Guest guest Posted September 26, 2007 Report Share Posted September 26, 2007 HI Lynn, Sometimes a day or hours before a person passes away they get a surge of energy. This is the body's last great big effort to fight the decline. My dad had this surge for a few hours before he finally slipped away from us then eventually died in the morning. It was wonderful to have him up and talking even though what he said didn't make a lot of sense all of the time. Enjoy this time and tell your mom you love her. Courage mom took a turn Who can help? My mom has been more alert the past few days. That is her eyes would be wide open and she seemed to understand what I said to her even if it was just for the moment. Today was different. When I got there in the morning,I was told she said Hi to someone and then later said Bye to that person. As I was there for most of the day, I didn't hear anything. When Dave got off of work, he came over there. She acknowledged him with a big smile. Then when she didn't want to eat she shook her head. Then, we were all laughing about something and she answered very clear and loud; I GUESS SO. Then she heard the CG in the back of the house talking loud and she said something loud like OKAY. She commented a couple of other things like she was really in the moment. Is this a sign like the calm before the storm? Lynn S. --------------------------------- Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. Join Yahoo!'s user panel and lay it on us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 26, 2007 Report Share Posted September 26, 2007 Dear Lynn, I wish I could be of some help here. It's hard to know, because this disease - and all the other health issues your mom has - can be so confusing. LBD keeps us guessing minute by minute. And if your mom is in pain, hasn't had much nutrition, etc., then the situation gets even more complicated. What do the medical pros tell you? And maybe even more importantly, what do you think? If the medical folks are doing their job properly, your mom will be kept totally comfortable; will be able to eat or drink if she wants, will have all her needs addressed . . . and then you will see. I really know that doesn't answer your questions: is my mom " getting better, " or is she actually in the dying process, or what? And what should I be doing? Lynn, I can only say that I work in an elder care organization, and this is a pretty common experience. We often think someone is near death, and then they rally, sometimes for a short while, sometimes for a long period. Your mom is so fortunate you are there with her to share time and conversation and love. I am absolutely certain that our presence is experienced by our LOs during this period, and being present is also a blessing for many of us. So, Lynn, you may not know until later what this means, but your care and concern for your mom will help her regardless of the meaning. Peace, Lin Lynn wrote: Who can help? My mom has been more alert the past few days. That is her eyes would be wide open and she seemed to understand what I said to her even if it was just for the moment. Today was different. When I got there in the morning,I was told she said Hi to someone and then later said Bye to that person. As I was there for most of the day, I didn't hear anything. When Dave got off of work, he came over there. She acknowledged him with a big smile. Then when she didn't want to eat she shook her head. Then, we were all laughing about something and she answered very clear and loud; I GUESS SO. Then she heard the CG in the back of the house talking loud and she said something loud like OKAY. She commented a couple of other things like she was really in the moment. Is this a sign like the calm before the storm? Lynn S. --------------------------------- Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. Join Yahoo!'s user panel and lay it on us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2007 Report Share Posted September 27, 2007 Well said Lin. I agree - it could be one or the other (not the answer you're looking for) but welcome to the roller coaster ride of Lewy... Enjoy all the moments with your mom and you & she will benefit from it regardless. Live in the now and just enjoy the NARANJA moments... Take care. > Who can help? > My mom has been more alert the past few days. That is her eyes would be wide open and she seemed to understand what I said to her even if it was just for the moment. > Today was different. When I got there in the morning,I was told she said Hi to someone and then later said Bye to that person. As I was there for most of the day, I didn't hear anything. When Dave got off of work, he came over there. She acknowledged him with a big smile. Then when she didn't want to eat she shook her head. Then, we were all laughing about something and she answered very clear and loud; I GUESS SO. Then she heard the CG in the back of the house talking loud and she said something loud like OKAY. She commented a couple of other things like she was really in the moment. Is this a sign like the calm before the storm? > Lynn S. > > > --------------------------------- > Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. Join Yahoo!'s user panel and lay it on us. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2007 Report Share Posted September 27, 2007 Dear Lynn, I, as yet, don't know about the final signs, thank G-d. But the rest of your Mom's reactions are typical LBD. . .eyes open wide and talking for a few days. . .then not talking and keeping eyes closed most of the time. . ...answering sporadically. I wish you more smiles from Mom, Norma Lynn <lshilman@... om> To Sent by: LBDcaregivers LBDcaregivers@yah cc oogroups.com Subject mom took a turn 09/27/2007 01:37 AM Please respond to LBDcaregivers@yah oogroups.com Who can help? My mom has been more alert the past few days. That is her eyes would be wide open and she seemed to understand what I said to her even if it was just for the moment. Today was different. When I got there in the morning,I was told she said Hi to someone and then later said Bye to that person. As I was there for most of the day, I didn't hear anything. When Dave got off of work, he came over there. She acknowledged him with a big smile. Then when she didn't want to eat she shook her head. Then, we were all laughing about something and she answered very clear and loud; I GUESS SO. Then she heard the CG in the back of the house talking loud and she said something loud like OKAY. She commented a couple of other things like she was really in the moment. Is this a sign like the calm before the storm? Lynn S. --------------------------------- Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. Join Yahoo!'s user panel and lay it on us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 28, 2007 Report Share Posted September 28, 2007 Lynn I was just thinking about you today and your mom of course. I will be praying that she is peaceful as well as yourself. No one knows if this is the " calm before the storm " except God. I have thought that it simply cannot get any worse and it does, then my mom is better, then worse, then better etc... This is why we all call it a ride on the " Lewycoaster " I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all of this Lynn. It is tough on all family members. Hang in there. Dena in SoCal Mother (84)Existing with LBD in NH --- Lynn wrote: > Who can help? > My mom has been more alert the past few days. That > is her eyes would be wide open and she seemed to > understand what I said to her even if it was just > for the moment. > Today was different. When I got there in the > morning,I was told she said Hi to someone and then > later said Bye to that person. As I was there for > most of the day, I didn't hear anything. When Dave > got off of work, he came over there. She > acknowledged him with a big smile. Then when she > didn't want to eat she shook her head. Then, we were > all laughing about something and she answered very > clear and loud; I GUESS SO. Then she heard the CG in > the back of the house talking loud and she said > something loud like OKAY. She commented a couple of > other things like she was really in the moment. Is > this a sign like the calm before the storm? > Lynn S. > > > --------------------------------- > Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. > Join Yahoo!'s user panel and lay it on us. > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Building a website is a piece of cake. Yahoo! Small Business gives you all the tools to get online. http://smallbusiness.yahoo.com/webhosting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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