Re: PREJUDICES [1 Attachment]

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,I really like what you wrote here - good stuff.  I haven't read the attachment yet.   Thanks!

 

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ACT says some controversial things about prejudice.It says things like " the more you try to make it go away, the stickier it will get. " It says " it is not what it says it is "

It says " hold  all prejudiced thoughts lightly "

It says " welcome the pain of your prejudices -- they reflect your values. " It says " don't let your prejudices get in the way of living and loving,even with those you have prejudiced thoughts about (and that includes

the events called " shame " when the prejudiced thoughts are about YOU) " It says " focus on your values and get your feet moving ... if you hateprejudice let the energy go there but be gentle with the chatter. "

It says things like " love both the bigot and the victim of bigotry -- thevictim deserves all the support, protection and love you can give, but rememberthe bigot is also a mirror for us all. "

It says things like " guilt is grease on the wheels of more of the same " And I think it says " stop the conspiracy of silence ... prejudice grows in theshadows and shrinks in the light. Put light not just on others, but

when you are ready to take response-ability, put it on yourself. " I have attached a scholarly article that might be a place to startin understanding how it works from an ACT perspective.This is an active research program and a very hard problem

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Hi,

 How to use ACT principles with prejudices?

Prejudices are a social scourge that breaks out in any culture,religion,sport or media environment.Intolerant people become intolerable for a society that surreptitiously boots intolerable.A sheer conglomerate and reagent of emotinal and existential paradoxes,sheltered in an ideological unhappy womb,without any reply.

 

In my opinion,all the prejudices are wrong.Moral idiocy relates to severity of explaining reasons.All of us are full of prejudices,conscious and unconscious prejudices.I think the world is guided by prejudices,religious prejudices,prejudices against nudity,psychological prejudices............I´m very firm about it.

 

To put into a perspective,Is it my way of thinking that change my behaviour or is it my way of acting that change my behaviour? Acceptnace means allowing our thoughts and feelings to be as they are,regardless of whether they are pleasant or paintful,opening up and making room for them;dropping the struggle with them;and letting them come and go as they naturally do,using ACT principles to just sit with the feelings,notice them,etc.I know that accepting dosen´t mean resignation,but how to make peace with the prejudices? What should I do when I notice myself rushing trying to ´put the prejudices under control´,instead of jumping on the wagon?

 

It makes one think of the necesity of putting the prejudices under control because they are harmful for others,but according to ACT principles,how to allow them to be there,stop fighting with them,make a peace with them,stop wasting my energy on pushing them away?It gives an impression of defenceless.This is how I feel !

 

I expect to be able to expose to my conscious prejudices but how can I expose to my unconscious prejudices?How to make people aware that they are approaching to the conscious and unconscious prejudices?Here there aren´t ACT players and ´PLAY ACTORS´(for all they can get).Here there are only victins.

 

What is the relationship between prejudices and values? I think that there are a lot of prejudices in our personal values,maybe unconscious prejudices with relates to severity of explaining reasons.

Any thoughts?

 

With kind regards

 

JESÚS