Guest guest Posted July 12, 2011 Report Share Posted July 12, 2011 I agree wholeheartedly, Helen. I often find myself immersed in small talk as a consequence of being an NT and because its second nature as I work in a supportive job, and there are times when I would wish to channel Ian, so I can get out of there by saying the right (wrong) thing, or just leaving abruptly without a guilty conscience! hehe  There have been many occasions where I would gladly stick a fork into my eye rather than hear the from-the-year-dot-to-present-day life story of someone who doesnt even pause for breath.... all that she said I said then she said stuff. Aaaaaaargh.  Having said all that (am I boring everyone, now??) there have been times when I have perservered and stumbled across a fantastic raconteur* and been glad of the conversation, which had I been Ian, I certainly would have missed. Perhaps I need to be more Aspie'fied at times, and make my conversations a little more select.  Judy B * the Glasgow taxi driver who knew Gandhi Subject: Re: Ron... my spelling..... To: aspires-relationships Date: Tuesday, 12 July, 2011, 18:41  Judy, I knew what you meant, and I cackled when I read your post. The word " vacuous " always brings a most humorous image to my mind. I've been quite enjoying this little linguistic topical tangent And my oh my, I can certainly empathize with Ian's sentiment at times! " Small talk " over lunch with a group of ladies often finds its way to the most clinical details of medical events. I could understand if the information was being disseminated in the spirit of advice and education, but to hear the same stories repeatedly at every sitting .. for heaven's sakes, move on already! I'm social enough to try to listen politely and attentively, but all the while I'm thinking, Saints, *preserve* me!!! I could be doing something *so* much more productive, like going home and scrubbing the bathroom. I'm sure it's very apparent to all present how my mind wanders frequently Definitely, that is a feature of my AS; we think in instrumental ways. Listening to a friend's account of having witnessed the final launch of the space shuttle " Discovery " is very interesting to me. Excruciatingly intimate details of childbirth are most decidedly NOT! - Helen 56, self-dx'd AS, dx'd ADD > > << My own AS admits that he doesnt know or understand me, and despises > NT's for what he sees is their vaciousness. Yet, he so wants to be part > of that world, has spend years mimicking them, (me, us), using learnt > social phrases and behaviours, because they have worked for others, so > he hopes they will work for him. >> > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2011 Report Share Posted July 12, 2011 Having said all that (am I boring everyone, now??) there have been times when I have perservered and stumbled across a fantastic raconteur* and been glad of the conversation, which had I been Ian, I certainly would have missed. Perhaps I need to be more Aspie'fied at times, and make my conversations a little more select. ****Pondering the persistent question, " If there were a cure for Aspergers, would you want it? " I have concluded that what I want is to be bi-neurological: as in biculturalism or bilingualism, I would like to be able to be AS or NT as the situation and my needs called for. Andromeda ,___ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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