Re: EVERYONE!--Married Gals!

[Guest guest]

Ava Lee,

My hubby has never called me a name that related to me being fat. He has

never really called me a derogatory name ever that I can recall. We rarely

argue, and yelling and name calling has never been a part of our arguments.

When we met I weighed 120. He married me at 170. I blossomed to 250 after

having my twins. Now I'm back to 170 and heading back down.

Don't get me wrong. I can tell he is excited that I'm getting thinner. But,

as far as how he treats me it is the same no matter what I look like. I know

I have a gem in my hubby. I don't know how I would react to a mate who put

me down. I know it can go both ways. Women can be just as hurtful as Men. It

is sad. We all deserve to feel good about ourselves and to have a mate who

will be supportive no matter what.

in WA

-- EVERYONE!--Married Gals!

My major in college was Human Services, so I'd like to ask all the

married gals something I'm curious about... (Single gals can answer

if they've had a long-term relationship with a guy.)

HAS YOUR HUSBAND, AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER, CALLED YOU NAMES BECAUSE OF

YOUR WEIGHT? (Names like 'fat cow', 'lard ass', 'pig', 'weeble' etc.

Please think of all of the names you were/are called even if he means

them to be 'cute'. If he knows they HURT YOU, then that's what

matters.)

HAS THIS BEEN A ONCE OR TWICE THING, OR HAS THIS BEEN A RATHER

PROMINENT PART OF YOUR WORST--OR ANY--ARGUMENTS? (I don't

necessarily want to know the names he uses unless you want to tell

me; I'm more curious about the fact that this is a relationship

dynamic.)

You can email me privately, if you like...

Love, Ava Lee

[Guest guest]

Ava Lee,

My hubby has never called me a name that related to me being fat. He has

never really called me a derogatory name ever that I can recall. We rarely

argue, and yelling and name calling has never been a part of our arguments.

When we met I weighed 120. He married me at 170. I blossomed to 250 after

having my twins. Now I'm back to 170 and heading back down.

Don't get me wrong. I can tell he is excited that I'm getting thinner. But,

as far as how he treats me it is the same no matter what I look like. I know

I have a gem in my hubby. I don't know how I would react to a mate who put

me down. I know it can go both ways. Women can be just as hurtful as Men. It

is sad. We all deserve to feel good about ourselves and to have a mate who

will be supportive no matter what.

in WA

-- EVERYONE!--Married Gals!

My major in college was Human Services, so I'd like to ask all the

married gals something I'm curious about... (Single gals can answer

if they've had a long-term relationship with a guy.)

HAS YOUR HUSBAND, AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER, CALLED YOU NAMES BECAUSE OF

YOUR WEIGHT? (Names like 'fat cow', 'lard ass', 'pig', 'weeble' etc.

Please think of all of the names you were/are called even if he means

them to be 'cute'. If he knows they HURT YOU, then that's what

matters.)

HAS THIS BEEN A ONCE OR TWICE THING, OR HAS THIS BEEN A RATHER

PROMINENT PART OF YOUR WORST--OR ANY--ARGUMENTS? (I don't

necessarily want to know the names he uses unless you want to tell

me; I'm more curious about the fact that this is a relationship

dynamic.)

You can email me privately, if you like...

Love, Ava Lee

[Guest guest]

Ava Lee,

My hubby has never called me a name that related to me being fat. He has

never really called me a derogatory name ever that I can recall. We rarely

argue, and yelling and name calling has never been a part of our arguments.

When we met I weighed 120. He married me at 170. I blossomed to 250 after

having my twins. Now I'm back to 170 and heading back down.

Don't get me wrong. I can tell he is excited that I'm getting thinner. But,

as far as how he treats me it is the same no matter what I look like. I know

I have a gem in my hubby. I don't know how I would react to a mate who put

me down. I know it can go both ways. Women can be just as hurtful as Men. It

is sad. We all deserve to feel good about ourselves and to have a mate who

will be supportive no matter what.

in WA

-- EVERYONE!--Married Gals!

My major in college was Human Services, so I'd like to ask all the

married gals something I'm curious about... (Single gals can answer

if they've had a long-term relationship with a guy.)

HAS YOUR HUSBAND, AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER, CALLED YOU NAMES BECAUSE OF

YOUR WEIGHT? (Names like 'fat cow', 'lard ass', 'pig', 'weeble' etc.

Please think of all of the names you were/are called even if he means

them to be 'cute'. If he knows they HURT YOU, then that's what

matters.)

HAS THIS BEEN A ONCE OR TWICE THING, OR HAS THIS BEEN A RATHER

PROMINENT PART OF YOUR WORST--OR ANY--ARGUMENTS? (I don't

necessarily want to know the names he uses unless you want to tell

me; I'm more curious about the fact that this is a relationship

dynamic.)

You can email me privately, if you like...

Love, Ava Lee

[Guest guest]

-Dear Ava Lee,

When my husband and I were dating 20 years ago I weighed much less

than half the weight I am now. I remember him saying " don't ever get

fat " . Well, I gained weight with each of my 2 pregnancies, and then

an additional 100+ pounds, but my husband never said a negative word

about my weight. He claims to love me more now than ever, but I still

keep in the back of my mind the remarks he made long ago about

weight. Joyce Rohrbach

[Guest guest]

No. He always thought I was " one hot babe " . (You did see he wears glasses,

right?)

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EVERYONE!--Married Gals!

My major in college was Human Services, so I'd like to ask all the

married gals something I'm curious about... (Single gals can answer

if they've had a long-term relationship with a guy.)

HAS YOUR HUSBAND, AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER, CALLED YOU NAMES BECAUSE OF

YOUR WEIGHT? (Names like 'fat cow', 'lard ass', 'pig', 'weeble' etc.

Please think of all of the names you were/are called even if he means

them to be 'cute'. If he knows they HURT YOU, then that's what

matters.)

HAS THIS BEEN A ONCE OR TWICE THING, OR HAS THIS BEEN A RATHER

PROMINENT PART OF YOUR WORST--OR ANY--ARGUMENTS? (I don't

necessarily want to know the names he uses unless you want to tell

me; I'm more curious about the fact that this is a relationship

dynamic.)

You can email me privately, if you like...

Love, Ava Lee

[Guest guest]

OH yeah, like waiting til your honeymoon all over again!

Thanks,

http://www.vitalady.com

For info on PayPal, click this link:

https://secure.paypal.com/affil/pal=vitalady%40bigfoot.com

EVERYONE!--Married Gals!

My major in college was Human Services, so I'd like to ask all the

married gals something I'm curious about... (Single gals can answer

if they've had a long-term relationship with a guy.)

HAS YOUR HUSBAND, AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER, CALLED YOU NAMES BECAUSE OF

YOUR WEIGHT? (Names like 'fat cow', 'lard ass', 'pig', 'weeble' etc.

Please think of all of the names you were/are called even if he means

them to be 'cute'. If he knows they HURT YOU, then that's what

matters.)

HAS THIS BEEN A ONCE OR TWICE THING, OR HAS THIS BEEN A RATHER

PROMINENT PART OF YOUR WORST--OR ANY--ARGUMENTS? (I don't

necessarily want to know the names he uses unless you want to tell

me; I'm more curious about the fact that this is a relationship

dynamic.)

You can email me privately, if you like...

Love, Ava Lee

[Guest guest]

Hi,

This subject really hit home. I am on marriage number 3 and this husband, who

met me about 5 months after my wls has never ever said a thing about my

weight, yet I remain so sensitive about it, that I think he is implying

something out of an innocent comment, or trying to sabotage me, when he

brings home snacks for himself.

My last husband, would intentionally sabotage any diet I went on, that would

be the day he would bake, ( he is an incredible baker) and I would just lose

it.

Husband number one, God, he was a piece of work, he would MOOOOOO, or OINK at

me, in public, like a family picnic, if he saw me eating....he used to tell

me he was only doing what everyone else was thinking, and he was trying to

thicken my skin, toughen me up so i would not get hurt by things " others "

said or thought....

funny thing, when I look back at those pictures of me at the weight I was

when I was with husband # 1 I am shocked, as I weighed 140-150 pounds max

then....but I did believe, truly, that i was gross. sad really

so much better now

cathi

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In a message dated 2/20/02 9:55:24 AM Eastern Standard Time,

ceeecathi@... writes:

> Husband number one, God, he was a piece of work, he would MOOOOOO, or OINK

> at

> me, in public, like a family picnic, if he saw me eating....he used to

> tell

> me he was only doing what everyone else was thinking, and he was trying to

> thicken my skin, toughen me up so i would not get hurt by things " others "

> said or thought....

> funny thing, when I look back at those pictures of me at the weight I was

> when I was with husband # 1 I am shocked, as I weighed 140-150 pounds max

> then....but I did believe, truly, that i was gross. sad really

> so much better now

> cathi

>

>

>

Cathi...my parents did that too me..I was 125 pounds and they told me what a

fat cow I was and how I needed to diet..btw I struggled with anorexia and

bulima in my teens..until my PCOS hit...then no matter what I did the weight

would not stop climbing..but I have a 95 lb 23 year old sister who is afraid

to have children because she might get fat..she has struggled with

anorexia..well always and I have a brother who is anorexic as well..although

he seems to have " grown out of it " as he entered his mid 20's. Even now as

an adult when we go for dinner I eat before I go so I can pick the my food in

front of them..after my surgery I intend to cut my parents out of my

life..all they ahve ever done is emotionally,and physically abuse me since I

was born..I have forgiven them, but it is time for me to move on and LIVE my

life!