Well here goes

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Now my sister and I live 2 hours away from my Mother and neither of us have been

that frequent visitors ........no joy if we went

My Mother is 90 this year has always been difficult !

my step father on his death bed 20 yrs ago said " your mothers a difficult

woman "

funny but I told him that before they got married 39 yrs ago

Anyway so called Rhematoid Arthritis in her thumbs appeared age 60 followed by

Osteoporosis and unstable High BP

However I firmly believe the entire cause of all her problems is the

insistance on using Aluminium cookware " has not done her any harm " Ha Ha

( I was poisoned by the simple use of Aluminium pans over 20 yrs ago and I

sure know all the symptoms so personally i firmly see Aluminium as the root

cause of many illneses )

Anyway 5 yrs ago she smashed into a brick wall having driven out of a side

road and across a main road she did not know what happened !!!

now its 14 yrs since our daughter got married and other guests at the wedding

were appalled at my mothers driving skills then ......she only took her test 15

times age 52

4 years ago she collapsed over the Xmas lunch table ........BP bottomed out to

zero she had vomited and wet herself and was unconscous, paramedics thought TIAs

but hospital disagreed ......just decided she had not taken her BP pills plus

eaten rich food

3 years ago she leant over in greenhouse and collapsed and could not get up

.....somehow crawled along an awful path and roused a neighbour .......back had

given way due to osteoporosis they said .......but she recovered although

walking has been limited since

She has been increasingly very shirty /difficult /stroppy / many times and if

challenged would say " FORGET IT " and slam the phone down

Xmas 2004 she told my sister there were pigeons on the ceiling !!!! and things

have progressed since

Aug 2005 when being collected to go out to lunch found her wearing just a

sweater !!!

Xmas 2005 she had to be led to meals like a child , would start talking

gibberish in the middle of what was a " fairly normal " conversation

long blanks /appearing to be asleep

For probably 2 years many conversations have been a guessing game because she

has lost the correct words for things and would say " blocks when she meant

cheese " , she could not tell you the names of plants yet this was someone who

knew most of the latin names for plants

She has blown more light fuses than you would believe because she fiddles with

everything

she has phoned up saying the TV does not work ( she has obviously pressed the

mute button on the handset " but try telling her that and she says she does not

have one )

Saturday complained the fridge was broke , all the food had been out in the

kitchen for 3 days and dial on 6 instead of 0 .............she was trying to

defrost a fridge that was so iced up you would not believe .........sister fixed

this and mother insisted the food was fine ...........is it any wonder she is

often forever on the toilet ?

The DVLA finally after 2 months of messing around last week rescinded her

driving licence but she claims she is going to appeal

What is scary and leads me to think she may have LBD is she has periods where

she is totally compus mentis even if she does not know the correct words then in

a slpit second what she says is uncomprehendable

Recentle it appears she has been asleep all day and woken around 9.30 PMand

phoned my sister saying " its very dark here is it dark where you are "

Trying to get through to her that its nightime .......is impossible

She had not paid her credit card bill for 4 months but was able to query over

and over every detail of the charges on it

Yesterday she could not be persuaded to write a cheque for 3 bills and was

only concerned about stocks and shares

But get her to hand over Power of attorney paperwork that was signed 10 years

ago

Not on your life because its the rest of the world thats mad not her

The neighbours keep saying she should not be living alone but she is adamant

she is only leaving her home in a box

Well short of a massive stroke one night from which she does not wake up or

food poisoning i think we may be in for a long road

What is scary is this switch from normality to incomprehension and back again

It would be our luck that her dooctor only ever sees her in the good phases

and not in the crazies

So now over to you experts who have been there done it

Pat