Guest guest Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 I have been married to a kind, gentle man for 22 years. About a year and a half ago we discovered that he has Asperger’s. It has changed our lives, knowledge is powerful. I would love to know how other people communicate with their Aspie partners. I am still struggling with it. He is really trying to communicate better but I get the impression that I need to teach him. Any suggestions or experiences will be appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2012 Report Share Posted July 13, 2012 Toni -- Welcome! How much do you know about Aspergers? One way to help your husband is to learn about AS -- which you've started doing by joining us. But don't stop here ... read some books and websites. [May I humbly suggest some of the posts in the Aspie Parent section of my blog? see my website in my sig.] To address your impression, yes, your husband has to consciously learn communication and social skills -- this is a major component of AS. That doesn't mean *you* have to teach him. Some Aspies can learn on their own (rare), or he can learn with an AS support group or therapist. You're his wife, you don't also have to be parent or teacher, unless you want. You will have to remind him, though. " You misread my voice tone, what I meant was ... " " When you say X using those words, I feel insulted. " Sentences like this will become familiar. Unless there are other things going on, we Aspies can be very loving, and want to learn how to communicate. We just have to learn, and practice, just as you would learn a foreign language. --Liz AS, almost divorced from AS husband (who had a whole boatload of " other things going on " ) Graphic and Web Design, Custom Merchandise Boston area (Metrowest) and online http://polymathsolution.com > I have been married to a kind, gentle man for 22 years. About a year and a half ago we discovered that he has Asperger’s. It has changed our lives, knowledge is powerful. > I would love to know how other people communicate with their Aspie partners. I am still struggling with it. He is really trying to communicate better but I get the impression that I need to teach him. > > Any suggestions or experiences will be appreciated. > > > Graphic and Web Design, Custom Merchandise Boston area (Metrowest) and online http://polymathsolution.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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