Re: valuing openeness and honesty / asking questions that get to the heart

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Fantastic questions to keep alive Randy. Very helpful. Thanks.

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For those who missed it, Randy asked:

1. If your goal in social situations is to see other people's points

of view, does worrying help or hinder this? Your mind tells you

that worrying is necessary - what does your experience say?

2. Also I am curous, what is " seeing other people's points of view " in

support of? If you ask yourself " why " and pull on that " why " as you

would on a piece of string wrapped up into a ball, what comes out?

3. Lastly, if the answers to these questions seem to confirm that you

are in a trap of some sort, what does that suggest about answers in

general?

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> >

> > Then my worry sets in that I might not be seeing everything

> > from their point of view and so being unfair and/or dishonest.

> >

> > When you wrote about not acting out of anger, Bill, that made

> > sense but my first reaction if I get any sense even that I am

> > beginning to feel anger is to try and see everything from the

> > other's point of view. Maybe that is a bad tactic?

>

> Hey Soozy,

>

> I hope you don't mind a few more questions from me. I apologize if

> they sound overly cute - I mean them genuinely but am not that good

> at the wording.

>

> If your goal in social situations is to see other people's points

> of view, does worrying help or hinder this? Your mind tells you

> that worrying is necessary - what does your experience say?

>

> Also I am curous, what is " seeing other people's points of view " in

> support of? If you ask yourself " why " and pull on that " why " as you

> would on a piece of string wrapped up into a ball, what comes out?

>

> Lastly, if the answers to these questions seem to confirm that you

> are in a trap of some sort, what does that suggest about answers in

> general?

>

> - Randy

>