Guest guest Posted September 15, 2011 Report Share Posted September 15, 2011 Hi Judy.... This is what I was referring to from the previous email to you. I am writing an article for an online autism journal about my own support/social group, Greater Chattanooga Aspies. I like your draft and am interested in seeing what the final result will be. > > > > Subject: PLEASE READ > To: aspires-relationships > Date: Friday, 9 September, 2011, 16:17 > > > Â > > > > Hi all, > Attacks on members without public apology results in moderation, and since subsequent offlist correspondence indicated no apology was forthcoming, the member was removed. Removal is an extreme last resort, and is a rare and regrettable occurrence on ASPIRES. > > The thread about survival rules for those of us on the spectrum had potential for an interesting discussion, but quickly took a wrong turn, ironically demonstrating that " communication " tops the list of skills that will make or break an Aspie, or an NT for that matter! > > Again, we are sorry for the attack made towards CJ, and thank all those who rose to her defense. > - Helen > Moderator of ASPIRES > for , Listowner of ASPIRES > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2012 Report Share Posted January 9, 2012 Loving the 'obvious incompatibles'! The point is well made, . Quality over quantity, and a few good ones are far better than a range of lightweights - that is Ian's approach, mine is very much the chatty bus stop person approach. Ian (as I know I've said here) finds it hard to find the friends in the first place and sometimes I act as introducer. He sometimes finds it hard to maintain. But the two good mates he has, he knows he doesnt have to try hard, or be anything special. They do share his hobbies and they too, are not bothered about intensity. Sometimes the homeopathic route is better than the huge overdose. Judy B, Scotland> I sometimes question what the point of conversation is, if I can't talk> and it's not about subjects, but I want people to like me so I keep trying.That's a good question, but what's the point of trying to get people to like you if you don't have any topics of common interest to have worthwhile conversations with them about?Rather than wasting our time on trying to give a good impression to people we're not really compatible with, wouldn't it be better spent in the long run if we were more selective about who we choose to talk to? OK, we can exchange a polite "good morning" with the obvious incompatibles, but better if we use the time to concentrate more on the interesting ones.I know this List is all about relationships and some of what I'm saying takes us away from the closer relationship direction, but it's no good trying to flog a dead horse, is it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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