Re: another chaotic week/Courage

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Hi Courage,

I'm here to say that I do not have a POA for Jim, his kids have all the POA

and I made all the arrangements to have Jim put into a nh. They probably could

have argued, but then they would have had to put some time in to care for Jim

and help me out if they didn't agree and of course, they didn't want that, so

they never said a word against it. If it was up to Jim's kids and I wasn't in

the picture, they would have put him in a nh years before I did anyway. I was

never asked for a POA to move Jim to a nh, it all went smoothly and it was with

a Social Worker from the hospital that helped me when I contacted her and said I

was ready. She gave me a list of NHs in the area that accepted Medicaid and that

had doctors from Jim's Health Provider. He could not stay in a nh that did not

contract doctors from his health provider. They do know at the hospital too,

that Jim's daughter has POA. At the nh also, I do not have a Health Directive

POA for Jim, his daughter was given that.

They know at the nh that his daughter has the POA, but they always turn to me

about Jim's medications and his health issues. The daughter is not involved nor

does she want to be, so it is fine with her. At the hospital too, I sign all of

Jim's papers for medications and health issues. If it is really an emergency

they will contact Jim's daughter to see that we are all on the same page as for

what to do. But thankfully, I am really able to speak for Jim. I do know what he

has requested in his Directive, so we are all on the same page with that.

Just answering your question and I guess in some cases it doesn't have to be

with a POA to put a LO in a nh.....................Jan

gaat wrote:

Hi Ron,

Reading your post made me think of something. I'm going ASSume that you have POA

so I'm just wondering if your brother would have been able to put your mom in a

NH?? Since I didn't have POA I don't know the answer to this question. Can

anyone put a LO into a NH or must it be the POA only?

Courage

another chaotic week

Hello everyone,

Im sorry for the lack of posting.Seems as if every week gets a little

crazier.Last Monday mom was convinced that I was a bad guy.She had my siblings

all against me and everyone exept my sister whose here every day and knows

better stepped in and said that it would be best for me to leave.So that I did,

with no where else to go I moved in with my girlfriend.My car wouldnt start, I

had to leave some of my belongings and left with nothing but uncertainty.

The second day gone I was told that if I bring my girlfiend back there that my

brother was calling the law.The last 4 or 5 weeks its been just me my girlfriend

and sister caring for mom.But I stayed away because I knew me nor my girlfriend

could bail me out of jail if I ripped my brothers head off like I wanted to.The

second night at my girlfriends house she went to work and my phone started

ringing.Each of my siblings exept my sister called begging me to come back.Seems

everyone had a turn caring for mom in two days and noone could do it.I said no

and told them to go to hell at first but then I heard that my brother was going

to have to call the nursing home.So I knew I couldnt turn away at that point and

agreed to come back.Im back now and things with mom are better.But I will never

ever forget how my siblings treated me this past week.Its a cinch that I dont

take from mom because if I did I would have something left of value.I once had

my own place, 2 cars a 16 ft bass

tracker, and lived pretty much a carefree life, now I am here 24 hours a day and

doing well to bring in enough of my own money to pay my weight.I hate my

siblings outside of my sis and will never forgive them.The one time they rose to

the occasion for my mom was the one time she said something bad about me.Then

they were swarming like vultures.I dont blame my mom because I know this disease

and I know if she were completely well shed trust me.But none of them bastards

have lbd.And there so stupid they dont even know that lbd can make you think and

say these things.Now it will go back to just me and sis and my girlfriend caring

for her again Im sure.They all are terrified tocome around after seeing her

condition and living it for a while.I love my mom but will never feel anything

for them again.Thank you all for listening Ron

RON

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[Guest guest]

Thanks for the response Jan. I wasn't sure if someone without POA could arrange

placement in a NH but your story illustrates that this can be done. Perhaps

because you are a married couple?

Hope you and Jim are well.

Courage