Tony

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Dear Tony-

I know his message wasn't sent with my name on it. I had to reply though.

When you wrote, " The perfume continues to be still in the heart of those

in this very soil. " it spoke directly to my heart. I am honored, once again

to have known my parents (and the many loved ones in my life who have

passed) for the time they were supposed to be here on earth and to continue

to take a part of them with me every day. People who knew my mom say I have

her laugh, I carry myself the way she did...no better honor than to hear

that.

So, thank you Tony, for your words. They are an inspiration to even those

of us who have lost loved ones years ago. Brought some deep tears out and

for that I am even thankful.

Many blessings to you and to your dad as he continues to play on the field

of life. I shall sit in the stadium and instead of clapping I shall put my

hands together in prayer.

Sandie

-- Re: New Member @ Pam

Pam,

You not just 24 years old; you are someone who lost her Daddy and by

being here sharing these feelings makes you not just 24 sweetie. You

are facing it!

Never underestimate YOU Pam. This experience in life will make you

so much more special (like your Dad).

I am losing a parent as well (Dad) and Mom died 2 years ago of AD.

Below (and I hope this helps you Pam) is what came out of me after I

cried my eyes out...

" The Rest of My Mother - Cesarina

Before anything, I want to thank each one of you for such touching

words of encouragement in these past few hours. I see your faces

almost through this glass screen and they are so gentle and warm.

Mom's body was laid to finally rest today at 8:00 AM in Cementerio

San Jeronimo in Córdoba. She is in the same place where my brother

is resting. Her body was quickly transported from the clinic

the same day she passed. There was no service or memorial.

When I spoke to God this morning, I pleaded for Him to not let her

life culminate like this; to not let the symbol of her body resting

as an end of life. I asked Him to show me how she loved, how she

touched other people, to have her courage, and so many other things.

I wish to pass her spirit to anyone that crosses my path and thus let

her life continue.

If you have seen me, most likely you have seen Cesarina. If you have

seen me laugh, it's most likely her in me. Take anything you wish

from me, as you then take something of her and pass that along.

" ¿Cuando una Flor se marchita y deja de ser, a donde va su perfume? "

" When a flower withers and ceases to exist, where does her perfume

go? "

I read that once and now I understand it. The perfume continues to

be still in the heart of those in this very soil. Your Dad had it

and gave it to you, in the same way your Mom and grandmother, and who

ever is not here anymore. Carry this with you, it does not end when

one dies, pass it forward, let us still in this soil experience what

your dad, mom, son, daughter, grandmother, etc. meant in this life.

Desde mi corazon latiente... "

So dear Pam...When we see or feel you, your Dad is in there too; and

we are all honorned to know him through YOU.

Tony

>

> On August 20th, my 67 year old father passed away after fighting

with

> Lewy Body DIsease for over 6 years. Although we knew what was

coming

> and that in the end LBD was terminal, Dad's death came really

> quickly. In May he was his normal " Lewy Body " self and by June

16th

> we were admitting him to Hospice. The past three months just seem

> like a blur to me. I am only 24 years old and an only child, so

the

> majority of Dad's care was provided by my mom and I. Although I

> thought I had prepared myself for his death, the past month has

been

> hell. I do ok for the most part during the days, but I am crying

> myself to sleep every night. I am mad and angry and sad all at

> once. Being in the healthcare business, I know that these are the

> stages of grief, but I just don't like it I guess. I am tierd of

> pretending I am ok. I am a full time college student and Dad died

on

> the first day of classes for the fall semester. I didn't go back to

> class for two weeks, but I still feel like I haven't delt with it

and

> that I can't. I feel like I don't have time to deal with it. Is

it

> ever going to get better?

>

> Sorry I rambled on and on.

>

> Missing Daddy,

> Pam

>

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