Re: Re: Swelling and my Mom

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Dear Rob, Gladys, Imogene, Friends -

I cannot imagine a nursing facility of any kind asking the family not to come.

Speaking as an admin in a senior care organization with NHs, hospital,

retirement centers, ALU, I find this not just stupid but frightening. Our

facilities become - as much as possible - residents' home, and anyone can visit

at any time. We encourage that - come often, stay late, dine with your LO,

participate in events, etc. Professionally and personally, I would worry if a

facility told me not to come. Does this place understand the emotional fragility

of the elderly and those with dementia.

Rob, I am really sticking my nose where it doesn't belong, but could you tell

us what kind of place this is? What are its credentials, etc?

And, by the way, I think you are very wise to try to get the meds issue sorted

out now. If you for some reason agree not to see your LO for all that time, you

will have no ifirst-hand knowledge of how she is doing.

If you're so inclined, please tell us more.

Peace,

Lin

Imogene Ward wrote:

Gladys, I'm with you on that one. In fact, if I could find a way to

stay right with my mate in a NH for a few days, during the adjustment

period, I would do so.

Being in a strange place is hard on anyone, much less one that is

confused. My Darling man leans on me as if his very life depends on

me. He is afraid if I am out of the room for a few minutes.

In a nursing home, I would stay, and ease out to do something, and

make those eased out moments longer, until he got used to the idea

that I would be back. Or probably do like Jan did.

Jan, went to be with Jim every day and took care of his every need.

He finally adjusted to the routine of being alone sometimes, and came

to like the place. (I'm learning, Jan, can you tell?)

All right I have become long winded as usual.( big silly smile with a

shrug)

Love you all very much,

Imogene

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> > Sometimes when Mom gets up, her right leg and hand

> > will be swollen. It

> > seems to 'go down' during the day. My Mom has

> > vericose (lg) vains ®

> > and they seems to bulge out. I wonder if she needs a

> > blood thinner.

> > Could it be she has poor circulation or maybe she

> > sleeps on that side?

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> > She is puttering @ this morning. We move her in five

> > days and our time

> > together is precious. I pray that the move does not

> > 'crumble' her. Not

> > sure how long I will stay after we get her moved and

> > the house cleared.

> > I am sure my leaving will upset her, as I have been

> > by her side since

> > first of year.

> >

> > Go to see neuro- tomorrow about increased confusion,

> > I believe,

> > associated with Exelon patch and increase of BP

> > medicine. She has had

> > hallucinations lately and sees and hears 'things'

> > that are not there. I

> > know these are common symphons but would like to get

> > medications

> > corrected before move, as I am sure, will only add

> > to her confusion.

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> > LPCF has requested that family not visit during

> > first few weeks. Will

> > Mom feel abandoned or is this normal procedure?

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> > Praying for guidance and patience for all.........

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> > Rob

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