Re: What If and What I Regret ( take on many versions of fusion)

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Hope that was clear..In other words, we all have different verbal suffering

versions of " What If " (worry) and/or " What I really regret " (ruminate) over

entail. They differ given our history, our experiences, our make-up and lots of

other things.

So the 'What if' is not always only around competency issues -- " I can't handle

it " -- as you imply here.

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> > I'm starting a new thread here as I think Randy brings up what I think is a

very important ACT question which I will rephrase - Which will you choose to

believe - your mind or your experience? As I've mentioned before I spent a lot

of my professional life as a contingency planner - what iffing every imaginable

scenario where I worked. My mind is world-class when it comes to what iffing.

But that skill is not especially useful when dealing with stuff inside my head.

I now find that my experience (wisdom?) is much more useful than what my

thinking self presents, when it comes to living a valued life.

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> > So the steps I use are:

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> > 1. Thinking self presents a " life what if. "

> > 2. I look AT the thought through my experience lens.

> > 3. I DEFUSE the thought if it is not useful for living a valued life or

> > 4. I buy it if it is useful.

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> > Bill

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> > PS - I think one of ' recent posts included this question. It is

a question I've seen quite often in my ACT studies.

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