Guest guest Posted September 4, 2011 Report Share Posted September 4, 2011 Welcome! Lots of us here have AS, the rest are married to an Aspie, and there are some of us who are in both groups. [Well, technically I'm an Aspie divorcing another Aspie.] I wouldn't worry too much if your husband is willing to learn how to cope with your AS ... he may accept his AS in time, or he may not but will learn how to deal with it anyway. The label is far less important than the actions! I'm hoping that as he learns to deal with your AS, he'll learn to deal with his own. And your daughter. My soon to be ex never internalized his diagnosis, nor could he adapt his thinking to work with my AS-based weaknesses. He kept expecting things from me that I could not give him, and his mind-blind rigidity never let him adapt to reality. That, plus a mental illness breakdown on his part, led to our divorce after 20 years. --Liz > Hi everyone I'm new to the group. I live in Australia with my husband and two young children. About 10 months ago my little boy(thenjust turned 2) was diagnosed with autism. He has come a long way since then. Anyway, over the time I have done a lot of research on the net and began to suspect myself of having AS. I also strongly suspect my husband of having HFA or AS, but he refuses to believe he has any issues. My daughter (almost 5) and I are boh on waiting lists for diagnoses. I was so relieved to discover I have AS. It has explained a lot of my past behaviour and anxiety. I feel a sense of freedom that I have never experienced before. I feel I can now take on things I would never have consider before as I always held myself back for fear of failure or rejection. > > I am struggling with my husband and daughter though. As he thinks it is all just me and that he has to learn to deal with my AS. And my daughter is a handful with so many demands. Anyway I am hoping to get sme support and advice here to help get through this discovery stage. Look forward to being part of this group. (my first group of any sort)(a little nervous to tell the truth) > > Knit Suite: Mobile Apps for Knitters http://knitsuite.polymathsolution.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 Hello Corryne,Nice to see another Aussie in the group. I live in regional . I’m a 75yr old male diagnosed some 10 years back with Aspergers, and I’ve been with this List for almost the same length of time. A very sincere welcome. You will find a lot of fine and well informed persons and you can make a lot of good friends here… so many are now like family to me after these years. Keep posting, and join in the discussions. Don’t be nervous. Honestly, we don’t bite. If you care to, you can email me privately off-line, always good to hear from a fellow countryperson. All the best and good luck,Ron Subject: New from Australia Hi everyone I'm new to the group. I live in Australia with my husband and two young children. About 10 months ago my little boy(thenjust turned 2) was diagnosed with autism. He has come a long way since then. Anyway, over the time I have done a lot of research on the net and began to suspect myself of having AS. I also strongly suspect my husband of having HFA or AS, but he refuses to believe he has any issues. My daughter (almost 5) and I are boh on waiting lists for diagnoses. I was so relieved to discover I have AS. It has explained a lot of my past behaviour and anxiety. I feel a sense of freedom that I have never experienced before. I feel I can now take on things I would never have consider before as I always held myself back for fear of failure or rejection. I am struggling with my husband and daughter though. As he thinks it is all just me and that he has to learn to deal with my AS. And my daughter is a handful with so many demands. Anyway I am hoping to get sme support and advice here to help get through this discovery stage. Look forward to being part of this group. (my first group of any sort)(a little nervous to tell the truth) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 Hello & welcome, I am an Aussie,too & am married to an AS man & I have a son who has autism. My daughter & I are NT. Knowing about AS & autism is the first huge step - knowing what you are dealing with & being willing to learn. This is a group of wonderful people of many different views & experiences. Reach out & you will be supported. All the best, Merra > > Hi everyone I'm new to the group. I live in Australia with my husband and two young children. About 10 months ago my little boy(thenjust turned 2) was diagnosed with autism. He has come a long way since then. Anyway, over the time I have done a lot of research on the net and began to suspect myself of having AS. I also strongly suspect my husband of having HFA or AS, but he refuses to believe he has any issues. My daughter (almost 5) and I are boh on waiting lists for diagnoses. I was so relieved to discover I have AS. It has explained a lot of my past behaviour and anxiety. I feel a sense of freedom that I have never experienced before. I feel I can now take on things I would never have consider before as I always held myself back for fear of failure or rejection. > > I am struggling with my husband and daughter though. As he thinks it is all just me and that he has to learn to deal with my AS. And my daughter is a handful with so many demands. Anyway I am hoping to get sme support and advice here to help get through this discovery stage. Look forward to being part of this group. (my first group of any sort)(a little nervous to tell the truth) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 Corryne,Let me echo Ron's sentiments and letyou know that us Aussies have been fairly vocal on this list and Ron inparticular is a published author. We are very proud of him.I am an AS man diagnosed HFA and ammarried to a long suffering partner who is very NT. I was diagnosedat the age of 53 and as they say, the cement had a long time to hardenwith a diagnosis that late in life. So I find it hard to make therequired changes that will make me less AS and more understanding of theNT mind and how it operates. In any case welcome to the group. Thereare many NT people who are partners of AS folk and there contribution isjust as valuable to us all.I hope you find what you are seekinghere.Greg dx AS at 53To: <aspires-relationships >Date: 05/09/2011 05:55 AMSubject: RE: New from AustraliaSent by: aspires-relationships Hello Corryne,Nice to see another Aussie in the group. I live in regional . I’m a 75yr old male diagnosedsome 10 years back with Aspergers, and I’ve been with this List for almostthe same length of time. A very sincere welcome. You will find a lot of fine and well informedpersons and you can make a lot of good friends here… so many arenow like family to me after these years. Keep posting, andjoin in the discussions. Don’t be nervous. Honestly,we don’t bite. If you ! care to, you can email me privately off-line, always good to hear from a fellow countryperson. All the best and good luck,Ron Subject: New from Australia Hi everyone I'm new to the group. I live in Australiawith my husband and two young children. About 10 months ago my little boy(thenjustturned 2) was diagnosed with autism. He has come a long way since then.Anyway, over the ! time I have done a lot of research on the net and beganto sus! pect myself of having AS. I also strongly suspect my husband ofhaving HFA or AS, but he refuses to believe he has any issues. My daughter(almost 5) and I are boh on waiting lists for diagnoses. I was so relievedto discover I have AS. It has explained a lot of my past behaviour andanxiety. I feel a sense of freedom that I have never experienced before.I feel I can now take on things I would never have consider before as Ialways held myself back for fear of failure or rejection. I am struggling with my husband and daughter though. As he thinks it isall just me and that he has to learn to deal with my AS. And my daughteris a handful with so many demands. Anyway I am hoping to get sme supportand advice here to help get through this discovery stage. Look forwardto being part of this group. (my first group of any sort)(a little nervousto tell the truth) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2011 Report Share Posted September 5, 2011 Welcome to the group. I have been a member for a couple of years but generally have not posted messages. Membership has been helpful nevertheless because it's very hard to talk to individuals who have not experienced life as an aspie or lived with one. Reading posts has made me realize that I am not alone in this struggle. I am a NT, my 40 year old son an aspie, two grandsons (aspies), husband of 46 years who is an aspie, and 43 year old son who has some AS symptoms. Consider yourself lucky that you are getting evaluations early. When I look back at the struggles my family had, I have to think it would've been a little easier had we know more clearly what we were dealing with. Without going into great details, here are some words of encouragement. My sons are doing well. My 40 year old son received a number of " therapies " to deal with his issues, has masters degree and works for a scientific organization. My 43 year old son did not receive any therapies but his symptoms are fewer. He is a college graduate (was a struggle for him) but is now a VP for a retail company. My husband and I still struggle at times to understand each other but for the majority of time, we are content together. There are days when I am overwhelmed by AS behaviors and have to get away for the day. There can be many positive characteristics to aspies. For me, it's been a constant effort to not dwell on the negatives and remember all the positives. Some days better than others but I would encourage you to hang in and proceed with your evaluations and understanding of AS. There's a lot of good literature out there that is also helpful. Wife, mother, and grandmother of aspies, Ruby > > Hi everyone I'm new to the group. I live in Australia with my husband and two young children. About 10 mon ths ago my little boy(thenjust turned 2) was diagnosed with autism. He has come a long way since then. Anyway, over the time I have done a lot of research on the net and began to suspect myself of having AS. I also strongly suspect my husband of having HFA or AS, but he refuses to believe he has any issues. My daughter (almost 5) and I are boh on waiting lists for diagnoses. I was so relieved to discover I have AS. It has explained a lot of my past behaviour and anxiety. I feel a sense of freedom that I have never experienced before. I feel I can now take on things I would never have consider before as I always held myself back for fear of failure or rejection. > > I am struggling with my husband and daughter though. As he thinks it is all just me and that he has to learn to deal with my AS. And my daughter is a handful with so many demands. Anyway I am hoping to get sme support and advice here to help get through this discovery stage. Look forward to being part of this group. (my first group of any sort)(a little nervous to tell the truth) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2011 Report Share Posted September 11, 2011 Belated welcome to the group, corryne...I've been dealing with a lot of stuff in my life the past few weeks. > > Hi everyone I'm new to the group. I live in Australia with my husband and two young children. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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