Mom on Mon.

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Hi everone,

I spent all day at my moms today. If taking 2 or 3 spoons of food constitutes

eating,. then so be it. She slept most of the day. When she was awake she just

looked at me alot.At one point I thought she might understand what I was saying

so I told to to squeeze my finger. I think she did. She is so weak but I

believe she understood even if it was for a short time. She got a look of

wonder on her face. So, I don't know if this was the right thing to say but I

told her she was dying. That the only way to get better was to go with God as he

is waiting for her. I told her if she wanted to stay here as long as she could,

then she should eat and drink. On the other hand if she didn't want to prolong

the inevidable, stop eating and drinking.I told her I Love YOU and I will go

along with your choice. Do you think that's why she hardly ate at lunch and

dinner?

As for the spots, someone told me that it is a part of the ending process.

But who knows, maybe it's like you said and they are pressure sores. The nurse

is coming tommorow. I wonder if she will put her on morphine now and just wait

.. Any one know? Thanks for all the encouragment that I'm normal with my

feelings. If you ask my husband, he'll tell you there is nothing normal about

me. Kidding of course(I think). I cried a lot today. Will it be easier when she

finally goes? I realize everyone is different but can you tell me something?

Lynn S

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My dear Lynn,

Thank you for sharing this day with us. I hope you know how much we care about

you. Most of us have never met each other, but we are connected in a a very

special way.

Lynn, my belief is that you know inside what are the right things to say and

do for your mom. No one can tell you what is or isn't " right " in your own

situation. Be guided by your love for your mom and keep telling her you love

her. Even if you wonder if she understands.

If you know there is nothing else - meds, nourishment, etc. - then your loving

presence with her will be a comfort to you both.

Is the nurse who's coming tomorrow from hospice? I'm not a medical person, but

do work with seniors and families. Have spent much professional and personal

time with hospice care. Yes, morphine is given to ease pain and discomfort, and

often is combined with roxynol to ease any respiratory distress. That can come

on suddenly sometimes, so it is good to be prepared. There is absolutely no need

for any level of pain or anxiety, so that is a gift you can also give your mom.

You and your mom are in my prayers.

Peace, Lin

Lynn Shilman wrote:

Hi everone,

I spent all day at my moms today. If taking 2 or 3 spoons of food constitutes

eating,. then so be it. She slept most of the day. When she was awake she just

looked at me alot.At one point I thought she might understand what I was saying

so I told to to squeeze my finger. I think she did. She is so weak but I believe

she understood even if it was for a short time. She got a look of wonder on her

face. So, I don't know if this was the right thing to say but I told her she was

dying. That the only way to get better was to go with God as he is waiting for

her. I told her if she wanted to stay here as long as she could, then she should

eat and drink. On the other hand if she didn't want to prolong the inevidable,

stop eating and drinking.I told her I Love YOU and I will go along with your

choice. Do you think that's why she hardly ate at lunch and dinner?

As for the spots, someone told me that it is a part of the ending process. But

who knows, maybe it's like you said and they are pressure sores. The nurse is

coming tommorow. I wonder if she will put her on morphine now and just wait .

Any one know? Thanks for all the encouragment that I'm normal with my feelings.

If you ask my husband, he'll tell you there is nothing normal about me. Kidding

of course(I think). I cried a lot today. Will it be easier when she finally

goes? I realize everyone is different but can you tell me something?

Lynn S

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Dear Lynn

We are all here praying for you and your family. I

know that what you are saying is from your heart. Your

mother knows that too. I think that just telling her

that you will be okay is a comfort also. Whatever you

feel lead to say is fine. There is no right or wrong.

Your desire is to bring comfort to her. I am sure the

Hospice nurse can get some meds ordered for whatever

her needs are at this point. I know how hard this is

on you, Lynn. It is so difficult to go through, but

when you look back you would be happy to do it all

over again. Take care of yourself to Sweetie.

Dena in SoCal

Mother (84)Existing with LBD in NH

--- Lynn Shilman wrote:

> Hi everone,

> I spent all day at my moms today. If taking 2 or

> 3 spoons of food constitutes eating,. then so be it.

> She slept most of the day. When she was awake she

> just looked at me alot.At one point I thought she

> might understand what I was saying so I told to to

> squeeze my finger. I think she did. She is so weak

> but I believe she understood even if it was for a

> short time. She got a look of wonder on her face.

> So, I don't know if this was the right thing to say

> but I told her she was dying. That the only way to

> get better was to go with God as he is waiting for

> her. I told her if she wanted to stay here as long

> as she could, then she should eat and drink. On the

> other hand if she didn't want to prolong the

> inevidable, stop eating and drinking.I told her I

> Love YOU and I will go along with your choice. Do

> you think that's why she hardly ate at lunch and

> dinner?

> As for the spots, someone told me that it is a

> part of the ending process. But who knows, maybe

> it's like you said and they are pressure sores. The

> nurse is coming tommorow. I wonder if she will put

> her on morphine now and just wait . Any one know?

> Thanks for all the encouragment that I'm normal with

> my feelings. If you ask my husband, he'll tell you

> there is nothing normal about me. Kidding of

> course(I think). I cried a lot today. Will it be

> easier when she finally goes? I realize everyone is

> different but can you tell me something?

> Lynn S

>

>

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Lynn

My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through the last part of this.

Hope there is peace in your heart and your Mom can finally find her way " home. "

Hugs,

Donna R

Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in

a nh.

She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine.

Re: Mom on Mon.

Lynn,

My heart goes out to you and your mom. Sending you both strength for what lays

ahead.

Courage

Mom on Mon.

Hi everone,

I spent all day at my moms today. If taking 2 or 3 spoons of food constitutes

eating,. then so be it. She slept most of the day. When she was awake she just

looked at me alot.At one point I thought she might understand what I was saying

so I told to to squeeze my finger. I think she did. She is so weak but I believe

she understood even if it was for a short time. She got a look of wonder on her

face. So, I don't know if this was the right thing to say but I told her she was

dying. That the only way to get better was to go with God as he is waiting for

her. I told her if she wanted to stay here as long as she could, then she should

eat and drink. On the other hand if she didn't want to prolong the inevidable,

stop eating and drinking.I told her I Love YOU and I will go along with your

choice. Do you think that's why she hardly ate at lunch and dinner?

As for the spots, someone told me that it is a part of the ending process. But

who knows, maybe it's like you said and they are pressure sores. The nurse is

coming tommorow. I wonder if she will put her on morphine now and just wait .

Any one know? Thanks for all the encouragment that I'm normal with my feelings.

If you ask my husband, he'll tell you there is nothing normal about me. Kidding

of course(I think). I cried a lot today. Will it be easier when she finally

goes? I realize everyone is different but can you tell me something?

Lynn S

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