Re: Pretty slow message board these past few days/Carol OT

[Guest guest]

Carol, please enjoy your evening out. It is about time your husband relieves

you of your

oncall! Your stained glass Santa sounds lovely. The gift exchange game can be

really fun

once people lose their inhibitions of being too kind. It isn't the final gift

so much as the

game of taking from each other, the laughs, if that is the game you are playing.

There are

many variations. It sounds like any will do for you, as long as you are away

from Millie for

a while.

I so understand that need. My husband has moved 3000 miles away to start a new

job,

leaving me to sell the house and deal with things here, including his mother.

She doesn't

have LBD or live with us, but serves up a pity party whenever I am with her.

Just this week

she told me to my face that she is telling people that her whole family has

moved away.

That would be her son and her daughter. I guess I and our kids don't count as

family. If

she only realized that playing the pity card does more harm than good! It is

just too soon

to be front line again, especially for someone who never really put herself out

for us or her

grandkids. We always had to initiate, still do. Hard to make myself continue

doing. It is

just too soon.

How did I get there? My intention was to wish you a great evening out!

, Oakville Ont.

Mother, age 92, died Aug. 12/06 after 13 year decline from PDD

>

> We have squeaky-voice Millie today, so my nerves are about shot.

> I slept til noon just trying to catch up from all of the 5:00 a.m

> starts all week.

>

> Family members really don't it! My brother-in-law was going to take

> Millie tonight so I said I would go to out faculty Christmas party.

>

> I heard nothing from him all day and just now, four hours before my

> party, learn he is not coming. They just assume I have no life, or

> marriage, and that I love being next door with Millie all of the time.

>

> Today Millie wanted to go with me to get the party trays for the

> party. I said I was just going to Publix, and she wanted to go.

> When we were leaving the grocery store she was rather put out that I

> didn't tell her we were just going to the grocery store. It was a

> pain in the butt to take her in the first place, and then she is

> upset that the grocery store is the only place we went. I know this

> is minor, but I do try to sometimes have a normal life.

>

> My husband is going to sit with her tonight, a first!

>

> I try to keep them separated as much as possible, and so it should be

> interesting to see how they get on this evening.

>

> They started her on vicoden for her pain, and it is too early to tell

> what that will do to her personality.

>

> I guess what I am feeling today is that I just don't know how to get

> any time for myself because we live next door. If i am not at her

> house and she wants to find me, she comes over to my house. I don't

> feel like I can take a nap, or get a shower while I am at my own

> house.

>

> We have to take a gift to this party and I have no idea if anyone

> will like what I chose. The pressure is just too great. Once

> eveyone opens their gift in the exchange, then you can trade anybody

> else for their gift. I haven't done one of these before, so who

> knows if a lighted stained-glass snowman will be a covetted gift.

>

> I'd be better off not going, but my friends are picking me up, to

> make sure that i do go. I can tell it is tiime for a xanax.

>

> I looked up Blue Christmas services in my area and the closest one is

> an hour and a half away. I just don't have any holiday spirit. i am

> sure it is partly because I have no festive energy.

>

> The post the other day about the washer full of " it " , certainly put

> that day in perspective for me. i know I have so much less to

> complain about than you guys at more advanced levels, but weary

> doesn't even cover it today. If I ever tried to hoist my fanny up to

> go in the washer, I am sure the agitator would stab me squarely on my

> butt and leave a nasty bruise. That would be far worse than someone

> leaving the toilet seat up in the middle of the night. I am thinking

> someone dumped the contents of the commode bucket, rather than

> actually using the washer for no good. A mystery that will never be

> solved, I am sure.

>

> when one member said she takes her husband back the night before she

> goes back to work because the LO was always a problem when she tried

> to get ready for work, i knew that feeling for sure.

>

> I find it so much easier when Millie doesn't get up when I leave her

> breakfast at 5:30. but then i don't know exactly when she gets her

> meds.

>

> I think my pity party is just about over, and I need to wrap the

> stained-glass snowman from Cracker Barrel. I will report on the gift

> choice tomorrow, when all this worry will seem very trivial.

>

> I would drink myself silly tonight, but I am smart enough to know

> that paybacks will be awful.

>

> Til tomorrow!

>

> Carol

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Carol,

I hope you had a goodtime at the party. By gosh please tell us you had two

drinks?(never know when you will that OPPORTUNTY will come again. HAPPY

HOLIDAYS.

Dimpsy Licensed 1:1 Caregiver Sacramento

Re: Pretty slow message board these past few days/Carol

OT

Carol, please enjoy your evening out. It is about time your husband relieves you

of your

oncall! Your stained glass Santa sounds lovely. The gift exchange game can be

really fun

once people lose their inhibitions of being too kind. It isn't the final gift so

much as the

game of taking from each other, the laughs, if that is the game you are playing.

There are

many variations. It sounds like any will do for you, as long as you are away

from Millie for

a while.

I so understand that need. My husband has moved 3000 miles away to start a new

job,

leaving me to sell the house and deal with things here, including his mother.

She doesn't

have LBD or live with us, but serves up a pity party whenever I am with her.

Just this week

she told me to my face that she is telling people that her whole family has

moved away.

That would be her son and her daughter. I guess I and our kids don't count as

family. If

she only realized that playing the pity card does more harm than good! It is

just too soon

to be front line again, especially for someone who never really put herself out

for us or her

grandkids. We always had to initiate, still do. Hard to make myself continue

doing. It is

just too soon.

How did I get there? My intention was to wish you a great evening out!

, Oakville Ont.

Mother, age 92, died Aug. 12/06 after 13 year decline from PDD

>

> We have squeaky-voice Millie today, so my nerves are about shot.

> I slept til noon just trying to catch up from all of the 5:00 a.m

> starts all week.

>

> Family members really don't it! My brother-in-law was going to take

> Millie tonight so I said I would go to out faculty Christmas party.

>

> I heard nothing from him all day and just now, four hours before my

> party, learn he is not coming. They just assume I have no life, or

> marriage, and that I love being next door with Millie all of the time.

>

> Today Millie wanted to go with me to get the party trays for the

> party. I said I was just going to Publix, and she wanted to go.

> When we were leaving the grocery store she was rather put out that I

> didn't tell her we were just going to the grocery store. It was a

> pain in the butt to take her in the first place, and then she is

> upset that the grocery store is the only place we went. I know this

> is minor, but I do try to sometimes have a normal life.

>

> My husband is going to sit with her tonight, a first!

>

> I try to keep them separated as much as possible, and so it should be

> interesting to see how they get on this evening.

>

> They started her on vicoden for her pain, and it is too early to tell

> what that will do to her personality.

>

> I guess what I am feeling today is that I just don't know how to get

> any time for myself because we live next door. If i am not at her

> house and she wants to find me, she comes over to my house. I don't

> feel like I can take a nap, or get a shower while I am at my own

> house.

>

> We have to take a gift to this party and I have no idea if anyone

> will like what I chose. The pressure is just too great. Once

> eveyone opens their gift in the exchange, then you can trade anybody

> else for their gift. I haven't done one of these before, so who

> knows if a lighted stained-glass snowman will be a covetted gift.

>

> I'd be better off not going, but my friends are picking me up, to

> make sure that i do go. I can tell it is tiime for a xanax.

>

> I looked up Blue Christmas services in my area and the closest one is

> an hour and a half away. I just don't have any holiday spirit. i am

> sure it is partly because I have no festive energy.

>

> The post the other day about the washer full of " it " , certainly put

> that day in perspective for me. i know I have so much less to

> complain about than you guys at more advanced levels, but weary

> doesn't even cover it today. If I ever tried to hoist my fanny up to

> go in the washer, I am sure the agitator would stab me squarely on my

> butt and leave a nasty bruise. That would be far worse than someone

> leaving the toilet seat up in the middle of the night. I am thinking

> someone dumped the contents of the commode bucket, rather than

> actually using the washer for no good. A mystery that will never be

> solved, I am sure.

>

> when one member said she takes her husband back the night before she

> goes back to work because the LO was always a problem when she tried

> to get ready for work, i knew that feeling for sure.

>

> I find it so much easier when Millie doesn't get up when I leave her

> breakfast at 5:30. but then i don't know exactly when she gets her

> meds.

>

> I think my pity party is just about over, and I need to wrap the

> stained-glass snowman from Cracker Barrel. I will report on the gift

> choice tomorrow, when all this worry will seem very trivial.

>

> I would drink myself silly tonight, but I am smart enough to know

> that paybacks will be awful.

>

> Til tomorrow!

>

> Carol

>

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