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Hi -

Do you live in Canada? Did your mom pass

away around the time of my dad, which is coming

up on 4 years this September?

I think we used to correspond through online

conversations and email back and forth.

Just recently Donna R. mentioned how she thought

there were 4 or 5 of us who lost our parents around

the same time. I mentioned there was a lady

named from Canada that lost her mom,

plus a lady, , in California lost her dad

2 days before my dad, then my dad and Donna

R.'s mom and Sally in England lost her dad, both

in October.

Does any of this make sense? If so, I sure have

missed seeing you in here and have wondered

how you are doing.

Take care-

Sandie

Des Moines, IA

-- re:Hallucinations

Hello,

My mother passed away a few years ago and this was

when I joined the group. I still read the posts and

can relate to many things that are of concern to

others. I read with interest, the topic on

hallucinations, of which my mother had many. When I

reflect back on the most frequent hallucinations that

she had, they centered on the things that she had

feared the most during her lifetime. She was always

fearful that someone would do harm to her or her

family, and her hallucinations included a neighbour

who she thought had her home " bugged " and knew

everything that went on in her home. Having been

raised in a European household, she felt that what

happened in the family was not to be told to others.

She feared that someone was coming after us all with

guns. While in the hospital, she would close the door,

move the hospital beds and his in the corner in fear

of the shooter.She feared that her house had been

ravaged and things stolen and that someone had set

fire to her home. She also claimed that a young male

had phoned her and told her that he was an

illegitimate child of my fathers.

Perhaps these hallucinations were to do with her

fantasies. She became " engaged " to Larry, a person

that we never knew and that she was sporting a huge

diamond. She had many conversations with him while we

were driving in the car.

Things just didn't always seem to make much sense. It

really disturbed us when we found out that she was

making cakes, pies and cookies, and leaving them in

the flower garden besidethe neighbours house for the

supposed man that she feared.

While reading the posts on this site, I was reminded

that what I would do when she seemed to get out of

reality, was switch to topic to one that she had

always loved all her life: cooking or gardening.

That often was all that was needed.

It is not an easy time, and I still cry for the woman

that was stolen from me and my family. I wish that we

could have done more for her. But, she lives withing

my heart as a much loved parent.

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