Re: New year resolution/the habit of giving up

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I was reading the other day in The Happiness Trap that there is no such thing as willpower, there are only continuous repetitions of committed actions towards our values.(I have just worded it my own way from memory, could be wrong) So when we give up I think you could be looking at 2 points, commitment and values. The clue could be to revise these 2 when we feel like going down another path. Before ACT I must say, I put on weight because I took some anxiety meds. When I stopped taking them I found I had to lose the weight. I knew why I wanted to lose weight, and was committed to it. I could see the path where I was healthy, thin, feeling attractive etc and I could see the other path where I felt unfit, unattractive, unhealthy, bloated, down ect, Everytime I thought of giving up I just looked at the 2 paths and thought

which one I wanted. If you value something hard enough it can become all of a sudden easy to choose which way to go. For me what I valued made commitment happen. So in conclusion I would say what you value is the most important thing to stop you from giving up. Hope this helps XP.S. I am now thin ______________________Signature: Mrs Em Equanimity This is my personal blog where I record my experience applying Acceptance Commitment Therapy to my anxiety and agoraphobia in particular, and my life in general. Feel free to browse. http://eyeofthehurricane-act.blogspot.com/--- El vie, 21/1/11, jessica y escribió:De: jessica y Asunto: New year resolution/the habit of giving upPara: ACT_for_the_Public Fecha: viernes, 21 de enero, 2011 10:25

Now in making New year resolution, I am facing my habit of giving up.

It seems I am so easy to give up plan to commit with my values, when It face difficulties, a lot of negative thoughts arises. I am so easy to give up.

Before I got a friend point out to me:" why you always give up?!" Oh, God, How cam I know? Is it possible an psychology problem and any self help books?

How ACT deal with this?

Thanks & regards

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I know I'm very very new to ACT, and I don't know if I'm allowed to say this

because it's

not strictly ACT ....... so if this is wrong can a moderator send me a private

message

(nicely worded!!) telling me what's allowed and what isn't .......

said .....

> Now in making New year resolution, I am facing my habit of giving up.

I think that if you want to make a major change in your life, then just

" choosing " the new

year to do it mightn't be the best way to do it ........ I think that if someone

tries to

do something in January and then they fail, then they may probably say to

themselves " i'll

try again next year " .......so they're avoiding making the change NOW.

I don't personally make " resolutions " each January because if I figure I want to

change or

do something then I'll try to see if I can do it now, or in a few weeks or

months etc. So

each January I choose some " projects " that I want to work on during the year - I

put the

listing in front of me so that I look at it and don't forget the things that I

want to

work on.

Know what I mean? If it was incorrect of me to say this, can a moderator let me

know?

Thanks

iolanda

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Smile – it increases your face value!!! ;-)

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Hi Iolanda - That's very insightful. January 1st is just a date, isn't it! What's wrong with today? If today doesn't work out, there is always tomorrow! xSubject: Re: New year resolution/the habit of giving upTo: ACT_for_the_Public Date: Friday, 21 January, 2011, 13:34I know I'm very very new to ACT, and I don't know if I'm allowed to say this because it's not strictly ACT ....... so if this is wrong can a moderator send me a private message (nicely worded!!)

telling me what's allowed and what isn't ....... said .....> Now in making New year resolution, I am facing my habit of giving up.I think that if you want to make a major change in your life, then just "choosing" the new year to do it mightn't be the best way to do it ........ I think that if someone tries to do something in January and then they fail, then they may probably say to themselves "i'll try again next year" .......so they're avoiding making the change NOW.I don't personally make "resolutions" each January because if I figure I want to change or do something then I'll try to see if I can do it now, or in a few weeks or months etc. So each January I choose some "projects" that I want to work on during the year - I put the listing in front of me so that I look at it and don't forget the things that I want to work on.Know what I mean? If it was incorrect of me to say this,

can a moderator let me know?Thanksiolanda-- Smile – it increases your face value!!! ;-)------------------------------------For other ACT materials and list serves see www.contextualpsychology.orgIf you do not wish to belong to ACT_for_the_Public, you may unsubscribe by sending an email to ACT_for_the_Public-unsubscribe@...! Groups Links<*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/<*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional<*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join (Yahoo! ID required)<*> To change settings via email: ACT_for_the_Public-digest ACT_for_the_Public-fullfeatured <*>