Worried about Dizz! Bad news for Dyslin family!

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Hello everyone,

I'm sorry I haven't been posting much lately, but daily

responsibilities have claimed much of my time. Please know that I've

been reading all my digests though and keeping abreast of the haps

here.

We got some bad news last night...Dirk, the bipolor brother-in-law was

found dead in his home. The pastor of their church (Dirks too) and

Dirk's mother-in-law came over around midnight to break the news to

Rosemary, my MIL.

We haven't had much sleep and Rosemary seems to be handling this news

rather well. Kinda of a sweet release for her in a way, I suppose. But

I am concerned with Dizz. He is now sleeping but earlier he just sat

there with this far away look on his face. His eyes seemed to be

actively searching for something, but his mind was not with us. I know

that others here on this board have had LO's die that are related to

our dear LO's with LBD. I would like to know what you all experienced

and how best to help Dizz. I see so many things in his eyes, regrets,

anger, and grief. I know that these are all very natural in this

process of death but is there anything I should be doing other than

being here for him? Please let me know the lessons you have all

learned in your similar experiences.

The estranged wife, my SIL, from what I hear is really having a hard

time with this. They have already told Dirks oldest, her name is

. The younger two are in school and will be told when they get

home tonight. is in high school and Hannah is in elementary

still.

Please pray for these kids. They have had a very rough life due to the

poor decisions made by both their parents. It's my prayer that this

doesn't drag them deep down, but that it raises them up.

My husband is doing okay. He feels weird, him and Dirk were not close

but still death is hard.

Thanks for being here for me. You guys are the best of the best.

Tori