Guest guest Posted September 28, 2010 Report Share Posted September 28, 2010 Hi Jess - You say you understand well so you may not need more books. Have you tried practicing the exercises in the books you've read? ACT requires that you use the tools that are explained in the books. I read many books while I was trying to use ACT. It finally dawned on me that I had the knowledge to use it. I had to start using it. Every ACT book I've read has exercises throughout the book. To get the most out of ACT you have to try them and find ones that work for you.A book I found especially helpful is Open Focus Brain by Les Fehmi. It taught me a technique for being more aware of the present. It has exercises too and you must try them to get any benefit.Learning ACT is like learning to play a musical instrument. Books will tell you how but you have to pick up the instrument to make the music.Bill> To: ACT_for_the_Public > Date: Tue, 28 Sep 2010 11:50:48 +0000> Subject: Good books?> > > I want to buy more books of ACT, or any kind of good books. To deal with emotional and feeling. anyone knows please recommend!> > > I feel my understanding and feeling are very divided! For example, a situation I understanding very well how I shall act for best of all. But my emotion and feeling can not catch up. I still in traps of reaction and feeling down sometimes although I understand well. my emotion & body sensation can not catch up my mind...> > I got "the anxiety workbook for ACT". that's good one, now I want to find something different.> > Thanks & regards> jess> > > > ------------------------------------> > For other ACT materials and list serves see www.contextualpsychology.org> > If you do not wish to belong to ACT_for_the_Public, you may > unsubscribe by sending an email to > ACT_for_the_Public-unsubscribe@...! Groups Links> > <*> To visit your group on the web, go to:> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/> > <*> Your email settings:> Individual Email | Traditional> > <*> To change settings online go to:> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ACT_for_the_Public/join> (Yahoo! ID required)> > <*> To change settings via email:> ACT_for_the_Public-digest > ACT_for_the_Public-fullfeatured > > <*> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2010 Report Share Posted September 28, 2010 Actually, can I hijack Jess's request, and ask as well for books which aren't about ACT directly (ie workbooks) but otherwise inspiring in an ACT sort of way.I recently read Victor l's "Man's Search for Meaning" (referenced in The Happiness Trap) and also I've only just got around to "Tuesday's with Morrie". Really excellent.I find these sorts of 'tangential ACT' books to be so helpful and motivating for me (although those two were also very sad!)Cheers, MarkTo: ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Tue, 28 September, 2010 12:50:48Subject: Good books? I want to buy more books of ACT, or any kind of good books. To deal with emotional and feeling. anyone knows please recommend! I feel my understanding and feeling are very divided! For example, a situation I understanding very well how I shall act for best of all. But my emotion and feeling can not catch up. I still in traps of reaction and feeling down sometimes although I understand well. my emotion & body sensation can not catch up my mind... I got "the anxiety workbook for ACT". that's good one, now I want to find something different. Thanks & regards jess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2010 Report Share Posted September 28, 2010 Hi Jess, I agree with Bill, practice is more important than theory. But one book that I've mentioned before that I found to be a useful complement to ACT is The Compassionate Mind by Gilbert. The first half of the book is Gilbert's ideas about compassion as an archetypal/biological need, the second is exercises to develop self-compassion. I've found some of it quite powerful. best wishes, Tom > > > I want to buy more books of ACT, or any kind of good books. To deal with emotional and feeling. anyone knows please recommend! > > > I feel my understanding and feeling are very divided! For example, a situation I understanding very well how I shall act for best of all. But my emotion and feeling can not catch up. I still in traps of reaction and feeling down sometimes although I understand well. my emotion & body sensation can not catch up my mind... > > I got " the anxiety workbook for ACT " . that's good one, now I want to find something different. > > Thanks & regards > jess > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2010 Report Share Posted September 29, 2010 Thanks for all! I got " compassionate mind " delivered to my Kindle! It looks great as long as I read so far. A few days before I criticized a good friend although I know she is sensitive, I feel upset. I asked myself Why I need to judge her. deep down I feel connection with her heart and soul, It's one of a few real friendship I have ever had. In a night dream, I came back to my childhood. My mother was judgmental and I repeat conflict with her even in dreams. Deep down it affect too much in later life. Things goes very good as long as friendship/relationship are superficial. when goes deep, I repeat childhood conflict drama again and again. I understand the concept of compassion long time ago But I don't know how to put it into practice! It seems to glimpse light out of tunnel. Hope this can helps and eventually get me out of this deadly trap. Thanks & regards Jess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2010 Report Share Posted September 29, 2010 I can't speak for anyone else, but whenever I criticise or judge another person I feel it's a defence against my own shame and vulnerability. I accuse people of what I'm most afraid of in myself. I'm hoping (and seeing some evidence) that by becoming aware of my own fears and responding to them with friendly acceptance, I won't feel the need to judge others either. As Gilbert puts it, we all " just find ourselves here " , and here ain't easy! Sorry to hear about your childhood. My parents were very judgemental (and unhappy) too. These patterns of relating do tend to stick but I think they can change with motivation, luck, and support from others. Good luck! Tom > > > > Thanks for all! > > I got " compassionate mind " delivered to my Kindle! It looks great as long as I read so far. > > A few days before I criticized a good friend although I know she is sensitive, I feel upset. I asked myself Why I need to judge her. deep down I feel connection with her heart and soul, It's one of a few real friendship I have ever had. In a night dream, I came back to my childhood. My mother was judgmental and I repeat conflict with her even in dreams. Deep down it affect too much in later life. Things goes very good as long as friendship/relationship are superficial. when goes deep, I repeat childhood conflict drama again and again. I understand the concept of compassion long time ago But I don't know how to put it into practice! It seems to glimpse light out of tunnel. Hope this can helps and eventually get me out of this deadly trap. > > Thanks & regards > Jess > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2010 Report Share Posted September 29, 2010 Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach. That book started me on the process of acceptance and compassion, but only recently (since starting ACT) has its teachings begun to affect me in a powerful way. When I do the meditations in that book now, I am no longer resistant, and they have a profound effect.~ lisa Actually, can I hijack Jess's request, and ask as well for books which aren't about ACT directly (ie workbooks) but otherwise inspiring in an ACT sort of way. I recently read Victor l's " Man's Search for Meaning " (referenced in The Happiness Trap) and also I've only just got around to " Tuesday's with Morrie " . Really excellent. I find these sorts of 'tangential ACT' books to be so helpful and motivating for me (although those two were also very sad!)Cheers, Mark To: ACT_for_the_Public Sent: Tue, 28 September, 2010 12:50:48 Subject: Good books? I want to buy more books of ACT, or any kind of good books. To deal with emotional and feeling. anyone knows please recommend! I feel my understanding and feeling are very divided! For example, a situation I understanding very well how I shall act for best of all. But my emotion and feeling can not catch up. I still in traps of reaction and feeling down sometimes although I understand well. my emotion & body sensation can not catch up my mind... I got " the anxiety workbook for ACT " . that's good one, now I want to find something different. Thanks & regards jess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2010 Report Share Posted September 29, 2010 That book was a huge step for me in my journey toward acceptance and compassion, too. I need to re-read it. Mine came with a CD, which was great. Helena Good books? I want to buy more books of ACT, or any kind of good books. To deal with emotional and feeling. anyone knows please recommend!I feel my understanding and feeling are very divided! For example, a situation I understanding very well how I shall act for best of all. But my emotion and feeling can not catch up. I still in traps of reaction and feeling down sometimes although I understand well. my emotion & body sensation can not catch up my mind...I got "the anxiety workbook for ACT". that's good one, now I want to find something different.Thanks & regardsjess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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