Re: Article~Life's Extremes: Pathological Liar vs. Straight Shooter

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I would agree with you both. I think it is key that AS are taught that there is a difference between lying and things that one doesn't need to lie about, rather we just need to learn to keep our mouths SHUT about. My daughter is learning this right now as she just says whatever is on her mind. I am not teaching her to lie to me and say I am not fat, rather I am teaching her there are things you just don't need to comment on at all and the number of reasons WHY. Learning when to open ones mouth and when to keep it shut is not about learning to lie, it's about common sense survival and not hurting others. Jennie AS

Article~Life's Extremes: Pathological Liar vs. Straight Shooter

Yet their priorities are inconsistent, I've noticed. In that the Aspie may be inclined to deliver the truth to others without regard for the feelings of the recipient. Yet be quick to experience hurt feelings when the truth is pointed out to them by others.

CJ: This was my first thought when I read the article due to my experience with "some" with AS. lol I was trying to figure out a way of saying it without being disrespectful to some on this list. I remember Tony Attwood saying an AS child once told him he had crooked teeth, kind of like saying, "that women is FAT!" This may be what every body sees, but it is impolite to say it in public.

I am a BIG Lucille Ball fan and she did an episode where Ricky, Fred & Ethel bet Lucy $100.00 she could not tell the truth for a day. It was hilarious but illustrates the point. When Lucy had to tell the truth and they knew it, they baited her. Then they were forced to listen to how she really felt, and her words were hurtful, mean and spiteful, although it made Lucy feel good. I used it as a teaching example when my kids were young.

We teach these skills to kids, but the truth is not always "black and white"........

Just my 2 cents worth as usual.

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Jennie Unknown wrote:

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> I would agree with you both. I think it is key that AS are taught that

> there is a difference between lying and things that one doesn't need to

> lie about, rather we just need to learn to keep our mouths SHUT about.

> My daughter is learning this right now as she just says whatever is on

> her mind. I am not teaching her to lie to me and say I am not fat,

> rather I am teaching her there are things you just don't need to comment

> on at all and the number of reasons WHY. Learning when to open ones

> mouth and when to keep it shut is not about learning to lie, it's about

> common sense survival and not hurting others. Jennie AS

Good reminder, Jennie. Having a thought and vocalizing that thought are

two very different things. Not every thought requires a voice.

Best,

~CJ

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