still struggling with 's IEP

[Guest guest]

Sheryl,

Very very good luck tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you as you meet

for the IEP again.

We also have struggled quite a bit with the district and it is no fun.

It's wonderful to hear of signing 'more'. Your language goals

sounded very reasonable and it is surprising they weren't accepted.

It didn't sound like you were asking for 'too much'. It almost sounded

as if you weren't asking enough.

But then, I have a 13 year old daugher also who seriously needs appropriate

language intervention.

I'll be thinking good thoughts tomorrow.

,

Mom to Kendra, and Camille

Portland, OR

[Guest guest]

Sheryl,

Wow, that's unbelievable that you have to go through that meeting again. It all

sounds so scary...I wish you the best of luck and I don't blame you for getting

blunt with them.

Mom to Kennedy 2yr old CHARGEr, 10, 8, and wife to Graeme

New Brunswick, Canada

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Still struggling with 's IEP

From: sdoolit272@...

Hi everyone. I have been pretty scarce lately as things have been hectic

here. Just a brief update on what is going on. Feb 11 had a 4 1/2 hour IEP

meeting to once again write goals for (taking into consideration all

of the new info we have learned this year). We agreed to focus on one

critical area and that is her communication. We wrote one goal for

expressive language, one for receptive language and one for auditory

training. Left the meeting feeling really good and we were set to reconvene

on Feb 21 to discuss programming and placement. The reason for the gap was

to allow the school district to consider the new goals when they looked into

where they would be met. For once I was feeling good about things and

looking forward to finalizing this disaster.

Well, over the course of the next week or so, things have fallen apart. Any

progress that has been made has fallen by the way side. There have been

three confrontations ( I try not to let this happen but things have escalated

to that point at times) about different things going on. I was even told by

the teacher that I need to realize that I can't always have things my way and

that I need to GIVE a little. I quickly reminded her that I have given to

the point that I have compromised my daughter right out of an education. I

have allowed them (through compromises) to take her from full inclusion to

complete isolation and now it is going to end. I informed them that I was

done with compromise and I am now going to start getting my way on a few

things whether they like it or not. I know I am not supposed to be so blunt

but I was at my wits end that day.

Oops, I said brief....Well, now tomorrow's meeting is back to doing the same

thing we did on the 11th. The AEA feels that our goals are not legal or they

didn't handle them legally and we need to readdress them all over again.

This keeps them from having to discuss placement as they know we won't get

that far. I caught wind of this and have been trying to get answers to what

they mean by this and why we are going over the same things we did last time.

I finally got some answers tonight around 8pm. I don't agree with the logic

but I have to go with this one. I was also informed this evening that the

districts attorney could very well be coming to the meeting tomorrow. Mine

cannot attend but an advocate from our P & A is at least able to attend. Good

thing about theirs attending is that he will keep the we won't and I cant's

to a minimum and they won't be attacking me like they usually do.

But on the good side, seems to be doing well with her signing. She

figured out what another one is and uses it evertime she eats....more. I

hadn't used that one with her for a long time and one night I had let her

tube get low and nothing was going in. She pointed to the food and signed

more. I was so excited. She's getting there and will use what she knows

when she has too. It is so hard because she has gestured for so long, she

wants to fall back on that instead of the signs that she does know.

Well, thanks again for letting me vent. I needed to do that before the

meeting in the morning. Wish me luck as I am going to need it again.

Sheryl, Mom to Mitch 14 and 13 CHARGE

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[Guest guest]

Sheryl-

Communication goals sound pretty straight forward to me. Why is the

district bawking? Is placement the issue, or communication?

Sally(, 18)

Message: 10

Date: Mon, 21 Feb 2000 00:12:23 EST

From: sdoolit272@...

Subject: Still struggling with 's IEP

Hi everyone. I have been pretty scarce lately as things have been hectic

here. Just a brief update on what is going on. Feb 11 had a 4 1/2 hour IEP

meeting to once again write goals for (taking into consideration all

of the new info we have learned this year). We agreed to focus on one

critical area and that is her communication. We wrote one goal for

expressive language, one for receptive language and one for auditory

training. Left the meeting feeling really good and we were set to reconvene

on Feb 21 to discuss programming and placement. The reason for the gap was

to allow the school district to consider the new goals when they looked into

where they would be met. For once I was feeling good about things and

looking forward to finalizing this disaster.

[Guest guest]

Sally,

The problem is both communication and placement. The other problem is making

sure everything is legal. Monday's meeting was a CYA. We spent three hours

going over all of the old goals, reviewing the new ones and there was

insistence that we modify a few of the old ones so we had to add three more.

One is for behavior, another for community mobility/socialization and they

wanted to keep a vocational goal.

Now that we have the goals in place, the district is going to take the next

three weeks making their decision for placement. Then on March 13, we meet

again for me to hear what they have to say and we will either agree on the

placement or go back to battle.

The meeting we had wasn't that bad. I still feel it was a waste of time and

a delay for placement but not much I can do about that. The tone of the

meeting was good as they had their attorney there. I just can't believe that

I have to attend IEP's with an attorney in the room to keep things at peace.

Sheryl, Mom to Mitch 14 and 13 CHARGE

[Guest guest]

Sally,

The problem is both communication and placement. The other problem is making

sure everything is legal. Monday's meeting was a CYA. We spent three hours

going over all of the old goals, reviewing the new ones and there was

insistence that we modify a few of the old ones so we had to add three more.

One is for behavior, another for community mobility/socialization and they

wanted to keep a vocational goal.

Now that we have the goals in place, the district is going to take the next

three weeks making their decision for placement. Then on March 13, we meet

again for me to hear what they have to say and we will either agree on the

placement or go back to battle.

The meeting we had wasn't that bad. I still feel it was a waste of time and

a delay for placement but not much I can do about that. The tone of the

meeting was good as they had their attorney there. I just can't believe that

I have to attend IEP's with an attorney in the room to keep things at peace.

Sheryl, Mom to Mitch 14 and 13 CHARGE

[Guest guest]

Sally,

The problem is both communication and placement. The other problem is making

sure everything is legal. Monday's meeting was a CYA. We spent three hours

going over all of the old goals, reviewing the new ones and there was

insistence that we modify a few of the old ones so we had to add three more.

One is for behavior, another for community mobility/socialization and they

wanted to keep a vocational goal.

Now that we have the goals in place, the district is going to take the next

three weeks making their decision for placement. Then on March 13, we meet

again for me to hear what they have to say and we will either agree on the

placement or go back to battle.

The meeting we had wasn't that bad. I still feel it was a waste of time and

a delay for placement but not much I can do about that. The tone of the

meeting was good as they had their attorney there. I just can't believe that

I have to attend IEP's with an attorney in the room to keep things at peace.

Sheryl, Mom to Mitch 14 and 13 CHARGE

[Guest guest]

{{{{{SHERYL}}}}}

Good to hear from you. Sorry that the meetings are not going well. I hope

you can get them to finally do their job.

Janet

Wife to Matt

Mom to & (CHaRGEr) 7 1/2,

nne 2 3/4

Mom to Debi 15

Weymouth, Massachusetts, USA

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