Re: Acceptance wording .....

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Do you mean you are looking for replacement words for acceptance?Sorry, can't recall your previous post about this.To: ACT <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Mon, May 16, 2011 7:05:32 AMSubject: Acceptance wording

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I'm really interested in reading what wording others use to "accept" thoughts as they come

to mind ........ I've already mentioned some of mine in past emails.....

But I'd love to see examples of others because it's something that I've never seen

examples of before ..........

Please everyone ..... I'm really interested in what you do in this area ........

Thanks very much

iolanda

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Never tell me never!!! (Janine Shepherd)

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I use the "I notice that I'm having the feeling of..." technique quite a bit. It doesn't make me feel much better but it does remind me that it's only thought, which is the point. I also use the "thanks, mind" phrase.Most of my distressing states are more feeling-based than thought-based. So I use a lot of observing the sensation as a curious scientist would. I also try and put the emotion to the side and carry on with an action. I also often use the passengers on the bus metaphor, where the emotion is just one noisy passenger on a bus with other thoughts and feelings and my acting self is the driver.BruceI'm really interested in reading what wording others use to "accept" thoughts as they come to mind ........ I've already mentioned some of mine in past emails.....But I'd love to see examples of others because it's something that I've never seen examples of before ..........Please everyone ..... I'm really interested in what you do in this area ........Thanks very muchiolanda-- Never tell me never!!! (Janine Shepherd)

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Iolanda - ACT suggests you defuse from unuseful thoughts. When an unuseful thought appears you have a choice - take it seriously or take it lightly. Defusion techniques help you to take the thought lightly. GOOYMAIL, pp.83-85 has a good list of defusion techniques. Try as many as it takes to find some that work. It's also OK to make up your own. Whatever works. By "works" we mean take the thoughts lightly rather than struggle with them.ACT makes a distinction between thoughts and "feelings." Acceptance is often better used with feelings, physical sensations (things that are more real than thoughts). There are at least two acceptance techniques. One is to "lean into" the feelings and be curious about them. Another is simply to go on about your business and not struggle with them. Acceptance and defusion are the two components of the LET GO (stop struggling) leg of the ACT three-legged stool. The other two legs are: SHOW UP (observing self and contact with the present); and GET MOVING (values and committed action). I find it best to use all three legs rather than depend on just one or two.I hope this helps.Bill> To: ACT_for_the_Public > Date: Tue, 17 May 2011 00:05:32 +1000> Subject: Acceptance wording .....> > I'm really interested in reading what wording others use to "accept" thoughts as they come > to mind ........ I've already mentioned some of mine in past emails.....> > But I'd love to see examples of others because it's something that I've never seen > examples of before ..........> > Please everyone ..... I'm really interested in what you do in this area ........> > Thanks very much> > iolanda> > -- > Never tell me never!!! (Janine Shepherd)> > > > > ------------------------------------> > For other ACT materials and list serves see www.contextualpsychology.org> > If you do not wish to belong to ACT_for_the_Public, you may > unsubscribe by sending an email to > ACT_for_the_Public-unsubscribe@...! Groups Links> > <*> To visit your group on the web, go to:> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/> > <*> Your email settings:> Individual Email | Traditional> > <*> To change settings online go to:> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join> (Yahoo! ID required)> > <*> To change settings via email:> ACT_for_the_Public-digest > ACT_for_the_Public-fullfeatured > > <*>

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I like the...Let GoShow UpGet Moving...instructions as steps. I don't remember seeing it put that way before but it makes sense to me. It's similar to the Suit Up and Show Up instruction that I sometimes use. I need to do that today, in about an hour. I'd be interested in others' thoughts about the order these should be in. I guess Get Moving should be last but maybe not. Sometimes maybe Get Moving has to be first.Thanks, Bill.BruceIolanda - ACT suggests you defuse from unuseful thoughts. When an unuseful thought appears you have a choice - take it seriously or take it lightly. Defusion techniques help you to take the thought lightly. GOOYMAIL, pp.83-85 has a good list of defusion techniques. Try as many as it takes to find some that work. It's also OK to make up your own. Whatever works. By "works" we mean take the thoughts lightly rather than struggle with them.ACT makes a distinction between thoughts and "feelings." Acceptance is often better used with feelings, physical sensations (things that are more real than thoughts). There are at least two acceptance techniques. One is to "lean into" the feelings and be curious about them. Another is simply to go on about your business and not struggle with them. Acceptance and defusion are the two components of the LET GO (stop struggling) leg of the ACT three-legged stool. The other two legs are: SHOW UP (observing self and contact with the present); and GET MOVING (values and committed action). I find it best to use all three legs rather than depend on just one or two.I hope this helps.Bill> To: ACT_for_the_Public > Date: Tue, 17 May 2011 00:05:32 +1000> Subject: Acceptance wording .....> > I'm really interested in reading what wording others use to "accept" thoughts as they come > to mind ........ I've already mentioned some of mine in past emails.....> > But I'd love to see examples of others because it's something that I've never seen > examples of before ..........> > Please everyone ..... I'm really interested in what you do in this area ........> > Thanks very much> > iolanda> > -- > Never tell me never!!! (Janine Shepherd)> > > > > ------------------------------------> > For other ACT materials and list serves see www.contextualpsychology.org> > If you do not wish to belong to ACT_for_the_Public, you may > unsubscribe by sending an email to > ACT_for_the_Public-unsubscribe@...! Groups Links> > <*> To visit your group on the web, go to:> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/> > <*> Your email settings:> Individual Email | Traditional> > <*> To change settings online go to:> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join> (Yahoo! ID required)> > <*> To change settings via email:> ACT_for_the_Public-digest > ACT_for_the_Public-fullfeatured > > <*>

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The order depends on if you've already shown up and let go! The process is iterative. No such thing as one time showing up or letting go. BillTo: ACT_for_the_Public From: onebnz@...Date: Mon, 16 May 2011 11:25:13 -0700Subject: Re: Acceptance wording .....

I like the...Let GoShow UpGet Moving...instructions as steps. I don't remember seeing it put that way before but it makes sense to me. It's similar to the Suit Up and Show Up instruction that I sometimes use. I need to do that today, in about an hour. I'd be interested in others' thoughts about the order these should be in. I guess Get Moving should be last but maybe not. Sometimes maybe Get Moving has to be first.Thanks, Bill.BruceIolanda - ACT suggests you defuse from unuseful thoughts. When an unuseful thought appears you have a choice - take it seriously or take it lightly. Defusion techniques help you to take the thought lightly. GOOYMAIL, pp.83-85 has a good list of defusion techniques. Try as many as it takes to find some that work. It's also OK to make up your own. Whatever works. By "works" we mean take the thoughts lightly rather than struggle with them.ACT makes a distinction between thoughts and "feelings." Acceptance is often better used with feelings, physical sensations (things that are more real than thoughts). There are at least two acceptance techniques. One is to "lean into" the feelings and be curious about them. Another is simply to go on about your business and not struggle with them. Acceptance and defusion are the two components of the LET GO (stop struggling) leg of the ACT three-legged stool. The other two legs are: SHOW UP (observing self and contact with the present); and GET MOVING (values and committed action). I find it best to use all three legs rather than depend on just one or two.I hope this helps.Bill> To: ACT_for_the_Public > Date: Tue, 17 May 2011 00:05:32 +1000> Subject: Acceptance wording .....> > I'm really interested in reading what wording others use to "accept" thoughts as they come > to mind ........ I've already mentioned some of mine in past emails.....> > But I'd love to see examples of others because it's something that I've never seen > examples of before ..........> > Please everyone ..... I'm really interested in what you do in this area ........> > Thanks very much> > iolanda> > -- > Never tell me never!!! (Janine Shepherd)> > > > > ------------------------------------> > For other ACT materials and list serves see www.contextualpsychology.org> > If you do not wish to belong to ACT_for_the_Public, you may > unsubscribe by sending an email to > ACT_for_the_Public-unsubscribe@...! Groups Links> > <*> To visit your group on the web, go to:> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/> > <*> Your email settings:> Individual Email | Traditional> > <*> To change settings online go to:> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join> (Yahoo! ID required)> > <*> To change settings via email:> ACT_for_the_Public-digest > ACT_for_the_Public-fullfeatured > > <*>

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> I'm really interested in reading what wording others use to " accept " thoughts

as they come

> to mind ........ I've already mentioned some of mine in past emails.....

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> But I'd love to see examples of others because it's something that I've never

seen

> examples of before ..........

>

> Please everyone ..... I'm really interested in what you do in this area

.........

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> Thanks very much

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> iolanda

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> --

> Never tell me never!!! (Janine Shepherd)

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