, and upcoming marriage

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Hi -

Great seeing a post from you. We are hoping all is

well across the pond and that your wedding plans

are coming together.

Love to you and your family-

Sandie and

-- Re: for Grazia

Jan, i'm so sorry about Jim being in the NH, but you have done the right

thing.

I remember the first day granda went to his after a horrifying 18hrs at A &

E. he like Jim fought and screamed and had to be held down only to be let

out of restraint to start all over again.

His first day in the NH he was drugged to the eyeballs and looked so

pathetic lying there not speaking or eating but like their hopefully going

to do with Jim he saw the physical therapist and slowly started to get about

again. They managed to lower the dose of seroquel too and took him

completely off Madopar which helped greatly too.

Hoping you have some better days ahead and your looking after yourself.

Love .xx

Re: for Grazia

> Grazia, thank you so much for being here for me, I

> appreciate it so much. Everything you say is so true.

> Today on Jim's first full day in the nh I had such a

> hard time to see him all drugged up to keep him calm.

> It broke my heart to see him that way. They have added

> 75mg more of his Seroquel to give to him. He is on

> 175mg now. I have heard some say their LO is on 300mg.

> Do they get used to that amount of dosage eventually

> or are they so drugged with that much that they can't

> function. Jim was feisty before, but now he is a limp

> rag. I sure hope this gets easier for both of us to

> acclimate and that things stablize. Jim was able to

> use his walker at home with assistance, but if he is

> this drugged, he can't even stand up. I am afraid if

> he doesn't stand up then soon his legs will contract.

> I talked to the staff today and they are going to make

> sure that he sees a physical therapist tomorrow. I

> told them he can't be drugged like this if he is going

> to attempt to stand up and they said they will make

> note not to give him medications before going to the

> physical therapist.

> Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with

> your dad it is so helpful. Huge hugs and much love

> back to you..........Jan

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> --- x_grazia wrote:

>

>> Janet, I have read that you are going to transfer

>> your husband to a

>> nursing home. This has reminded me of sad memories,

>> not so far in

>> time...You say yr husband is combative, also my

>> father at a certain

>> point in his sickness became like that, I still can

>> see him shouting

>> loud like if someone were trying to hurt him...Its

>> been the worst

>> part of the whole hell, I think, and i understand

>> when you say that

>> you cant do it by yourself. As you maybe know, I got

>> the chance of

>> placing my father in a n.h., when he broke his femur

>> and was

>> hospitalised. So I believe that you must get this

>> chance and not

>> wait for the summer. Probably, later it could be

>> less easy. As for

>> my experience I can tell you that your life will

>> change alot, you

>> will feel surprised that you wont have anymore to

>> handle certain

>> problems...But I must also tell you that, loving so

>> much yr husband,

>> you will suffer the same: visiting him in a place

>> like a nursing

>> home, will often make you feel bad, and also guilty,

>> and you will

>> regret many things that you were used to complain

>> about...Im not

>> saying all this to mean that you are doing a wrong

>> thing, on the

>> contrary, I feel that you, as me, have been doing

>> all and

>> more....only now the time has come for a changing...

>> I hope that

>> everything will be okay, and that your husband will

>> move there

>> without much troubles...I wish you good luck and hug

>> you with much

>> much love !!! I just wanted to share this with

>> you....Hugs !!! GRAZIA

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