Choices

[Guest guest]

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I would first like to comment on why I chose to use

Dr. Levin. He is the most wonderful and caring man on

this earth (next my DH ) and he is so skilled at

what he does. I had a more diffcult than most surgery

and he was still able to put me back together. Most

any other Dr. would have just closed me up and said

that he couldn't do it, but not Dr. Levin. He went in

there with determination along with his assistant,

Venica and they figured out how to fix the damage. I

would never have had it any other way. His staff is

wonderful, Jewish Hospital is a very nice place and,

the Inn is a nice place to rest. Please think about it

before you make any decision. It is your choice.

Next I would like to comment on the Tubal Reversal

funding. I think that everyone should find a way to

fund their own Tubal reversal. This could turn in to a

BIG mess and then everyone on here would be fighting

with each other. There is such peace and harmony here,

let's keep it that way. It's not that I mind helping

people out but no one helped us fund ours

ad my DH and I are blue collar wokers struggling to

make it every week just like everyone else here and we

managed to do it. I think that the reason we managed

to save the money is because we wanted it so badly.

The person that you would want to fund would have to

proove to me that they are also contributing in some

way to their own fund. I don't think it would be fair

that we pay for everything. I hope that this doesn't

make anyone mad cause it's not meant to, I am just

telling it the way that I see it. I honestly don't

think it will work and I don't want to get involved in

a big fiasco. Please don't think less of me for

thinking this way. Everyone has their own opinions and

solutions and mine is not to get involved.

Hugz- and Love

Terrie

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Terrie - 44

DH - 39

DS - III 25, DS - 23

TL - 8/20/78 , TR - 11/27/00 Dr. Levin

" Though miles may lie between us, we're never far apart, for friendship doesn't

count the miles, it's measured by the heart. "

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[Guest guest]

Hi Jim,Reading your email does resonate with me, the way you explain the situation is clear and I have seen myself doing the much the same.And then I start to think, or rather observe myself noticing these very thoughts and urges, and well, I sort of now giggle at myself and thank my mind for noticing.Then I have a thought, do I really have the need to look at the clock or is it possible for me not to to have that urge.When I practice the 'not looking' I find it is hard in the first instance, then it becomes easier as time progresses.Sometimes I notice that I get distracted momentarily, after which I notice that I was distracted and then I have the thought of, wow that was easy, and so it goes.I wonder if what I have said or the way I have conveyed this is confusing or do you or others relate to these processes of the mind.It is quite easy to find ourselves getting caught up, even quite tangled and engaged in particular thoughts.I know I do all the time, and sometimes I consciously choose to, to see where it goes, sometimes going into quite existential realms of the mind.Then, I realise where I have been and again, consciously connect back to the present moment.Ah, I smile and realise, maybe I have gained some further understanding of my mind and what I can do, what I can choose to do._____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Jim wrote:I recently Happened upon an experience that really made it clear to me how connection with the present moment and being mindful can allow you to choose your behaviour in situations where previously it appeared that there was no choice. I have an exercise machine and I try to meditate while using it for the half hour I do everyday. To my mind it is a boring exercise and I generally want the time to go as soon as possible so I can get off the exercise machine and do something more interesting and less uncomfortable. These thoughts result it me compulsively checking the time on the meter on the handlebars. Without mindfulness practice I will generally find myself checking every minute or two. If I meditate while exercising I find that if I am really staying connected to the present moment I will notice the urge or thought that leads me to look at the meter. As I notice this thought or urge I have a choice- to look or not to look. If I lose contact with the present moment I am never consciously aware of the urge- so I have no choice. Of course, this translates well into everyday life where, particularly when the going gets tough, we lose contact with the present and lose the ability to make choices.I am forever telling people about such miraculous findings only for them to tell me that it¡¯s quite obvious. So sorry if this is one of them.