Guest guest Posted January 22, 2002 Report Share Posted January 22, 2002 AMEN ELDA!!! Loving yourself is the biggest challenge for me! (after being emotionally beaten down so badly in my first marriage) I'm learning and it really is essential! But with the help of God, it is possible! I think I'm almost there! And it feels good! I have to know, that no matter what happens to me in my life, I will be okay! And that is a huge comfort! Re: & > Hello Ladies, > > I've kind of been reading your post Shannnon and I feel for you, I > too am in a second marriage. My DH and I have had major issues and > and have almost gone our separate ways but I just wanted to let you > know that I agree with . Although in second marriages we come > with alot of baggage we also come in with alot more experience and we > should try not to make the same mistakes as we did in the past. > > I was once told that we must make ourselves happy before we can > radiate any happiness to our families. This includes our kids and > mates so be happy and they will share in your happiness. Take time > to search your soul and see if this is really the end or just an > episode that will pass and make sure you can live with your decision > whatever that may be. > > I wish you all the luck in the world and take care. > > Elda > > > > I've been thinking of you and meaning to post. Things are going > nuts at my house too, with sick kids. Only one, thank goodness, so > far has been sick throwing up. Another one has had a high fever, > headache, earache, etc. but is back to feeling better and is on his > way to school today. Whew! > > Anyway, I haven't responded to your post about Nick and your > problems. It has taken me almost 35 years to actually realize that > fighting is a NORMAL part of marriage! (relationship) Fighting can > bring out a lot of bad characteristics in us! (but especially the > men, right? LOL) Just hang in there. Relationships need to " mature " , > and I know that when you are in the middle of what you are going > thru, it seems like this is it, the end, blah blah blah (I've done it > a ton of times) but as others have already reported to you, " this too > shall pass " . Men can just be a little, should I say, immature > sometimes? Of course, I can too! So I'm not gender bashing, just some > people more than others! Nick sounds like he may be a tad immature, > but that is okay! He will season up nicely, as long as you two love, > trust, and not ditch whenever there is a problem. > > Hope this helps! I've been in despair many times! Many times I > thought my marriage was over! But I love my husband and he loves me, > we just get stubborn. Second marriages are hard to begin with (any > marriage is hard to begin with, but second marriages have a lot of > baggage/issues) Time heals. Just ride the wave over the barrier reef > and smooth sailing is on the other side. Just remember, waves are not > going to be extinct any time soon! > > Hugs, in MI > > > > _________________________________________ > > > > ICQ#:27938570 > > Current ICQ status: > > > > SMS: (Send an SMS message to my ICQ): +278314227938570 > > More ways to contact me: http://wwp.icq.com/27938570 > > _________________________________________ > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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