Guest guest Posted April 17, 2006 Report Share Posted April 17, 2006 and ann - I totally agree with you that it's hard for people to understand how sick we are...because we look fine. How do you know what to say to someone? We all know how meaningless "how are you doing?" really is. I know I would be devastated if I knew my husband had a terminal disease....it is hard to talk about because you love that person so much that it's impossible to think about life without them. But, that's kinda how our society is anyway....everyone lives in denial about their death. They know it will happen someday, but we all think that will be a long, long time from now. But you can't deny it when you are given a terrible diagnosis. I think it's hard for people to deal with someone even with a chronic illness. But, ...if there are things that you really need to tell your wife, you need to tell her...it will be hard and she may cry, but that's OK. We can't deny our feelings just because it may make someone upset. And your wife needs to be strong for you...it's always better when we can talk things out. Keeping them inside isn't good for you or anyone else. ann - It's really hard for me to hear that someone stays inside and doesn't go out because of depression or loneliness. Your life is important, isn't it? You are a special person with experiences and I'll bet you even have some things you'd like to do. I'm on liquid oxygen and I know the portable can't be closed up, but putting it in a pull along bag isn't going to hurt it. The cover on mine has 2 handles, I can either carry it over my shoulder like a purse or like a backpack. I use the backpack option, because otherwise, it's always falling off my shoulder. The idea to get one of those small pieces of luggage that are on wheels to put your tank in is a great idea. Life is for living...not waiting to die. That would be such a waste....so, please get something to carry your portable in and get out there....whatever you like to do....we can't control things that happen to us, but we can control how we will deal with them. Keep writing! Fondly, Diane --Diane Quinlan dianequinlan@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2006 Report Share Posted April 17, 2006 Thanks Dianeq I needed to hear that as I have just wanted to stay away from outside and not deal with people staring at me.I am learning to smile at every one. and sing in the barbarshop chorus...dianequinlan@... wrote: and ann - I totally agree with you that it's hard for people to understand how sick we are...because we look fine. How do you know what to say to someone? We all know how meaningless "how are you doing?" really is. I know I would be devastated if I knew my husband had a terminal disease....it is hard to talk about because you love that person so much that it's impossible to think about life without them. But, that's kinda how our society is anyway....everyone lives in denial about their death. They know it will happen someday, but we all think that will be a long, long time from now. But you can't deny it when you are given a terrible diagnosis. I think it's hard for people to deal with someone even with a chronic illness. But, ...if there are things that you really need to tell your wife, you need to tell her...it will be hard and she may cry, but that's OK. We can't deny our feelings just because it may make someone upset. And your wife needs to be strong for you...it's always better when we can talk things out. Keeping them inside isn't good for you or anyone else. ann - It's really hard for me to hear that someone stays inside and doesn't go out because of depression or loneliness. Your life is important, isn't it? You are a special person with experiences and I'll bet you even have some things you'd like to do. I'm on liquid oxygen and I know the portable can't be closed up, but putting it in a pull along bag isn't going to hurt it. The cover on mine has 2 handles, I can either carry it over my shoulder like a purse or like a backpack. I use the backpack option, because otherwise, it's always falling off my shoulder. The idea to get one of those small pieces of luggage that are on wheels to put your tank in is a great idea. Life is for living...not waiting to die. That would be such a waste....so, please get something to carry your portable in and get out there....whatever you like to do....we can't control things that happen to us, but we can control how we will deal with them. Keep writing! Fondly, Diane --Diane Quinlan dianequinlan@... Love cheap thrills? Enjoy PC-to-Phone calls to 30+ countries for just 2¢/min with Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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