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I appreciated the disclosures that some men have made about their

surgeries. The important thing to remember, from what I have read,

is that surgeons are not " equal " . I get the impression that men of

means in my community go to see surgeons elsewhere. A dr told me he

went to a St. Louis surgeon. Theoretically, a man is supposed to

ask the surgeon to disclose how frequently he performs

prostatectomies and what the results have been. I am wondering if a

dr commits malpractice if he does not volunteer this information

without waiting for the man to ask.

I saw a surgeon, a professor of surgery, circa Sep. 03. I asked him

about nerve sparing surgery. He said in my case there would be no

attempt to do nerve sparing surgery. He also said that I would

probably be incontinent after the surgery. I took that to mean that

the incontinence would likely be permanent. I vascillated until

finally the urologist at the charity hospital where I am a patient

said that surgery was probably not the best option for me and he

referred me to a radiologist. I visited the radilogical clinic and

talked to the dr and the techs but I vascillated again and the

urologist told me I had waited too long. Started me on the hormone

treatment.

A primary care physician has talked to me about castration. At this

time I am not opting for that procedure.

I am beginning to think many of us in this predicament probably

ought to start reading about the eunuchs of China and their

lifesyles. Try to understand the psychology of the eunuch.

Sometimes they were assigned to deal with women in the harems. What

did the eunuchs do? Did they help the women prepare for their

meetings with the sultans and khans, etc.? Did they gain

psychological satisfaction in being close to the women in that

capacity? Is there an attitude that we " PC eunuchs " could acquire?

Should married men consider helping their wives find sexual

surrogates? There are stories about this practice that shock the

sensibilities of normal people, but maybe for men and women in

abnormal circumstances such practices are not so shocking. One

woman told me she was married to a man who had ED (not from PC) and

they used a dildo and apparently that worked for them. Another

thing to do is for the man to look the other way and for the woman

to be discreet in her sexual behavior. I think as our society

becomes more sexualized and sexual practises are talked about openly

in entertainment and in the media in general, PC eunuchs are going

to have to develop the right attitude to cope with these changes.

Does anybody remember the movie " Bob, Carol, Ted and Alice " , from

the 1960s? Today's life style is much more sexualized than that.

I think as the disease worsens, coping with the pain and other

problems finally put the grief that men experience from their ED out

of their minds. So that is something maybe to look forward to.

Man, what a lot of bullshit. Well, maybe not entirely.