decreases and you will feel better for having addressed it as you have all this built up anger about it. Consider also wearing ear plugs, noise generators, music, etc. The truth is, none of us should ever expect that people can stop doing what they do 100%. I do believe something that can help all of us is to not focus on how RUDE THEY are being as I think that creates loop thinking when we are in the situation and only helps to further the rage. The more compassion and understanding you can have while you hear the noise, the better you will be able to employ techniques to ignore it and soothe yourself through it.Heidi This woman I work with does these hiccup/burp things multiple times a day and it enrages me beyond belief. I have tried to address it jokingly.. just to get a point across but she still does it. I feel that it is rude to do so loudly at the workplace and its every damn day! Why can't she keep it quiet when she has to do this! I truly feel like I am going to explode and every time I hear it, that is all I continue to focus on and anticipate the next time it is going to happen. I have the same issue with a guy near me who snaps all the time. I feel so physically enraged and I could just envision beating the crap out of them (as bad as that sounds). I always huff under my breath when they do it but it is unbearable for me. I am at a loss as to what to do. The guy who snaps used to whistle all the time and I did address that but now he snaps all the time so loud and fast, its awful. Is there any way to address at least the hiccuping? Because when I have addressed in a sort of a joking manner, she just laughs and I really want to knock her teeth out! Thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 I like what Heidi said. I did take the article and showed my boss. Then she told the owner, it's something neurological with Alesia. She can't help it. I also showed them the "Highly Sensitive People" book. We finally have some documented back up. We need to use it.To: Soundsensitivity Sent: Thursday, September 22, 2011 8:46 AMSubject: Re: How do I address this? How about instead of joking, sit her down and tell her directly. Give her a copy of the NYTime article. Be straight forward in a kind way rather than joking, when you joke to people they have no idea you are serious because they think you are being funny. She doesn't think she's being rude, she's engaging probably in a tick she's had forever. You can tell her, and she may listen and try but chances are she's not going to be able to stop totally if in fact it's a tick she's had forever. But it''ll be worth it if it decreases and you will feel better for having addressed it as you have all this built up anger about it. Consider also wearing ear plugs, noise generators, music, etc. The truth is, none of us should ever expect that people can stop doing what they do 100%. I do believe something that can help all of us is to not focus on how RUDE THEY are being as I think that creates loop thinking when we are in the situation and only helps to further the rage. The more compassion and understanding you can have while you hear the noise, the better you will be able to employ techniques to ignore it and soothe yourself through it.Heidi This woman I work with does these hiccup/burp things multiple times a day and it enrages me beyond belief. I have tried to address it jokingly.. just to get a point across but she still does it. I feel that it is rude to do so loudly at the workplace and its every damn day! Why can't she keep it quiet when she has to do this! I truly feel like I am going to explode and every time I hear it, that is all I continue to focus on and anticipate the next time it is going to happen. I have the same issue with a guy near me who snaps all the time. I feel so physically enraged and I could just envision beating the crap out of them (as bad as that sounds). I always huff under my breath when they do it but it is unbearable for me. I am at a loss as to what to do. The guy who snaps used to whistle all the time and I did address that but now he snaps all the time so loud and fast, its awful. Is there any way to address at least the hiccuping? Because when I have addressed in a sort of a joking manner, she just laughs and I really want to knock her teeth out! Thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2011 Report Share Posted September 22, 2011 Is it bad for me to think of myself a baby when I am scared of the world around me when I know someone blind and she gets around just fine? I believe she can do anything like it, but different. I have seen her do extraordinary things that I wouldn't concider someone whocis blind to do. She lots of times gives me hope, but I feel guilty. > > I think the only way to address it is head on.  It's either that or your sanity.  This is such a tough world for those of us with sound sensitivity.  I am at a point where I want to explode all of the time, and it's actually happening. I want to quit working just to be away from all of the things that make me lose my mind.  We had a new woman start working for us and she wanted to play her music on her iPhone.  I told her, " I am a freak about noise " .  that's how it started, but then she kept playing the music and that was all I could focus on so I just told her, " i'm really sorry, and I don't expect you to understand but I cannot take that music " .  I apologized 100 times and she was totally cool about it.  Now we have two new managers coming in and I already can't stand one of them.  I have no idea how I am going to address it because she is a big mouth loud tacky blah blah blah!!  I am already losing my mind about her working there and she is > in New York right now and I am in LA.  I am flipping out at the thought of her!  I am doomed when she gets back!  > > > ________________________________ > > To: soundsensitivity > Sent: Thursday, September 22, 2011 8:29 AM > Subject: How do I address this? > > >  > This woman I work with does these hiccup/burp things multiple times a day > and it enrages me beyond belief. I have tried to address it jokingly.. > just to get a point across but she still does it. I feel that it is rude > to do so loudly at the workplace and its every damn day! Why can't she > keep it quiet when she has to do this! I truly feel like I am going to > explode and every time I hear it, that is all I continue to focus on and > anticipate the next time it is going to happen. I have the same issue with > a guy near me who snaps all the time. I feel so physically enraged and I > could just envision beating the crap out of them (as bad as that sounds). > I always huff under my breath when they do it but it is unbearable for me. > I am at a loss as to what to do. The guy who snaps used to whistle all the > time and I did address that but now he snaps all the time so loud and fast, its > awful. Is there any way to address at least the hiccuping? Because > when I have addressed in a sort of a joking manner, she just laughs and I really > want to knock her teeth out! > Thanks for listening! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 23, 2011 Report Share Posted September 23, 2011 Thank you. I am usually pretty possitive when I am not around trigger sounds. Ivacually stayed home from school because it is just homecoming celebration and Perade. Cheering means wistling. I didn't want to be in that situation. So, I am happy at y house. This is nice. Too bad it can't happen everyday. I have also been wondering why kids hate school. I hate it because of misophonia, but other than that it would be the best place to be. I am always hoping for treatment and I know it will be avaliable and we will get that treatment. I love this new attention. > > > > > > > > > > > > I will definitely post my experience(s) with this syndrome, when I have a > > > > > > bit more time to be thorough. Regarding closing my door, he'd even asked me > > > > > > a few times why I had closed the door (and to not seem like a crazy person) > > > > > > I told him " I just wanted a little bit of quiet. " He's definitely taken it > > > > > > personally every time I've done it and I think he complains to other people > > > > > > about it (they make comments to me about closing the door and not " liking " > > > > > > him any more). I think I'd be more comfortable if he'd address it again to > > > > > > me and then I would show him the article and give him a whole explanation. > > > > > > We both seem to be non-confrontational and (which is common in the South) we > > > > > > are very concerned about being polite all the time, so that makes this > > > > > > especially difficult. Plus, he has a bit more seniority here and I don't > > > > > > want this getting back to my boss. I guess since Friday is better, I'll wait > > > > > > until tomorrow to bring it up. Fingers crossed! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2011 Report Share Posted September 27, 2011 OMG! I feel the same way (about wanting to beat the crap out of them!). I've used joking, too: A lady in the office yawns REALLY loud, and I don't mean just an exhaling noise, she puts a loud voice into it! Each time I tell her she sounds like a walrus! And another person sits near me and laughs LOUDLY and constantly. She sounds like a freaking flock of geese! It's even WORSE now because our boss told her that she really likes her laugh. Now she can't laugh enough with trying to get more attention from the boss! UGH! I've had to ask my boss to move me around several times, and now other than the loud guffawing goose and loud yawning walrus, I'm at peace. I used to have to sit next to a person who said, " Now " (but pronounced it in a nasally, " Naow! " sound) CONSTANTLY during her conversations on the phone. I totally imagined yanking the hair out the back of her head! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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