Guest guest Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 In my opinion, you need to pat yourself on the back! Focus on the positive - 3 1/2 hours at the party versus not going is great! I suggest you leave it at that. You will begin to feel more free in the future to stay as long as you like, hopefully without even realizing how long you're there. I used to force myself to stay at a gathering for 1/2 hour, which was painful. Now I usually am one of the last people to leave. I still have major difficulties getting there though, so I am still working on that. At least that's how it has worked for me. I am so happy for you! > > > Hey. Thanks for the replies about blaming. I know that many people are worse off than me, having been beaten and abused in worse ways than I have been. It's messed up and I feel sorry about it. I don't believe that I chose it, though. I don't believe anyone would choose it. > > If you remember I was talking about going to a party tonight, and I went there. It went pretty okay, I left after three and a half hours. I feel the problem is that I left when my anxiety told me to leave. In the beginning there was the family of my friend, her cousins, her mother, and I was pretty anxious, but I stayed, and it was okay. I even talked to some people. The whole atmosphere was a little stiff, though. After a while the family left, and some other people arrived, and I felt worse. I stayed for a while, but I could feel it was getting harder and harder to stay. I was talking to my friend (it was her birthday), and I was very anxious about that. " I'm not funny " , " I'm disconnected " , " don't say stupid stuff " , blabla. So it is worse for me to talk to people I really like, or people I want to like me. I tried to think that I didn't have to be the funniest guy, I didn't have to say funny stuff. > > I forget that it was okay for a while. I feel so stupid for leaving like that. Feels like I'm making a scene. Hm. But: would it be better if I stayed longer to see if the anxiety passed? I had already stayed for more than 3 hours. I didn' set a time, though. Should I have done that? I really just wanted to stay until the party ended, or people went out to the town or something. Hm. I don't feel awful, though. I don't feel good about it, but I don't feel bad (like really bad). > > Thank you for being here! > > Haakon > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2011 Report Share Posted March 5, 2011 thank you! I wish you a good night. (Or day). Haakon > > > > > > Hey. Thanks for the replies about blaming. I know that many people are worse off than me, having been beaten and abused in worse ways than I have been. It's messed up and I feel sorry about it. I don't believe that I chose it, though. I don't believe anyone would choose it. > > > > If you remember I was talking about going to a party tonight, and I went there. It went pretty okay, I left after three and a half hours. I feel the problem is that I left when my anxiety told me to leave. In the beginning there was the family of my friend, her cousins, her mother, and I was pretty anxious, but I stayed, and it was okay. I even talked to some people. The whole atmosphere was a little stiff, though. After a while the family left, and some other people arrived, and I felt worse. I stayed for a while, but I could feel it was getting harder and harder to stay. I was talking to my friend (it was her birthday), and I was very anxious about that. " I'm not funny " , " I'm disconnected " , " don't say stupid stuff " , blabla. So it is worse for me to talk to people I really like, or people I want to like me. I tried to think that I didn't have to be the funniest guy, I didn't have to say funny stuff. > > > > I forget that it was okay for a while. I feel so stupid for leaving like that. Feels like I'm making a scene. Hm. But: would it be better if I stayed longer to see if the anxiety passed? I had already stayed for more than 3 hours. I didn' set a time, though. Should I have done that? I really just wanted to stay until the party ended, or people went out to the town or something. Hm. I don't feel awful, though. I don't feel good about it, but I don't feel bad (like really bad). > > > > Thank you for being here! > > > > Haakon > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2011 Report Share Posted March 6, 2011 You went. You stayed. You conquered! Helena the party guy Hey. Thanks for the replies about blaming. I know that many people are worse off than me, having been beaten and abused in worse ways than I have been. It's messed up and I feel sorry about it. I don't believe that I chose it, though. I don't believe anyone would choose it. If you remember I was talking about going to a party tonight, and I went there. It went pretty okay, I left after three and a half hours. I feel the problem is that I left when my anxiety told me to leave. In the beginning there was the family of my friend, her cousins, her mother, and I was pretty anxious, but I stayed, and it was okay. I even talked to some people. The whole atmosphere was a little stiff, though. After a while the family left, and some other people arrived, and I felt worse. I stayed for a while, but I could feel it was getting harder and harder to stay. I was talking to my friend (it was her birthday), and I was very anxious about that. "I'm not funny", "I'm disconnected", "don't say stupid stuff", blabla. So it is worse for me to talk to people I really like, or people I want to like me. I tried to think that I didn't have to be the funniest guy, I didn't have to say funny stuff. I forget that it was okay for a while. I feel so stupid for leaving like that. Feels like I'm making a scene. Hm. But: would it be better if I stayed longer to see if the anxiety passed? I had already stayed for more than 3 hours. I didn' set a time, though. Should I have done that? I really just wanted to stay until the party ended, or people went out to the town or something. Hm. I don't feel awful, though. I don't feel good about it, but I don't feel bad (like really bad).Thank you for being here!Haakon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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